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34 Syracuse, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Dec 17
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Has cats

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My self-summary
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I've met a wonderful lady who I am now happily married to (OKCupid success story!) and I am not in the market for romance. I am, however, absolutely still open to meeting cool new friends (male or female) and good conversation.

I am a quiet, laid-back, slightly introverted kind of fellow. I try to remain grounded and keep focus on the truly important things in life. I prefer the understated to the extravagant and appreciate the elegance of simplicity.

I am not religious, but place great value on personal honor and integrity. Being a good person is very important to me. It truly bothers me when I occasionally fail at that.

I'm a fairly intellectual and progressive person, however, I hate how snooty that it makes me sound when I say that. I respect the capability for independent thought in people. I have little tolerance for poor spelling and grammar and none for intolerance and ignorance, especially the willful variety. I believe that the willingness (and love of) learning new things and bettering one's self is one of the most important things in life.

I enjoy going to festivals, seeing shows, hanging out at a quiet pub with good people, eating out and trying something new and exciting, playing volleyball and lots of other things. I am a big advocate of buying local and supporting local businesses. I enjoy going to get tea and coffee; I've recently made it a habit of reading for pleasure again and I thoroughly enjoy camping out in a cafe with a book and beverage. I'm also a big fan of local theater/musicals.

I love stories, regardless of the format they're in; books, movies, television, video games, graphic novels... I live for a good story. I'm a little bit of a geek, as my MBTI personality type is INTJ. I am much wittier than I am good-looking, so I definitely thrive in quiet environments where I can make conversation, tell stories and generally attempt to be charming and funny.

Friendship is one of the most precious things to me in life. I am logical, rational and I have a deep appreciation for the slightly quirky and eclectic.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, playing, having good times with good friends. Always learning and trying to better myself, both personally and professionally.

Some of my future goals include:
Buy a house: I've officially outgrown my apartment and the older I get, the more I feel like I'm living in a dorm. Update: I bought a house!
Learn to play the guitar, flute, harmonica, and djembe: I'm a singer, but I can't call myself a musician until I become proficient in at least one of these things. That bamboo flute sitting on my shelf makes me feel really stupid when I can't get a sound out of it. I've been playing a lot of guitar lately and it's coming along nicely.
Develop some more artistic/crafty skills: Woodcarving his high on this list, it's something I've always wanted to do since I was a kid. I have the knives, I bought some books, I partially read those books... and that's where it ended. Someday I would like to be a crazy old white-bearded guy sitting on his porch and making something amazing with my own hands.
Start practicing Yoga: Seems easy enough.
Start growing things: Nurture life. I'm pretty sure I have what it takes to kill things, I'd like to see about keeping them alive. I'm talking about plants, not people.
I’m really good at
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Thinking. And spelling. Being (overly?) analytical. Also cooking, maybe. Volleyball, if you're being generous with the word "good". I'm also a semi-capable singer.

Oh, napping. I'm a truly gifted napper.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Neil Gaiman and George R. R. Martin are my two favorite authors, but I've read a lot of books in my day. My favorite genre is Fantasy, maybe with a splash of Sci-Fi. Historical Fiction is up there too. I also enjoy a few graphic novels such as Sandman, Fables, V For Vendetta, and Hellboy. If I had to pick one single book as a favorite, it might be The Once and Future King.

Movies: I don't watch a whole lot of films nowadays. The older I get, the more I'm drawn to small artistic films as opposed to Hollywood blockbusters. The last movie I've seen (as of writing this) was The Swell Season documentary. If I had to list my all-time favorites, I would go with: V For Vendetta, the Lord of the Rings trilogy, Stardust, The Princess Bride, Hellboy, Point Break, Once, The Big Lebowski, Serenity, Vicky Cristina Barcelona... and so forth. There are a lot of classic films from Hollywood's golden age that I'm interested in watching, at some point.

TV: My TV is usually on as background noise, if nothing else. I tend to tune to either PBS or baseball games. But as for my actual favorites: Game of Thrones, The Shield, Breaking Bad, The Wire, Community, Mad Men, Sons of Anarchy, Firefly, Futurama, Freaks and Geeks, Good Eats, Boardwalk Empire, No Reservations. I would love to be one of those people who cares nothing for television, alas it is my guilty pleasure, and I do enjoy a high-quality well-written drama.

Music: I'm mostly an NPR kind of guy these days, but I listen to quite a bit of music at work and, occasionally, at home. Folk, singer-songwriter, bluegrass, americana, southern rock, blues, 60s/70s rock, indie, old-school jazz & lounge, orchestral, occasionally a little ambient music... I'm also becoming more and more of an instrumental fan; a violin, a piano, a flute, maybe a cello or two... that makes for some good listening.

From my Pandora stations, I tend to enjoy: Alice in Chains, Alison Krauss, Amos Lee, Beck, Ben Harper, The Black Keys, Blind Melon, Blues Traveler, Bon Iver, Crooked Still, Dean Martin, The Decemberists, Gillian Welch, Gov't Mule, Heart, Iron & Wine, JJ Grey & Mofro, Mumford & Sons, Natalie Merchant, The National, Nick Drake, Nickel Creek, Norah Jones, Old Crow Medicine Show, Ray LaMontagne, Rubbelbucket, The Swell Season, The Wailin' Jennys... and many more, obviously. But, honestly, my favorite music is music that I haven't heard before.

Food: Italian, Thai, Greek, Mexican, Indian, American... all of it, I just love good food. I love eating out, I love supporting local restaurants and business, I avoid horrible chain restaurants as much as I can. I am always interested in learning new recipes.

I enjoy cooking and I think that I know my way around a kitchen pretty well, but cooking for one is unexciting. Thus, it doesn't happen nearly as often as it should. I could probably stand to become more knowledgeable and well-rounded in the area of vegetarian cooking/eating.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Great friends
Engaging stories
A good sharp chef's knife
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything. I'm an INTJ, thinking is what I do.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Not fighting for service at a loud and crowded bar, that's for damn sure.

What I'd LIKE to be doing is going straight from work to happy hour at a relatively relaxed place, perhaps sitting outside if the weather is nice, hanging out for a few hours with good friends, getting some food and then... a movie? A play? A game? Or maybe heading home because I'm off to some sort of festival Saturday morning. That sounds nice.

Going out to dinner, grabbing tea or coffee with a close friend, going to a buddy's house to shoot each other on his TV or play a board game, all of these sound like a perfect Friday night to me. I live by myself and I work relatively secluded, so I like to use Friday to get my socializing in and feel like a member of society.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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At some point in my life, I made the decision that secrets were not something I wanted to have a part of. Certainly, there are things that I choose not to discuss in polite company, but I choose to be open and honest. It paves the way for a clear mind.
You should message me if
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I feel like I should take this opportunity to highlight what I'm truly looking for in someone:

Someone who shares my appreciation for the small and subtle things in life. Someone with an appreciation for art and quality living. I really don't think I'll be able to relate to the type of person who lives for clubbing and watching reality TV. I need someone who is focused on living a good and meaningful life.

Someone who shares my love of adventure and exploration. Whether that is a desire to fly off to another continent, going on a road trip, or even just walking or driving around Syracuse and taking in the sights, this is something that is near to my heart.

Someone who is committed to a relatively clean and healthy lifestyle. I used to be very opposed to dating vegetarians (as I am omnivore), but now it is something I prefer. I have a lot I would like to learn from someone in this area. Major bonus points for being into yoga, meditation, martial arts or that sort of thing.

Someone who is understanding, caring, opening-minded, non-judgmental, honest, dedicated... these are qualities that should be a given, but are unfortunately rarer than I like to think about.

At the end of the day, I suppose what I'm most looking for is just a good person. Someone who shares some of my interests and passions, but diverse enough to learn and explore with me. Life is an adventure!