I am unconventional, I took a hard left from the mainstream a long time ago, by that I don't mean, my furniture choices.
I like to make stuff and do things. I like to create crowds to hide in, light myself on fire to distract you from the gold hot pants I am wearing and ride bikes for fun. I read the good parts in books, fast forward to the ends of movies and listen to the small talk of strangers. I learn new things all the time and answer my questions. I have lots of interests and I value the time it takes to investigate them.
I am not looking for someone to mirror or complete me. I am looking for someone who is their own unique self and shares some of my values. It would be great to find someone who wants to spend their time with me but recognizes neither of us can give the other everything they need or want. I am open to something long term with a patient committed person.
I stay fit, I like to get to the gym, yoga to stay limber and centered.
I have some exes, things didn't work out for various reasons,(life goals, want babies, geography) the majority of them think I am pretty great, as are they, and we remain friends.
I can be pretty loyal and caring. I am prone to extended absence, my best friends see me monthly, my romantic partners will see me more frequently.
I can be casual, sex isn't a big deal to me. I do recognize that when you care about someone that connection makes it amazing. My preference is to put my energy into that. Of course you never know where you'll find that connection so you have to try...right?
I should also say that I identify as non-monogamous, not because I need to sling my dick around all over the place. The opposite is true, I like to be loyal. I can't deal with the ownership, possessiveness and jealousy that comes with the popular notion of monogamy that we are enculturated with.
Lastly and I feel like a jerk but this has to be said. I am kind of picky, I don't mind slang or abbreviated words, but I can't stand LOL, lol in texts, chats or emails. I am really judgmental about it and it makes me hate myself. So please don't use it when messaging me.
Also I truly believe that all my internets sounds like this when I text a lady for the first time.. http://straightwhiteboystexting.tumblr.com
Which makes me really shy even tho I am perfectly charming and intelligent.