“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” — Rumi
I'm a demisexual, sapiosexual, philosopher hedonist. I fall in love easily and adore the simple things in life, relationships, science, myth and all the creatures in the natural world.
"If people could comprehend the beauty in the dissymmetry of your inner self as easily as they they can see the beauty in the asymmetry of your outer shell, they would understand that your container is but a prelude to a marvelous symphony of divinity and wisdom." -me
I love to live life to the fullest. Wanna know what I'm thinking, ask me. Wanna discuss the mysteries of the universe, I've thought through most of them. Wanna tell me something you never thought you could share with anyone? Today's your lucky day.
Because of my personal awareness of my own incompleteness, I'm extremely open to accepting others exactly as they are. People often comment that I'm more open-minded than anyone they know. My guess is that in learning to accept myself 'as I am' for 'who I am', I've learned to accept everyone else for who they are.
My purpose in life is really simple. I want to know the mysteries of life. Who are we? Why are we? Where are we? And I want to pass this information on to my 3 wonderful children.
No other accomplishment could come close to the joy I get when I teach my kids what little I know, or the pure joy I feel every time I figure out a little more. Everything else in my life is secondary. My time, my possessions, my interpersonal relationships, my career, answers to other questions, etc, etc.
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing."
— Just the Facts (about me):
Skin: Caucasian (olive)
Divorced 3 years after 19 years of marriage.
Net Income: $150k/yr.
(note: No, I'm not a millionaire)
Sexual Orientation: Hetero
I aspire to be hetroflexible, because it looks fun, but science says I'm a 'Strictly Heterosexual' (Kinsey). I enjoy swinging, casual sex, naughty kink, and recreational perversion, etc.
I'm looking for a Companionate Love Partner. I'm looking for someone to share a home with, someone to share my stories with, someone to share my search for the answers to life's toughest questions. Lust is awesome, but I really want someone to enjoy life with 'long before' and 'long after' all our orgasms together.
Non-monogamous, poly-sexual. I'm a sexual radical. If you love sex or an asexual, we'll get along great in this area. I think sex should be something anyone can enjoy with anyone else. Any time, any place, any how. I only have one rule with sex, 'Only yes means yes', and as long as everyone is a 'yes', I don't have any other rules.
3 boys (16,12,10): I'm not looking to have any more biological kids, but I'm very open to raising kids with a primary partner. My kids live in Hawaii, and I go to visit them 1 week every month. They also visit me in California for Winter, Spring and Summer breaks.
Kinda healthy... I eat healthy but could use more time in the gym.
Hygiene: Clean & Tested
Looks: Average on the outside.
Very Casual to Business Casual. I'm a hippie, and most comfortable in flip-flops, an oversized t-shirt and cargo shorts.
Hobbies: Life with Close Friends
I love sharing time with people while we are doing the tasks of everyday life, just being together while we live out our individual lives.
I tend to be old-fashion. I love opening doors, being a gentleman and just plan being kind. That said, I'm happy to curse up a storm if you are in the mood.
I prefer keeping finances separate. And, I'm happy to pool money on shared interests.
Every day's a Holiday, Every meal's a Feast.
Smoking: never tried it
Drinking: never tried it
Personality: I'm a Curious Cat that's already used-up 7 of my 9 lives…
But enough about me, let's talk about you.
— About you:
The following is my fantasy wish list:
Life Philosopher/Scientist: Think deeply about life? I would love to hear everything!
Story-teller: Know how to tell a good story? So much of life is about telling stories. From 'How was your Day?' to 'What's your political position on that?'. I can't imagine spending life with anyone except an amazing story-teller.
Adventurer: Wanna go explore life? Experience something most people only dream about? Do that fantasy you've told me so many time? Or that fantasy you just created? I'm in!!
Caregiver: I'm happy to get these needs met outside the relationship, but I really enjoy having my emotional/physical/sexual well-being cared for.
Homemaker: Also happy to hire outside help for this, but if you enjoy homemaking in any sense of the activity, I really enjoy this trait in a partner.
In Public you:
1. are a great conversationalist
2. think a lot about life
3. have several close friends
4. enjoy people watching
5. like to travel
6. love life
7. wear heels with jeans (optional)
8. have a great sense of humor
In Private you:
1. are a great conversationalist.
2. think a lot about your own life
3. talk about your deepest thoughts and fantasies
4. enjoy pillow talk
5. like to share a good meal
6. are open minded
7. run, jump and skip barefoot
8. have a great sense of humor
— In Closing:
Well? Whatcha waiting for? Email me. And, let's start planning our first rendezvous…