Note: I recently decided to set all of my questions and answers to 'private'. I felt like they were spoiling the mystery of getting to know someone. That said, I've answered hundreds of questions as honestly as I could, and if we have a high match %, its for a reason.
Also, if I have 'liked' you. Its because I kinda do. :-)
My hope is that we trust the science behind the match %, and get together to see how we do in person. And in that respect, I'm very flexible. Your time, your rules. Because science suggests it takes People about 3-mins of in-person time for us both to know how things are going to turn out over time.
We could each write our own library of congress, and we wouldn't know more than we do after 3-mins of first impressions, on top of a high match %...
So, Guys are like shoes?
Best answers so far include:
"You need a good pair for every occasion"
"Some are made for walking and some for showing off"
"You get what you pay for"
"The old ones I've had forever are my favorite"
"I've got a whole closet full of them"
etc, etc, etc....
“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” — Rumi
I find myself as somewhat socially awkward introvert and without a good understanding of how the world and everything works. And I doubt I'll ever figure everything out. But I do like thinking about all the wonderful mystries of life, especially with small groups of friends!
And my personal awareness of my own incompletness, often makes me extremely open to accepting others exactly as they are. People often comment that I'm more open-minded than most people they know. My guess is that in learning to accept myself 'as I am' for who I am, I've learned to accept everyone else for who they are. And yes, I'm a huge believer in biodiversity, memetic diversity, and relational diversity.
«If you are a dreamer, come in
If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar
A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer...
If you're a pretender, come sit by my fire
For we have some flax-golden tales to spin.
«Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.»
And yes, if you are a dreamer, you are very welcome in my small corner of the world. And I would love to know more about all that you have seen, felt, heard and experienced on your life journey to date.
So who am I? As far as I can tell, I'm the following type.
I'm a demisexual, sapiosexual hedonist. I fall in love easily and adore the simple things in life, relationships, science, myth and all the creatures in the natural world.
I'm somewhat 'Kinky', but more accurately I'm extremely playful. I love exploring boundaries with others in safe, sane and consensual ways.
For some people pushing boundaries means, holding hands in a public park with someone they barely know. For others, it's something 'fifty shades darker'. And for me, it's the pure childhood joy of being there while you push beyond your comfort zone. And yes, if you wanna partner in crime, feel free to give me a call.
And I'm a Dad. I have joint physical, joint legal, joint emotional, joint spiritual, joint recreational, joint educational and joint economic custody of 3 wonderful kids. These 3 very special persons are my primary focus in life. And everything else I do or spend time on is a distant secondary concern.
and if you'd like to know more about any of the above, feel free to ask!
Well, I also have a superpower...No matter what your truth/reality is, I can probably handle it.
Got drama? No problem.
Got rules? Easy-peasy.
Got requests? Let's hear them.
But like all superpowers, my abilities come with some fatal flaws…
I only know what you tell me, I can't read minds, and I love you forever if you could openly communicate your needs, wants, wishes, ideals, fears, dreams and fantasies with me...and in return I promise to listen, and treat this information with the respect and care that it deserves.
— Just the Facts (about me):
Skin: Caucasian (olive)
Status: Divorced 2 years after 19 years of marriage.
Net Income: $150k/yr.
(note: No, I'm not a millionaire)
Sexual Orientation: Hetero
Relationship Style: Polyamorous (I like being in a few long-term (2-3) open relationships at once. I like ample time with my kids And I like some time alone.). And yes, I'm open to primary partner relationships with the right person.
Kids: 3 boys (15,11,9)
Health: Kinda health... I eat healthy but could use more time in the gym.
Hygiene: Clean & Tested
Style: Very Casual to Business Casual
Looks: Average on the outside.
Hobbies: Life with Close Friends (I love sharing time with people while we are doing the tasks of everyday life, just being together while we live out our individual lives)
Life Philosophy: Every day's a Holiday, Every meal's a Feast.
Smoking: never tried it
Drinking: never tried it
Personality: I'm a Curious Cat that's already used-up 6 of my 9 lives…
But enough about me, let's talk about you.
— About you:
The following is my fantasy wish list:
In Public you:
1. are a great conversationalist
2. think a lot about life
3. have several close friends
4. enjoy people watching
5. like to travel
6. love life
7. wear heels with jeans (optional)
8. have a great sense of humor
In Private you:
1. are a great conversationalist.
2. think a lot about your own life
3. talk about your deepest thoughts and fantasies
4. enjoy pillow talk
5. like to share a good meal
6. are open minded
7. run, jump and skip barefoot
8. have a great sense of humor
— In Closing:
Well? Whatcha waiting for? Email me. And, let's start planning our first rendezvous…
Especially if I liked you. I would really Li!e to meet in person if only for a few minutes. And feel free to put any rules, preconditions, expectations, regulations or economic conditions on that, or none at all.
Again, I'm a big believer in the power of the match ℅, and our subconscious ability to get an accurate gut feel about someone when you first meet them.