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44 M Sunnyvale, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 10:52am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Strictly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)

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My self-summary
updated July 17th, 2014

So, Guys are like shoes?

Best answers so far include:
"You need a good pair for every occasion"
"Some are made for walking and some for showing off"
"The old ones that just fit are my favorite"
"I've got a whole closet full of them"
etc, etc, etc....


“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” — Rumi

I am:

politically fearless
socially shy

I find myself somewhat socially awkward and without a good understanding of how the world and everything works, but I do like thinking about it all especially with small groups of friends!

«If you are a dreamer, come in
If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar
A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer...
If you're a pretender, come sit by my fire
For we have some flax-golden tales to spin.
Come in!
Come in!»
—Shel Silverstein

«Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.»
-Helen Keller.

— Intro:

I'm a demisexual, sapiosexual hedonist. I fall in love easily and adore the simple things in life, relationships and the natural world.

I'm somewhat 'Kinky', but more accurately I'm extremely playful. I love exploring boundaries in safe, sane and consensual ways.

For some people, holding hands in the park is beyond what they are comfortable doing. For others, it's something 'fifty shades darker'. And for me, it's the pure childhood joy of being there while you push beyond your comfort zone. And yes, if you wanna partner in crime, feel free to give me a call.

And I'm a Dad. I have joint physical, legal, emotional, spiritual, recreational, educational and economic custody of 3 wonderful kids. They are my primary focus in life. And everything else is a distant secondary concern.

and if you'd like to know more about any of the above, feel free to ask!

What else?

Well, I also have a superpower...No matter what your truth/reality is, I can handle probably it.

Got drama? No problem.
Got rules? Easy-peasy.
Got requests? Let's hear them.

But like all superpowers, my abilities come with some fatal flaws…

I only know what you tell me, I can't read minds, and I need you to openly communicate your needs, wants, wishes, ideals, fears, dreams and fantasies with me...and in return I promise to listen, and treat this information with the respect and care that it deserves.

— Just the Facts (about me):

Age: 43
Weight: 240
Skin: Caucasian (olive)
Eyes: Hazel
Height: 5'8"
Teeth: Crooked

Status: Divorced after 19 years of marriage.
Net Income: $135k/yr.
(note: No, I'm not a millionaire)

Sexual Orientation: Hetero
Relationship Style: Polyamorous (I like being in a few long-term (2-3) open relationships at once. And I like some time alone.)

Kids: 3 boys (15,11,8)
Health: Kinda health... I eat health but could use more time in the gym.
Hygiene: Clean & Tested
Style: Very Casual to Business Casual
Looks: Average on the outside.
Hobbies: Life with Close Friends (I love sharing time with people while they are doing the tasks of everyday life, just being together while we live out our individual lives)

Life Philosophy: Every day's a Holiday, Every meal's a Feast.

Smoking: never tried it
Drinking: never tried it
Personality: I'm a Curious Cat that's already used-up 6 of my 9 lives…

But enough about me, let's talk about you.

— About you:

In Public you:

1. are a great conversationalist
2. think a lot about life
3. have several close friends
4. enjoy people watching
5. like to travel
6. love life
7. wear heels with jeans (optional)
8. have a good sense of humor

In Private you:

1. are a great conversationalist.
2. think a lot about your own life
3. talk about your deepest thoughts and fantasies
4. enjoy pillow talk
5. like to share a good meal
6. are open minded
7. run, jump and skip barefoot
8. have a great sense of humor

— In Closing:

Well? Whatcha waiting for? Email me. And, let's start planning our first rendezvous…

What I’m doing with my life
Just hav'n fun.

I'm poly-friendly, kink-friendly, commercial sex friendly, bisexual friendly, alternative lifestyle friendly, kid friendly, etc, etc.

I grew-up poor, and ended-up well off, and I made friends all along the way, between the top 1% to the bottom 10%.

I have a low key personality, which makes it easy for people trust me. I've worked for well-known companies and I look like an average joe with 3 kids.

As far as my big goals in life go, My kids are my life. My friendships finding community are a close second. And everything else is third. And yes, this includes career and everything else life has to offer...

And yes, there is still room for you. Or at least I hope so. Life partners that help each other out. That are there when they need each other. That share time and energy together will always be more productive and enjoyable than any life alone.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at keeping life simple. I love free time, and maintain this lifestyle by keeping things focused on a few high priorities, and not worrying about the rest.

And I'm pretty good with kids. I grew up in a big family with lots of cousins, and I've carried this experience with me into my adult life.

And I'm really good at thinking life through and living the well examined life...
The first things people usually notice about me
That I'm a happy-go-lucky guy. That I'm not afraid of living life. And that I see the World differently than most.

That said, some of my closer friends with say:

That I need to plan more and worry more. That I need to be more guarded in my interactions with others. That the truth isn't always the most important thing in life, and that I could use a little more common sense.

But I'm a kid at heart. Unaffraid of what's benieth the muddy water, as I leap into the wishing pool left by the rain clouds. And I'm in constant search for others to swap life stories and adventure tales with.

Where have you gone, what did you see, how did you feel and what did you learn? Most people find me a curious listener with wide eyes, an open heart, and all the time in the world when we're together.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'm an avid audiobook listener, with over 200 books in my audio library.. I like both non-fiction and fiction. Everything from US Supreme Court history to Philosophy to '50 Shades..'

Got a book you like? Let's read it together!
The six things I could never do without
Good friends, my kids, yummy food, deep sleep, lots of free time and something fun to do on the weekends...

I've done a ton over the years, traveled the World, worked hard, and spent my share of money, etc, etc...

But above it all, I enjoy spending time with people the most...
I spend a lot of time thinking about

I find the human condition fascinating.

How is anyone to figure out so much in so little time.....
On a typical Friday night I am
50% of the time I'm hanging out with my kids. The other half, I'm hanging out with old friends, or meeting someone new...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've got an account on Happy to share more if you're interested...
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–53
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
you are hungry, thirsty, curious, or in a good mood. You'll find me in the same condition!