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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35-48
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 27
Straight, Demisexual, Sapiosexual
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Not at all
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Japanese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
updated Nov 5th, 2015

«Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.» — Rumi
«Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.» -Helen Keller

— My Hopes

Ultimately, I’m looking for a single, long-term romantic partner. I’m looking for chemistry, connection, love, laughter, comfort, caretaking, homemaking, conversation and a lifetime story to remember.

Until that day, I’m looking for people to experience life with, with the hopes of finding that very special someone one day.

— Intro:

Why am I on this site? Because I like progressive women. And I like polyamorous relationships, and mutually beneficial agreements as a way to break the ice and get to know someone.

I'm sex-loving, poly-friendly, kink-friendly, commercial sex worker friendly, alternative lifestyle friendly, kid friendly, pet friendly, friends and family friendly… etc, etc.

I grew-up poor, and ended-up well off, and I have friends all along the way, between the top 1% to the bottom 10%.

I enjoy everything from movies and dinner, to farmers markets and flea markets, from walks on the beach to walks in the redwoods, from politics to economics, and from the latest in psychology to the oldest in philosophy.

I've been to swinger parties, BDSM parties, sugar-baby parties, stripper parties, poly potlucks, nudist hot-springs, yoga/chant camp, tantric energy exchange, trips to LA, Boston, Austin, Japan, and NYC, and a bunch of other stuff. It's a crazy fun world we live in.

— my Politics:

I'm a strong believer is the decriminalization of all consensual activities between adults.

— About the woman I'm looking for:

The following is my fantasy wish list:

Life Philosopher/Scientist: Think deeply about life? I would love to hear everything!

Story-teller: Know how to tell a good story? So much of life is about telling stories. From 'How was your Day?' to 'What's your political position on that?'. I can't imagine spending life with anyone except an amazing story-teller.

Adventurer: Wanna go explore life? Experience something most people only dream about? Do that fantasy you've told me so many time? Or that fantasy you just created? I'm in!!

Caregiver: I'm happy to get these needs met outside the relationship, but I really enjoy having my emotional/physical/sexual well-being cared for.

Homemaker: Also happy to hire outside help for this, but if you enjoy homemaking in any sense of the activity, I really enjoy this trait in a partner.

Pervert Like Sex? Like Porn? Masturbation? Fantasies? Toys? Erotica? Kink? Fetishes? The Taboo? Ever had a partner you could share anything with? Want one?

In Public My Dream Lover:

1. is a great conversationalist
2. thinks a lot about life
3. has several close friends
4. enjoys people watching
5. likes to travel
6. loves life
7. wears heels with jeans (optional)
8. has a great sense of humor

In Private My Dream Lover:

1. is a great conversationalist.
2. thinks a lot about her own life
3. talks about her deepest thoughts and fantasies
4. enjoys lots of pillow talk
5. likes to cook a great meal
6. is open minded and adventurous
7. loves to run, jump and skip barefoot
8. had a great sense of humor

— In Closing:

Well? Whatcha waiting for? Email me. And, let's start planning our first rendezvous…

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just hav'n fun.

I'm poly-friendly, kink-friendly, sex worker friendly, bisexual friendly, alternative lifestyle friendly, kid friendly, etc, etc.

I grew-up poor, and ended-up well off, and I made friends all along the way, between the top 1% to the bottom 10%.

I have a low key personality, which makes it easy for people to trust me. I've worked with well-known companies (Toyota, Apple, Google) and I look like an average joe with 3 kids.

As far as my big goals in life go, My kids are my life. My interpersonal friendships and finding community are a close second. And everything else is third. And yes, this includes career and everything else life has to offer...

And yes, there is plenty of room for you. I'm looking for a life partner to share life with and help each other out. Someone that is there when we both need each other. Someone to share time and energy together with will always be more productive and enjoyable than any life alone.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at keeping life simple. I love free time, and maintain this lifestyle by keeping things focused on a few high priorities, and not worrying about the rest.

And I'm pretty good with kids. I grew up in a big family with lots of cousins, and I've carried this experience with me into my adult life.

And I'm really good at thinking life through and living the well examined life...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm a happy-go-lucky guy. That I'm not afraid of living life. And that I see the World differently than most.

That said, some of my closer friends will say:
That I need to plan more and worry more. That I need to be more guarded in my interactions with others.
That the truth isn't always the most important thing in life, and that I could use a little more common sense.

But I'm a kid at heart. Unaffraid of what's benieth the muddy water, as I leap into the wishing pool left behind by the rain clouds. And I'm in constant search for others to swap life stories and adventure tales with.

Where have you gone, what did you see, how did you feel and what did you learn? Most people find me a curious listener with wide eyes, an open heart, and all the time in the world when we're together.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm an avid audiobook listener, with over 200 books in my audio library.. I like both non-fiction and fiction. Everything from US Supreme Court history to Philosophy to '50 Shades..'

“I cannot remember the books I've read any more than the meals I have eaten; even so, they have made me.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Got a book you like? Let's read it together!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends, my kids, yummy food, deep sleep, lots of free time and something fun to do on the weekends...

I've done a ton over the years, traveled the World, worked hard, and spent my share of money, etc, etc... But above it all, I enjoy spending time with people the most...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life. I find the human condition fascinating. How is anyone to figure out so much in so little time.....
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
50% of the time I'm hanging out with my kids. The other half, I'm hanging out with old friends, or meeting someone new...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've got an account on Happy to share more if you're interested...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are hungry, thirsty, curious, and/or in a good mood. You'll find me in the same condition!

In a perfect world, the following would happen next:

1) we find out we have a high match %
2) we read each other's profiles and notice a few things we are both curious about each other.
3) one of us proposes a time and place to meet. (Mon/Wed/Thurs evenings after 7:30pm, anywhere within 100 miles of Palo Alto works for me).
4) we meet, I notice your smile and you notice mine.
5) we talk.
6) and we are both the wiser for having spent the time together.

All my best in your search!!

"If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." Bob Marly