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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–48
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jul 23
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Not at all
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Strictly non-monogamous
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Japanese (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
updated May 30th, 2015
Note: I recently decided to set all but a few of my questions and answers to 'private'. I felt like they were spoiling the mystery of getting to know someone. That said, I've answered hundreds of questions honestly, and if we have a high match %, its for a reason.

Also, if I have 'liked' you. Its because I kinda do. :-)

My hope is that we trust the science behind the match %, and get together to see how we do in person. And in that respect, I'm very flexible. Your time, your rules.

Because science suggests it takes People about 3-mins of in-person time for us both to know how things are going to turn out over time. We could each write our own library of congress, and we wouldn't know more than we do after 3-mins of first impressions, on top of a high match %...


“Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I will meet you there.” — Rumi

"If people could comprehend the beauty in the dissymmetry of your inner self as easily as they they can see the asymmetry of your outer shell, they would understand that your container is but a prelude to a marvelous symphony of divinity and wisdom." -me

I find myself as somewhat socially awkward introvert and without a good understanding of how the world and everything works. And I doubt I'll ever really figure everything out. But I do like thinking about all the wonderful mystries of life, especially with small groups of friends!

I also love to live life to the fullest. Wanna know what I'm thinking, ask me. Wanna discuss the mysteries of the universe, I've thought through most of them. Wanna tell me something you never thought you could share with anyone? Today's your lucky day.

And because of my personal awareness of my own incompletness, this often makes me extremely open to accepting others exactly as they are. People often comment that I'm more open-minded than anyone they know. My guess is that in learning to accept myself 'as I am' for who I am, I've learned to accept everyone else for who they are. And yes, I'm a huge believer in biodiversity, memetic diversity, and relational diversity.

«If you are a dreamer, come in
If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar
A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer...
If you're a pretender, come sit by my fire
For we have some flax-golden tales to spin.
Come in!
Come in!»
—Shel Silverstein

«Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.»
-Helen Keller.

And yes, if you are a dreamer, you are very welcome in my small corner of the world. And I would love to know more about all that you have seen, felt, heard and experienced on your life journey to date.

— Intro:

So who am I? As far as I can tell, I'm the following.

I'm a demisexual, sapiosexual hedonist. I fall in love easily and adore the simple things in life, relationships, science, myth and all the creatures in the natural world.

I'm somewhat 'Kinky', but more accurately I'm extremely playful. I love exploring boundaries with others in safe, sane and consensual ways.

For some people pushing boundaries means, holding hands in a public park with someone they barely know. For others, it's something 'fifty shades darker'. And for me, it's the pure childhood joy of being there while you push beyond your own comfort zone. And yes, if you want a 'partner in crime', feel free to give me a call.

And I'm a Dad. I have joint physical, joint legal, joint emotional, joint spiritual, joint recreational, joint educational and joint economic custody of 3 wonderful kids. These 3 very special persons are my primary focus in life. And everything else I do or spend time on is a distant secondary concern.

and if you'd like to know more about any of the above, feel free to ask!

What else?

Well, I also have a superpower...No matter what your truth/reality is, I can probably handle it.

Got drama? No problem.
Got rules? Easy-peasy.
Got requests? Let's hear them.

But like all superpowers, my abilities come with some fatal flaws…

I only know what you tell me, I can't read minds. That said, if you will openly communicate your needs, wants, wishes, ideals, fears, dreams and fantasies with me...then in return I promise to listen, and treat this information with the respect and care that it deserves.

— Just the Facts (about me):

Age: 45
Weight: 265
Skin: Caucasian (olive)
Eyes: Hazel
Height: 5'8"
Teeth: Crooked

Status: Divorced 2.5 years after 19 years of marriage.
Net Income: $150k/yr.
(note: No, I'm not a millionaire)

Sexual Orientation: Hetero
Relationship Style: Non-monogamous (I like being in a central long-term open relationship. I like ample time with my kids And I like some time alone.). And yes, I'm open to several options that consider your needs and wants.

Kids: 3 boys (16,12,10)
Health: Kinda healthy... I eat healthy but could use more time in the gym.
Hygiene: Clean & Tested
Style: Very Casual to Business Casual
Looks: Average on the outside.
Hobbies: Life with Close Friends (I love sharing time with people while we are doing the tasks of everyday life, just being together while we live out our individual lives)

Life Philosophy: Every day's a Holiday, Every meal's a Feast.

Smoking: never tried it
Drinking: never tried it
Personality: I'm a Curious Cat that's already used-up 7 of my 9 lives…

But enough about me, let's talk about you.

— About you:

The following is my fantasy wish list:

In Public you:

1. are a great conversationalist
2. think a lot about life
3. have several close friends
4. enjoy people watching
5. like to travel
6. love life
7. wear heels with jeans (optional)
8. have a great sense of humor

In Private you:

1. are a great conversationalist.
2. think a lot about your own life
3. talk about your deepest thoughts and fantasies
4. enjoy pillow talk
5. like to share a good meal
6. are open minded
7. run, jump and skip barefoot
8. have a great sense of humor

— In Closing:

Well? Whatcha waiting for? Email me. And, let's start planning our first rendezvous…

Especially if I liked you. I would really Li!e to meet in person if only for a few minutes. And feel free to put any rules, preconditions, expectations, regulations or economic conditions on that, or none at all.

Again, I'm a big believer in the power of the match ℅, and our subconscious ability to get an accurate gut feel about someone when you first meet them.

What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Just hav'n fun.

I'm poly-friendly, kink-friendly, sex worker friendly, bisexual friendly, alternative lifestyle friendly, kid friendly, etc, etc.

I grew-up poor, and ended-up well off, and I made friends all along the way, between the top 1% to the bottom 10%.

I have a low key personality, which makes it easy for people to trust me. I've worked with well-known companies (Toyota, Apple, Google) and I look like an average joe with 3 kids.

As far as my big goals in life go, My kids are my life. My interpersonal friendships and finding community are a close second. And everything else is third. And yes, this includes career and everything else life has to offer...

And yes, there is plenty of room for you. I'm looking for a life partner to share life with and help each other out. Someone that is there when we both need each other. Someone to share time and energy together with will always be more productive and enjoyable than any life alone.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at keeping life simple. I love free time, and maintain this lifestyle by keeping things focused on a few high priorities, and not worrying about the rest.

And I'm pretty good with kids. I grew up in a big family with lots of cousins, and I've carried this experience with me into my adult life.

And I'm really good at thinking life through and living the well examined life...
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm a happy-go-lucky guy. That I'm not afraid of living life. And that I see the World differently than most.

That said, some of my closer friends will say:
That I need to plan more and worry more. That I need to be more guarded in my interactions with others.
That the truth isn't always the most important thing in life, and that I could use a little more common sense.

But I'm a kid at heart. Unaffraid of what's benieth the muddy water, as I leap into the wishing pool left behind by the rain clouds. And I'm in constant search for others to swap life stories and adventure tales with.

Where have you gone, what did you see, how did you feel and what did you learn? Most people find me a curious listener with wide eyes, an open heart, and all the time in the world when we're together.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I'm an avid audiobook listener, with over 200 books in my audio library.. I like both non-fiction and fiction. Everything from US Supreme Court history to Philosophy to '50 Shades..'

Got a book you like? Let's read it together!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good friends, my kids, yummy food, deep sleep, lots of free time and something fun to do on the weekends...

I've done a ton over the years, traveled the World, worked hard, and spent my share of money, etc, etc... But above it all, I enjoy spending time with people the most...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life. I find the human condition fascinating. How is anyone to figure out so much in so little time.....
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
50% of the time I'm hanging out with my kids. The other half, I'm hanging out with old friends, or meeting someone new...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've got an account on Happy to share more if you're interested...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are hungry, thirsty, curious, and/or in a good mood. You'll find me in the same condition!

In a perfect world, the following would happen next:

1) we find out we have a high match %
2) we read each other's profiles and notice a few things we are both curious about each other.
3) one of us proposes a time and place to meet. (Mon/Wed/Thurs evenings after 7:30pm, anywhere within 100 miles of Palo Alto works for me).
4) we meet, I notice your smile and you notice mine.
5) we talk.
6) and we are both the wiser for having spent the time together.

All my best in your search!!

"If she's amazing, she won't be easy. If she's easy, she won't be amazing. If she's worth it, you wont give up. If you give up, you're not worthy. ... Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." Bob Marly