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Jm186

53 M Minneapolis, MN

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:10pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I tend to be a "still waters run deep" sort of man, though you might not see that at first through my playful and sometimes sarcastic exterior. I'm mildly introverted, which does not mean shy, but I do value, and need, a lot of alone time. Raised in the country, I have a rural earthiness polished by urban life. I am NOT a traditional male in most senses of the word--not a hunter (fish occasionally), not big into watching sports, "trans"-religious (might be worth asking about); I'm fairly open with my emotions and can talk about mine and listen to you about yours; I'm intolerant of double standards for men or for women. I am masculine, caring and supportive, independent, respectful, able to love deeply and passionately, have good boundaries. At a party I'm often thinking about things at a different way than those around me, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's at a higher level! My group of friends is small, but intimate. I often crave more spontaneous, silly fun as a balance, and enjoy being around more extroverted types. I'm interested (and have dabbled in) a great many things: photography, drumming, piano, landscape architecture/garden design, drawing, meditation, acting, ball-room dance. I'd rather play sports than watch them on TV, though I can enjoy watching a game with friends.
What I’m doing with my life
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Of late, my life has been focused on personal and emotional growth. I work PT on a locked mental health unit, assisting psychotic, schizophrenic, depressed, and otherwise mentally/emotionally challenged adults. I'm also building a practice as a Therapeutic Coach(TM), using a new model of how we process experience to make rapid changes in people's lives (yes, that IS my "elevator speech"). One of my favorite experiences is when a patient or client has a "breakthrough moment" and sees that they are truly lovable people, or suddenly sees something they just couldn't see before that changes their lives forever. I'm in a men's group focused on supporting and challenging each other to lead lives connected to feeling, personal and emotional responsibility, and value fulfillment.

I'm slowly moving to a vegetarian diet, and practicing recipes and eating at home more.
I’m really good at
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I grew up around a lovable, but talk-aholic father, so I've become an excellent listener: Synthesizing information, putting it all together. Making my point (usually in a funny way) by using exaggerated or extreme examples; Seeing the vulnerability of people, animals, the planet; Switching back and forth between being philosophical and humorously absurd. Building rapport and finding out what people share. I dislike most debate, and seldom get into arguments, because they are usually about winning and "being right" rather than trying to solve the problem the arguments they seem to address.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Depends on who you ask, but I've heard that I'm tall, my eyes, sometimes my full-body laugh.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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History --Native American, economic, history of ideas. I am intrigued by the evolution of thought through time. How did our culture get to be where it is now? Joseph Campbell--role of myth in culture, religion formation. I enjoy Star Trek and other sci-fi for the ideas, not (just) the tacky acting! Stand up comedy-Louis C K, Ron White, many others. Documentaries--Fat, Sick, and Nearly Dead, Forks Over Knives, and others about the food industry (I believe Netflicks has been pivotal in spreading a health food revolution) ; Any Ken Burns documentary, but especially "The War" about WWII; Speilberg's later films; Martin Scorsese; anything with Tom Hanks; Old Classics. I still cry every time I watch "It's a Wonderful Life." Brides Maids was hilarious and I love Kristin Wiig; I don't like most horror films; they tend to be lame and predictable, and worst of all, not really scary.
Music? The Current, jazz, Some classical, especially piano, especially Chopin. Some Classic country like Hank Williams, Johnny Cash (Love his American series); any music where you can really feel the soul and energy of the singer/group. I've been enjoying shows at The Cedar Cultural Center, also like the Cabooze.

Food? I'm building a vegetarian diet, and learning new recipes. I like smoothies, Salads, good soups, occasional grilled chicken or steak, dried apricots, love the smell of cilantro. When eating out I like Mexican and Asian. My favorite junk foods: pancakes and Peanut Butter Parfaits. I tend not to be a food snob, or even very picky, though I enjoy trying new dishes. I enjoy beer (Harp, Pilsner Urquel, Guinness, numerous others-not a fan of "Hoppy" beer) single-malt scotch (Craggenmore my new favorite--I'm sure you're a Scotch fan too, right? :). For pancakes I love Al's Breakfast in Dinkytown; has the very best--Whole Wheat Wally Blues!), I enjoy an occasional Cigar (to be savored like an excellent wine).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do without almost everything. How about six things I really enjoy?
That first, hot, morning cup of coffee sitting in my favorite chair on a day off.
A spontaneous conversation that animates everyone.
The facial expressions of a woman who's really into me.
MPR
Long hikes in the woods.
An "Aha!" moment when I've just figured out something that will take me to the next level.
Being surrounded by easy-going and fun people.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Going to happy hour with a great group of co-workers, attending a play, listening to live music, seeing a movie, sometimes working.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I often suck at recalling names of actors, movies I've seen, and books I've read. Information overflow? Must be.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 32–56
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
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...you have the courage to put aside the lame excuse that "I want 'The Man' to take the lead" and all the related baggage, take responsibility for what you want in your life (that is, if you find me interesting or attractive), and be proactive. Don't worry, if it works out, I'll take the lead where it matters. If your body is height-weight proportionate. If you want to experience and co-create authentic, respectful, and emotionally evolved interaction with an authentic, respectful, and emotionally evolved man. If you want to get into big, BIG trouble.....

DON'T message me if.....

You can't control your emotions and think it's acceptable for women to behave like children.

You consider yourself feminist yet expect men to do traditionally women's activities in a partnership (e.g. do the dishes, vacuum, clean the house) but you are unwilling to do traditionally masculine things (shingle the roof, change the tire, haul heavy things around, fix the plumbing, or learn how....!). I am looking for true equality in a relationship--and the intimacy that accompanies being authentic!