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20 M San Diego, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 14
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from high school
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats

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My self-summary
Well, my name is Wes - I think it's rather silly that this site doesn't go by your name, and instead uses a screen name. Whatever. Anyway, I've been living in San Diego for about two years now, and while I originally moved here to start a music career, that has kind of fallen apart. I'll go more into that in the next section, I suppose. I've played guitar for about 8 years.

I've been a lifelong gamer and it has been such a formative experience for me, especially growing up. Gaming has taught me critical thinking, problem solving, and has introduced me to a worldwide community that I am proud to be a part of.

I've done Shotokan karate for 8 years, but stopped when I moved to San Diego. I might start again someday, who knows. I really enjoyed it.

I'm a very laid-back person, and I feel that people make way too big of a deal out of things that simply don't matter. Petty discomforts are a part of life, get over it. I'm very straightforward and honest in my communication with those who matter to me, and I always encourage my partner to have full transparency with me. I want to know what's on their mind, and I'm always there to be supportive and resolve conflict in a calm, rational, mature way. I like to listen, cuddle, and am the kind of guy who will get you a small present for no particular reason, just because you make me happy.

Rational, logical ways of thinking are a huge part of who I am. I'm a lifelong skeptic and atheist since about 14, and I can seem a bit cold and uncaring at times, but it's really just the fact that I am operating under rationality. What people consider "common courtesy" I often find to just be dishonest and insincere, and I don't like it at all. Be nice to someone if you actually like them, not because you think you're supposed to be nice. I'm not mean to people I don't know, I'm just a bit indifferent. My time is important to me, and I don't want to spend it in the company of people I won't like. For the people I do like, I'm one of the nicest and most caring people you will ever know. I'm totally down to help anyone I like in almost any situation. I'm also quite outgoing with people I feel comfortable around and enjoy being around.

Superstition upsets me like nothing else. We live in the 21st century for fuck's sake, not the dark ages.

My humor is dark, sarcastic, witty, and totally fucked up. Years of playing online games has given me a love for that kind of humor that most people don't have. You run into some weird shit on the internet. George Carlin is one of my intellectual idols, so if you like the things he had to say, we will get along.

I like cats, and have two right now. They're very cute and sweet :). Dogs are fine, and it may have been growing up with a dog that hated me, but I prefer cats.

I'm very interested in psychology, and as such I like psychological thrillers. My favorite movies are almost all psych thrillers. Books, movies, and shows that have real character development and in-depth looks at psychology are fascinating to me. I don't like people all that much, but learning how they work is very interesting; it could lead me to potentially understand why most of them are morons :P.

I'm more attracted to women intellectually than physically, so if you have emptiness between the ears, please do not bother to respond. A beautiful, witty, smart woman is quite difficult to find.

I want someone who can simultaneously be my best friend and love of my life. Someone who shares a lot of my likes, but can also introduce me to new things that I may not have otherwise known about, and in turn is willing to let me do the same for her. I want a woman who is always expanding her world and learning, while having fun and being a bit silly. I need a girl who appreciates affection, and is able to be passionate, understanding, and experimental sexually.

I suppose that's enough for right now, so if you have any questions feel free to ask! ^_^

PS: I always look god awful in pictures.

I suppose I always look like that ALL the time, but that's beside the point :P.
What I’m doing with my life
While I orginally was writing a novel, I got about halfway through and decided that it wasn't going to work the way I was writing it. So, instead of just rewriting all of that, I decided to write it out as a show instead. The problem is, nobody knows who I am, so getting funding for something like that is next to impossible, so I have to start small. I wrote a 14-page short film, and filmed it in mid-July. It was finished in September, and will be submitted to Sundance and other film festivals.

If that doesn't work out, one must always have a backup plan, and in my case, I'm writing a novel, and/or will go to college for either writing, psychology, or law. I like all of those things a great deal.

The novel I'm currently working on is a political drama/social commentary/psychological study told in first person narrative.

Most importantly, I just want to have a career that I will enjoy. So many people slave away at jobs they hate, when everyone has the capability to have a career doing something they enjoy, especially in this age of the internet and so much interactive media. I want a woman who shares my view of loving your career.
I’m really good at
Jack of all trades, master of none; often quite better than master of one.

Seriously, I'm quite versatile. I grew up playing sports, music, gaming, and doing well intellectually. I understand the basic premise of almost anything.

I guess in terms of what I'm REALLY good at, it would be understanding people. I seem to just be able to read them incredibly easily and I can figure out almost anybody pretty quickly. It's helped a lot in gaming. I've started to pick up poker casually, and I think I'm okay at it for not having played for very long.

I'm also quite good at educating myself, being helpful to the people that matter to me, and just enjoying my life. It's so important to be happy in this incredibly short time you have on this hunk of rock in space.
The first things people usually notice about me
I honestly have no idea. This question seems to come up on dating sites and lot and quite frankly I find it to be a waste of a question. How am I supposed to know what people notice about me right away? Everyone is different, and the things that they take in and observe about someone is different. Seriously, remove questions like this; they are subjective and not really of any help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Well, this is going to be a long section. I am very passionate about my favorite books, movies, shows, and music. I will explain why I love them.

For a long time, my all-time favorite series was Sword of Truth, but as I've delved more into the realms of George RR Martin, I've realized that Sword of Truth, while still good, is, unfortunately, plagued by being just a standard "Good Vs Evil" story. It's a damn good one, but it really is that at heart, which takes away from almost all of the suspense. You know that good is going to triumph, blah blah. However, I have never had an experience in my life like reading Wizard's First Rule, the first book in the series, and honestly other works of fiction that I really enjoyed before seemed a bit amateurish afterward. I also appreciate that the series has a message of free thinking, anti-religion and anti-superstition, and most importantly one of making your own life exactly what you want it to be. Those values hit home so much for me.

All that being said, Song of Ice and Fire is the best series ever. It is crafted by a master storyteller the likes of which truly has never lived before. This is a man that can hold so much information in his head that it's a bit stunning, in addition to just being able to create it all in the first place.

Other books I like are Harry Potter, the Dresden Files, Lord of the Rings, and anything written by George Carlin.

My favorite movies, as I said before, are mostly psychological thrillers. It's not exclusively those, and anything that is well written, directed, and acted I will most likely enjoy unless I disagree strongly with the premise or the message it is trying to get across.

Welp, here's a list of my favorites, just so you can get some idea: Donnie Darko, Memento, The Prestige, Kick-Ass, Scarface, In Bruges, God Bless America, and Let the Right One In.

If you haven't heard of/seen any of these, IMDB or Netflix them. They are amazing. Movies like Donnie Darko are not for the people that don't like to think during a movie, but for those of us that do they (and almost all well done psych thrillers) are lasting experiences.

I really like dark, dramatic TV shows that follow a very interesting story and have a lot of character development. Shows that make you think. Again, not universally true as I do like some comedic shows.

Again, a list for your perusal: Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Dexter, Community, and Arrested Development. Walking Dead is a highly overrated pseudo-intellectual piece of mediocre television, and it baffles me how it fools so many people. I guess, to be fair, it did fool me for awhile. Thank you YourMovieSucks for opening my eyes .

Musically, which is something very important to me, I enjoy anything that shows obvious musical talent. As such, I don't like almost any modern mainstream artists and find most of them to be abhorrent and completely incompetent at what they do. Wub wub wub wub isn't music, Skrillex. I'm highly selective about what I listen to, and I really only listen to about five bands. I'm a diehard metalhead, and not for a lot of the stupid, pseudo-talented metal bands that are out there. The really talented artists are the classical music of this time period, and if you study music a lot you will see some similarities. A lot of them are influenced by Beethoven and the like as well.

Since we are following the pattern of listing things, I might as well do that here too. These are basically all the bands that I really, really enjoy and that I think are brilliant musicians: The Black Dahlia Murder, In Flames, At the Gates, Arsis, Kittie, Metallica, Rise Against, and old Green Day. I know that last one may come as a shock, but Green Day before American Idiot were highly competent and talented musicians of their particular genre. Insomniac is still one of my favorite albums.

I like a lot of food. I eat a lot for someone that isn't fat :P. I eat pretty healthy, and I drink about a gallon of water a day. I eat a lot of apples, maybe 3 or 4 a day. Aside from that, I like spaghetti, hamburgers, burritos, yogurt, vegetables that aren't eggplant, onions, or mushrooms, and so many other things that it would be a waste of time to list them all. Basically, I'm not fond of very spicy food. Not my thing at all.
The six things I could never do without
The internet



The ability to rationally view the world and educate myself

Games of all varieties

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Everything. I think a LOT. I think about things from such a wide variety of topics that I couldn't even begin to list them all. Really, I think about whatever is on my mind at the time. I think about things that don't make sense, but should. I think about things that make sense when they shouldn't.

My head is an interesting place.
On a typical Friday night I am
Playing Magic: The Gathering at my local store. Another amazing game that has taught me so much about understanding people and problem solving. I honestly have no idea what I would be like had I not discovered it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Uh, tomatoes. We're going to go with tomatoes.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–23
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You should message me if all of this sounds appealing to you, and you're interested in getting to know each other more for a long term relationship, or if you just have any questions! :)