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Joarthus

21 San Diego, CA Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–23
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:04am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Life would be infinitely easier if everyone just stopped their bullshit and followed this: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes/

I saw this recently and it's quite true:

To females: guys are stupid. You literally do have to say exactly what you want. Don't try to be coy or subtle or leave "hints." Just say it. You'll be AMAZED at how well this works.

*sigh*. I'll try to keep this as brief as possible. I've been trying to slim it down. I know that less is more, but I have a lot to say. Don't expect a lot of coherence, despite my roots as a writer. This is just a collection of things about me that I think are important.

As I've gotten older and have done more introspection, I have come to the conclusion that it is close to impossible to give an accurate description of the awkward, outspoken, headstrong, yet unsure contradiction that I am. So, I invite conversation. It's really the only sure-fire way to even begin to get a feeling for what I'm really like.

I proceed through life with complete honesty and the best intentions. I expect others to do the same, and I have no patience for those that dance around the truth. Due to social ostracization as a child and teenager, I did not fully develop flawless social skills, though as I entered adulthood I have improved this quite a bit, mostly through my one and only learning process of trial and error. However, sometimes I am accidentally rude or blunt, but my actions are never with ill intent.

Somehow, I manage to be both misanthropic yet sociable in the right circles; humanity as a whole is a disgusting species doomed to perish in its own arrogance, nose in an Iphone, but individuals can be inspiring and enjoyable, even life changing.

I suppose there is value in listing my hobbies and interests here, though there is a section for that later as well.

I'm a lifelong gamer, writer, musician, intellectual and seeker of knowledge and happiness. The last thing I want in my life is to be miserable all the time. I had enough of that growing up.

I graduated high school at 16 and I do not learn well in a typical school environment, which is a big part of why I currently have no plans to go to college. The rote memorization that school systems stress instead of genuine learning is fairly insulting, and I've learned far more on my own. I've said for awhile now that the most important thing in life is learning *how* to learn. Understanding how you best hold on to information and truly process and grasp it is the first step toward becoming a genuinely more educated person. I know that college is better about this, but I don't want to spend thousands of dollars on something I may not enjoy or end up needing. A degree matters less and less these days.
Thank fucking christ for the internet. I'd probably be a drooling imbecile without it.

Competitive gaming is a bit part of my life, and anyone that has any interest in me needs to understand that. I've found actually a fairly positive reaction to that among most women, so that's great, but since this section is "about me", I figured I'd put that here.

I feel that people make far too big of a deal out of most things, especially things they have no control over. A good amount of minor inconveniences or small annoyances are out of our control and to be expected in life, and allowing these things to affect you is ridiculous. I believe in being laid back and going with the flow, and finding humor in generally annoying situations. The guy who freaks out because someone is ten minutes late or his internet dies for fifteen minutes is going to die of an aneurysm.

What I've never felt in my life is the feeling of being truly cared for; to have someone look at you with brilliant sparks in their eyes and a genuine smile that tells you all you need to know. Eyes that only see you. I have never known true, unquestioning love and compassion, and as such did not learn it myself. I see it in others, and I truly envy it, yet, so far, none have been able to bring it out in me. I do not feel that anyone owes me these things, far from it. I eagerly await the day that I meet the fateful individual that can bring these traits out of me. I know I have them, buried inside, but they remain dormant until I find a connection that truly makes me shout "fuck yes."

I'm not the kind of person that you will click with instantly, unless you have a very similar mess of a brain. Instead, I require patience, understanding, and communication. As such, I have had many a failed relationship and many, many more that never even got that far. I know that these women exist, though they are precious few and invaluable. I don't just seek the diamond among the coal, I require it, for none else will be able to fulfill what is required to bring out the best in me. I require someone willing to take a chance, to put everything on the line for a chance at a lifetime of true happiness.

I give only my best intentions. I'm bullshit free. I don't play games. And I expect the same of others.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm doing independent English tutoring through Craigslist while working on my novel and furthering my connections in the film industry.

I wrote a 14-page short film, and filmed it in mid-July of 2013. It is a psychological look at childhood trauma breeding criminals, and the effectiveness of therapy. It was finished in September of 2013, and was submitted to Sundance and other film festivals.

The novel I'm currently working on is a political drama/social commentary/psychological study told in first person narrative. I finished the first draft earlier this year and I'm about 100k words into my first rewrite. After over a year of writing it, I've finally gotten the story in my head to a level of polish that I'm happy with; now it's just an issue of actually getting it down and doing it right.

I recently got an idea I really like for a low-budget Youtube serial drama webseries that would be TV-length (45-55 minutes an episode), which is something that nobody outside of Netflix is doing. I've been meeting a lot of people in the industry recently so I'm going to talk to them about it and see what we can do.

Most importantly, I just want to have a career that I will enjoy. So many people slave away at jobs they hate, when everyone has the capability to have a career doing something they enjoy, especially in this age of the internet and so much interactive media. I want a woman who shares my view of loving your career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Jack of all trades, master of none; often quite better than master of one.

I'm quite versatile. I grew up playing sports, music, gaming, and doing well intellectually. I understand the basic premise of almost anything.

Nothing in my life ever came naturally to me, except the various facets of English (grammar, spelling, etc), and skiiing, strangely. I was off the bunny hill in twenty minutes when I was 10 years old, and going for all the intermediate tracks. I haven't gone in years, but it would be really cool to do it again. It's a lot of fun.

I guess in terms of what I'm REALLY good at, it would be understanding people. I seem to just be able to read them incredibly easily and I can figure out almost anybody pretty quickly. It's helped a lot in gaming. I've started to pick up poker casually, and I think I'm okay at it for not having played for very long.

I'm also quite good at educating myself, being helpful to the people that matter to me, and just enjoying my life. It's so important to be happy in the incredibly short time you have.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I honestly have no idea. This question seems to come up on dating sites and lot and quite frankly I find it to be a waste of a question. How am I supposed to know what people notice about me right away? Everyone is different, and the things that they take in and observe about someone is different. Seriously, remove questions like this; they are subjective and not really of any help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Well, this is going to be a long section. I am very passionate about my favorite books, movies, shows, and music. I will explain why I love them.

For a long time, my all-time favorite series was Sword of Truth, but as I've delved more into the realms of George RR Martin, I've realized that Sword of Truth, while still good, is, unfortunately, plagued by being just a standard "Good Vs Evil" story. It's a damn good one, but it really is that at heart, which takes away from almost all of the suspense. You know that good is going to triumph, blah blah. However, I have never had an experience in my life like reading Wizard's First Rule, the first book in the series, and honestly other works of fiction that I really enjoyed before seemed a bit amateurish afterward. I also appreciate that the series has a message of free thinking, anti-religion and anti-superstition, and most importantly one of making your own life exactly what you want it to be. Those values hit home so much for me. People seem to dislike the series for those very reasons, and I can sort of see the viewpoint of not wanting preachiness in your fiction, but when the values expressed therein are ones that society desperately needs to understand, I don't have a problem with it.

All that being said, Song of Ice and Fire is the best series ever. It is crafted by a master storyteller the likes of which truly has never lived before. This is a man that can hold so much information in his head that it's a bit stunning, in addition to just being able to create it all in the first place.

Other books I like are Harry Potter, the Dresden Files, Lord of the Rings, and anything written by George Carlin.

My favorite movies are mostly psychological thrillers. It's not exclusively those, and anything that is well written, directed, and acted I will most likely enjoy unless I disagree strongly with the premise or the message it is trying to get across.

Welp, here's a list of my favorites, just so you can get some idea: Donnie Darko, Cabin in the Woods, Memento, The Prestige, Kick-Ass, Scarface, In Bruges, God Bless America, and Let the Right One In. I saw Birdman and Gone Girl recently, and was very impressed with both. Film Festival movies are where it's at.

If you haven't heard of/seen any of these, IMDB or Netflix them. They are amazing. Movies like Donnie Darko are not for the people that don't like to think during a movie, but for those of us that do they (and almost all well done psych thrillers) are lasting experiences.

I really like dark, dramatic TV shows that follow a very interesting story and have a lot of character development. Shows that make you think. Again, not universally true as I do like some comedic shows.

Again, a list for your perusal: True Detective, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Dexter, Community, and Arrested Development. Walking Dead is a highly overrated pseudo-intellectual piece of mediocre television, and it baffles me how it fools so many people. I guess, to be fair, it did fool me for awhile. Thank you YourMovieSucks for opening my eyes .

Musically, which is something very important to me, I enjoy anything that shows obvious musical talent. As such, I don't like almost any modern mainstream artists and find most of them to be abhorrent and completely incompetent at what they do. Wub wub wub wub isn't music, Skrillex. I'm highly selective about what I listen to, and I really only listen to about five bands. I'm a diehard metalhead, and not for a lot of the stupid, pseudo-talented metal bands that are out there. The really talented artists are the classical music of this time period, and if you study music a lot you will see some similarities. A lot of them are influenced by Beethoven and the like as well.

Since we are following the pattern of listing things, I might as well do that here too. These are basically all the bands that I really, really enjoy and that I think are brilliant musicians: The Black Dahlia Murder, In Flames, At the Gates, Arsis, Kittie, Metallica, Rise Against, and old Green Day. I know that last one may come as a shock, but Green Day before American Idiot were highly competent and talented musicians of their particular genre. Insomniac is still one of my favorite albums.

I like a lot of food. I eat a lot for someone that isn't fat :P. I eat pretty healthy, and I drink about a gallon of water a day. I eat a lot of apples, maybe 3 or 4 a day. Aside from that, I like spaghetti, hamburgers, burritos, yogurt, vegetables that aren't eggplant, onions, or mushrooms, and so many other things that it would be a waste of time to list them all. Basically, I'm not fond of very spicy food. Not my thing at all.

Games! I love gaming. My favorites are: Dark Souls, Legend of Zelda (Fuck Skyward Sword, though, for srsly), Ratchet and Clank, Pokemon, Bravely Default, FFX, Starcraft, Far Cry 3, Fallout 3 & New Vegas, Dragon Age, (Yes, I loved the second one. Get over yourselves.), Smash Melee, The Last of Us, and Magic: The Gathering. Many more exist, but it would take far too long to list them all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet

Food

Water

The ability to rationally view the world and educate myself

Games of all varieties

Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Recently, a decent amount of my brain capacity has been taken up with wondering about why my rate of being messaged back is frustratingly low. I think I do a reasonable job trying to be witty, personable, and discuss our common interests, and yet I rarely receive messages back. When I do, talk usually fades quickly. It's very annoying. If anyone has any insight into this, it would be much appreciated. I feel like I'm missing a lot of great opportunities because of it.

As far as non-OKC related things;

Everything. I think a LOT. I think about things from such a wide variety of topics that I couldn't even begin to list them all. Really, I think about whatever is on my mind at the time. I think about things that don't make sense, but should. I think about things that make sense when they shouldn't.

My head is an interesting place.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing Magic: The Gathering at my local store. Another amazing game that has taught me so much about understanding people and problem solving. I've always had a competitive edge to me, but until I discovered that game I had not found anything that I possessed the requisite skills to become competitive in. Now, I can compete at the highest levels. Magic has helped shape my life and my outlooks; I honestly have no idea what I would be like had I not discovered it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I think I divulged a lot of relatively detailed information already, so I'll just say that I require communication, understanding, and patience. If you have and appreciate these qualities, we will get along.
You should message me if
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You should message me if all of my strangeness is appealing, or you have any questions at all about anything you read.

What's most important to understand that is that I am, at my core, someone that is really difficult to understand. If you're willing to take the time to do so, I would love to hear from you. If you're even vaguely curious, I would love a message. I'm not unfriendly, despite what this profile may lead you to believe, and I feel the best way to get to know me is just to talk to me.

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