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20 M San Diego, CA

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  • Ages 18–23
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  • Who are single
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My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 3:01pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from high school
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Has cats

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My self-summary
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Life would be infinitely easier if everyone just stopped their bullshit and followed this:

If we have begun correspondence and you no longer wish to talk to me, I'd appreciate knowing why - this happens a lot and I'm not sure if it's for the same reasons each time. I'm analytical and a problem solver, so more data is always useful.

This section shall be written like a novel character summary, because I feel like it.

Born into a troubled and traumatic childhood, the hero of this story wondered for many years if he would ever find a place in this world. To escape from the kind of environment that breeds serial killers, gaming and fantasy became major facets of his life, allowing for a peaceful, pleasant retreat full of wonder, mystery, and reward.

Though ostracized socially throughout most of his schooling years, our hero came to realize that these are precisely the kind of people that we *want* to be rejected by - shallow, materialistic, egocentric nimrods that value nothing more than social stereotypes shoved down their throats by the media. So, feelings of rejection turned into keen observation, and from a pit of unhappiness, a content indifference was born.

He sees things the way they are, and holds no blinders over his eyes about any subject. Critical thinking drives his life, and no tolerance is had for those who do not employ it. Outspoken about what he believes, he does not hold his tongue with those who think otherwise, and has lost many a friend or romantic interest because of it. But, our brave and mighty hero is okay with this. It is a part of who he is, and, throughout life, he has found others that feel the same.

A mind of many possibilities, and as such, career indecision ran rampant for several years after exiting the school system. However, he has found fulfillment and solace in writing, and, for once, is finally sure of which direction he wants his life to take.

Within a seemingly cold, quiet exterior lies an idyllic dreamer, a hopeless romantic, and a stirring adventurer. However, precious few stay long enough to view these fabled traits, but those who do tend to become facets of his life - people that he can truly call friend, and is very grateful for.

The few women that have allowed themselves a glimpse of his caring center found a partner that cared deeply for them, that made sure they were happy and loved. He loved to snuggle with them, to caress their hair and tell them of their beauty. But alas, it seems that many great things come to an end, as there is no longer one like this in his life, hence the reason for this page.

Honesty and understanding are core tenets of his way of life. He presents himself exactly as is and expects others to do the same. Signals are not his strong suit, nor is subtlety, and our valiant hero would prefer to be told any sort of unpleasant truth than be led along to inevitable disappointment. Those who have unrealistic expectations shall not be tolerated, as this only creates issues for all parties involved. If your interest wanes because of a simple or negligible trait or interaction, one that could be rectified through simple conversation, he will laugh you out of his life.

Communication is paramount. Talk. Listen. Observe. These are principles followed by the hero of this story to the letter, and he swears by them.

But, as with all stories, summaries must exclude many details. Luckily, these details are known in full to the person presented here today, and he will be happy to answer any and all inquiries. Just make sure they are well thought out and possess some understanding of who you are messaging.
What I’m doing with my life
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I wrote a 14-page short film, and filmed it in mid-July of 2013. It is a psychological look at childhood trauma breeding criminals, and the effectiveness of therapy. It was finished in September, and will be submitted to Sundance and other film festivals. It was at my friend's student film festival on April 23rd, and then that festival got canceled, grumble grumble...

The novel I'm currently working on is a political drama/social commentary/psychological study told in first person narrative. I finished the first draft very recently and have tons of ideas for how I'm going to polish it going forward. My main issue is one of focus so if I can figure out how to fix it, I can get this finished in a few months.

I'm doing independent English tutoring through Craigslist, and when school is back in session, I figure it's a reasonable idea to drop my name and phone number off at high schools and colleges if anyone comes asking for a tutor.

Most importantly, I just want to have a career that I will enjoy. So many people slave away at jobs they hate, when everyone has the capability to have a career doing something they enjoy, especially in this age of the internet and so much interactive media. I want a woman who shares my view of loving your career.
I’m really good at
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Jack of all trades, master of none; often quite better than master of one.

I'm quite versatile. I grew up playing sports, music, gaming, and doing well intellectually. I understand the basic premise of almost anything.

Nothing in my life ever came naturally to me, except skiiing, strangely. I was off the bunny hill in twenty minutes when I was 10 years old, and going for all the intermediate tracks. I haven't gone in years, but it would be really cool to do it again.

I guess in terms of what I'm REALLY good at, it would be understanding people. I seem to just be able to read them incredibly easily and I can figure out almost anybody pretty quickly. It's helped a lot in gaming. I've started to pick up poker casually, and I think I'm okay at it for not having played for very long.

I'm also quite good at educating myself, being helpful to the people that matter to me, and just enjoying my life. It's so important to be happy in the incredibly short time you have.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I honestly have no idea. This question seems to come up on dating sites and lot and quite frankly I find it to be a waste of a question. How am I supposed to know what people notice about me right away? Everyone is different, and the things that they take in and observe about someone is different. Seriously, remove questions like this; they are subjective and not really of any help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Well, this is going to be a long section. I am very passionate about my favorite books, movies, shows, and music. I will explain why I love them.

For a long time, my all-time favorite series was Sword of Truth, but as I've delved more into the realms of George RR Martin, I've realized that Sword of Truth, while still good, is, unfortunately, plagued by being just a standard "Good Vs Evil" story. It's a damn good one, but it really is that at heart, which takes away from almost all of the suspense. You know that good is going to triumph, blah blah. However, I have never had an experience in my life like reading Wizard's First Rule, the first book in the series, and honestly other works of fiction that I really enjoyed before seemed a bit amateurish afterward. I also appreciate that the series has a message of free thinking, anti-religion and anti-superstition, and most importantly one of making your own life exactly what you want it to be. Those values hit home so much for me.

All that being said, Song of Ice and Fire is the best series ever. It is crafted by a master storyteller the likes of which truly has never lived before. This is a man that can hold so much information in his head that it's a bit stunning, in addition to just being able to create it all in the first place.

Other books I like are Harry Potter, the Dresden Files, Lord of the Rings, and anything written by George Carlin.

My favorite movies are mostly psychological thrillers. It's not exclusively those, and anything that is well written, directed, and acted I will most likely enjoy unless I disagree strongly with the premise or the message it is trying to get across.

Welp, here's a list of my favorites, just so you can get some idea: Donnie Darko, Cabin in the Woods, Memento, The Prestige, Kick-Ass, Scarface, In Bruges, God Bless America, and Let the Right One In.

If you haven't heard of/seen any of these, IMDB or Netflix them. They are amazing. Movies like Donnie Darko are not for the people that don't like to think during a movie, but for those of us that do they (and almost all well done psych thrillers) are lasting experiences.

I really like dark, dramatic TV shows that follow a very interesting story and have a lot of character development. Shows that make you think. Again, not universally true as I do like some comedic shows.

Again, a list for your perusal: True Detective, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Dexter, Community, and Arrested Development. Walking Dead is a highly overrated pseudo-intellectual piece of mediocre television, and it baffles me how it fools so many people. I guess, to be fair, it did fool me for awhile. Thank you YourMovieSucks for opening my eyes .

Musically, which is something very important to me, I enjoy anything that shows obvious musical talent. As such, I don't like almost any modern mainstream artists and find most of them to be abhorrent and completely incompetent at what they do. Wub wub wub wub isn't music, Skrillex. I'm highly selective about what I listen to, and I really only listen to about five bands. I'm a diehard metalhead, and not for a lot of the stupid, pseudo-talented metal bands that are out there. The really talented artists are the classical music of this time period, and if you study music a lot you will see some similarities. A lot of them are influenced by Beethoven and the like as well.

Since we are following the pattern of listing things, I might as well do that here too. These are basically all the bands that I really, really enjoy and that I think are brilliant musicians: The Black Dahlia Murder, In Flames, At the Gates, Arsis, Kittie, Metallica, Rise Against, and old Green Day. I know that last one may come as a shock, but Green Day before American Idiot were highly competent and talented musicians of their particular genre. Insomniac is still one of my favorite albums.

I like a lot of food. I eat a lot for someone that isn't fat :P. I eat pretty healthy, and I drink about a gallon of water a day. I eat a lot of apples, maybe 3 or 4 a day. Aside from that, I like spaghetti, hamburgers, burritos, yogurt, vegetables that aren't eggplant, onions, or mushrooms, and so many other things that it would be a waste of time to list them all. Basically, I'm not fond of very spicy food. Not my thing at all.

Games! I love gaming. My favorites are: Dark Souls, Legend of Zelda (Fuck Skyward Sword, though, for srsly), Ratchet and Clank, Pokemon, Bravely Default, FFX, Starcraft, Far Cry 3, Fallout 3 & New Vegas, Dragon Age, (Yes, I loved the second one. Get over yourselves.), The Last of Us, and Magic: The Gathering. Many more exist, but it would take far too long to list them all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet



The ability to rationally view the world and educate myself

Games of all varieties

I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Recently, a decent amount of my brain capacity has been taken up with wondering about why my rate of being messaged back is frustratingly low. I think I do a reasonable job trying to be witty, personable, and discuss our common interests, and yet I rarely receive messages back. When I do, talk usually fades quickly. It's very annoying. If anyone has any insight into this, it would be much appreciated. I feel like I'm missing a lot of great opportunities because of it.

As far as non-OKC related things;

Everything. I think a LOT. I think about things from such a wide variety of topics that I couldn't even begin to list them all. Really, I think about whatever is on my mind at the time. I think about things that don't make sense, but should. I think about things that make sense when they shouldn't.

My head is an interesting place.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing Magic: The Gathering at my local store. Another amazing game that has taught me so much about understanding people and problem solving. I honestly have no idea what I would be like had I not discovered it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have some lingering emotional issues from a 2 year emotionally abusive relationship when I was 15. It mostly involves needless worrying about someone I am attracted to or interested in, or in a relationship with, not talking to me anymore, or having abandoned me...things of that nature. I'm haunted by doubt, but I'm receptive to honesty. This is part of why I stress honesty in a relationship so much. I'm not here to read signals. I'm getting better, but this is all still there and I just want to put it all out in the open so there's no surprises. Being understanding of this takes basically all the pressure off and I can just be myself.

So, if I act like this, it's not because I'm being overly clingy, needy, or whatever, it's because I've been through a ton of emotionally scarring things both in and out of relationships and it helps a lot to just be reassured every once in awhile.

I make it out to be a lot worse than it actually is, but I just want to make sure that all of this is out in the open.
You should message me if
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You should message me if all of my strangeness is appealing, or you have any questions at all about anything you read.

What's most important to understand that is that I am, at my core, someone that is really difficult to understand. If you're willing to take the time to do so, I would love to hear from you. :)