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Joarthus

21 San Diego, CA Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–23
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 20
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Status
Single
Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
There's never really been a picture of me I've liked, but I guess these will do =/.

I'm a lifelong gamer, writer, musician, metalhead, martial artist and seeker of knowledge and happiness. I love puns, witty quips, and in-depth conversations about any and every topic imaginable.

In 2011, I moved to this fine city with the intention of pursuing a music career, but, despite my best efforts, nothing really came of it over the course of a year. Musicians are hard people to work with. So, I've been doing a lot of writing, and I'm loving it so far. I'm fairly sure it's what I want to do long-term.

People and culture fascinate me, largely because I don't understand what makes our culture believe it is headed in a positive direction. So, like George Carlin, I stand on the outskirts, observing, listening, and laughing. I used to be upset about not feeling accepted into general society, but I've made my peace with it. You could call it hopeful misanthropy - I would love for our society to be one of progress and intelligence, but alas, it is currently not. A perfect example is our ridiculously high divorce rate. This guy summed it up wonderfully, and I try to live my life according to this: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes/

I have two loving, snuggly kitties that are full of personality, curiosity and life...they can be very frustrating at times, but I love them.

As briefly mentioned before, competitive gaming is a big part of my life. I spent one summer getting semi competent at Starcraft 2, but I don't really play much anymore. I've played Magic for going on 7 years now, and it's had an enormous impact on my life. It's my "focus" game, the one I spend the most time on, and as such I'm slowly climbing the ranks to compete with the elite. I've also played competitive Pokemon at a fairly high level (the handheld games, not the terrible card game), and am getting into Melee, which is unquestionably the hardest game I've ever played. I play lots of games for fun, too! Recently, Dragon Age Inquisition has been sucking up an ungodly amount of my time. It's probably the best Dragon Age game and may be the best game to come out since The Last of Us.

I spend far too much time on the internet, but I view it as an educational resource and a good social outlet for those of us who require a certain demographic of people to interact with. It's a great way to learn about what's going on in the world and take in all kinds of interesting facts and information. With the ability to optimally teach yourself, I feel it can be just as helpful as any college course.

Yes, I'm short. Fucking deal with it. I can't help it and if that honestly affects your opinion of me, then you're not someone I want to talk to in the first place.

I've played guitar for about 9 years fairly casually, and did Shotokan Karate for 7 years, stopping when I moved to San Diego. I've considered picking it up again. It was really rewarding.

Honesty and open communication are the only way to live life, and I don't really want anything to do with people that don't agree. I just see no point in not being truthful about who you are and what you want. It accomplishes nothing.

I'm not the kind of person that you will click with instantly, unless you have a very similar bizarre brain. Instead, I require patience, understanding, and communication. As such, I invite and encourage conversation. It's really the only sure-fire way to even begin to get a feeling for what I'm really like. I'm nice, I promise! :) Plus, I like to have discussions about all sorts of interesting things. Talk to me about anything and everything, I'm sure I'll at least have an opinion ;).
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm doing independent English tutoring while working on my novel and furthering my connections in the film industry.

I wrote a 14-page short film, and filmed it in mid-July of 2013. It is a psychological look at childhood trauma breeding criminals, and the effectiveness of therapy. It was finished in September of 2013, and was submitted to Sundance and other film festivals.

The novel I'm currently working on is a political drama/social commentary/psychological study told in first person narrative. I finished the first draft in late 2013 and I'm currently working on my second re-write. After almost two years of writing it, I've finally gotten the story in my head to a level of polish that I'm happy with; now it's just an issue of actually getting it down and doing it right.

I recently got an idea I really like for a low-budget Youtube serial drama webseries that would be TV-length (45-55 minutes an episode), which is something that nobody outside of Netflix is doing. I've been meeting a lot of people in the industry recently so I'm going to talk to them about it and see what we can do.

Most importantly, I just want to have a career that I will enjoy. So many people slave away at jobs they hate, when everyone has the capability to have a career doing something they enjoy, especially in this age of the internet and so much interactive media. I want a woman who shares my view of loving your career.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Jack of all trades, master of none; often quite better than master of one.

I'm quite versatile. I grew up playing sports, music, gaming, and doing well intellectually. I understand the basic premise of almost anything.

Nothing in my life ever came naturally to me, except the various facets of English (grammar, spelling, etc), and skiiing, strangely. I was off the bunny hill in twenty minutes when I was 10 years old, and going for all the intermediate tracks. I haven't gone in years, but it would be really cool to do it again. It's a lot of fun.

I guess in terms of what I'm REALLY good at, it would be understanding people. I seem to just be able to read them incredibly easily and I can figure out almost anybody pretty quickly. It's helped a lot in gaming. I've started to pick up poker casually, and I think I'm okay at it for not having played for very long.

I'm also quite good at educating myself, being helpful to the people that matter to me, and just enjoying my life. It's so important to be happy in the incredibly short time you have.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I honestly have no idea. This question seems to come up on dating sites and lot and quite frankly I find it to be a waste of a question. How am I supposed to know what people notice about me right away? Everyone is different, and the things that they take in and observe about someone is different. Seriously, remove questions like this; they are subjective and not really of any help.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Song of Ice and Fire is the best book series ever. It is crafted by a master storyteller the likes of which truly has never lived before. This is a man that can hold so much information in his head that it's a bit stunning, and has the ability to create characters that feel so real and behave like actual, three-dimensional beings, never once wavering from their complex frameworks. It's the work of a true genius. I feel like the show has a good grasp of what the books are going for, but they're wavering a bit too much and it's worrying me.

Other books I like are Harry Potter, Sword of Truth, the Dresden Files, Survivor, Lord of the Rings, and anything written by George Carlin. I hate Eragon. I hate it. It's insulting. It's degrading. It's completely meaningless. It's written by an imbecile. I make frequent references and jokes about how utterly awful in every way that series is, and if you have any interest in discussing it, please, I would love to.

My favorite movies are mostly psychological thrillers. It's not exclusively those, and anything that is well written, directed, and acted I will most likely enjoy unless I disagree strongly with the premise or the message it is trying to get across.

Welp, here's a list of my favorites, just so you can get some idea: Donnie Darko, Cabin in the Woods, Memento, The Prestige, Kick-Ass, Scarface, In Bruges, God Bless America, and Let the Right One In. I saw Birdman and Gone Girl recently, and was very impressed with both. Film Festival movies are where it's at.

If you haven't heard of/seen any of these, IMDB or Netflix them. They are amazing. Movies like Donnie Darko are not for the people that don't like to think during a movie, but for those of us that do they (and almost all well done psych thrillers) are lasting experiences.

I really like dark, dramatic TV shows that follow a very interesting story and have a lot of character development. Shows that make you think. Again, not universally true as I do like some comedic shows.

Again, a list for your perusal: True Detective, Breaking Bad, Game of Thrones, Dexter, Community, and Arrested Development. Walking Dead was fine at first, but it's really just become a predictable soap opera and it's getting kind of annoying. Yourmoviesucks.org has a great breakdown of why the show is not as great as we think.

Recently, Parks and Recreation has blown my mind. I never thought I would love a sitcom as much as that one, but it happened. The writing is unparalleled in the genre, I think even surpassing Arrested Development, though they are very different styles of writing.

Musically, which is something very important to me, I can at least appreciate anything that shows obvious musical talent. As such, I don't like almost any modern mainstream artists and find most of them to be abhorrent and completely incompetent at what they do. Wub wub wub wub isn't music, Skrillex. As far as music that I actually like, rather than can just appreciate, I'm highly selective and really only listen to about five bands. I'm a diehard metalhead, and not for a lot of the stupid, pseudo-talented metal bands that are out there. The really brilliant artists are the classical music of this time period, and if you study music a lot you will see some similarities. Many of them are influenced by Beethoven and the like as well.

Since we are following the pattern of listing things, I might as well do that here too. These are basically all the bands that I really, really enjoy and that I think are brilliant musicians: The Black Dahlia Murder, In Flames, At the Gates, Arsis, Kittie, Metallica, Rise Against, and old Green Day. I know that last one may come as a shock, but Green Day before American Idiot were highly competent and talented musicians of their particular genre. Insomniac is still one of my favorite albums.

I like a lot of food. I eat a lot for someone that isn't fat :P. I eat pretty healthy, and I drink about a gallon of water a day. I eat a lot of apples, maybe 3 or 4 a day. Aside from that, I like spaghetti, hamburgers, burritos, yogurt, vegetables that aren't eggplant, onions, or mushrooms, and so many other things that it would be a waste of time to list them all. Basically, I'm not fond of very spicy food. Not my thing at all.

Games! I love gaming. My favorites are: Dark Souls, Legend of Zelda (Fuck Skyward Sword, though, for srsly), Ratchet and Clank, Pokemon, Bravely Default, FFX, Starcraft, Far Cry 3, Fallout 3 & New Vegas, Dragon Age, (Yes, I loved the second one. Get over yourselves.), Smash Melee, The Last of Us, and Magic: The Gathering. Many more exist, but it would take far too long to list them all.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The internet

Food

Water

The ability to rationally view the world and educate myself

Games of all varieties

Music
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think a LOT. I think about things from such a wide variety of topics that I couldn't even begin to list them all. Really, I think about whatever is on my mind at the time. I think about things that don't make sense, but should. I think about things that make sense when they shouldn't.

My head is an interesting place.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing Magic: The Gathering at my local store. Another amazing game that has taught me so much about understanding people and problem solving. I've always had a competitive edge to me, but until I discovered that game I had not found anything that I possessed the requisite skills to become competitive in. Now, I can compete at the highest levels. Magic has helped shape my life and my outlooks; I honestly have no idea what I would be like had I not discovered it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Uhhhh....smurfs. Yeah. That's it.
You should message me if
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You should message me if all of my strangeness is appealing, or you have any questions at all about anything you read.

What's most important is that I am, at my core, someone that is really difficult to understand. If you're willing to take the time to do so, I would love to hear from you. If you're even vaguely curious, I would love a message. I'm not unfriendly, just a bit different. :)