I spend most of my time in SF, and some in NYC.
I'm someone who recognizes the value of relationships and believes they are about giving rather than taking. My previous boyfriend called me "one of the most generous, caring people" he's known, and I'm very proud of that.
Personal growth is important to me, and it's important to me that my partner is comfortable with change, extremely positive, and supportive of goals. I tend to prefer people who equate optimism with realism rather than negativity with realism. As the saying goes, you're right either way. I grew up in sports, so I need someone who understands being a teammate.
I have a serious goofy side and sense of humor. I love to sing at the top of my lungs, enjoy things that others consider bad, and laugh at dumb jokes (often my own). While I'm into the new age personal improvement stuff, I also live by tried-and-true proverbs such as "man with hand in pocket feel cocky all day."
Sexual as well as emotional growth in a relationship is important to me. I'd like my bond with my partner to be equal parts heart and brain. Ideally, passion and dedication are intertwined.
That said, I'm beginning to understand that character is the most important of all traits in a partner. And, within character, I look for honesty. It's the foundation.