Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Oh, good! I've been waiting to talk about myself all day. :-)
In Chicago for IML. I live in SF, and an often in NYC.
I'm someone who recognizes the value of relationships and believes
they are about giving rather than taking. My previous boyfriend
called me "one of the most generous, caring people" he's known, and
I'm very proud of that.
Personal growth is important to me, and it's important to me that
my partner is comfortable with change, extremely positive, and
supportive of goals. I tend to prefer people who equate optimism
with realism rather than negativity with realism. As the saying
goes, you're right either way. I grew up in sports, so I need
someone who understands being a teammate.
I have a serious goofy side and sense of humor. I love to sing at
the top of my lungs, enjoy things that others consider bad, and
laugh at dumb jokes (often my own). While I'm into the new age
personal improvement stuff, I also live by tried-and-true proverbs
such as "man with hand in pocket feel cocky all day."
Sexual as well as emotional growth in a relationship is important
to me. I'd like my bond with my partner to be equal parts heart and
brain. Ideally, passion and dedication are intertwined.
That said, I'm beginning to understand that character is the most
important of all traits in a partner. And, within character, I look
for honesty. It's the foundation.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Creating and sharing experiences that are uniquely ours.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I usually approach people first. So, probably the first thing they
pay attention to is what I say.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read this the other day - the Missing Piece and the Big O by Shel
. Check it out if
you haven't read it recently.
I read some blogs like Techcrunch and Towleroad.
Loved the movie "Beginners," and the quoted part in it from the
"The stuffed rabbit asked, 'What is real? Does it hurt?' And the
horse said, 'Sometimes.' 'Does it happen all at once?' 'It takes a
long time. Generally, by the the time you are real, most of your
hair has been loved off, your eyes dropped out, and you get loose
in the joints. But these things don't matter because you are real.
You can't be ugly except to people who don't understand.'"
I've read so many good books - I don't read a lot anymore but enjoy
them when I do. More of a non-fiction than a fiction guy, though
now the Joy Luck Club comes to mind, perhaps b/c of the my move
West. If you haven't read the one-page prologue:
That love is all there is,
Is all we know of love.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Someone to hold / being big spoon
- Long, hot showers (solo - I just like to relax)
- Laughter and tears
- Learning about who I'm with and hearing what he has to say
- Crack cocaine
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Somehow this question reminds me of Downton Abbey..."What is a
Work until 6pm, gym until 7:30, meet up with friends by 9.
I also love just relaxing / kicking back after a long day / kicking
my feet up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I practice unsafe removal of USB's.
And: I broke some hearts, then mine was broken.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I listened to a relationship talk last year where the speaker asked
us to write down things we look for. I wrote that I'd like a
partner who is giving, loving, open, and receptive. Traits that I
feel I can fulfill are that I am caretaking, confident, creative,
loving, trustworthy, and communicative. OkCupid also took it upon
itself to list out my personality traits on a tab above - from more
dominant to more compassionate to less well-mannered (whoops) -
check them out. Since people ask: top, if it gets to that.
Who are you looking for?
This helps us know who to show you on OkCupid.