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JoelWB

39 M Waynesboro, VA

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Last Online
Today – 4:53pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Education
University
Job
Technology
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I enjoy:
-indie/art-house films
-documentaries/educational-TV(Science, Biology, the universe, Anthropology, Theology, the world, etc)
-physical logic puzzles (wire, wood, cast-iron, etc)
-watching MMA/UFC(mixed martial arts)
-video-games
-computers/technology
-TV(Colbert Report, Daily Show, Game of Thrones, Lost, Dexter, Deadwood, Mad Men, Robot Chicken, South Park, The Shield, Breaking Bad, Doctor Who, House of Cards)
-science fiction type stuff
-cooking & BBQ
-reddit.com for daily laughs, knowledge, or a different perspective.

Me:
I am a kind, quiet(ish), level-headed, technology-loving geek. I have a stressful job and a good work-ethic at work, so I like to completely relax at home and take home-life easy. I live life trying to be a humble, respectful person and am self-reflective. Even though I am quiet and laid-back, I am very friendly, competitive among friends, and can occasionally be very talkative.

I live a happy, content, peaceful, and stable life. I want to share and explore life with a kind soul who values this type of life. While I don't *need* someone else in my life to make me happy or keep me entertained (because I am already happy), I do want to share life with a best-friend, and explore new events, experiences, travels, and hobbies together. :)

Friendships/Relationship:
I am looking for a long-term relationship with a best-friend, though if I just meet good friends during that process, that is also good. I believe a great long-term relationship starts as a solid friendship, with common interests. If only a solid friendship is born, great! If something deeper develops, even better! I have no kids, no Ex, no drama. I have no felonies/misdemeanors, I am monogamous/faithful, I have a car and a good job.

"A relationship with another person is this long slow process of carving grooves into each other. Figuring out what the price of admission is. Figuring out what ground you need to cede, and what ground you need to stand. And really kinda of molding yourselves to each other. And that process is complicated, and exciting, and terrifying at times, and exhilarating at times."
-Dan Savage

Finances:
I am financially independent, relying on no one else. I try to be financially responsible, make good life-decisions, remain debt-free, and plan for the future. I tend not to buy a lot of miscellaneous items, and instead try to buy only stuff that is needed. I favor function over style, and do not get caught up in the buy, buy, buy game.

Religion:
I was raised Christian, but am no longer religious. I do respect other people's beliefs/religions, as long as those beliefs are not forced onto others. I am a kind and moral person, just without religion. I think most everyone in this world wants the same basic peace and respect towards each other, and a good life for themselves and everyone around them, even if people take different paths to get there. I try to live life guided by The Golden Rule:
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
The Golden Rule applies to all aspects of life.

Drugs/alcohol:
I am drug-free and rarely drink, and am looking for a partner that is drug-free and in control of any drinking.

I admire someone that:
...is humble, but not a victim.
...is in control of their life.
...takes pride in their job, whatever it is.
...solves problems instead of complains about problems.
...appreciates what they have.
...is an inherently good soul, but thick-skinned enough to not be easily offended by the varieties of life (language, rougher movies, etc).
...has a hunger to learn more about some sort of aspect of the world around us.

A chunk of geekiness/nerdiness/dorkiness is a plus! (but not a requirement)

Bonus points if you work in the fields of science, research, biology, engineering, computers, networking, programming, technology, teaching, nursing/medical, cook for fun, or are a knowledge-bookworm. But please don't feel discouraged if none of the above applies to you.

Ideally I am looking for someone that also enjoys a quiet home life, though is willing to explore and enjoy all that life offers outside a good home. Or if you don't enjoy a quiet life yourself, but have no problems with your partner (me) enjoying a generally quiet-ish life, and we meet somewhere in the middle to share life, that works as well.

I am looking for a relationship where we share life together, teaching each other what we know, exploring each others hobbies, not stepping on each others enjoyment of something we both don't enjoy, and being respectful and cautious of all things financial (basic fiscal responsibility). I look forward to us working as a team and coming up with great ways to experience life together. :)

"Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend."
-Albert Camus

OkCupid's Personality traits assigned to me(Tab at the top) are pretty accurate.
What I’m doing with my life
I work deep behind the scenes in the communications-technology industry, really enjoy it, and could not imagine working a job I did not somehow enjoy. I really enjoy the multiple fields of technology I get to touch. My job is important to me, and helps make life's problems melt away. I take pride in my job, and it is an important part of my life, and thankfully does not feel like a boring chore.

I am a home-owner, doing basic home-repair.

I love all my hobbies(listed at top).

More and more, I am trying to find local events and points of interests around me, to help me meet more people, to find that great woman out there.
I’m really good at
I try to be good at my job, improving and growing.

I love my various hobbies(listed at top), and go through cycles with them, delving into each one for a period of time, then moving onto the next, and eventually returning to a past hobby.

I would like to be a better cook, and love collecting random recipes I stumble across(thanks reddit, Facebook, and TV!). I love cooking with/for friends. I like friends that are daring enough to try new foods, cook with me, and don't have a large list of foods they refuse to eat(vegetarians and allergies being the exceptions, of course). I dislike needlessly-picky eaters, but strangely I like the creative pressure vegetarians or certain food-allergies put on me, forcing me to be more creative and try making new things.
The first things people usually notice about me
I am a naturally quiet guy, but very friendly. More of a listener then a talker, I can still get talkative about certain topics. You won't find me at bars, parties, or big social gatherings, because they bore me to death. I do get together with various groups of friends for UFC PPVs, poker, cookouts, camping trips, restaurants, etc which I find a lot more fun.

I don't always wear my emotions on my face (that makes me sounds like a robot!), so people don't always realize how happy I actually am. :) That sometimes helps during poker games, except when I can't help but toss a joke out often. :P

But I also get serious and to the point when the situation warrants it (like my job).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies:
I LOVE films(I used to run a video-store). I like ALL genres, but I favor films that have substance, rather then just shallow, brainless entertainment value(although brainless entertainment value is still good sometimes). I like finding gems among all the crap, be it mainstream or indie. I LOVE documentaries also. There are far to many to list here, but send me a message and we can talk movies, or I can send you list to give you ideas for films you may not have seen, and you can do the same for me. :)

Some of the films I enjoy(too many to list):
Titus, The Artist, American History X, Death and the Maiden, Pan's Labyrinth, Wings of Desire, As Good As It Gets, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Primer, Glengary Glenross, Drunks, Amadeus, Doubt, The Fountain, The Truman Show, The Seven Samurai, Reservoir Dogs, Boondock Saints, Heat, Memento, The Usual Suspects, Snatch, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Unbreakable, LA Confidential, The Prestige, Seven, The Game, Angel Heart, Romeo is Bleeding, Trainspotting, Fight Club, Unthinkable, The Grand Budapest Hotel, Blazing Saddles, Dirty Rotten Scoundrels, Airplane, The Gods Must Be Crazy, Kingpin, Mystery Science Theater, Kungfu Hustle, Bubba Ho-tep, Peewee's Big Adventure, Shawn of the Dead, Hot Fuzz, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead, Swingers, Beetlejuice, 28 Days Later, The Mist, Descent, Videodrome, Planet Terror, Army of Darkness, Mad Max series(and unofficially Waterworld), Alien/Aliens, Terminator series, Predator series, Akira, Ghost in the Shell, District 9, Matrix, Bladerunner, Sunshine, Primer, Moon, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Between the Folds, Fog of War, World Peace and Other 4th Grade Achievements, Naqoyqatsai (great music), Why We Fight.

Music:
My music tastes are all over the place, with various songs plucked from various places, like from commercials or indie video-game soundtracks. I have a crazy(and sometimes embarrassing) collection of odd-ball songs collected from all over the place. If I had to be nailed down to something, I tend to like instrumental(no lyrics) music or music with electronic influences. Some examples of what I enjoy: Goldfrapp, The Dust Brothers, Chemical Brothers, and Deadmau5. I like Philip Glass, and also recently have been listening to some Austin Wintory (nominated for Grammy this year). I would love to listen to more foreign music, as well as music that mixes genres in ways that no one has heard before(Jazz + Hip-Hop? Swing + Electronic? Yes!!!). Music is one of those wonderful things I am saving to explore later in life, since I tend to explore stuff to the fullest. I don't want the magic lost yet.

Books:
I used to read like a champ in high-school, but once I got my first computer, my attention-span for books was 99% lost. I do have a stack of books I would like to read eventually. I do like audiobooks, especially on science, but rarely have time to listen to them. Past books I enjoyed(some from high-school):
Ender's Game(Orson Scott Card) (Awesome book. Read it before the 2013 movie!)
Martian Chronicles (Ray Bradbury)
The Stand (Stephen King)
On the Beach (Nevil Shute)
Narnia Chronicles (CS Lewis)
Watchmen (Moore/Gibbons, graphic novel)
Survival of the Sickest - Why We Need Disease (Dr Moalem)
Eat Me, The Food and Philosophy of Kenny Shopsin (part cookbook, part comments on life)
The Greatest Show on Earth (Richard Dawkins)
Where Good Ideas Come From (Steven Johnson)
World Peace and Other 4th Grade Achievements (by local teacher John Hunter, based on the documentary by the same name, a must see!)

Currently reading:
Game of Thrones/Song of Fire and Ice series (RR Martin.)

Favorite book:
The God Delusion by Richard Dawkins

Radio:
NPR news, interviews, and shows like Science Friday and Philosophy Talk, though I rarely have time to listen with any regularity.

Favorite games:
Doom 1&2, Portal 1 & 2, Morrowind/Oblivion/Skyrim, XCOM, Darkfall/Ultima Online(no longer play either), Dungeon Keeper 2, Super Smash Bothers Brawl(Wii), Mario Kart Wii, Pixeljunk Shooter, Call of Duty series, Journey(PS3), lots of indie Steam games, Dishonored, XCOM, Tomb Raider(new), Bioshock series.

I love coop games with friends.
I love games of all types and genres, be it video-game, board-game, card-game, logic-puzzle, etc.

Comedians:
My favorite comedians tend to work "blue", and tend to be a bit rough for some people's tastes: Patrice O'Neal, Jeffrey Ross, Redd Foxx, Dave Chappelle, Daniel Tosh, Anthony Jeselnik, Louis CK and Triumph the Insult Comic Dog.
My own humor does not mirror them, but I do respect the sheer cleverness of the constructed joke and method told.

Favorite quote:
"When you lose, don't lose the lesson."

Food:
I like all kinds of food, and I like cooking. I especially enjoy finding new, unique, and odd foods, and sharing them with friends. I appreciate people who are willing to try new foods with me, even if it ends up with grimaces and laughter. :) I have a weakness for BBQ, and want to learn all I can about it.
Foodies take note: I recently found the AWESOME food/recipe search engine www.gojee.com Check it out and come cook something with me. :) I love cooking with friends.
The six things I could never do without
1. I love my computer/Android-phone/Internet, in-part because they all represent the ultimate encyclopedia.

2. My DVR. Time-shifting the shows I love lets me live life without being anchored to my TV.

3. My job. Without a good job, I would not have what I have. Without a job that I love, I would not be sane.

4. A completely relaxed, stress-free home-life. I can't stress this enough. My job is stressful, and I need a place to step 100% away from stress.

5. Fun hobbies (MMA, films, games, cooking, etc) to enjoy life with.

6. A great woman to share and love life with(you).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
...local points-of-interests/events and ways to meet new people, to finally find that great best-friend out there. Where are you at?! Get out of the house and be at one of these spots to meet me! Or message me here so we can hang out together at one of these spots. :)
On a typical Friday night I am
I have really had fun being a part of local Meetup.com groups, and hosting some of my own events. I highly recommend it as a great way to meet other people with similar interests. I hope to see you at one of them. :)

I would like to be spending future Friday nights with you, enjoying life out in the world, as well as quiet evenings together.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I drive a boring, old Toyota (I love Toyota!). It has long been paid off, does it's job well, and is low maintenance, so it is in my best interest to drive it until it dies. It keeps me humble. I secretly can't wait for it to die so I can get a Toyota Tacoma or RAV4. =D

My #1 dislike in life is arguing. As a kid of divorced parents, I've seen enough of it to last a lifetime. I am a huge believer in calm, rational discussion, and walking away from an argument to calm-down and discuss things later with a clear head, for both parties. If you LIKE to argue or be around conflict, I am not interested in knowing you. Arguments do happen in life, but calmness, rationality, and logic are the tools needed to overcome those emotional moments. Any undue continued stress gets kicked to the curb, if it looks like it will be a repeated issue. That being said, I am a calm, laid-back, extremely patient, easy-to-get-along-with guy. :) A calm, peaceful life is extremely important to me. This is not normally the type of thing that looks good in a profile, but it is important enough to me that I have to mention it.

Regarding sex, I DON'T want something casual with someone I just met. Don't scoff! :P I'm only interested after we have gotten to know each other better. I live a cautious life. There are too many physical, emotional, and time-sink pitfalls when keeping sex casual with someone new. I care too much for the people I want in my life to let "casual" have a place anywhere but within a real relationship.
A female friend said it best:
"Let's face it, probably a good 90% of people on here are looking to get laid and that's it. Ok I've been informed that I'm wrong. 100% of people online are looking to get laid lol. 90% are looking to get laid immediately and 10% are willing to forgo a while in hopes of forging something longer lasting."
I fall within that last 10%. I want to share life with someone I really care about. I want to give someone my heart.
I’m looking for
  • Straight girls only
  • Ages 24–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
***If you contact me, please have it be more then a single word or sentence. Please have a profile that describes what hobbies you enjoy in life. Thanks! :) ***

Whew! You got through my huge profile! High-Five! :P Seriously, thanks for taking the time reading it, and getting to know me. :)

If you are quiet/shy and you see something you like about me, but are too shy about contacting me, PLEASE contact me!!! Alot of people are shy at this, myself included. It is hard for shy people to meet others! Please don't let this chance escape us both, for us to talk/meet! :) If for some reason the chemistry is not there, I will kindly say so, with no intent to hurt any feelings. :)

To put your mind at ease, regarding the first time we meet:
"Well, try and be all nervous and rubbish and a bit shaky. Because you're going to be like that anyway. Might as well make it part of the plan and then it'll feel on purpose." -The Doctor(Doctor Who) :)

I am looking for someone within 50 miles of Waynesboro, VA, but if the chemistry is right, distance does not matter.

The basics apply: Please DON'T contact me if you are married/in another relationship, do drugs, drink excessively, are a heavy smoker, don't have a job, have a felony, have a STD, or are mentally or emotionally unstable. Please be stable and kind. :)

**You may not use any part of this profile for commercial, academic, private, or otherwise unrequested use.**