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36 M La Mesa, CA

My Details

Last Online
Dec 30, 2007
6′ 4″ (1.93m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), C++ (Fluently), LISP (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Eh. Who really gets much out of summing themselves up in a few paragraphs? Then again, better that than having nothing here, one supposes, and it is de rigeur to at least mumble out something half-considered and half-believed.

I find it a bit difficult to fit myself into a lot of the questions asked here, though I suppose that's sort of the norm for a site of this sort. These questionnaires seem to like to make me out to be an extremist of frequently contradictory forms. I gather that I'm meant to talk about my politics, my hobbies, my sexuality, whatever; these things have never struck me, honestly, as definitive of a person, and besides those answers I do have to give seem to be more evasive than definitive.

Nonetheless, we'll try.

I'm literate and precise. I prefer honesty to tact, though I tend to try to walk the line for others. I am a realist and a materialist. I prefer actions to words. My history involves a dark litany of nerd games to which most people will not admit. I'm reasonably well read, though not impressively so.

I adore my narrow range of artistic pursuits. I like to pretend to myself that I'm a writer, though if you're reading this, you can obviously tell otherwise. I am an adequate formal charcutierre and enough of a chef to talk most people out of Outback Mistakehouse. I blow glass, which leads to some interesting side consideations. There was a time at which I played piano and a time at which I wrote poetry, though those are both largely behind me. I still write prose and dialogue, though, in large part in work. Speaking of which, I write video games for a living. (Yeah, it's that bad.)

I am kind of a freak. My preferences shift on a month to month basis, and I have little tolerance for people who are stupid because they aren't trying. I try as best as I can to respect other people's beliefs and preferences, but as with anyone, there are limits. I am liberal in nearly every sense of the word, with an odd conservative streak in terms of economics, foreign policy and criminal law. (That means murder and arson and country music and so on.)

My sexuality is complicated, and mostly has to do with what feels good. I'm more open minded than many people expect; I've played across age and body size boundaries happily and will probably do so again.

I'm not actually straight; it's just that I'm also not exactly bi. Men don't particularly interest me, they just also don't bother me. Women I like of all forms: tall and short, skinny and fat, white and black, young and old, whatever. Different things work for different women, and you can do things with one side of a spectrum that you can't with the other (no cowgirl with BBWs and no smothering with waifs.) Some people only like one thing. Me, I like variety. I won't go below 18 and I have a hard time going below 24. I don't play with animals, pain has limits in either direction, humiliation for play only. I don't seek out BD anymore, but there was a time I was dominant, and I can do that for someone if they want it.

I very much enjoy new things, and things I haven't done in a long time. I am particularly fond of doing things that my partner wants, but has a hard time admitting to, or hasn't found someone with whom to practice. The effects can be dramatic, and as I've found, even a bit addictive from the other side; there's very little quite as much fun as seeing the look on your partner's face that says "oh, *that's* what it feels like, yummy."

As far as groups, if the situation with a couple's right, or if he's better hung than I am, yeah, I might play, but I marked myself straight because I'm mostly interested in women, and because any time I tell a system I'm bi, I get a mailbox full of guys whose enthusiasm is stronger than their reading ability, or who think they're huge.

Who sees themselves honestly? I mean, if you ask me, I'm six foot fourty, I glow in the dark, I could take Bruce Lee blindfolded and I'm a reasonable defense against volcanoes. In fact, I'm even high in Vitamin D. You could do worse.

So, short of giving you the numbers we all pretend we don't care about, I don't see much point in prattling on about myself, honestly. I'm a big dork, I enjoy challenges, I like complicated people, and I don't pretend to be things I'm not in order to spend time with people who are interested in such facades.

Oh, and I have long hair. Some girls dig that.

I am careful, hedonistic, and liberal
What I’m doing with my life
I own a small network service provider, I have a bunch of software-generated puzzle books on Amazon making money, I write C++, PHP and erlang backends for money, I write Nintendo DS games as a labor of love, and I'm trying to start a game company which won't be hindered by certain typical beliefs regarding business practice in the current industry which I believe are faulty.
I’m really good at
Writing. Cooking. Software engineering. Being less humble than I should be. Certain things I shouldn't mention. Absurdly obvious intimation. Making an ass of myself.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height, my hair, my voice or my choice of language, depending on the context of the meeting.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: good lord, I'd run out of space. A Canticle for Leibowitz. N-Space. The Twelve Caesars. Prayers to Broken Stones. Knuth. The Invisible Man (it's about racism, not transparency.) V (world war two, not lizard people.) V (okay, both of them.) Gang of Four. Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman. Hamlet. Candy. Most anything by Basho. The Illuminatus! Trilogy. Nothing involving Harry Potter, ever, under any circumstances, even if it's parody by way of porn. The Kama Sutra, which actually has only a relatively small sex section. The Upanishads and the Bhagavad Gita (no, I'm not religious, but they're interesting stories, unlike the Book of Boremon.)

TV/Movies: Pi. Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead. Real Genius. Brother. Dead Alive. Faster, Pussycat, Kill! Kill!. The Hudsucker Proxy. Rocky Horror Picture Show and Clue, but not Shock Treatment. Ghost Dog. Waking Life. Grave of the Fireflies. Brazil. Rail of the North Star. Fear of a Black Hat. Futurama. Remains of the Day. The Dark Crystal. Cannibal: the Musical. The Last Supper. Lost Highway. Fong Sai Yuk. Evil Dead and Army of Darkness. House. Angel Egg. Gummo. Old Rowan Atkinson. Being There. Kentucky Fried Movie. The Dark Backward. Legend. Throne of Blood, Bride with White Hair or just about anything by Akira Kurosawa. Blazing Saddles (no no, don't shoot him; you'll only make him angry.) Dark City and City of Lost Children. Harold and Maude. Freeway. Memories. Family Guy. O Brother, Where Art Thou. Bastard!. Law and Order. Meet the Feebles. Spirited Away. Heroes. Cowboy Bebop. From Hell. Heat. Blow. Kundun. Magnolia. Maho Tsukai Tai. Romper Stomper. The Vision of Escaflowne. La Passion de Jeanne d'Arc. Serial Experiments Lain. Macross Plus. Smallville. Donnie Darko. Chasing Amy. The Violinist of Hamelin. Run, Lola, Run. Waiting for Guffman. Tetsuo: Iron Man. Kubrick as a whole, except Eyes Wide Shut; especially A Clockwork Orange, Doctor Strangelove and Spartacus. Amistad. Amadeus. Chushingura. Rashomon. The Road to Wellville. Titus. The Great Muppet Caper. The Wall. Sweeney Todd. Dolemite 2: Human Tornado. Dead Man. Se7en. Ichi the Killer. L'avventura. Schindler's List. The Usual Suspects. Where the Buffalo Roam. The Road to Perdition. Angst essen Seele auf. City of God. Metropolis. Naruto. Barton Fink. Les Demoiselles de Rochefort. Raise the Red Lantern. Howards End.

Music? Pretty much everything but modern country. My playlist has equal parts Armin van Buuren, Bushwick Bill, Satie, Nat Birchall, Hazime Mizoguchi and Primus. The bar is high - I'm intolerant of poor performers - but virtually every genre has something worth saying, and I'm always open to something new to listen to. My MP3 collection (all proudly legal) has over 6,000 songs.

Foods? See music. I'm an amateur chef; I cover a surprising amount of ground.
The six things I could never do without

C++, sunlight, the internet, caffeine, sexual novelty and house music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
It's different every day. Math. Programming (particularly C++, erlang, PHP and DHTML.) Sex. Cooking. Poor comedy. Improving my writing. Music. Africa's energy crisis. Fetish behavior and subculture interaction. Automated community interaction (what dorks call Web 2.0.) Typographical layout. Klingons. The meter of Alghieri's Purgatorio. Neural networks and the effects of simulated annealing, swarming and stigmergy on locus occupation. Pot. Breasts (come on, even straight girls and robots can't stop thinking about them.) Abstract strategy gaming. Heidegger. Particle physics. FA, Long, Backrubs, Backrub, Back massage, massage, sensual massage, sexual massage, foot massage, foot rub, hug, hugging, spooning, making out, neck rub, touch, touching, contact, physical contact, orgasm, ream, penetration, female orgasm, cocoa butter, soft bellies, submissive, squirter, moaning, fat, exhibitionist, anal sex, caress, seduction, toys, sexual equality, glazed doughnut faces, reaming, anti-racism, hair pulling, power exchange, bi-flexible, kinky things, oil massage, hands, giving oral sex, nibbling, tall men, pussy licking, bondage, ticklish, adult toys, ethical slut, kisses, sexuality, intelligent, tantra, friendship, imagination, naked twister, democrat, cult movies, passionate, intense, openminded, subcultures, card games, witty, tits, huge tits, naked, wild, anything, sin, porn, sexual, bohemian, big ass, horny as hell, as long as possible, slow and sensual, big breasts, BBW, strange, very cuddly, explorATION, size queens, Women Preferring Big Dicks, nipples, cock pumping, deep throat, san diego, titty fuck, geek, computers, geek girls, friends with benefits, smart women, orgasm denial, orgasm postponement, orgasm delay, respect, everything, slow lovemaking, intimacy, personality, piano, Scrabble, fucking, kinky, Smart girls, wine, pro-breastfeeding, vulgar, chubby, my large dick, willing subjects, obscene, culinary arts, adventurous, humor, Confident, hedonist, hedonism, sweaty bodies, love making, loving touch, free speech, nasty side, hair, long hair, bigger women, lust, abandon, big bones, excitement, try anything once, double penetration, dirty mind, shameless flirt, beautiful smile, hung, well hung, well endowed, petite, big dick, caressing, decadent, multiple orgasm, beads, poppers, theater, sexually deviant, fat chicks, light BDSM, gspot orgasm, sexual psychology, tall, sensual, curvy women, thick juicy cock, Double stuffing, dark chocolate, cartoons, anime, feet behind my head, sex-positive
On a typical Friday night I am
With someone in public, with someone in private or behind a keyboard.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've had the "menomenah" song from the Muppets stuck in my head for over a decade. It has become my life's anthem.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 25–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
... if you feel like it. I'm happy to just talk. I'm happy to find romance. Meaningless sex would be fun. Maybe you just like chess. Whatever. If it's interesting and if you don't speak as were you a cell phone joke, drop me a line.

Like what, I'm gonna run out of space?