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JohnCarl2012

61 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 37–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 7:01pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Hospitality
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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I'm a kind, open-hearted, loving and creative person. I enjoy life and believe every moment is precious - to be lived fiercely! My spiritual belief includes the idea that life has meaning and is worth living. Personal growth, being present in the moment, and looking toward the future are of major importance to me. I'm looking for someone to explore and share ideas with, in all of these realms. I love deep, meaningful conversation, culture and magic, and these are all things I would love to share with you.

Mentally and physically, I am healthier than I have ever been. At 61, I feel like I'm continuing to grow and evolve! Life just seems to keep getting better.

I currently have an important person in my life, but we both understand that we are not each other's primary partner. So, I am looking for my beloved. If you and I make a strong connection, I am open to exploring with you which relationship model fits for us both - monogamy, polyamory, monogamish - I open to exactly what feels right for us in the moment. If we truly are meant to be, there will be no obstacle we can't overcome, as long as we are using direct, gentle and loving communication!
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a published author. My focus is gonzo journalism, inspired by writers like Studs Terkel, Tom Wolfe, Hunter S. Thompson and Legs McNeil. My first book was published by San Francisco's own RE/Search Publications. My second book is an oral history of the life and times of an influential Pagan and polyamorous couple who have been together for more than 40 years. It was published in February by Llewellyn.

To pay the bills I am a server and server trainer in a restaurant in SOMA. I find that work rewarding as I enjoy people and making them feel cared for.

I'm also taking acting classes and diving into the world of digital storytelling. I love the theatre - from the classics by Shakespeare, Chekhov and Shaw, to contemporary plays by Sarah Ruhl, Sam Shepard and Tom Stoppard, to musicals like HAIR, Wicked and Godspell.

I'm involved with the local Victorian ballroom dance community and enjoy going to the Edwardian Ball, and similar events. I enjoy alignment-based yoga classes, going to museums, bookstores and restaurants - I'm basically an urban kind of guy. My favorite vacation spots are NYC, London, and now Bangkok - I just returned from my first visit there and I loved it. I dig buildings, human beings, and having access to a wide variety of cultural activities and resources.
I’m really good at
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... talking to people. I enjoy having in-depth conversations, and that is something I generally look for in any kind of a relationship.
The first things people usually notice about me
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When I'm enthusiastic about something it's very obvious!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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One of my favorite books is the novel "High Fidelity" by Nick Hornby. The main character in it keeps making lists of his favorite records until he has the insight that "it's not what you like but what you are like that's important." And that's true! Love is not necessarily connected to shared interests in culture and pop culture. But discussing those things are a way to get to know each other, and a lot of fun, so with that in mind I'll list a few other faves:

Books: Jane, the Brontes, Gaskell and other 19th century authors. Contemporary faves include Vonnegut, Irving, and Tracy Chevalier. Years ago I used to read fantasy and science fiction and was a regular at fan conventions. I love reading the NY Times and other newspapers from around the globe online.

Movies etc: I've studied film production and history and I've watched many classic films and TV shows - if you want a list let me know! I'm sure there are some that we have in common, and others that we could discover together.

Live performances in general are the most meaningful form of entertainment for me. As previously mentioned I like plays and musicals. I also enjoy going to concerts, museums, the ballet, modern dance, the opera, etc.

Music: As a baby boomer I listened to and saw many of the classic rock bands of the 60s, and after that got into jazz, folk, and punk, went to a lot of show in clubs, and often stayed out late dancing. Now I mostly listen to Baroque (and earlier) classical music, at home and when I go out - there's nothing like an evening of Bach.

Food: I buy fresh fruits and vegetables regularly at the local farmer's markets. When I go to a restaurant I like different ethnic cuisines, and for special occasions I like Gracias Madre or Millenium.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family
Friends
Love
Learning
Compassion
Spirit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to make every moment count.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...going to a play. Most theatre companies in San Francisco are only able to perform plays on weekends, so if I'm not working on a Friday night I'll likely be in the audience for one of those.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm 61 years old and I'll admit it! I'm glad to be who I am and the age that I am. I know it says my age right here in my profile under my picture, but in public it's usually not discussed much. I'm happy to discuss it, and to have had the experiences that I've had and to have learned what I have. I tried that "50 is the new 40" thing and variations on that theme, and I'm over it. 60 is 60, and it's great.
You should message me if
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... you'd like to make a new friend and if you've got a sense of humor about all this.