Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a kind, open-hearted, loving and creative person. I enjoy life
and believe every moment is precious - to be lived fiercely! My
spiritual belief includes the idea that life has meaning and is
worth living. Personal growth, being present in the moment, and
looking toward the future are of major importance to me. I'm
looking for someone to explore and share ideas with, in all of
these realms. I love deep, meaningful conversation, culture and
magic, and these are all things I would love to share with
Mentally and physically, I am healthier than I have ever been. At
61, I feel like I'm continuing to grow and evolve! Life just seems
to keep getting better.
I currently have an important person in my life, but we both
understand that we are not each other's primary partner. So, I am
looking for my beloved. If you and I make a strong connection, I am
open to exploring with you which relationship model fits for us
both - monogamy, polyamory, monogamish - I open to exactly what
feels right for us in the moment. If we truly are meant to be,
there will be no obstacle we can't overcome, as long as we are
using direct, gentle and loving communication!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a published author. My focus is gonzo journalism, inspired by
writers like Studs Terkel, Tom Wolfe, Hunter S. Thompson and Legs
McNeil. My first book was published by San Francisco's own
RE/Search Publications. My second book is an oral history of the
life and times of an influential Pagan and polyamorous couple who
have been together for more than 40 years. It was published in
February by Llewellyn.
To pay the bills I am a server and server trainer in a restaurant
in SOMA. I find that work rewarding as I enjoy people and making
them feel cared for.
I'm also taking acting classes and diving into the world of digital
storytelling. I love the theatre - from the classics by
Shakespeare, Chekhov and Shaw, to contemporary plays by Sarah Ruhl,
Sam Shepard and Tom Stoppard, to musicals like HAIR, Wicked and
I'm involved with the local Victorian ballroom dance community and
enjoy going to the Edwardian Ball, and similar events. I enjoy
alignment-based yoga classes, going to museums, bookstores and
restaurants - I'm basically an urban kind of guy. My favorite
vacation spots are NYC, London, and now Bangkok - I just returned
from my first visit there and I loved it. I dig buildings, human
beings, and having access to a wide variety of cultural activities
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... talking to people. I enjoy having in-depth conversations, and
that is something I generally look for in any kind of a
The first things people usually notice about me
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When I'm enthusiastic about something it's very obvious!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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One of my favorite books is the novel "High Fidelity" by Nick
Hornby. The main character in it keeps making lists of his favorite
records until he has the insight that "it's not what you like but
what you are like that's important." And that's true! Love is not
necessarily connected to shared interests in culture and pop
culture. But discussing those things are a way to get to know each
other, and a lot of fun, so with that in mind I'll list a few other
Books: Jane, the Brontes, Gaskell and other 19th century authors.
Contemporary faves include Vonnegut, Irving, and Tracy Chevalier.
Years ago I used to read fantasy and science fiction and was a
regular at fan conventions. I love reading the NY Times and other
newspapers from around the globe online.
Movies etc: I've studied film production and history and I've
watched many classic films and TV shows - if you want a list let me
know! I'm sure there are some that we have in common, and others
that we could discover together.
Live performances in general are the most meaningful form of
entertainment for me. As previously mentioned I like plays and
musicals. I also enjoy going to concerts, museums, the ballet,
modern dance, the opera, etc.
Music: As a baby boomer I listened to and saw many of the classic
rock bands of the 60s, and after that got into jazz, folk, and
punk, went to a lot of show in clubs, and often stayed out late
dancing. Now I mostly listen to Baroque (and earlier) classical
music, at home and when I go out - there's nothing like an evening
Food: I buy fresh fruits and vegetables regularly at the local
farmer's markets. When I go to a restaurant I like different ethnic
cuisines, and for special occasions I like Gracias Madre or
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to make every moment count.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...going to a play. Most theatre companies in San Francisco are
only able to perform plays on weekends, so if I'm not working on a
Friday night I'll likely be in the audience for one of those.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm 61 years old and I'll admit it! I'm glad to be who I am and the
age that I am. I know it says my age right here in my profile under
my picture, but in public it's usually not discussed much. I'm
happy to discuss it, and to have had the experiences that I've had
and to have learned what I have. I tried that "50 is the new 40"
thing and variations on that theme, and I'm over it. 60 is 60, and
You should message me if
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... you'd like to make a new friend and if you've got a sense of
humor about all this.
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