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31 Cambridge, MA Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21-45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 4:49am
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Ancient Greek (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm . . . whoa. Lotta pressure here. Okay, here goes: I'm a word nerd, aspiring poet, a fan of live local music, a drinker of tea and beer, a drifter between scenes, an aspiring farmer/professor, an accomplished dog-walker . . . And now for some adjectives: sincere, sometimes funny, feminist, anti-racist, polyamorous, radical in politics, traditional in literary theory, downright Biblical in facial hair.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
It astonishes me to say that I'm now working on a SECOND useless master's (the first was in creative writing, this one's in religious studies with a focus on literature). Grad school's like a black hole for me and my peers. I saw the best minds of my generation destroyed by grad school: starving, hysterical, post-structuralist . . . The rest were destroyed by irony.

Also: Writing about things I care about, but not often enough. Biking a lot. Getting better at identifying wild edible plants, baking, sewing, home-brewing, etc. Learning I enjoy things like bodysurfing and rock-climbing.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Putting words together. Putting beer away. Beating kindergarteners at chess (first graders are more of a challenge). Drawing mythical creatures for kids (I'm especially proud of a dragon made of bones one 5-year-old commissioned from me). Remembering the words to poems. Misremembering the words to songs. Dumpster-diving. Making tea, tortilla de patatas, an awesome pumpkin mussel soup, and mistakes.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My beard; and my laugh when I'm really amused (someone said it sounded like a seal being machine-gunned).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: the Odyssey, the Bible, Walden, The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn, Leaves of Grass, The Tale of Genji, The Emigrants, Circus of the Sun, the His Dark Materials trilogy, The Quiet American, Enormous Changes at the Last Minute, and Homage to Catalonia.

Some especially funny books: Don Quixote, The Master and Margarita, Lucky Jim, Winnie-the-Pooh, The Earl of Louisiana, Dead Souls, The Telephone Booth Indian, The Possessed (by Elif Batuman, not Dostoyevsky), The Towers of Trebizond, A Walk in the Woods, Barchester Towers, The Life and Opinions of Tristram Shandy, Nicholas Nickleby, Flaubert's Parrot.

Poets: Walt Whitman, Elizabeth Bishop, Philip Larkin, James Wright, David Ferry, Michael Hofmann, John Donne, Rumi, Gerard Manley Hopkins, Robert Frost, Robert Lax, ee cummings, Sappho, Bob Hicok, Claudia Rankine, Patricia Lockwood, Karen Solie, Basho, Sylvia Plath.

Movies: Harold and Maude, Big Night, On the Waterfront, The Graduate, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Blazing Saddles, Harvey, His Girl Friday, The General, Pulp Fiction, Sunset Boulevard, The Big Lebowski, Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid.

Music: Bob Dylan, Tom Waits, Django Reinhardt, Jeff Lewis, Gillian Welch, Bruce Springsteen, Kimya Dawson, Charles Mingus, the Kinks, the Clash, Leonard Cohen, the Velvet Underground, Johnny Cash, the Ramones, Bikini Kill, Joni Mitchell, the Pogues, the Dubliners, Ezra Furman, the New Lost City Ramblers, Anais Mitchell, Gogol Bordello, Fiona Apple, Audrey Ryan, And the Kids, Hands and Knees, radical marching bands. And, you know, the Beatles.

Food: Sushi, raw oysters, seaweed, PBJ, kimchi, banh mi, wasabi peas, dumpstered steak, pie, oatmeal cookies, salad from my garden, olives, sea urchins, fried sea anemones, churros, salmorejo. From that oft-neglected food group: stout, porter, IPAs, rauchbiers, sour beers, micheladas, bourbon, Scotch, Bloody Marys, gin and tonics, red wine and so on. And smoke: I've recently realized I love the taste of smoke, whether piggybacking on meat, peppers, tea, whiskey, or beer.

TV: King of the Hill, Sherlock, Broad City, Dr. Who, Breaking Bad, Parks and Rec, New Girl, Gilmore Girls, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, and, you got me, The Walking Dead.

Podcasts: Radiolab, Alt Latino, This American Life, You Made It Weird, and now Serial.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Tea, my bike, spicy food, green things around me, a light to read by, live music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future and how to get there. Sometimes I think about planning, saving, education and hard work, but more and more I think: time machine.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out at a show, poetry reading or drinking at home with friends, maybe?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm in two long-term, committed, but somewhat open relationships. Of course, it's not so impressive admitting that under a false name on a dating website. How's this: I think Jimmy Buffett wrote some good songs.
You should message me if
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I'm really only available for new friends and one-night-stands at this point.

If you think we'd have things to talk about, you have interesting books listed, you want someone to show you around town, or you want to refurbish my autoharp and teach me how to play it. (Yes, I'm asking someone to teach me to play the simplest instrument this side of the kazoo.)