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  • Ages 20-27
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
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5' 11" (1.80m)
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Special Diet
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat), Latin (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I'm a 2nd-year Ph.D student at Duke who moved to North Carolina from Washington D.C. Generally speaking, I consider myself the kind of guy who can find the fun in almost anything, but I gravitate especially towards good books, long movies, strong drinks, and deep conversation.

Romantically, I'm looking for a partner who's intellectual, laid-back, affectionate, and fun. I'm totally fine with just making new friends (in fact, I usually prefer to be friends with someone before dating them), but if I had my druthers (yes, my druthers), I certainly wouldn't mind having someone to cuddle up with for a night in. Ideally, I'd like to find a partner who doesn't take life too seriously, but is still introspective enough to feel comfortable with all the "woo woo" emotional stuff that being in a serious relationship entails. It also helps if you're a bit of a misanthrope. I'm a pretty even-keeled guy, but bright, bouncy people who are full of light and sunshine still scare the crap out of me :P


Scientists, artists, foodies, gamers, geeks, kinksters, and fellow oxytocin-addicts automatically get moved to the front of the line. I'll admit I also place a huge, huuuuuuuge premium on effective and open communication. Book smarts are great, but they don't really make for a solid relationship unless they're backed up with a lot of warmth and emotional intelligence.

So, if that sounds like you... say hello! :)
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now I'm trying to finish up a paper on the prevalence of psychopathology in developed countries (In case you're wondering: it's high enough that I think my next project should be writing a mental illness version of "Everybody Poops").

I also tend to start a not-insignificant proportion of my sentences with "Yeah! And, actually, someone did a study on that..."

(I'm not trying to be a pretentious ass when it happens, I swear. I just get really excited about science and spend far, far too many hours on PubMed.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
bad puns and terrible jokes.

Representative example of the foregoing:

Q: What's a mockingbird's favorite drink?

A: What?

Q: Tequila!

A: ...

Q: Get it? Get it?? Tequila mockingbird! :D

A: ..........

(Yes, you can punch me afterwards.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I tend to speak with tongue firmly in cheek.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Fantasy series are my guilty pleasures. Game of Thrones, The Dresden Files, The Codex Alera, Sabriel, Good Omens, Harry Potter--and Animorphs, from back in the good ol' days when I had time to read 10 books in one sitting and and girls were girls and men were men except when they turned into animals to fight off the aliens <3

Movies: I like comedies and action flicks, mostly. Especially series! The Naked Gun, Pirates, Oceans, and The Dark Knight trilogies are all favorites. And Love Actually, but I will pointedly ignore you if you try to remind me of that in public.

TV Shows: Archer, Arrow, Sherlock, Supernatural, Dr. Who, Louis C.K., Fawlty Towers, 30 Rock, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Parks & Rec, Seinfeld, and Supernatural.

Comedians: I like Eddie Izzard, Louis C.K., Bill Maher, Jim Gaffigan, and a couple of less-famous others. If you don't find any of these people funny, we're probably not going to be a great match.

Music: My music library has everything from George Crumb to Carly Rae Jepsen, and quite a bit that falls in-between. I took a lot of music theory classes in college, so, although it was never my forte (HAH! See what I did there? SEE WHAT I DID THERE??), I also have a bit of a taste for classical or New Music that rears its head from time to time.

Food: ALL OF IT. Well, except for meat (My family went vegan when I was about six. The hippies.) That said, cheap Chinese food and homemade baked goods will always be a surefire and inexpensive way to my heart.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) The interwebz. Because, god knows, I do not have the patience for whatever came before.
2) Stipends. They buy me food.
3) My bed. From midnight to 8am every weeknight, it makes me feel like an angel baby swaddled in a cocoon of cloud candy.
4) Backrubs. 'Nuff said.
5) Those random, bittersweet moments where I decide TO HELL WITH PRICE AND TIME CONSTRAINTS, I'M GOING TO COOK SOMETHING COMPLICATED AND DELICIOUS but then give up and start eating the individual ingredients about halfway through.

Don't look at me like that. That last one is a wonderful antidepressant.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What's the meeeeaning of stonehennnnnnnnnnnnnnnge?

A giant, granite birthday cake?
Or a prison far too easy to escaaaaaaaaaape?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
in with my kittehs (Jax & Tibbers, both 6 months of age), taking selfies. It is my dearest ambition to someday be featured on

or out with friends. Scoping out a new bar or restaurant. Watching Netflix. Reading pdfs. Y'know, wild and crazy shit.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I cannot deal with watching other people in awkward interactions. Seriously. You can put on a movie with monsters and chainsaws and death and blood and I'm fine. But videos like these make me wince and cringe and hide under blankets:
You should message me if
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you can tell me, with a straight face, that you're at least as interested in *me* as you are in Sylvana the Sloth (impossibly high bar, I know).

you think you can be the Rachel to my Dev.

or because I messaged you. That would be nice, don't you think?