Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Idealistic but cynical, enthusiastic but chill, and unable to
resist a pun.
I saw this video which compares sexual activity to a musical jam
session ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bgd3m-x46JU
) , in that
it's a collaboration rather than a commodity, and the point is to
enjoy the process. I think this generalizes relationships in
general; I'm not psyched about gender
roles or the assumptions of
certain things that guys should do and certain things that girls
should do in dates/relationships. Let's instead figure out our
expectations of each other together.
I love spaces where seemingly contradictory things overlap:
Childlike whimsy and old-man cantankerousness; high-concept lowbrow
food; being simultaneously rugged and foppish; using humor to
explain and process extremely serious things; mixing the sacred and
The struggle towards social, racial, and economic justice is a big
part of my life, so feminist
and radical politics are
things I do a lot.
What I’m doing with my life
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Sometimes I feel like I'm dancing to Nero's fiddle while Rome
burns. Otherwise I make and sell fancy chocolates, do healthcare
consulting, and a bunch of other side gigs that allow a flexible
enough schedule to play lots of music. My business card just says
Also figuring out how to contribute towards the kind of change I
want to see to my community/world for a living. It's a tough one.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Geeking out about pretty much anything, cooking
, playing the trumpet
, bad puns, cuddling
, explaining to bro-dudes
why things are racist/sexist/otherwise shitty in ways they can
understand and internalize, grammar
, bursting into song at the
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Recently, several people have said they thought I looked like a
Republican when they first met me. I'm not a Republican. I'm about
as far to the Left as anybody you know. It's just that punk
rock–type clothes don't look good on me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Master and
, Lord of the Rings, James Baldwin
, Dune, Batman
, Kurt Vonnegut
, Ursula K. LeGuin
, David Mitchell
, bell hooks
, Oscar Wilde
, and Bill Bryson
Movies: Star Trek and/or Wars, Muppets, The Big Lebowski, My Neighbor
Totoro, David Atttenborough
Shows: Steven Universe
Janelle Monae, Rihanna, The Band, The
World/Inferno Friendship Society, Wanda Jackson, Little Richard,
Azealia Banks, The Temptations, Handel's
Jubilate Mass, The Hold Steady, The Ramones, 16th Century English
Kleptones, Simon and/or Garfunkel,
The Beatles, Wilson Pickett, Operation Ivy, Toots & the
Washington, Elvis Costello, The Aquabats!
Food: All the noodles, all the curry, spinach, avocados,
lasagna, Mexican food carts in Queens, french onion soup, garlic,
Carolina barbecue, mangoes, pork, the entire brassica genus
Street food and comfort food of any culture I can think of. Dishes
that have stories associated with them. Culinary puns.
I've worked as a cook or chef at places ranging from from a vegan
hippie commune to a barbecue smokehouse, and love sharing and
learning culinary techniques/history/theory/legends. I'm also kind
of a pizza geek.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Other people, uncertainty, books, garlic, some kind of musical
OK, that's five; I'm low-maintenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The etymological origins of words and clichés.
How can I be romantic without relying on the fucked-up machinery of
consumerism and patriarchy?
If Catholics have communion wafers that transubstantiate into the
body of Christ when they're eaten, is it still Jesus when they crap
How everything functions within the global cultural-economic system
and how it's probably contributing to destroying the planet. (Also
whether I need to adjust my tinfoil hat)
Is it possible to be hetero and queer? Would it be disingenuous to
identify as such?
Am I still a punk? Or a hippie? Or some kind of strange mutant
If I was somehow transported back in time, what miracles of modern
science could I produce in order to prevent myself from immediately
being jailed or killed for looking funny?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
LEGOs say they're for ages 6-12. I totally played with them until I
was 14 and a half.
You should message me if
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You've succeeded in rejecting the ridiculous notion that it's a
man's obligation to send the first message, because fuck the
If you want to sing together.
If you want good conversation, about culture and concepts, not just
what we do for a living. If you want to explore somewhere in New
York City on foot or bike. If you want to cook some really, really
good food. If you think humanity is worth fighting for.
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