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My self-summary
I'm a chocolatier, musician, and activist. I'm idealistic but cynical, enthusiastic but chill, and have a soft spot for etymology and bad puns.

I'm psyched on this theory ( ) that compares sex to a musical jam session, in that good sex is a collaboration where participants are invested in each others' enjoyment, and how to proceed together is determined by the cues and feedback that's happening during the experience. I think this applies relationships in general; I'm not psyched about prescriptive gender roles or following old scripts of what things guys and girls should do in dates/relationships. Let's instead figure out our expectations of each other together.

I love spaces where seemingly contradictory things overlap: Childlike whimsy and old-man cantankerousness; high-concept lowbrow food; mixing the sacred and profane; being simultaneously rugged and foppish; using humor to explain and process extremely serious things.

The struggle towards social, racial, and economic justice is a big part of my life, so feminist and radical politics are things I'm really into.
What I’m doing with my life
Sometimes I feel like I'm dancing to Nero's fiddle while Rome burns. Otherwise I make and sell fancy chocolates, do healthcare consulting, and a bunch of other side gigs that allow a flexible enough schedule to play lots of music and participate in movements for environmental and economic justice.

Also figuring out how to contribute towards the kind of change I want to see to my community/world for a living. It's a tough one.
I’m really good at
Geeking out about pretty much anything, cooking, playing the trumpet, listening, bad puns, cuddling, explaining to bro-dudes why things are racist/sexist/otherwise shitty in ways they can understand and internalize, grammar, laughing, bursting into song at the slightest provocation.
The first things people usually notice about me
Recently, several people have said they thought I looked like a Republican when they first met me. I'm not a Republican. I'm about as far to the Left as anybody you know. It's just that punk rock–type clothes don't look good on me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Master and Margarita, Lord of the Rings, James Baldwin, Dune, Batman, Kurt Vonnegut, Ursula K. LeGuin, Alan Moore, Isabel Allende, David Mitchell, bell hooks, Oscar Wilde, and Bill Bryson

Movies: Star Trek and/or Wars, Muppets, The Big Lebowski, My Neighbor Totoro, David Atttenborough documentaries

Shows: Steven Universe

Music: Sam Cooke, The Clash, Ska, Janelle Monae, Rihanna, The Band, The World/Inferno Friendship Society, Wanda Jackson, Little Richard, Azealia Banks, The Temptations, Handel's Jubilate Mass, The Hold Steady, The Ramones, 16th Century English Madrigals, Cake, the Slackers, the Kleptones, Simon and/or Garfunkel, The Beatles, Wilson Pickett, Operation Ivy, Toots & the Maytals, Gino Washington, Elvis Costello, The Aquabats!

Food: All the noodles, all the curry, spinach, avocados, lasagna, Mexican food carts in Queens, french onion soup, garlic, Carolina barbecue, mangoes, pork, the entire brassica genus

Street food and comfort food of any culture I can think of. Dishes that have stories associated with them. Culinary puns.

I've worked as a cook or chef at places ranging from from a vegan hippie commune to a barbecue smokehouse, and love sharing and learning culinary techniques/history/theory/legends. I'm also kind of a pizza geek.

The six things I could never do without
Other people, uncertainty, books, garlic, some kind of musical instrument.

OK, that's five; I'm low-maintenance.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The etymological origins of words and clichés.

How can I be romantic without relying on the fucked-up machinery of consumerism and patriarchy?

If Catholics have communion wafers that transubstantiate into the body of Christ when they're eaten, is it still Jesus when they crap it out?

How everything functions within the global cultural-economic system and how it's probably contributing to destroying the planet. (Also whether I need to adjust my tinfoil hat)

Is it possible to be hetero and queer? Would it be disingenuous to identify as such?

Am I still a punk? Or a hippie? Or some kind of strange mutant hybrid?

If I was somehow transported back in time, what miracles of modern science could I produce in order to prevent myself from immediately being jailed or killed for looking funny?

On a typical Friday night I am
Making music.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
LEGOs say they're for ages 6-12. I totally played with them until I was 14 and a half.
You should message me if
You've succeeded in rejecting the ridiculous notion that it's a man's obligation to send the first message, because fuck the patriarchy.

If you want to sing together.

If you want good conversation, about culture and concepts, not just what we do for a living. If you want to explore somewhere in New York City on foot or bike. If you want to cook some really, really good food. If you think humanity is worth fighting for.