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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Asian, Middle Eastern, Black, Native American, Indian, Pacific Islander, Hispanic / Latin, White, Other
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from space camp
Entertainment / Media
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Sanskrit (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” -Rumi

All of us, all people, need love/intimacy. We all want it, and many feel they do not have enough to give, so they need to protect what they have while hoping for more. I've found that to be the case here on OKcupid world.. Our social structure is set up based on fear. Those of us who feel our hearts are over-flowing with love, maybe to a point of naivety at times, wish to break down those barriers. Well, I realized something tonight as I wished more people were as kind and reciprocating as I strive to be: I am really only looking for one of you. And I have a feeling you'll know exactly who you are as you read this. So there's no need to cater my profile to appear a certain way to attract you. I believe in keeping it real. All others, thank you for the lessons in growth.

You know what's sexy? A real conversation.
"I have lots of things to teach you now, in case we ever meet, concerning the message that was transmitted to me under a pine tree in North Carolina on a cold winter moonlit night. It said that Nothing Ever Happened, so don't worry. It's all like a dream. Everything is ecstasy, inside. We just don't know it because of our thinking-minds. But in our true blissful essence of mind is known that everything is alright forever and forever and forever. Close your eyes, let your hands and nerve-ends drop, stop breathing for 3 seconds, listen to the silence inside the illusion of the world, and you will remember the lesson you forgot, which was taught in immense milky way soft cloud innumerable worlds long ago and not even at all. It is all one vast awakened thing. I call it the golden eternity. It is perfect. We were never really born, we will never really die. It has nothing to do with the imaginary idea of a personal self, other selves, many selves everywhere: Self is only an idea, a mortal idea. That which passes into everything is one thing. It's a dream already ended. There's nothing to be afraid of and nothing to be glad about. I know this from staring at mountains months on end. They never show any expression, they are like empty space. Do you think the emptiness of space will ever crumble away? Mountains will crumble, but the emptiness of space, which is the one universal essence of mind, the vast awakenerhood, empty and awake, will never crumble away because it was never born.” ~ JK

There is WAY more to me than just a few words on my profile, or multiple choice questions. You can't really gauge real chemistry from a few 2D images and multiple choice questions. Yet I figured I'd try this platform to meet some women of substance and maturity outside of my current circles. My friend Sophie wrote to me: "You always bring a little spice, a little sass, and a lot of sauce. You've perfected that special combo of sacred and hilariously one does it quite like you do". So that's me! I'm new-ish to the East Bay and originally from Boston. I'm as genuine and deep as they come. What's the point in putting on a front? WE'RE ALIVE!! Isn't that amazing??

I am multifaceted: Sweet with an edge, confident yet humble, sensitive yet strong, compassionate and intuitive, caring and generous. At times I'm funny, wild and boisterous, others I can be more quiet and contemplative. I'm " in tune" with my own and others' emotional nature, and I know what it means to be a "balanced man" - when to hold space and listen, and when to take charge. I'm committed to authenticity and transparency and I'm always finding ways to increase my mindfulness, gratitude and reverence.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have many things I do ... like WAY too many.. But again, I'm alive, so I want to LIVE! Currently I'm selling "virtual tour' technology to businesses for public use. That takes a lot of my time..
WHAT I TRULY LOVE, and also do for income/community building:
~Festival and Concert/party producer/booking agent.
~Herbalist/nutrition consultant
~Leader/Manager of a large band & dancers with a loyal following
~Teacher/Guide of the healing arts
~Sound vibration therapy
~Meditation & recording my dreams
~Weights/running/Organic food
~chi gong
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
~Constantly remaining positive and curious, no matter the intensity of a challenge.
~Listening, being present and understanding.
~Making people laugh
~Beat Boxing/didgeridoo/bass/percussion/singing (I teach)
~Making music from whatever I can get my hands on!
~Encouraging others to speak their truth.
~Mindful consumerism, *especially of organic food!
~Massage/foot reflexology. (I'd like to learn Thai)
~Remembering my dreams (writing a book)
~Writing poetry
~Making delectably tasty alcoholic elixirs and deserts.
~Getting kids and animals to like me
~Staying up late.
~Helping people manifest their lost or stolen items.
~Stealing kisses, learning how you like to be touched.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People often tell me I have a good phone voice, but I'm not sure that's the first thing they notice..
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I always appreciate those who have different perspectives than mine.

Bill Hicks
Dane Cook
Amy Schumer
Brian Regan
Louis CK *(Bonus points if you dig any of these!)

TV: No thanks.


Everything written by Napoleon Hill
Anything from Hafiz or Rumi!
The Prophet: Kahlil Gibran *I will read this forever until I die!
The Power of Now: Ekhart Tolle
The 4 Agreements: Don Miguel Ruiz
The Law of Attraction: (or anything by Abraham-Hicks)
Many Live, Many Masters: Weiss
Anatomy of the Spirit: Caroline Myss
Advanced Energy Anatomy: Caroline Myss
Mutant Message Downunder
The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
The Holographic Universe
The Way of the Superior Man: Deida
The Way of the Peaceful Warrior: Millman
7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Think and Grow Rich
Do the Work
The Giving Tree (of course!)

"Let the soft animal of your body love what it loves."
~Mary Oliver, Wild Geese

Amelie, Into the Wild, The Secret of Kells, Rivers and Tides, American Beauty, Life of Pi, Stand By Me, My Girl, Wayne's World, Waking Life, Princess Bride, Avatar (the movie), Lord of the Rings, The Dark Crystal, Napoleon Dynamite, Virgin Suicides, The Dangerous Lives of Altar Boys, X-Men!!, (or anything from Marvel), Something About Mary, The Incredibles, Flight of the Navigator, What's Eating Gilbert Grape?, Dumb and Dumber, Wedding Crashers, "I love you, Man" Wayne's World, Avatar: The Last Airbender (TV series, not the movie),
*"Crossing the Event Horizon" by Nassim Haramein
(huge points if you've seen all 4 discs)

Alex Grey, Robert Venosa, Michael Parkes, Andy Goldsworthy!

TOOL!!!!, Fiona Apple, Deftones, 311, Bjork (up until Vespertine), Sigur Ros, Radiohead, Nora Jones and her sister Anoushka Shankar, Lauryn Hilll, Erykah Badu, Bobby McFerrin (Circle Songs), Air, Massive Attack, Sublime, Midnite, Primus, Alice in Chains (unplugged), Eric Clapton (unplugged), Incubus, Portishead, Old Brett Dennon, Jack Johnson, Citizen Cope, Rufus Wainwright, Billie Holiday, Ella Fitzgerald, SRV, Bon Iver (soooo much more!)

If you were at Lucidity 2012, I booked the entire main stage and helped sell it out. If you were there, you know. If not:::
Gladkill (chill, not trap), Tipper, Random Rab, Beats Antique,
The Human Experience (with Rising Apalachia), Subaqeuous,
Akara, Dr. Toast, Bluetech, Kalya Scintilla, Phutureprimitive,
... far too many to name but will try and add more soon.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1~Raw Chocolate & coconut oil
2~Various musical Instruments
3~My Vitamix (if you have one, you know)
4- Physical intimacy/great sex/long sensual kisses
5~Nature/quiet/alone time/Sunshine-and-close-friends (still one thing if it's on the same line??
6~ Yoga, meditation, dancing, running, weights.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Definitely this:
~Metaphysics & quantum physics, and how they're intertwined.
~Dreams - writing them down.
~"If you ever start taking things too seriously, just remember that we are talking monkeys on an organic spaceship flying through the universe." -Joe Rogan

"One could conclude from our understanding of information and spacememory (time) that the universe is expanding and accelerating because it is learning about itself and thus it requires more surfaces to store the holographic Planck information." - Nassim Haramein

~New ways to make money.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
No such thing as "typical" any day of the week. I'm a health/psychology geek, so I love filling my brain with proper mental nutrition. Sometimes I'll stay home and learn new things, sometimes I'll go out dancing or to perform. Everyday is Friday for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My love's gotta be earned, and so should yours!

"Enjoy your body, use it every way you can. Don’t be afraid of it, or what other people think of it. It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own."

~ Kurt Vonnegut
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You are a woman of substance. I'm Looking for someone that can match me in terms of clear, abundant communication, empathy, sex drive, passion and curiosity.

These are not "musts" by any means, but they are most certainly turn-ons. Do you share these values?

~You are emotionally available.
~You exercise and/or do yoga regularly OR are ready to start and eat mostly organic, and have smooth skin or are neatly groomed. (No offense to my hippie friends, I am from Boston after all)
~You allow yourself to be silly. In fact sometimes you crave "awkward"!
~Your email responses involve more than one-two word phrases, and you believe in reciprocity, and you're honest about your age on here.