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34 Brooklyn, NY Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18-38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 8:56pm
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Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Welcome to the weird world of a one happy nihilist's profile, this shit doesn't matter so lets have some fun and make it feel "good".

I have participated in a few triads in life and the the energies between three people in such dynamics can be amazing. I am now very interested in orchestrating some three way dates with two other woman that have not dated each other or are maybe are friends that have wanted to explore more together with a man as a bridge or possible two woman who have never ever met each other before.

I try to take life one moment at a time and be present in that moment. I try to affect those things I can and let go of the things I can't. Self-education is vital as I am always looking to make the most educated choices, I'm an avid learner, thinker and communicator.

I am looking for a relationships based on love, commonality, mutual respect, friendship, open communication and amazing sex. A partner that is looking to share her time with me and mine with her, and enjoys her freedom and is happy that I have mine too.

I'm a liberal inter-sectional feminist and I have need for authentic equality in my relationships; that need at times is also sensitive to the casual exclusion of men's rights, in our present paradigm.

Those with cat eyes, tattoos, piercings, and heel wearers skip to the head of the line.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
who cares
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Impact play, floggers, hands and whips Oh my!

Bondage and creating the head space for your submission

Communication, consent, and checking in.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My bright colored eyes, dark red beard and Golden red (edit: presently blond) hair.

I'm in noticeably good shape.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Honestly I don't think this stuff matters at all, but it is nice when you connect with someone over shared interest, just saying.

Music, Movies and Books can at times have a huge impact on my feelings as I lose myself in their worlds; and I love the fact that I can be so moved by them.

Daily some dubstep/breakbeats and or electro/house are rocking my workouts or explore some new mixes/artists on soundcloud and spotify.

The Hitch Hikers guide to the Galaxy, Ghost Busters, the Borne series, LTOR, Harry potter series, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Inception, Lost in Translation (I like to think he whispers "I love you, I'll never forget you"), Donnie Darko (fuck that last scene, always gets me with "Mad world" playing), Vicky Cristina Barcelona.

Lost, Archer, BSG, Daily show, Breaking Bad, Game of thrones, Its always sunny, Arrested development, BBC Planet Earth and Blue Planet series

The music that taps into my soul: Autechre, Amon Tobin, Portishead, Radiohead, Aphex Twin,NIN, Massive Attack, Squarepusher, How to destroy Angels,

Shogun, The Watchmen, Old Mans war, Enders Game, Game of thrones, "I am an S&M writer" (title of the book(Oniroku Dan)), The Ronin, Harry potter, 1984 (this book made me cry), animal farm, watership down, Bill Watterson

For food, I am very interested in food with a purpose, nutrition science is very interesting to me and affects the way I eat. I love Japanese food (way more than just sushi)and Mexican food. I also have a bit of sweet tooth and from time to time enjoy great whisky and sake.

The top five places I intend to visit next.
Florida Keys state park
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Kinky sex
memory foam bed
sex toys
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My next kink scene with one of my lovers,

The importance of the sound your soul sings, personal lexicons, individual's "wavelengths" and all those unspoken things that make two people click that can't be properly transferred digitally.

Emergence, and the flow of life.

My next/new art work and things I would like to make/invent.

How in general people do not take enough time to care for themselves as much as they should, instead they spend most of their time working and entertaining themselves to escape the stress of daily life and to have fun, I don't think entertainment is bad I enjoy it often too, but a greater balance between work, play, and maintenance is a defining characteristic of me, in fact some things people may describe as "not fun" I enjoy greatly; like working out, eating healthier/functional foods (sweets sometimes) and sleeping.

Also room environments, acoustics and interior designs.

People who say they "love to work" are chumps, and seriously need a reality check.

The power of not saying everything and the ethical potential of this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
seriously nothing is typical, I'm weirder than you.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am very passionate and very open, there is very little off the table in the sexual arena for me. Poly, Kink, Dominant.

I have a light side to me and darker side that my partners and I enjoy playing with in private and sometimes at parties.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You want to go to art gallery openings with me, you have the stomach to be in a crowded art gallery drinking PBR/brooklyn brew/cheap wine talking to shit to strangers, walking in the cold of winter to go to the next gallery and find that the show was really not that good anyways, all for the chance to see something truly amazing, because nothing amazing happens sitting at home alone.

If you understand respect and how to show it.

*lateness and canceling of dates is one the most unattractive things I can think of.