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33 M Seattle, WA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:46pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm just looking for someone who's demons play well with my own.

I do the poly thing.
Looking for interesting people and good conversation or good conversation with interesting people.

I'm a take charge, fast-on-his-feet-thinker that handles things as they come. I'm calm in a crisis and don't sweat the little stuff either. A friend of mine described me as being "nonchalant about things no one is ever nonchalant about."

I'm a big believer in equality and freedom. I vote left for social justice and stay towards the center on fiscal issues.

I love Seattle. I've lived here since 2006, it fulfilled a dream from when I was a kid in Eastern Washington. I don't always think I fit in the best here though. Here I feel like it's not just my edges that are rough, but the first few layers too. I am a gentleman, not necessarily a gental man.

Work and community involvement take up a good chunk of my time and while some people list reading as a hobby I consider it a part of a well rounded life.

The last few years I've been trying poly on for a fit. I'm not horrible at it, but I don't think it's 100% for me. How does Dan Savage say it? Monogomish.

“The weight of the world is love. Under the burden of solitude, under the burden of dissatisfaction.” ~Allen Ginsberg
What I’m doing with my life
I've been running a sex positive community group for 18-35 year olds for four years now. Outside of the social functions we collectively host I also teach workshops on various subjects.

I'm trying to get back into backpacking. Wonderland and the Inca trail are on my wanderlust list.
I’m really good at
Forgetting what I'm supposed to be doing when I start reading a good book or good bad book.
Rope I can tie a knot like a sonofabitch, and try to impart my skills to others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I've assumed that my state of dress was the first thing that people noticed, so I asked around and here is what I got:
"You seemed almost professionally devoted and utterly gentlemanly."
"You looked damn good in a suit."
"You looked killer in a suit & you reminded me of Biff from Back to the Future."
"Where is your accent from?" I'll give you three guesses and will be surprised if you get it right. It is neither West Virginia (I was a little offended by that one) or South Carolina.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I like good books; I like bad books that suck me in.

I own a TV. It streams Netflix and Amazon. I was into the first few seasons of Sons of Anarchy. I was out after the Hamlet plot went sideways. I generally like lawyer shows and documentaries. Hannibal might be some of the best TV I've seen in a long time. Mads Mikkelsen has kind of reinvented the character in a great way.

I started playing guitar when I was 15. I've grown a great appreciation for musicianship. Even if I don't like a genre, I like good musicians.

I like good movies and entertaining movies. I tend towards suspense, thrillers, and horror, and Star Wars. I can't usually get into sic-fi, but I am a huge Star Wars nerd.

Don't get me started. I love cooking. It's a big part of who I am. I gravitate towards NW Pan-Asian when I'm cooking. I love eating real Mexican food. Everything else is up for negotiations. I like trying new foods.
The six things I could never do without
A good book
Something to write with. A pen, a tablet, an iPhone, anything.
Happy hour
Friends that are like family
My gym bag
30' of hemp rope
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Balance. "Life should be balanced, like a clean suit and a dirty martini."
How to finish this book.
Where did these people learn to drive?

I've recently become fascinated with chemistry, and I guess to a lesser degree microbiology not on a large scale, but practical applications.

I wish I had more time...
On a typical Friday night I am
I try to find some trouble on Fridays, but I typically work on the weekends, so I normally call it an early night. A good show, fun party, or sexy adventures have been know to end only so I can leave for work.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
You can find me on FL: Josef_Abrams.
If we have similar intests there, well we might want to hang out.

Oh and I have this little phobia of the water. That extends to boats as well.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–45
  • Near me
  • For short-term dating
You should message me if
You enjoy cocktails and conversations, reading - specifically literature and genre fiction, but anything that is reading for enjoyment is just fine. I write, so if you don't read...

Conversation can be replaced with activities outside.

You think reading to each other is sexy. Bonus points if you want me to read my own work ;)

You can talk a little (or are interested in) nutrition and sports science. I stay up on this stuff and love talking about it.

On the Vanilla to Deviant spectrum you fall somewhere right of Vanilla, but just a little left of Deviant.

There's no need to apply if: you are Republican, militant socialist, vanilla, or insist I change my diet.