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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–42
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Jun 23
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Buddhism, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Korean (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I am about to embark on an extended stretch of travel. I'll be in NYC for a little while, then Korea, then various places across the US, then Southeast Asia, and eventually I plan to move to Seoul.

All of this comes at the end of a master's degree in Asian studies, in which I wrote my thesis about Westerners who've become Korean shamans, and of a long stint as a corporate person at Google, where I did nothing all that exciting. But hey, Google.

This is a plan long in the works. I've been calling it my slow-motion, very well organized midlife crisis. But it's not really a crisis. It's an adventure.

I want to meet and connect on the way. I believe in intimacy, open hearts, exploration, juiciness. I want to form genuine, deep connections, though I know they might be fleeting. That feeling of being vulnerable and open and totally in love? Yeah, that.

Backstory: I grew up in Northern California, the child of hippies who became Orthodox Jews. I came to New York for college, and I stayed. After college, I went to India and Nepal for four months, and a few years later I taught English for a year in Korea, then went back to India and Nepal for six months. I'm excited to get out into the wider world again.
What I’m doing with my life
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Quitting my Google job to travel Southeast Asia and move to Korea.
I’m really good at
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Writing, editing, grammar. Knowing obscure facts. Synthesizing ideas. Thinking up new ones. Making you laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I know something about whatever country they're from. That I'm a white guy speaking Korean.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Infinite Jest by David Foster Wallace, The Heart of the Buddha's Teaching by Thich Nhat Hanh, anything by Oliver Sacks, Jon Krakauer, or Peter Hopkirk.

Movies: Not really that big a movie buff, but I could watch The Big Lebowski over and over. I like movies that stand out as different and unique: The Party, This Is Spinal Tap, Being John Malkovich, anything by Bong Joon-ho.

Music: I love Beck, Radiohead, Talking Heads, Indian classical music, Air, Korean traditional music, Led Zeppelin, James Brown, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan. I'm sort of all over the map.

Food: I'll try most things and have widely varied taste (as I do in so many areas of my life). I know a good Uighur place.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, something to read, the dream of the perfect burrito, good shoes, art, music.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics. Korea and Korean shamanism. International affairs. History. BDSM. Spirituality. Art. Music. Southeast Asia. Buddhism and its history. Travel. Backpacking gear.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I don't think I'm going to have many typical Friday nights for a long time. But I like to be with people, socializing, enjoying life, exploring new places. So I'll probably be doing that.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't drink or do drugs, and haven't for over eight years, and before that I did both more than was good for me.
You should message me if
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You're awesome. You think I might be awesome. You'd like to meet up wherever I am and you are.