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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–23
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 20
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Pisces, and it’s fun to think about
Working on Ph.D program
Likes cats
My self-summary
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First of all, lots of people post in this section that they're just here for fun, but I'm actually looking for a relationship (or at least to date and see what's out there). I figure that for my age cohort, this is probably a better option than something like Also, this site makes me long for the traditional courtship of the 19th century.

I'm at a pretty demanding point right now in my professional life. I just started a PhD program at Duke in the Neurobiology Dept., and am training for a career in academia. To compound my professional nerdiness, I also enjoy things like D&D, Battlestar Galactica, fantasy RPGs, etc. I can also get pretty nerdy about music (yeah, I read Pitchfork, and am not ashamed).

I consider myself an intelligent person, and this is important to me. I graduated cum laude from Columbia University with degrees in Neuroscience and English literature (mostly specializing in the English Renaissance). Despite the demands of the program, I still try to read as much extracurricular literature as possible, and would be thrilled to meet a fellow avid reader.

I grew up in Durham, though I nevertheless feel socially adrift coming back here after living in NYC. It's my belief that everyone lives a different story and has something unique to contribute, so I'm looking to meet new people, learn from them, and hopefully develop a fulfilling relationship.

Also, I have strong opinions about pretty much everything. Sometimes, I can be overbearing about them, but I always love to have them challenged.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm currently in Durham working on a PhD in Neurobiology at Duke. I work in the lab of Dr. Chay Kuo studying adult neurogenesis (how the brain generates new neurons). My particular focus is on how the brain controls its own neuron production through direct electrochemical, rather than cytokine-mediated, control of neural progenitor cells in response to behaviorally relevant stimuli.

In the long term, I plan to stay in academia and continue to do research in neurobiology, hopefully in a professorial capacity.

I'm also working on expanding my social circle and finding a niche for myself here in Durham. I would love to get more involved in the rich cultural production of Durham, it's art, music, and performance. Oh, and of course it's food!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Analyzing things, people, and ideas.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My height. Or the beard (which, I might add, I now regularly trim XD)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I simply don't know where to begin with this category. However, I will say that Proust's In Search of Lost Time is the single most impressive novel I have ever read. To all the non-believers out there: yes, it is better than Ulysses.

Movies: I am completely ignorant about film.

Shows: Various geek staples (Battlestar Galactica, Dr. Who, Firefly) as well as Parks and Recreation, 30 Rock, and Portlandia.

Music: I like music that challenges the listener. I expect my music to create space. Here are some of the artists I listen to:

65daysofstatic, Air, Aphex Twin, Baths, Broken Bells, Broken Social Scene, Burial, Caribou, Clams Casino, Crystal Castles, Delorean, Destroyer, DJ Shadow, Eliot Lipp, Fennesz, Flying Lotus, Four Tet, Gang Gang Dance, Girls, Glasser, How To Dress Well, Imogen Heap, James Blake, Kings of Convenience, LCD Soundsystem, M83, MGMT, The Most Serene Republic, Mount Kimbie, My Bloody Valentine, Neon Indian, Nick Drake, Nicolas Jaar, of Montreal, Oriol, Portishead, The Postal Service, The Radio Dept., Radiohead, Salem, Shabazz Palaces, Sigur Ros, Stars, St. Vincent, Surfer Blood, Teebs, and Zombie.

Food: Peanut butter, eggs, bagels, chocolate of various kinds, and tikka masala.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
-My Headphones
-Google Scholar (why are you so much better than PubMed?)
-Diet Coke
-Black-out curtains
-Hookah (I frequently go to hookah lounges to read. Note, however, that I do not smoke cigarettes.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Space exporation, nuclear disarmament, the problems of organized religion, international government, consciousness and the Gestalt school of psychology. Also etymology, for some reason.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading 18th century political philosophy at a hookah lounge.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've read more than a couple romance novels. And not in the renaissance sense.
You should message me if
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You're looking to go on a date. It's my experience that one doesn't really learn to much about a person by chatting with them online. Also message me if you're a great reader of fiction or are involved in the arts: I would love to branch out from my discipline.