You would like to chat about an interesting topic or meet.
Definitely drop me a line if you found something attractive about
me, even if you don't know what to say! Just write something silly
;)
Mandatory requirement:
...you are open to being open! I've tried monogamy so many times,
and it's just not for me. Never been a cheater, but I feel like I
am
polyamorous
by nature.
This requirement applies mainly for serious relationship. But we
can still be friends or activity partners without sharing this
conception of love; maybe even date casually as long as you are
respectful of this lifestyle, and not trying to trap me in an
exclusive monogamous relationship with you, or even expect me to
consider you as "my" "primary" lifetime partner. You would be so
disapointed: I don't hierachise relationships. I truely believe
that monogamy is as great as polyamory when it matches the
personalities and choices of everyone involved, but it's just not
for me at all.
You should especially respect, be kind and patient with the limits
and boundaries of the people I am already in a relationship with. I
am for instance easily envious of the traditional gender role of
women in seduction, strict with sexual hygiene, and I refuse to
have children (I am not totally closed to adoption though), while
an hopefully lifetime partner
AsianEva (she is in OkCupid too and will
surely enjoy getting to know you) is transitioning to polyamory,
she is easily afraid of being left out or abandoned, while other
partners wonder whether they could be commitment phobic, etc...
Each of the deep love relationships I take part in is unique
relationship anarchy, and some partners
involved with me are as well in unique deep love relationships
together.
...you are easygoing.
...in the case where you are contacting me for the sole purpose of
rapidly sharing physical intimacy without any emotional or
intellectual bonding, please be clear and straight forward about
this. That's clearly not what I am looking for here, but I will try
my best to keep an open an honest attitude and my answer to your
request will be clear too. (Advice: swingers and escorting websites
are more targeted for this specific quest).
Optional but great plus:
...you would like to mind fuck me, as in "drastically change my
perception of reality".
...you are a bisexual man, about my size, more on the active
side... and you have a desire to teach me your psycho-social super
powers ;) I am quite sapiosexual, especially with men.