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22 Parainen, Finland Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–25
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 25
6′ 3″ (1.90m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from high school
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Wants kids
Dislikes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), Korean (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Short version (new):

I am looking for an intellectual girl who likes affection (+ for video games) ^^
Appearance wise a nice butt (I really like butts) or a pretty face or both will be enough, as long as you're roughly in my own weight class.

Long version (old):

I am a 22 year old male, looking for all kinds of social interaction. That is what I am used to writing. However, upon reflection, I have realized I am only ever really interested in making friends with women. It's hard to say why, possibly because I have a lot more motivation (evolutionary psychology 101) to invest into a friendship with a female. Maybe I should be honest with myself and admit I'm really looking for another friend with benefits... nope. I mean I am, but coming out with that expectation hurts the chances of it happening. Which is exactly what I just did. Fuck.

I have two close friends, one male and one female, who complement each other very well. From them I gain everything I could hope for. However, I can only see them so often. Once a week at best. That is not enough for me, and I wish to seek more friends.

I want to find someone to ward off my depression, someone I could have real deep conversations with, someone I could perhaps game with, someone who I could call a friend. But most importantly someone I could be affectionate with. I don't necessarily mean a sexual relationship, more like a cat-level relationship. More like someone to hug and/or hold and/or sleep next to.

An ideal friend would be someone who would live close to me and with whom I could do plenty of sleepovers. I would game with them or play boardgames, and maybe play some sports. Of course conversations about all manner of things, and hugging and affection and the like would be really awesome. Because no matter how out of ideas one is, cuddling never gets old ^^ it's the best. Kissing and sex is fun too of course.

So I guess what I'm looking for is a girlfriend? :D
I don't really think about those labels.

For some reason I gain next to nothing from online interaction. I am unsure why that is. Maybe my brain has difficulty comprehending that there actually is a person on the other end.

Some people give me more... social energy... warmth. I don't know what to call it. Some people I can just touch on their shoulder and I feel a pulse of warmth and happiness. I can, from holding hands with them, experience a strong current of happiness. To be honest, so far every one of these people has been an attractive woman. Which makes total sense.

I do not have the least interest in watching sports. Any sport. Don't give a fuck. Don't feel any different if my country is playing. Don't identify with them one bit. However, I love playing sports ^^ but not baseball. Or basketball. Or volleyball. Or handball. The one I absolutely love is football <3

I am very logical, honest, and kind. I always thought all three were positive qualities. Now, after experiencing my first relationship, I know that at least the former two are rather destructive to romantic affairs, if I can generalize from experience (I probably shouldn't).


(Feel free to challenge ^^ I am not evil, just a contrarian. I take myself pretty lightly too and will happily get rid of some of these :D)

Meat eater and against traditional animal rights.
Agnostic/gnostic (depending on god claim) atheist
Incompatibilistic determinist (universe is only indeterministic on a quantum scale)
Don't believe in conspiracy theories or pseudosciences
For prostitution
For abortion
Euthanasia [no position]
Gender realist (is that a thing?)
And politically I am a liberal. If you use Political Compass, I am right in the middle of the bottom left quadrant.

I apologize for all preposition-related errors that have inevitably been made. Thank you.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have this image in my head of finding the perfect girl, settling down, finding a good job and having three kids. I have never been worried about how I would achieve any of those. I don't know why. Just can't bring myself to worry about them, even though I'm pretty sure none of those is going to happen.

I have very weak physical and psychological motivation, and a somewhat higher social one (working on those). This makes it hard for me to summon strength and will for study or exercise, but not as difficult to contribute to relationships.

I have tried to take up a myriad of constructive hobbies, including piano, boxing, running, weight lifting, Japanese, Korean, photography, audio diary, stick fighting and so on. Ran out of motivation for each. So now I just play games, read, and amass the greatest collection of porn the world has ever seen.
[EDIT: Have given up the porn, turns out it's really harmful for one's psychology. So now I'm much more balanced and still getting generally better at everything ^^ if also hornier.]
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Philosophy, argumentation overall, English and gaming. Well actually, I'm not that good at gaming (my skill level somehow stays the same), I just really like it. It's the same thing with football.

Let me tell you a Minecraft anecdote. I don't really know if it counts as one, I just really wanted to write those two words in the same sentence. Anyway: When I build something, it's never an intricately designed, detailed piece of architecture. Never. What I do build instead are massive constructs of geometrical simplicity. I invest time, since I do not have the creativity or skill. That is what I do with all my gaming.

I like to think I'm really good at hugging and cuddling and the like <3 So far everyone has agreed on that. To my horror my female friends have told me that it is refreshing to hug a man without being felt up.

Oh, oh and physical work is something I enjoy. Scrawny as I am, I like it infinitely better than mental work. When my body is working, I can still do what I wish with my mind (listening to podcasts, random wandering). It doesn't hurt my ego either. A man has a biological need to feel useful.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall and skinny. Too skinny. I try to gain weight but it seems impossible. When I was in a relationship, I gained almost 10 kg which made me a healthy weight, but I lost it all soon after the break up. My BMI is 18 at the moment but I look a lot skinnier than that. So either I'm all muscle or the BMI system flawed (it's the latter).

Also, since my break up, I stopped cutting my hair and that was almost two years ago. Although it was just a while ago when I realized the two events might be related, and turns out its something people do pretty often when they break up.

So yeah:

1) Tall
2) Skinny
3) Long black hair
4) Always wearing a navy blue double trench coat

That last one sounds creepy now that I think about it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I have never been much of a reader. In my childhood the only books I read were the Artemis Fowl series. Since then I've bought exclusively constructive factual material, mostly from Dawkins, Sagan and Hitchens. Last year I read the Song Of Ice And Fire.

Movies? I don't like horror. Its scary :D
I rarely watch movies. Only when something fairly high profile comes out. Django Unchained, The Hobbit, all Marvel movies...

Shows? My favorites are Miraculous Defeat & Victory, Star King, Star Golden Bell and especially Invincible Youth. To throw in something recognizable, I have all seasons of House and Breaking Bad and I also watch Game of Thrones. And I love Avatar.

There are exactly two types of music I listen: game music (almost exclusively FF, with some TES mixed in) and K-pop. I
am 소원.

I can like pretty much any genre of music and almost any song. I don't think my brain works like most people's in this issue. You see, I don't like music because I "just like it". I am always conditioned into liking each separate song. That's why I like game music so much. Everything that happens in a game during the game when a song is playing on a background, gets attached to that song in my brain. I know this happens in all people but for me it's much more important and powerful as it is the only method which by I start liking a song or an artist.

That's why I don't really listen to music that much, I find (or usually rediscover) a song at best once every few months.

When it comes to food, as a general rule I don't like it. I wish I did, since I'd love to gain some weight, but it just tastes really bad. Thankfully there are a few exceptions. It also seems that I like fluids much better than solids. I don't appreciate people implying that it's somehow my fault that everything tastes bad.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Females. Girls! WOMEN! omnomnom <3

2) Internet

3) People who agree with me

4) People who disagree with me.

5) A social safety net.

6) My friends.

I strongly dislike these kinds of lists.
I had to make a conscious effort not to write "water, nourishment, warmth, a central nervous system..."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My own thought processes, philosophy, morality, theology, sociology... but mostly women.
And lucid dreaming. Oh god. I need to learn how to do that. Seriously.

But lately... About a year ago. I thought a thought too far. I reached a new level of comprehension on death. And I really wish I hadn't. Now I am really afraid of death. And I am trying to justify and argue the fear away just as I argued it into existence. But I haven't been able to yet.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Internet, gaming or with a friend.
I like bars too, but never alone.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't really see things that way. I mean I don't have taboos. So the only questions I won't answer with a smile are my credit card information and passwords.
You should message me if
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(Ignore the "if")

You can use either English or Finnish. Or both. And please, ask anything you wish. I LOVE answering questions about myself :3 I'm really good at it too, it being a subject I happen to know a lot about.

Unfortunately I am not a very active conversationalist online, I have a hard time maintaining interest unless the topic is especially stimulating, such as religion, morality or sex. Forgive me.