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JustPlainJayn

26 F Bristol, United Kingdom

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:43pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian, Black, White
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Strictly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and very serious about it
Sign
Education
Working on masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English, Chinese (Poorly), Polish (Poorly), Turkish (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a writer and traveler, workaholic (when I have a job), news addict, the-worst-football-hooligan-ever, a very amateur musician, and a culinary enthusiast.

The first time I officially took the Keirsey Temperament Sorter was nine years ago and an undergraduate. The result was INFP. I take versions of it now and again for fun and I end up with INTJ/ENTJ, apparently, but I don't feel I'm any less sensitive emotionally, I'm just better at dealing with the strong emotions, or perhaps the tests are just inaccurate.

Quiet or talkative will depend on subject proposed, present company, and level of energy at the time. I'm extremely introspective, rational, strong-willed (stubborn), and honest. I'm not concerned with the opinion of people that have no place in my life: strangers, bigots, or dickheads.

I don't feel like deactivating my OKC profile again because in the years I've had it, and in countries I've used it, it's been a fantastic way to meet new friends, and I think that's all I can handle at the moment. Very recently my life has been in nearly-unbearable pandemonium (nearing nervous breakdown levels) in almost every department of living that I cannot fathom being able to endure, emotionally, another complicated relationship that makes any more demands on my brain, time, and heart than another friendship. So, I'm up for being your new anomalous, slightly-mental, brooding artist, female friend. I'm not the jealous type, so you won't have to get rid of your other anomalous, slightly-mental, brooding artist, female friend(s) in order to hang out with me, unless of course they're jealous friends, in which case I assume the relationship is toxic to your life and advise you to step away in the name of self-respect and precious time lost.
What I’m doing with my life
Lived in China, Poland, and Turkey. Travelled to many other places. Moved to Bath for my masters, then found Bath a bit dull, so I moved to Bristol.

Carpe('ing the) diem. I'm writing novels, playing and watching sport, laughing with friends, cooking almost every meal at home, obsessing over words and melodies, playing guitar and singing when the mood strikes me, sketching pictures of portraits, and doing copious amounts of reading.

I live my life by "why not?"s I don't do what I'm actually opposed to, but for other things I like to give it a try. Join Ladies' rugby in Warsaw? Why not? Teach English in China? Why not? Wear a ball gown to the cinema? Why not?

Planning to stay in the UK, but it's possible that what happens to most MA students in a creative field will happen to me: I will not be (immediately) successful. Then I'll have to take another English teaching job. Or perhaps I could find a way to get paid to travel and write. I'm thinking Japan or Korea this time. Berlin would be nice. Still, my first choice is here.
I’m really good at
I don't know what to write here without sounding cocky or self-deprecating.

I do what I like, regardless of how skilled I am at it, and it makes me happy, so I'm quite good at being happy, though not so good at always staying positive. I return to optimism at the end of anything, via hard conscious effort, but I'm naturally a more melancholy person.

What I like: reading, writing, playing guitar, singing, drawing, discussing culture, watching movies, cooking, baking, playing sports, feeling connected with people via watching sports, good conversation, politics, sometimes shopping. Whether or not you can be 'good' at some of these things is arguable, but I feel it more fully answers the above.

I also seem to be really good at charging at things that scare me: flying, social interaction with new people at a party, crowds (okay, I don't literally charge at any of these things, especially crowds). I won't let myself be owned by my fear. I'm good at being anxious but generally not acting on it. And if it's something I'm actually afraid of, I confront it.
The first things people usually notice about me
Hair, eyes, smile, voice. Usually in that order.

If I'm not smiling I look angry or upset (even if I'm thinking about which exciting novel to start next), and then my entire face completely changes into a different person when I'm smiling-- or so I'm told.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Literature: I like political writing, whether it is overtly political or political in style itself. I can deal with abstract and unconventional works, but have not read much of this. My current favourite is 'Running Away' by Jean-Philippe Toussaint.
Right now I'm doing a lot of reading for my modules and research for my MA. History, politics, and memoir mostly.

Movies:
Charlie Chaplin, Hayao Miyazaki, Wes Anderson, When Harry Met Sally, Taare Zameen Par, Death at a Funeral (2007), the Indiana Jones trilogy (yes, trilogy, I don't count the recent one), Religulous, Chicken Run, The Empire Strikes Back, 28 Days Later...

Shows: Doctor Who, Sherlock, Spaced, Firefly, The Walking Dead
I had listed Star Trek on here. I actually haven't even watched that much Star Trek, but I like the idea of the show (promoting peace, being strong when wholly accepting our differences, adventure) even more than I like the idea of Star Wars (a guy uses strength from spirituality to save the day, ultimately). I just think Star Wars was done better.

Music: 60s Rock, Led Zeppelin, Nick Drake, Alabama Shakes, The Black Keys, classical, some jazz, Nina Simone, Laura Mvula, some Janelle Monae, some Adele, The Shins, Pixies, Bright Eyes, War Paint, The Strokes, Beirut, Squirrel Nut Zippers, Caravan Palace, Bernhoft, Johnny Flynn and the Sussex Wit, George Harrison, Against Me!, Ani DiFranco, and a few songs here and there by this person and that one.
Right now I'm on a Robert Johnson and Tom Waits streak.

I like good music. If it moves me, impresses me, I'll listen to it. Extra points for any genre when it's live. Love a live gig.

Food: I cook at home a lot, really, almost every meal, every day. I'm allergic to milk and gluten. I cannot eat anything containing or cooked in butter or margarine, no yoghurt, no ghee (so no curry), no pasta, bread, cheese, beer. It also rules out many desserts.

I do love food, and I love pretty much anything that won't kill me. I'm as adventurous as I can be without tempting anaphylactic shock (hospitals are not adventures I'm fond of, that's not giving in to fear as much as being practical). I couldn't possibly care less about calories, just don't kill me.

I support Arsenal and the German National Team. My favourite player is Özil. I can get rather fired up about football, but I am definitely the worst hooligan anyone has ever met, as I am willing to miss a game for a good reason: working on the novel, friend in need, or other previous engagements (as I don't memorise the schedule of the matches). However, get me in a pub with a screen and some fellow fans, and I'll participate in chants and all. I really enjoy football, but it isn't my first priority.
The six things I could never do without
information
human connection
communication
challenges
some mystery in life
honesty.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-How to climb back up to optimism when I fall into my natural flow of focusing on the negative.

-How people tend to ignore the many dynamics of a person's character based on what they can reduce a person down to-- namely how serious I am in my profile (see: The Two of Us, -with explanations-) and how silly and goofy I tend to be in person. How I must be one or the other or another, but never all, for example: my love of football often leads people to dismiss my love of wearing dresses and analyzing literature as unreconcilable.

-constructive solutions to serious problems that would send anyone in their right mind into a flying bout of righteous indignation.

-what the next meal is, how it needs to be prepared, where I'm eating, how much time it will take, and what that means for plans of the day. I do spend, really, a lot of time thinking about food.

-pacing of a story, description, dialogue, language.
On a typical Friday night I am
There isn't, and I haven't a clue. Never bored.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm here for the questions mostly. I've had my profile for years now and in that time I've answered... thousands.

I'm self-absorbed. It's a gargantuan character flaw of mine, but it isn't intentional and I am aware of it. I think understanding how complex I can be helps me piece together how characters come to life in stories-- how to really make people in stories complex. So, I visit a lot of profiles to see if there are questions I haven't answered.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 19–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends
You should message me if
Go to the "The Two of Us" tab. On the right, in the filter, click on "Unacceptable Answers" and have a look.

If you're homophobic, racist, chauvinistic, strictly religious, chances are our match percentage is not so high and we will not be good friends. If you fall into the above categories, you can be sure that I'm not going to write you back. You will not like me and if you ignore that fact to pursue superficial interests, you can be sure that if I reply at all, I will not be kind.