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36 M Neshaminy, PA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:56am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English, Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Introverted poly kinky gamer otaku science geek seeking others with overlapping interests for conversation and activities. If you are poly, kinky, gamer, feminist, trans, fujoshi, or just a nerd with your own fun stuff to share... I invite you to drop me a line. I enjoy talking shop.

And yes, I am aware that otaku and fujoshi are pejoratives, but I figure in the same vein as ‘slut’, they could do with a bit of re-appropriation.

In regard to poly, I currently have a SO egcharood51, and an OSO VeganPhD. Everyone is aware, there is neither cheating nor unicorn hunting involved here. I would describe my situation as somewhere between 'poly' and 'open' since I am looking for interesting people, not specific relationship types. However, I am really NOT interested in people who are married and cheating.

In regard to kink, I fall mostly into the 'service top' category, so not really looking for TPE style connections.
What I’m doing with my life
I started life misspending my youth, progressed to questionably allocated college time, followed up by a poorly spent adulthood, which I intend to continue to misuse at every opportunity for many years to come. There will probably also be cake.

Growing up I spent my time reading, playing video games, poking around MUDs, various kinky pursuits, and a little bit of theater. In college I got involved with anime/cosplay(and crossplay), tabletop gaming, more reading, worked in a physics lab , cutting my teeth with game development, trying out poly, exploring the edges of the BDSM world, being a bit of linguistics groupie, and somehow managed to walk away with a degree in engineering. I originally wanted to be a mad scientist but did not really have the right hair for it.

After school I spent a number of years in the video game industry but now work on serious games in a research lab. I am constantly amazed that they actually pay me to do this.

Today I generally spend my free time time reading, watching anime, DIY home improvement (taking another stab at gardening this year) and playing video games (mmm.. Minecraft). Though I will admit lately I have been consumed by other projects and have not had much game time. Sadness.

I enjoy photography and experiment with multispectral imaging of plants and landscapes. While I occasionally ponder working more on portrait photography, so far I have focused on things that depend primarily on inanimate objects. They are patient, don't get bored, don't get cold, don't get cramps, and do not give me strange looks when I suggest taking pictures without the lights on or bathing them in ultraviolet light. They are however a lot harder to fit into costumes.

I also moderate the OkCupid Discussion group on Fetlife.
I’m really good at
Photographing things that are too slow to run away.
Tying people up and poking them with sticks.
Managing to NOT to get stabbed, bludgeoned, or electrocuted by my house when I work on it. Though my tablesaw put up a good fight....
The first things people usually notice about me
I have fairly long hair. Actually, really long hair... typically in either a bun or a braid. I am told people tend to notice that first.

Though now that I am back on a campus, I am convinced that I am actually invisible. Or maybe the people here are just figments of my imagination. Oh well, at least I imagine lots of cute outfits.

And yeah, I realize I need better profile pictures.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Let us see. For books my favorite authors would have to be CJ Cherryh, Larry Niven, Lois McMaster Bujold, David Weber, at least those are the last few I have been reading. I actually feel rather intimidated by other people's reading lists. I like books, honest! Though I admit I do not manage to set aside as much reading time as I would like.

For TV I have mostly been working my way through my backlog of anime fansubs. The last few I watched included Mawaru Penguindrum, Fruits Basket, Here is Greenwood, Crest of the Stars, Kino no Tabe, Madoka Magica, Negima, Lost Universe, Ouran High School Host Club, Sayonara Zetsubou Sensei, Soul Eater, Utena, The Big O, Watamote, Haruhi Suzumiya, Kodomo no Omocha.

Food.... Japanese, Indian, Thai, those seem to be top of my yummy list.

Music... mostly dementia and filk, though I have a few others like Jethro Tull, Splashdown, Switchblade Symphony, Concrete Blonde, Eve's Plum, Jack Off Jill, Vanessa Mae, The Piano Guys, Laura Shigihara, Live on Release, Eve's Plum.. but mostly stuff that would appear on Dr Demento or The FuMP ^_^
The six things I could never do without
Hey, diddle, diddle the overflow pdl
To get a little more stack;
If that's not enough then you lose it all
And have to pop all the way back.
-- The Great Quux
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to break the impasse of getting shy people talking to each other. Also, I am really, really terrible at starting conversations. Sorry.

Lately I have been mildly obsessive about how to pull interesting data out of OKC, which I admit was inspired by that mathematician that got a lot of press. I am finding the results rather fascinating (and depressing), though I suspect "hey baby, I love the way that distribution fits, but that aberration in your data set really sets you apart." would make a terrible pickup line.
On a typical Friday night I am
Frequently I see profiles extolling the virtues of going out and having fun on Friday night. This is not really my thing, instead I prefer a little maniacal chortle along with some twisted sadistic sport. Thus I spend my friday nights scheming unimaginable horrors for which to inflict upon the innocent so that I might savor their suffering.

Or having some tea, either one works really.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I actually am on here mostly for the waffles, and I am starting to loose patience since not a single slice has shown up yet. I think those poly people were lying to me....
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
In this space people often say that you should contact them if you want to.

I think I will take a different approach and say 'contact me if you don't want to.' Starting conversations with strangers can be stressful and I know us shy introverted types often really do not want to deal with those awkward initial messages even though we do like the connections that can develop from it.

So I invite people who are uncomfortable with the idea of starting a conversation, but think we might get along, to say hello. And, I admit a bit of self interest in this encouragement since I am terrible at messaging people first.