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36 M Neshaminy, PA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:14pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Science / Engineering
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English, Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Introverted poly kinky gamer otaku science geek seeking others with overlapping interests for conversation and activities. If you are poly, kinky, gamer, feminist, trans, fujoshi, or just a nerd with your own fun stuff to share... I invite you to drop me a line. I enjoy talking shop.

And yes, I am aware that otaku and fujoshi are pejoratives, but I figure in the same vein as ‘slut’, they could do with a bit of re-appropriation.

In regard to poly, I currently have a SO egcharood51, and an OSO VeganPhD. We do the separate dating thing, not as a couple or some closed geometric figure. Though I would so date a polyhypercube, but mostly because I think it would have a cool shadow.

I would describe my situation as somewhere between 'poly' and 'open' since I am looking for interesting people, not specific relationship types. In regard to kink, well, that is better to just ask.

I am seeking people who people who build their identity around what they love, rather then defining themselves by who and what they hate. People who are nice, intellectually curious, open minded, sex positive, and most importantly who have found a healthy balance between adult responsibility and childish fun. A kinky streak does not hurt unless, well, it kinda does, but only when one asks nicely. I am not active in the "S"cene but kink is a significant part of my life.

Oh, I also have a serious weakness for cool hair, especially when it is dyed unnatural colours. I am hopeless for blue hair.
What I’m doing with my life
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I started life misspending my youth, progressed to questionably allocated college time, followed up by a poorly spent adulthood, which I intend to continue to misuse at every opportunity for many years to come. There will probably also be cake.

Growing up I spent my time reading, playing video games, poking around MUDs, various kinky pursuits, and a little bit of theater. In college I got involved with anime/cosplay(and crossplay), tabletop gaming, more reading, worked in a physics lab , cutting my teeth with game development, trying out poly, exploring the edges of the BDSM world, being a bit of linguistics groupie, and somehow managed to walk away with a degree in engineering. I originally wanted to be a mad scientist but did not really have the right hair for it.

After school I spent a number of years in the video game industry but now work on serious games in a research lab. I am constantly amazed that they actually pay me to do this.

Today I generally spend my free time time reading, watching anime, DIY home improvement (taking another stab at gardening this year) and playing video games (mmm.. Minecraft). Recently I replaced my poor old sewing machine so I am relearning to sew, with particular emphasis on giant squid. So yes, I have a hobby that involves tentacles.

I enjoy photography and experiment with multispectral imaging of plants and landscapes. While I occasionally ponder working more on portrait photography, so far I have focused on things that depend primarily on inanimate objects. They are patient, don't get bored, don't get cold, don't get cramps, and do not give me strange looks when I suggest taking pictures without the lights on or bathing them in ultraviolet light. They are however a lot harder to fit into costumes.

I also moderate the OkCupid Discussion and Caning groups on Fetlife. I am not quite sure why the later since the caning community tends to drive me batty ^_^;
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Photographing things that are too slow to run away.
Tying people up and poking them with sticks.
Managing to NOT to get impaled, bludgeoned, electrocuted, falling from a great height, or into a hole working on my house. Though my tablesaw put up a good fight....
The first things people usually notice about me
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I am told people tend to notice my hair. It is fairly long and usually keep in a bun since it gets caught in things if I leave it down. While I suspect said hair entanglements are amusing for spectators, it is inconvenient for me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Let us see. For books my favorite authors would have to be CJ Cherryh, Larry Niven, Lois McMaster Bujold, David Weber, at least those are the last few I have been reading. I do not really have individual favorite books, I prefer to inhale entire series or universes (when authors play nice together).

For TV I have mostly been working my way through my backlog of anime fansubs. Outside that I tend to jump between documentaries or mindless cartoons as background when doing hobby type things.

Food.... Japanese, Indian, Thai, those seem to be top of my yummy list.

Music... mostly dementia and filk, though I have a few others like Jethro Tull, Splashdown, Switchblade Symphony, Concrete Blonde, Eve's Plum, Jack Off Jill, Vanessa Mae, The Piano Guys, Laura Shigihara, Live on Release, Eve's Plum.. but mostly stuff that would appear on Dr Demento or The FuMP ^_^
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to break the impasse of getting shy people talking to each other. Also, I am really, really terrible at starting conversations. Sorry.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Frequently I see profiles extolling the virtues of going out and having fun on Friday night. This is not really my thing, instead I prefer a little maniacal chortle along with some twisted sadistic sport. Thus I spend my friday nights scheming unimaginable horrors for which to inflict upon the innocent so that I might savor their suffering.

Or having some tea, either one works really.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I actually am on here mostly for the waffles, and I am starting to lose patience since not a single slice has shown up yet. I think those poly people were lying to me....
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 26–46
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
In this space people often say that you should contact them if you want to.

I think I will take a different approach and say 'contact me if you don't want to.' Starting conversations with strangers can be stressful and I know us shy introverted types often really do not want to deal with those awkward initial messages even though we do like the connections that can develop from it.

So I invite people who are uncomfortable with the idea of starting a conversation, but think we might get along, to say hello. And, I admit a bit of self interest in this encouragement since I am terrible at messaging people first.

Bonus points if you can suggest something in philly to check out that is not a museum. Or you want to check out a museum.