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KAPatts

36 M Chester, PA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 21–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:30pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black
Height
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Athletic
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
$60,000–$70,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Well, I'm a happily married man in an awesome polyamorous marriage with Toni134 and I'm looking for someone to spend quality time with, laugh my ass off with and establish a relationship with that ranges anywhere from casual to long term.

I'm a combination geek/jock who loves to travel. I watch sci-fi shows and movies...and read comics...and play video games...and obsess over sports statistics...and shutdown Sundays exclusively for football...and run in a dozen distance races a year...and occasionally, I even lift (,bro).

I'm almost always planning my next out-of-town escape...usually scheduled around an on-location half-marathon or something.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Professionally, I'm an instructional designer. Simply put, I create materials that people learn stuff from. Manuals, guides, online training, etc. It's a great job and I work hard at improving myself in my field.

Personally, I'm trying to maximize the "going places and doing things" aspect of my life. I don't want to be on my deathbed wondering what (something potentially life-changing) is all about. Whenever possible, I drag my friends along for the ride.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
...ignoring the small stuff...and it's ALL small stuff. If it's not pushing me forward, I leave it behind.

...motivating people to rethink their priorities and options. I don't mean to be good at that. I'm not starting a revolution or anything. As spiritual activist, Marianne Williamson, says "...as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same." My life over the last few years has been all about letting my light shine...and many of my friends and family have followed suit.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall...that's pretty easy to spot.

I've been described as "painfully uncomplicated". What you see is what you get.

Apparently, my ass is pretty decent...but I really have no reference or desire to make an informed comparison.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I mostly read non-fiction books about non-monogamy, polyamory, personal development and modern autobiographies. Although, I also really enjoy some fiction... Ready Player One, A Song of Ice and Fire and the Harry Potter books.

I watch pretty much everything except most horror and the sappiest of romantic comedies. Everything else is fair game...good, bad, foreign, documentaries, everything. My favorites are Pulp Fiction, Fight Club, High Fidelity, Clerks, Children of Men, Kingdom of Heaven, The Lion King, American Beauty, Shawshank Redemption...and all things Disney/Marvel/Star Wars.

My taste in music are really eclectic. The Roots, Stevie Wonder, Fiona Apple, The Pixies, Jamiroquai, Nas and a little bit of everything in between. I'm always looking for songs to workout and run to, so I buy lots of albums just to get that one song that'll push me at the finish line. Have any suggestions for me?

I'll sit down in front of Netflix and marathon through seasons of shows I've heard are good. (Lost, House of Cards, Firefly, Battlestar Galactica, Archer, Orange is the New Black, Breaking Bad, Avatar) But, outside of ESPN and Parks & Rec, I don't keep up with a lot of new shows.

My video game collection is pretty varied. I'm into sports games, puzzle/strategy, third-person shooters and action games, but my real love is being able to sink 100+ hours into any RPG with a complex story and quality character development. Which is to say, I love Bioware games.

A lot of my media intake these days comes in podcast form. I regularly listen to Savage Lovecast (Dan Savage), Life on the Swingset, Girl on Guy (Aisha Tyler), The Moth, Grantland/ESPN, Podcast Beyond, IGN Gamescoop and Dave Ramsey.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- My family
- My friends (which is a cop out because I consider my friends to be my "chosen" family)
- The internet and the devices that bring me to there
- My Playstation (3 or 4)
- My current pair of running shoes
- My drive to do and see everything.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...how to customize the world around me and live life on my own terms while still being a quality husband and father.

...the politics of equality and sex-positivity, and how racism, homophobia and misogyny are all basically the same bullshit.

...the terms "Intersectionality" and "Relationship Anarchy!"

...the varying definitions of feminism and whether or not I land within them. As long as I'm a loving and equality-minded person, should the label even matter, though?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...having a drink and maybe a smoke and laughing my ass off watching some terrible movie. On the best Fridays, I'm doing that with interesting people who chime in with funny commentary.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
...I'm terrible with names and faces. I once met a woman, asked her out and then didn't recognize her when she bumped into me the next day. Luckily, I made a graceful recovery, pulled off a great first date, and went on to marry her. She still holds it against me, though.

...if it were somehow possible, I'd replace the uneventful parts of my early-20s with episodes of Regular Show.
You should message me if
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- You've got a sense of humor, a sense of adventure and a general disregard for the rules.

- You'd like to watch "The Room" with me. I've never seen it before. I'd like my first time to be with someone sweet.