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32 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 25–32
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Banking / Finance
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English, Ancient Greek (Okay), Italian (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I should begin with a confession.

I cut my teeth in NYC. You would think that that would have inoculated me but recently I've come to realize that I have the dating disease endemic to this city after all. What's the "dating disease"? The signal symptom is a restive, ceaseless searching for a fictional person tailor-made to meet my mind's precise specifications. I've come to confuse those specifications with conditions on my happiness. Talking casually with friends and acquaintances, I've learned that this isn't unique to me. It's pervasive. Forbes magazine just published an article stating that half of all Americans over 19 are single. Maybe this is one of the many causes. I don't mean the confusion of perfection with happiness: I mean thinking that "perfection" can be specified in advance.

When I look back on previous relationships, I realize that many of them were with people that, at a glance, would have struck me as implausible candidates. Ostensibly, we were pretty different but it worked even if we decided to go our separate ways in the end. I guess the heart is more flexible than the mind.

This profile is a compromise: It's a resume but it's also an attempt to give some insight into my personality.

Here are some basic things about me: I left a philosophy PhD program with an MA last year. (If you want to know the whys and wherefores I can indulge you later).

I now work in financial services. I'm taking the LSAT in December. I expect to earn my JD here in NY but am keeping an open mind.

I recently moved from Park Slope to Fort Green. I live in a modest studio, on a tree-lined street. I like it.

I don't drink bourbon, have a beard, ride a bicycle, or shop at Beacon's closet. I have no issue with those who do, it's just not me. If you do, you're welcome to say "hi". As I said, I've dated people who on the surface were pretty different from me. In the end I don't think this sort of stuff is make-or-break. Not for me anyways.

I will not be a valuable addition to your trivia team :-)

I grew up in Boston. I went to college and grad school here in NYC. I lived and worked in Chicago for a few years in between. While in Chicago, I worked in education: first, at a charter school; later at a non-profit. I'm also an AmeriCorps alum. Even though I work in finance, for the time being, I believe that I help people, organizing their finances--however modest they might be--and planning for future contingencies. I do work alongside, but not with, some unscrupulous douche-bags.

I'm a pretty plain-speaking, honest, assertive person. I think I'm socially versatile without being a shape-shifter or chameleon.

I'm also pretty playful and animated, notwithstanding the sober tone I write in here. I can be chatty and expansive at times.

I'm looking for someone who is smart, reflective, independent-minded, and good-natured. We have to be attracted to each other, of course.

Send a note or indicate interest, if you are moved to. My schedule changes but I will make time to be with you, if things go well.

Thanks for reading :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm assertive and honest.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
This probably has nothing to do with whether we'll like each other.

*Fiction*: Alexander Solzhenitsyn, Dostoyevsky, Raymond Chandler.

*Shows*: The Wire, Newsroom, Punky Brewster. You should watch David Letterman interviewing Harmony Korine sometime.

*Movies*: Roman Polansky, Fellini, Kieslowski (The Decalogue), Antonioni, Fargo, Rumble Fish, Strangers on a Train, Rear Window.

*Music*: Bibio, Squarepusher, A Tribe Called Quest, Bach, John Coltrane, Eric Dolphy, Mingus, Neil Young, Nirvana, The Pixies, Beck, Sonic Youth, Dale Bozzio, Lady Gaga, Madonna, Frank Zappa, Brian Eno, Glen Branca.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, family, exercise, natural beauty, music, good food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What it means to "not take life too seriously". I probably just failed the test (sigh).

I found this on wikipedia:

"Himself, he never took too seriously—his work most seriously. He regarded the somewhat gaudy figure of ______, the star, with an amused cynicism. In each of the fountains at Versailles there is a pike which keeps all the carp active; otherwise they would grow overfat and die. [He] took rare delight in performing a similar duty in the fountains of ______. Yet his victims seldom bore him any malice. His shafts were fashioned only to stick into the outer layer of complacency, and not to penetrate through to the regions of the spirit where real injuries are done."
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Texting is a logistical tool for me. I don't use it to try to get to know someone.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can think for yourself and like people while seeing them with open eyes. You like strudel. Above all, be nice.

ps: it turns out that i like saying strudel more than eating it.