I cut my teeth in NYC. You would think that that would have inoculated me but recently I've come to realize that I have the dating disease endemic to this city after all. What's the "dating disease"? The signal symptom is a restive, ceaseless searching for a fictional person tailor-made to meet my mind's precise specifications. I've come to confuse those specifications with conditions on my happiness. Talking casually with friends and acquaintances, I've learned that this isn't unique to me. It's pervasive. Forbes magazine just published an article stating that half of all Americans over 19 are single. Maybe this is one of the many causes. I don't mean the confusion of perfection with happiness: I mean thinking that "perfection" can be specified in advance.
When I look back on previous relationships, I realize that many of them were with people that, at a glance, would have struck me as implausible candidates. Ostensibly, we were pretty different but it worked even if we decided to go our separate ways in the end. I guess the heart is more flexible than the mind.
This profile is a compromise: It's a resume but it's also an attempt to give some insight into my personality.
Here are some basic things about me: I left a philosophy PhD program with an MA last year. (If you want to know the whys and wherefores I can indulge you later).
I now work in financial services. I'm taking the LSAT in December. I expect to earn my JD here in NY but am keeping an open mind.
I recently moved from Park Slope to Fort Green. I live in a modest studio, on a tree-lined street. I like it.
I don't drink bourbon, have a beard, ride a bicycle, or shop at Beacon's closet. I have no issue with those who do, it's just not me. If you do, you're welcome to say "hi". As I said, I've dated people who on the surface were pretty different from me. In the end I don't think this sort of stuff is make-or-break. Not for me anyways.
I will not be a valuable addition to your trivia team :-)
I grew up in Boston. I went to college and grad school here in NYC. I lived and worked in Chicago for a few years in between. While in Chicago, I worked in education: first, at a charter school; later at a non-profit. I'm also an AmeriCorps alum. Even though I work in finance, for the time being, I believe that I help people, organizing their finances--however modest they might be--and planning for future contingencies. I do work alongside, but not with, some unscrupulous douche-bags.
I'm a pretty plain-speaking, honest, assertive person. I think I'm socially versatile without being a shape-shifter or chameleon.
I'm also pretty playful and animated, notwithstanding the sober tone I write in here. I can be chatty and expansive at times.
I'm looking for someone who is smart, reflective, independent-minded, and good-natured. We have to be attracted to each other, of course.
Send a note or indicate interest, if you are moved to. My schedule changes but I will make time to be with you, if things go well.
Thanks for reading :-)