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My self-summary
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself." Leo Tolstoy

Once I went into a fine chocolate shop intending to buy one piece. I left with a shopping bag full of chocolate. That doesn't mean I'm indecisive, just open to what life has to offer. In addition to boundless optimism and an outrageous sense of curiosity I possess one bicycle, two grown daughters, three dogs, four aged parents, and five digits on each hand and foot. Okay, I'm writing fiction already....two of the dogs belong to my daughters but I loved the pattern. Thus, my playful nature revealed. Showing is better than telling. Words matter, but actions matter more. I do my part to improve both the world, and myself, a little bit at a time. For me there's cycling, reading, writing, and spending time with my daughters (who live far away) and friends (who live nearby). For the world, I try to be a gracious presence, to perk up a room, to help out literacy organizations, and to cherish the good in everyone. I love to have fun and have a flexible definition "fun". Eyelashes on my car inspire smiles wherever I go. I like doing handstands, eating dim sum, going 35 mph downhill on my bike, and hitting the triple-word jackpot in Scrabble. And I’m generous too. That bag of chocolate I bought by accident? I gave it all away except one piece.
Okay, two pieces.

A side note....my chocolate eating location has just changed to Northern California. Still unpacking the boxes.
What I’m doing with my life
The guy I’m looking for is already happy and secure in himself. He might be at the peak of his career, or might be early retired and wanting to explore the world. He is…maybe YOU are...not looking for the best person, but are looking to BE the best person. Like me, you don’t have a shopping list of attributes, but rather are looking for someone wonderful and comfortable to be with, someone who is sparkling at times, silly in a sophisticated way at other times, caring at all times. I’m not on parole and you aren’t either. You are established, successful in your field, and comfortable in any room, whether it’s Taco Bell or the White House. Maybe you’ve lived abroad, as I have, and you certainly appreciate people more than things. And family above all. You probably wonder, as I do, why is there always time for cocktails and never time for dessert?
I’m really good at
Making things happen. If I want to do something I do it. I'll Check the movie schedule and if something I want to see starts in nine minutes I'll zip on over. (Happy to miss the advertisements.) I organize bike rides and figure out season tickets at the Geffen, but it's also nice to have someone else take a turn. And best of all to share the activities. A friend once invited me to go to Cuba. "Be careful what you invite me to do," I said, "because I may well accept." Four weeks later I was sipping a mojito at the Hotel Nacional in Havana, legal paperwork securely in my hip pocket.
The first things people usually notice about me
My good spirits. I like doing interesting things with interesting people in interesting places. In recent years I've gone cycling in Italy, temple hopping in Egypt, and safari-ing in Africa. Yes, I know "safari" isn't a verb, and neither is "good-deed-doing", which I also did in Africa. Words and stories are my life work and passion....but clever fellow that you are, maybe you've figured that out.
I laugh a lot and sometimes a little loud, which my sisters are also guilty of, but it's a genetic weakness I can live with.

At dinner the other day with my posse, couple gals spontaneously said the first thing they notice about me is curiosity...I'll proudly take that one too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books...impossible to pick favorites, but in last three months I've read, among others,The Roundhouse, Behind the Beautiful Forevers, The Dinner, and Thinking Fast and Slow. Also in Praise of Messy Lives...it's not about housekeeping...alas!
I'm an eclectic and voracious movie-goer. My only crankiness of late was when my local art house theater closed down. I see most of what's current, if it has any smarts about it. Loved Twenty Feet from Stardom. It's got everything. Narrative. Great characters. And of course inspiring music.
Lifetime favorites include: In the Heat of the Night, Memento, The Thomas Crowne Affair, and Run, Lola, Run. I want both books and movies to entertain and more...teach me something, make me think, question, haunt my days, provide a window into another world.
Food...As in the rest of life, I enjoy trying new things, whether it's poking around in an international grocery, or slurping up a vermicelli bun bowl at the little Vietnamese place down the way. Love dining out, the more so in places where not rushed. (or Cooking for an appreciative audience.)

Television. Watch it so rarely I actually forget how to turn the darn thing on. Once asked my visiting daughter for help. She's patient with me, "Mama you've got the remote upside down." Breaking Bad, however, convinced me turn the remote right side up.
The six things I could never do without
Laundry soap
Lime Diet Coke
That’s seven. Perfection is perhaps one word away.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Does the second law of thermodynamics apply to my desk?
On a typical Friday night I am
Sparkling conversation and dinner with friends. Something interesting and new.
Or maybe a book and a crossword puzzle. What's a six letter word for support? Two "L"s in the middle?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Why do folks have such a hard time with the “most private thing I’m willing to admit” question? Truly, it’s a place for you…or me…or to be intriguing, interesting, to show a little something, anything. Doesn’t need to be how you ‘played doctor’ with your cousin as a kid—please not that! But private doesn’t mean skanky. What about your favorite brand of toothpaste?
The name of your second grade teacher?
Why you’ve always wanted to visit Nepal?
What you hope to be when you (finally) grow up?
That you—as I am—are afraid of roller coasters?
That you will take money OUT of an ATM machine, but never put it in one?
The meaning of that little tattoo you got the courage to get on your forearm?
How you would love, someday, to be able to read the Odyssey IN GREEK.
How you helped your little sister with your homework as a kid. (Gals LOVE stuff like that, truly, we do. Although it helps if you actually have a little sister. Better yet if you helped her with homework.)
That you are afraid to do your bills online.
The books that sit on your nightstand.
How much change is in your pocket at this very moment.
That you have Wheaties every morning for breakfast because it reminds you of time spent at your grandpa's house.
Truly, every little space here is an opportunity to show how wonderful you are. If I had seven cents for every person who says: “If I told you, then it wouldn’t be private”…then I would be shopping for jewels at Van Cleef and Arpels.

My private thing?
My one glass slipper is a size 9.

Oh yes....and I reuse my ziplock bags.

That's two private things for one low price.
You should message me if
You love life...can gracefully support your end of a conversation canoe and:

You own more books than shoes.