Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of
changing himself." Leo Tolstoy
Once I went into a fine chocolate shop intending to buy one piece.
I left with a shopping bag full of chocolate. That doesn't mean I'm
indecisive, just open to what life has to offer. In addition to
boundless optimism and an outrageous sense of curiosity I possess
one bicycle, two grown daughters, three dogs, four aged parents,
and five digits on each hand and foot. Okay, I'm writing fiction
already....two of the dogs belong to my daughters but I loved the
pattern. Thus, my playful nature revealed. Showing is better than
telling. Words matter, but actions matter more. I do my part to
improve both the world, and myself, a little bit at a time. For me
there's cycling, reading, writing, and spending time with my
daughters (who live far away) and friends (who live nearby). For
the world, I try to be a gracious presence, to perk up a room, to
help out literacy organizations, and to cherish the good in
everyone. I love to have fun and have a flexible definition "fun".
Eyelashes on my car inspire smiles wherever I go. I like doing
handstands, eating dim sum, going 35 mph downhill on my bike, and
hitting the triple-word jackpot in Scrabble. And I’m generous too.
That bag of chocolate I bought by accident? I gave it all away
except one piece.
Okay, two pieces.
A side note....my chocolate eating location is changing to Northern
California. Spending time here at present in anticipation of a
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The guy I’m looking for is already happy and secure in himself. He
might be at the peak of his career, or might be early retired and
wanting to explore the world. He is…maybe YOU are...not looking for
the best person, but are looking to BE the best person. Like me,
you don’t have a shopping list of attributes, but rather are
looking for someone wonderful and comfortable to be with, someone
who is sparkling at times, silly in a sophisticated way at other
times, caring at all times. I’m not on parole and you aren’t
either. You are established, successful in your field, and
comfortable in any room, whether it’s Taco Bell or the White House.
Maybe you’ve lived abroad, as I have, and you certainly appreciate
people more than things. And family above all. You probably wonder,
as I do, why is there always time for cocktails and never time for
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making things happen. If I want to do something I do it. I'll Check
the movie schedule and if something I want to see starts in nine
minutes I'll zip on over. (Happy to miss the advertisements.) I
organize bike rides and figure out season tickets at the Geffen,
but it's also nice to have someone else take a turn. And best of
all to share the activities. A friend once invited me to go to
Cuba. "Be careful what you invite me to do," I said, "because I may
well accept." Four weeks later I was sipping a mojito at the Hotel
Nacional in Havana, legal paperwork securely in my hip pocket.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My good spirits. I like doing interesting things with interesting
people in interesting places. In recent years I've gone cycling in
Italy, temple hopping in Egypt, and safari-ing in Africa. Yes, I
know "safari" isn't a verb, and neither is "good-deed-doing", which
I also did in Africa. Words and stories are my life work and
passion....but clever fellow that you are, maybe you've figured
I laugh a lot and sometimes a little loud, which my sisters are
also guilty of, but it's a genetic weakness I can live with.
At dinner the other day with my posse, couple gals spontaneously
said the first thing they notice about me is curiosity...I'll
proudly take that one too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books...impossible to pick favorites, but in last three months I've
read, among others,The Roundhouse, Behind the Beautiful Forevers,
The Dinner, and Thinking Fast and Slow. Also in Praise of Messy
Lives...it's not about housekeeping...alas!
I'm an eclectic and voracious movie-goer. My only crankiness of
late was when my local art house theater closed down. I see most of
what's current, if it has any smarts about it. Loved Twenty Feet
from Stardom. It's got everything. Narrative. Great characters. And
of course inspiring music.
Lifetime favorites include: In the Heat of the Night, Memento, The
Thomas Crowne Affair, and Run, Lola, Run. I want both books and
movies to entertain and more...teach me something, make me think,
question, haunt my days, provide a window into another world.
Food...As in the rest of life, I enjoy trying new things, whether
it's poking around in an international grocery, or slurping up a
vermicelli bun bowl at the little Vietnamese place down the way.
Love dining out, the more so in places where not rushed. (or
Cooking for an appreciative audience.)
Television. Watch it so rarely I actually forget how to turn the
darn thing on. Once asked my visiting daughter for help. She's
patient with me, "Mama you've got the remote upside down." Breaking
Bad, however, convinced me turn the remote right side up.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Lime Diet Coke
That’s seven. Perfection is perhaps one word away.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Does the second law of thermodynamics apply to my desk?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sparkling conversation and dinner with friends. Something
interesting and new.
Or maybe a book and a crossword puzzle. What's a six letter word
for support? Two "L"s in the middle?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why do folks have such a hard time with the “most private thing I’m
willing to admit” question? Truly, it’s a place for you…or me…or to
be intriguing, interesting, to show a little something, anything.
Doesn’t need to be how you ‘played doctor’ with your cousin as a
kid—please not that! But private doesn’t mean skanky. What about
your favorite brand of toothpaste?
The name of your second grade teacher?
Why you’ve always wanted to visit Nepal?
What you hope to be when you (finally) grow up?
That you—as I am—are afraid of roller coasters?
That you will take money OUT of an ATM machine, but never put it in
The meaning of that little tattoo you got the courage to get on
How you would love, someday, to be able to read the Odyssey IN
How you helped your little sister with your homework as a kid.
(Gals LOVE stuff like that, truly, we do. Although it helps if you
actually have a little sister. Better yet if you helped her with
That you are afraid to do your bills online.
The books that sit on your nightstand.
How much change is in your pocket at this very moment.
That you have Wheaties every morning for breakfast because it
reminds you of time spent at your grandpa's house.
Truly, every little space here is an opportunity to show how
wonderful you are. If I had seven cents for every person who says:
“If I told you, then it wouldn’t be private”…then I would be
shopping for jewels at Van Cleef and Arpels.
My private thing?
My one glass slipper is a size 9.
Oh yes....and I reuse my ziplock bags.
That's two private things for one low price.
You should message me if
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You love life...can gracefully support your end of a conversation
You own more books than shoes.
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