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Kat-o-nine

43 / f / bisexual / single

Newcastle, Australia

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Strong, Ridiculous, and Wicked

My self-summary Propose an edit

Okay, after being here for a while, it's becoming increasingly obvious that i need to set some people straight.. I am not here as wanking fodder, if you want to jerk off to some woman telling you all the wicked things she will do to you, look elsewhere, I am not her..It takes a very special man to sway me to even think of talking dirty with them, and you are more than likely not him, so move along..I really am not interested in being some quick thrill for you.

I am the girl that guys never want their mum's to meet, and when they do meet me, they are rarely happy..
I am not, by far, your average 43 year old woman. I have never longed for the perfect house/ man/ career/ family / life, and to be honest, would not know what to do with them if i had them.
I am a fiercely independent woman, who does not bow under pressure, and has no intention of ever doing what other's tell me to do. You may call this anarchy, I call it how i have always, and will always live, and it's helped me survive things that many could not.
I am a very honest and thoughtful person, and expect nothing less than the same in return.
I enjoy being heard, laughed with, appreciated, and cared about. My love for friends and other special people in my life is limitless, my friends mean the world to me, and i am always told what a wonderful friend i am. For me that is just how i think friends should be, is it not the whole point?
I am not a jealous person by any means, but i am phenomenally territorial, you mess with my loved ones, you will hear from me.
Most who know me, would classify me as Goth, and i am happy with that, it's been my way of life for far too long to try and fight it. I am aware that this alone is enough to scare/turn some people off, but for me, that's a good thing. No point wasting my time with judgemental people. However, this does not mean i want you to contact me because "you've always fantasised about kinky goth girls".
I am looking for company on this lifetime trip i am taking, be they friends, or possibly more. In the past i have had some success in meeting wonderful people on here, people i consider life long friends now, I decided to come back and do the same. I am purely here to meet people who are attracted to my strength and want to appreciate it, not wear it down.

What I'm doing with my life Propose an edit

First and foremost, I am a mother,my children are my greatest loves, being a mother is an insane but beautiful job.I am an artist, a teacher and a designer. Everything i do incorporates my creativity, including my child rearing, and considering i have 2 very balanced teenagers, i must be doing something right.
I have a Fine Arts degree, a Psychology degree, a background in Counselling and a wealth of experience in Domination, I still call on all of these experiences when needed.

I'm really good at Propose an edit

* talking entire days away.
* listening to my friends.
* people watching without being caught.
* making 85% of the clothes i own.
* drawing when i set my mind to it.
* having wonderfully wicked conversations.
* whatever i put my mind to (so a good friend says).
* turning decidedly vanilla people into kinky little bastards.
* getting very annoyed with stupid/ignorant people.
* proving my point with said people.

The first thing(s) people usually notice about me Propose an edit

My sense of style.
My tendency to say hello first.
My dominant nature.
My eyes.
My cleavage.
My piercings.

My favorite books, movies, music, and food Propose an edit

I am a self confessed print media junkie, i feel very unsettled if i am not reading something, which by the way is something you should remember if you start chatting to me, i have a tendency to get caught up with reading something online and forget i am actually chatting to someone =/

Some of my favourite authors are: Tolkien, Sarah Zettel, Traci Harding, Cecilia Dart Thornton, Juliet Maurillier, Cornelia Funke, Kim Wilkins, Matthew Reilly, Mary-Janice Davidson, Tolstoy, and Alexander Pushkin. I also love the works of Emily Dickinson and Edgar Allen Poe. I have, of late, become addicted to these fantastic hot little mills and boonish vampire romance novels by a woman called Mary Janice Davidson.
My other print media love is comics; i have a decent collection of X- Men from the 90's and Top Cow comics of all sorts from that era.

Movies... I could not imagine my life without them, i use them as a life distraction tool more than anything else. I can watch just about anything, but it doesn't mean i will say i liked it at the end. Some of the more memorable ones for me are; The Propostion, Big Fish, The Princess Bride, A Nightmare before Christmas, Edward Scissorhands, A Scanner Darkly, Moolade, Yesterday, Pan's Labyrinth, Transformers, Juno, Chocolat, Into the Wild. I am also a huge Kevin Smith fan.

TV...Buffy Angel, House,Heroes , SG1

Music...Aerosmith, Afi, Ani di Franco, A perfect circle, Fiona Apple, Bauhaus,Black Flag, The Church, Concrete Blonde, The Cure, Nick Cave, The Damned, Depeche Mode, Distillers, Everything but the Girl, Fear Factory, Faith no more, Frenzal Rhomb, Grinderman, guns n roses, Pj harvey, HIM, Nina Hagen, Hole,Iggy Pop, Immaculata, Jebediah, John Butler trio, Kittie, Ben Lee, Marilyn Manson, New Order, OMD, Orgy, October Project, Kristina Olsen, Pearl Jam, Peter Murphy,Pink Floyd,Pixies, Puddle of mudd, Propaganda, Rage against the machine, Red hot chili peppers,Henry Rollins, Rob Zombie ,Seether, Siouxsie and the banshees, Sisters of mercy, Shakespear's sister, Smashing Pumpkins, Soundgarden, Sevendust, Sarah Mclachlan, Type o negative, Tool, The Tea party, Visage, VNV Nation, White zombie .A lot of my musical tastes come from the lyrics, people who speak through song mesmerise me.

Food... I am a fickle foodie, sometimes i love something so much i have it every day for months on end, then for other months i convince myself i don't like something anymore. I love food, I love cooking food. I do however sometimes have a psychological block with food and think i don't like it when i have never tried it.

The six things I could never do without Propose an edit

My kids, my creativity, my strength, the people i love, cats, kink.

I spend a lot of time thinking about Propose an edit

I think...all the fucking time, even my dreams are about things i think about, often they help me solve a problem. The only way i will ever stop thinking , is when they finally give me the lobotomy i have requested.

On a typical Friday night I am Propose an edit

Typical... nah, can't say i do that.

The most private thing I'm willing to admit here Propose an edit

I enjoy some things that others see as taboo.

Also, i don't talk to random strangers about my kids, which is why they are not mentioned much on here. If you are a family kind of guy, then we can discuss them,if and when i feel comfortable enough to do so, otherwise, they are off limits.

You should message me if Propose an edit

You should do whatever the hell it is you want to, because lets be honest, whether you do or not, i still have the power to continue the conversation or ignore it. That is not me be being a facetious bitch, i just find that most people here don't reply if you message them, which i find incredibly rude. On that note, if i do happen to ignore your message, some days i am a little vacant and just plum forget to message you back.

Oh, and I worked as a counselor in a maximum security prison for some time, so if you honestly believe i can't see through your bullshit, you're deluded.

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Kat-o-nine: 233 questions

Ethnicity
White
Height
5' 2" (1.60m).
Looking For
New friends, Long-term dating, Short-term dating, Activity partners, Long-distance penpals
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Cancer and it's fun to think about
Education
Graduated from college/university
Job
Artistic / Musical / Writer
Income
Rather not say
Kids
Has children
Pets
Owns dogs and Owns cats
Languages
English (Fluently)

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