I'm Kat(herine) / Eternal Magdalene. Welcome to my OKCupid profile. Before we begin, some preliminaries...
You may want to sit back with a nice cup of coffee (or two) and relax. Power bars, nutritional supplements, and energy drinks may also be helpful in making it through this novel of a profile - probably one of the longest profiles you'll ever come across. Simply look at the size of the scroll bar...
If you'd like to see something more animated than the what comes through in the profile pics I have posted, you can see some vids of me on YouTube (Channel - TheK6776) (newest one added 10/2/12).
Here's a personal YouTube channel I've started if you want to check it out:
Click here. This is the kind of professional work I do. This will be expanded with more professionally done videos of my work as things continue to develop.
If you want to hear me, here's a sample of what I do in one of my main professions - singing: One of my Soundcloud channels... Enjoy!
Note about my own messaging habits:
I use OKC more as a social networking site than as a dating site. If I message you, it doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or wanting to date you. All it means is that I found something about you interesting, and I felt inspired in that moment to reach out and send you a friendly message.
So with this in mind..... Relax....
No need to over analyze and think too hard about a reply... Just be friendly back and say what you might say naturally to any stranger you meet on the street. Treat it like a chance to network and expand your social circle.
Messages NOT to send me
Because this happens so often, I feel the need to address it up front. I get messages every day, multiple times a day, from guys who say things like:
. "wow, ur beautiful and sexy"
. "hey hotness"
. "Hey Yo Ooooo"
. "I see you like sex (or porn or [fill in the fetish]). *wink* *wink*"
. "Are you into younger guys?"
. "So, how do you feel about us being FWB?"
. "Me and my guy/girl are looking for a third. Interested?"
My Child... These kinds of opening messages usually demonstrate a lack of social awareness and skill. I prefer to spend my time engaging in a higher quality of messaging and connection with people.
Communication is important to me, and I want to go out with people who have developed the art of engaging in fluid conversation and interaction - respectful, interesting. Learn to listen. Learn to share and express. Maturity is key. If you're trying to "pick me up"... that really isn't the right approach.
Take some time to actually read my profile (or at least a chunk of it - I know it's long - consider that a blessing - I don't hide behind false presentations of myself - I Am who I say I Am), and use it as a starting point for an engaging conversation that has some kind of genuineness to it.
I live a full life and have lots of engaging topics, ideas, interests, and skills that I bring with me to an interaction. I like to interact with other people who also bring something substantive to the table.
I'm a giving and supportive person. I like to interact with other giving and supportive people - people who have respect and care for others in their fullness, not just for their beauty and sexual appeal - people who have developed skill in being a giving and supportive person.
Again... Learn to listen. Learn to express. Learn to share.
"People Skills" by Robert Bolton is a useful resource for learning how to do these skills.
And, yes... While I want my primary, mated partner to be in my age range, I'm open to a variety of other forms of relationship with people of all ages and in a variety of configurations.
Can you see I'm a teacher? Showing people how to effectively approach me (as well as most other people on this site)... Most people prefer a well-considered introduction and message from someone who is respectful and can hold an interesting conversation.
Take a moment to fully understand the importance of this in my life.
To manifest awareness, love, healing, rejuvenation, and potent energy to all around me and to inspire and teach others who are interested to do the same, supporting them in their transformation and empowerment
Bottom Line Up Front
I'm polyamorous and pansexual. I have loving relationships with people in a whole variety of ways. There are a number of people in my life with whom I share deep connection and love. If you enter into my life, you'll have to accept that these other people are there and that they are important to me.
One is my amazing friend, business partner, and co-author, o_curious_1. We share space in Valrico. I have a male partner I share mobile space with. I recently moved from Plant City, where I was with _mystic_, whom I met here on OKC back in the fall of 2000. There are a variety of other people in my life who are close to me as well. I love them all dearly.
I'd love to come in contact with one particular person with whom I could engage in a primary, devotional, open, mated relationship. In addition to mating, I'm also open to friendship and partnership. I'm in no rush though. My life is already full of amazing people with whom I share amazing things.
Something you need to know about me... When I meet someone new, I have no relational expectations other than to extend common courtesy to one another. We share coffee, conversation, and perhaps some affection and see what the energy is between us. Over time, we may end up being acquaintances, friends, lovers, primary partners, "secondary" partners, or something else.
Right now, I'm open to new people for new relationships in a variety of forms. My preference is to have relationships that include comfortable, intimate interaction and affection. Energy awareness is an important component of whether or not I'll be mutually affectionate, sensual, and/or sexual with someone. People who have a background in intelligently spiritual and energetic body work practices are most definitely preferred. Ultimately, openness, respectfulness, and maturity are key, no matter what direction the relationship moves in.
My life is already full of such people. I'm open to others if things flow that way.
People and qualities I'm looking for right now
I'm looking for highly intelligent, physically fit, coordinated, sensitive, deeply spiritual, open-minded, open-hearted, caring, and assertively confident people to consciously practice multi-bodied form of tantra with. Body practices that utilize breath control, visualization, and energy movement form the foundation of this practice.
I already have people with whom I work in this area and would like to extend this work with a variety of people, each carrying their own unique energy. I am LGBT-friendly, a community well-known for its sexual awareness. I am interested in further working with people who already have substantive experience in exploring both their sexuality and spirituality.
Eventually, I would like to develop this into a tantric temple practice here in the Tampa area and expand to support other locations as the practice grows. I'm already being asked to travel, guest speak, and demonstrate these practices at a growing diversity of locations.
FYI: Qualities I'm looking for in a primary, devotional relationship
Pst! Hey, you! Yeah... You. Do you have these qualities?
Ѡ You desire to continually evolve yourself as a person and your skills in relationship and in the world
Ѡ You're energetically aware, recognizing that everything is energy (not just from the perspective of physics but also from the perspective of spirit)
Ѡ You have a bright inner light that shines out and blesses all around you
Ѡ You're equally comfortable with the dark, silence, and stillness
Ѡ You actively practice love, appreciation, and gratitude - not only for your mate but for all of Life
Ѡ You desire meaning and commitment in your closest and most important relationships
Ѡ You desire to be healthy, taking care of yourself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (not to be confused with being religious)
Ѡ You have consciously developed your communication skills, especially listening and collaborative skills
Note: A book like People Skills by Robert Bolton is useful in learning how to communicate effectively with people.
Ѡ You have cultivated your primal / wild side, as well as your sophistication and balance
How versatile, adaptable, and multi-faceted are you?
Ѡ You're sexually aware and developed, preferably with knowledge and experience in tantra and BDSM
I'm well-developed in these practices, and I want any new people in my life to be developed as well.
Notes on BDSM: My mate will primarily be the D of D/s. I like to switch though and take the D role role at times. I prefer to be with a mate who can switch roles at times as well.
Notes on tantra: I'm a deeply spiritual person, and sexing is a pinnacle way I practice spirituality. Being with someone who is spiritually developed in their sexuality is important to me. Study energy!
Ѡ You desire to share your life with a mate (healthily attached, secure relationship)
Ѡ You have a sense of purpose and direction in life
Ѡ You have an acute awareness of yourself as a hunter / predator / killer
You could go out and assertively kill your own food and do so with honor and respect for that being killed - plant or animal. You could effectively stand up and defend your space, your home, your family while at the same time respecting the space and autonomy of others.
I'd prefer to be with someone who has working knowledge and skill in protection of self and others, not just a desire to be a protector.
Ѡ You desire a mate who will support, refresh, love, adore, and devote her Self to you, helping you to grow and become the best man you can be
Ѡ You desire to claim a mate - support her, hold her, protect her, provide for her, honor her, adore her, love her, cherish her
Head-of-household / Providership - I want a man who actually wants and even thrives on being a provider for his family, friends, and community. He wants to be the metaphorical hunter who provides food. He wants to be a source of strength for those feeling vulnerable. He wants to be a protector. He wants to invest himself. He embraces responsibility and honor toward himself, his loved ones, and his community. All without losing his sense and strength of independent Self...
Ѡ You desire a feeling of "family" and "home" (where the heart is, not necessarily tied to one place)
Ѡ You can share acceptance and support for me as a mother, acknowledging that my children are an incredibly important part of my life - welcoming them, accepting them, and establishing a healthy rapport and friendship with them
Note: My boys already have an active father in their lives; nevertheless, every young Man can benefit from a number of male Father figures. Please make sure you carry Father energy, taking care of everyone around you as your Children, Lovers, and Others.
Ѡ You enjoy and thrive on conversation and connection
Ѡ You want to reach for your mate and feel her response; you want your mate to reach for you, and you respond in turn
Ѡ You can stand as the eye of the storm when the winds of life around you churn. You don't run away. You don't react. You look. You understand. You respond.
In short, I want my primary mate to be someone who is developed in his manhood. You can read more about that here: The Stifled Man - Definition of Manhood
A recently found gem! Chase, the author of the article, is a worthy messenger to other men.
If you liked that, you may enjoy this gem as well: "The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire" by David Deida
It's far more extensive.
If you have these qualities, you're the kind of person I enjoy having in my life - whether it leads to a mated relationship or not.
Note on mating: To be mates requires a particular energy. That energy has nothing to do with whether you have the qualities I listed or not. It has nothing to do with a person's level of physical beauty. It's a fundamental energy that we either share or we don't.
Also... Make sure to understand what polyamory is about.
Pst! Hey! You!
yeah - The guy who would totally be an awesome match with me... Just so you know... I'm already married to the Divine. I hope you are too. My life service is to something greater than myself, and ultimately, we can't really be a tight couple unless we're both anchored to something greater than our selves and each other.
If you're cool with that, let's see what flows between us. How can we support each other? How can we love and cherish and appreciate and celebrate with each other and raise each other up?
If we're finding ways to do that together and we're thriving, well yeah... Let's make some kind of commitment to this - starting with a year and a day - and see where it goes.
I prefer to have an open relationship rooted in trust, respect, and encouragement. And yes... A devotional relationship can also be an open relationship. I want to date people who already understand this and preferably already have experience with open relationships. I'm happy to teach people about them, but I want to only date people who have already gone through the psychological and inner growth necessary to engage in open relationship healthfully.
I've developed myself in the sexual and relational arts, and I enjoy helping people learn to be better sex partners / lovers and relational partners. If you're a mature, respectful person, have an interest in developing yourself in those areas, and demonstrate qualities of being a good student (good listener, disciplined, desire to learn and expand yourself), feel free to reach out, and we can talk.
If you want a tantric rejuvenation / healing session (or even just a really good massage), you can contact me about that as well.
Learn more about this here:
www.fetlife.com (Profile Name - EternalMagdalene)
Anyone I'm involved with will need to be ok with me doing this kind of work.
Knowing all of this, if you'd like to interact, great! I like meeting people I can flow and synergize with - people who come to an interaction wanting to share themselves with me in some way. Let's share our gifts with each other and see where it goes.
I want the relationships I enter into to form naturally. I've learned the hard way how unhealthy it is to try to make people fit into a relational picture they don't genuinely feel is right for them (or aren't ready for) and therefore don't want to be in. I let the energy that I feel with a person guide me toward the kind of relationship we'll share. I practice finding balance and growing with the people I love. I would hope that the people I'm interacting with would do the same for me.
Relational games and manipulation are nowhere to be found in my relational style. Openness and honesty are standard and expressiveness, in many forms, abounds. This openness, honesty, and expressiveness typically leads to abundant growth.
I have no interest in settling for good in my life. There's so much good available it can be overwhelming. I want great. I want excellence. I want vitality. I want unobstructed realness. I strive to be great at the things that are really important to me. Sometimes I fall flat on my face, but I still get back up on my feet and keep striving, learning the best I can from my mistakes, growing in the process. If you're the kind of person who does the same, it's possible we could match really well.
I'm very open minded, unconventional, and a bit eccentric. OK... maybe REALLY eccentric. So, if you consider yourself to be "normal" or "vanilla" or if you tend to be judgmental, critical, or reserved, we're not as likely to work out. Despite my unconventional ways, I fit in rather well with "normal" folk, and they generally feel very comfortable with me. I'm a bit of a chameleon and can pretty much fit into and be welcomed by any group. I find that thinking and behaving in trustworthy ways opens many doors for me.
I'm a positive, compassionate person, and I like to be around other positive, compassionate people. When people share intimate, supportive energy, it makes a relationship healthy.
I'm looking for companions who bring positive, compassionate energy into my life and are capable of connecting deeply, respectfully, and honestly - even if it is only for a night of fun. It's from my companions and supporters that I'll choose my most intimate partners.
Some words to describe me - intense, passionate, empathetic, compassionate, confident, intelligent, self-aware, expressive, conversational, generous.
I'm very kinesthetic. I'm comfortable with my body, and touching is something that I gravitate toward naturally. When a man can touch me and talk with me and take care of me in a way that let's me relax and be soft and feminine..... <3
Examine Your Motivations
Good character and pure-hearted intent are really important to me. I also have an appreciation for and attraction to deviance. I like people who walk confidently in their own world, yet they also show self-control, fairness, integrity, honesty, respect, service, quality / excellence, potential, growth, patience, nurturance, and encouragement.
Conversation, spiritual and esoteric stuff, music (listening to it, moving to it, and making it), drawing pictures on each other's skin, sharing energy, tantra, martial arts (I do Hapkido - black belt level training), yoga, kayaking, window shopping, documentaries and other non-fiction works, festivals (music, burns, etc.), naturey stuff, crystals, geology, astronomy, astrology, taking motorcycle rides with me on the back, picnics, art, fetish, BDSM play, studying and learning new things, dancing, singing, massage, sensuality / sensory play, taking pictures, modeling for pictures, laser tag, bouncy castles, water slides, skinny dipping (I'm a nudist), candle smelling, cooking, wine tasting, ....
Here are some things I'm interested in but don't necessarily have much experience with:
horseback riding, photography, jet skiing, magic, spelunking, and other stuff that you'd like to introduce me to
What I Don't Care About and What I Wonder
What doesn't matter to me: whether you're outgoing or shy, how much money you have, how many degrees you have, how many things you possess (tangible and intangible), what your job title is, how popular you are. I find that these outward, superficial signs of success don't reliably reflect a person's ability to relate intimately and genuinely. When I hear someone proclaim what they do or what they have as though it's a measure of who they are, I perceive a relational red flag. People who do that tend to have a limited ability to connect significantly with others.
I'm more interested in knowing what you love, fear, get excited about, worry about and struggle with, etc. Do you behave ethically? How genuine are you? Are you creatively dedicated and committed to people and projects in your life? Do you have "fire in your belly," passion, and drive? Do you strive for excellence? Are you humble and respectful (Zen empty cup)? Do you extend trust to others and share yourself, including your vulnerability, with those who prove themselves trustworthy? Do you listen to other people and try to understand them? Do you try to provide for and take care of the people around you?
And on a more relational level.....
Do we enjoy and feel energized by each other's company? Can we talk intelligently together? Can we share intimate and vulnerable things with each other? Can we smile, laugh, cry, and share sorrow with each other? Do we feel safe and taken care of when we're with each other?