Local please: Tampa / Brandon / Plant City

Note of the moment: If you're highly energy aware - you can tune in to people and flow seamlessly with them through touch - contact me. I want to network with people who are highly aware of energy and can play with it through physicality and mental movement.

Let's Begin
You may want to sit back with a nice cup of coffee (or two) and relax. Power bars, nutritional supplements, and energy drinks might also be helpful in making it through this novel of a profile - probably one of the longest profiles you'll ever come across. Just look at the size of that scroll bar!

If you'd like to see something more animated than the static, everyday profile pics I have posted, you can see some vids of me on YouTube (Channel - TheK6776) (newest one added 10/2/12). Nothing spectacular.... but they do offer something more fluid than my pictures do.

Note about my own messaging habits:
I use OKC more as a social networking site than as a dating site. If I message you, it doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or wanting to date you (though it's possible we may end up dating at some point). All it means is that I found something about you interesting, and I felt inspired in that moment to reach out and send you a friendly message.

So with this in mind..... Relax....
No need to over analyze and think too hard about a reply... Just be friendly back and say what you might say naturally to any stranger you meet on the street. Treat it like a chance to network and expand your social circle.

My Mission
To manifest awareness, love, healing, rejuvenation, and potent energy to all around me and to inspire and teach others who are interested to do the same, supporting them in their transformation and empowerment

Bottom Line Up Front
I'm polyamorous. I have loving relationships with people in a whole variety of ways. There are a number of people in my life with whom I share deep connection and love. _mystic_ is an important person in my life. I love him dearly. We've been living together for over two years now. Our relationship is in a regular state of flux. The journey growing and learning with _mystic_ has been potent. Time will tell where our relationship ends up going.

FYI: Qualities I'm looking for in a primary relationship
Ѡ Desires to continually improve himself as a person and his skills in relationship and in the world

Ѡ Energetically aware

Ѡ Desires to be healthy, taking care of himself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (not to be confused with being religious)

Ѡ Has consciously developed his communication skills, especially listening and collaborative skills
Note: A book like People Skills by Robert Bolton is useful in learning how to communicate effectively with people.

Ѡ Sexually aware and developed, preferably with knowledge and experience in tantra and BDSM
Notes on BDSM: I want my partner to primarily be the D of D/s. I can switch though and take the D role if he feels a desire to be in the s role at times.

Notes on tantra: I'm a deeply spiritual person, and sexing is a pinnacle way I practice spirituality. Being with someone who is spiritually developed in their sexuality is important to me.

Also, to be frank... I expect high quality sexing with my partner.
Two examples of what that looks like:
Check out "Asa Akira likes it rough" on KeezMovies.
Also check out "Toni Rivas se folla a Asa Akira" on YouPorn.

If you can find the anal scene between Asa Akira and Manuel Ferrara or the DP scene (with Toni Ribas and Erik Everhard) from Insatiable 1, they are two of the best examples of the kind of sexing I thrive on. For people wanting to have an example of what masterful sexing looks like, check them out. They're very useful educational tools if you choose to use them that way.

I deliver that kind of openness and expressiveness in sexing, as well as a wide variety of other kinds of sexing ("little" dynamics, sacred sexuality, etc.), and I want to be with someone who can deliver that kind of focus, attention, appreciation, tenderness, intensity, creativity, enjoyment, energy, and ecstasy in return.

Clue: What makes for good communications also makes for good sexing skill. Developed listening and expressing skill, non-judgmental acceptance and love, assertiveness, negotiation skills, etc....

I prefer to have an open relationship rooted in trust, respect, and encouragement. I prefer to date people who already have experience with open relationships. I'm happy to teach people about them, but I want to only date people who have already gone through the psychological and inner growth necessary to engage in open relationship healthfully.

Ѡ Desires to share his life with a partner (healthily attached, secure relationship)

Ѡ Has a sense of purpose and direction in life

Ѡ Has an acute awareness of himself as a hunter / predator / killer
You could go out and assertively kill your own food and do so with honor and respect for that being killed. You could effectively stand up and defend your space, your home, your family while at the same time respecting the space and autonomy of others.

Ѡ Desires a helpmate who will support, refresh, love, adore, and devote herself to him, helping him to grow and become the best man he can be

Ѡ Desires to claim a mate / helpmate - support her, hold her, protect her, provide for her, honor her, adore her, love her, cherish her

Ѡ Desires a feeling of "family" and "home" (where the heart is, not necessarily tied to one place - I'd love to travel - more and more as time goes by. I'm currently bound quite a bit by the location of my children.)

Ѡ Acceptance and support for me as a mother, acknowledging that my kids are an incredibly important part of my life - welcoming them, accepting them, and establishing a healthy rapport (and possibly even friendship) with them
Note: My boys already have an active father in their lives. I'm not looking for a replacement father.

Ѡ Enjoys and thrives on conversation and connection

Ѡ Wants to reach for his partner and feel her response; wants his partner to reach for him and he responds to her

In short, I want my primary partner to be someone who is developed in his manhood. You can read more about that here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/culture-lifestyle/118569-stifled-man-definition-manhood.html
A recently found gem!

If you have those qualities, you're the kind of person I enjoy having in my life - whether it leads to a partnered relationship or not.

I like having friends I can share intimacy and physicality with in a whole variety of ways - massage, sensuality, sexuality, open and honest conversations, cuddling. Respectful, caring openness is key.

In addition, see my journal post "Basic Rights in a Relationship" for a bit on what healthy relationships look like.

More about polyamory (<---- click the word / link)

Friends with Benefits
At the moment, I'm open to new friends with benefits in the Brandon / Plant City area. To be clear up front, I'm NOT looking for a new committed, partnered relationship right now, nor am I looking for people to swing with at the moment. I'm open to making new friends I can have great conversations with, have fun with, cuddle with, share support and intimacy with, and engage sexually with in moments when it's right for both of us. Let's meet for coffee or hang out at the park, talk, get to know each other a bit, see what the energy is between us, and go from there - one interaction at a time.

Firm knowledge of safer sex practices, as well as discussion of current STD testing status and sexual history are absolutely required if we add benefits! More on this if we reach a point of fluid protected activity... Absolutely no unprotected fluid exchange activity! That's reserved for people I consciously fluid bond with.

Friends with benefits who can run the gambit from hardcore fucking to highly developed spiritual sexuality are highly valued.

Sapio-sexuals with a developed spirituality and sense of appreciation in their hearts are definitely preferred. Such people are my kindred tribes-people.

I prefer people who are in a living situation where they have the freedom to sex in their own space. I have space, but I prefer that that not be the only space. If you have to keep your activities on the low key with those living around you, we're not as likely to match.

I also prefer people who are physically fit and have the cardio to have some kind of stamina and physical power. I don't expect buff sculpted-ness. That's a nice bonus, but not expected. The combination of general fitness and a winning personality are what I look for.

In terms of D/s dynamics, I prefer my FWB to be either Dom or switch.

*** Important: Read about what "friends with benefits" is NOT in my journal. I've written two journal posts about FWB. Please read them both. ***

Eternal Magdalene
I've developed myself in the sexual and relational arts, and I enjoy helping people learn to be better sex partners / lovers and relational partners. If you're a mature, respectful person, have an interest in developing yourself in those areas, and demonstrate qualities of being a good student (good listener, disciplined, desire to learn and expand yourself), feel free to reach out, and we can talk.

You can learn more about this here:
www.fetlife.com (EternalMagdalene)

So...
Knowing all of this, if you'd like to interact, great! I like meeting people I can flow and synergize with - people who come to an interaction wanting to share themselves with me in some way. Let's share our gifts with each other and see where it goes.

I want the relationships I enter into to form naturally. I've learned the hard way how unhealthy it is to try to make people fit into a relational picture they don't genuinely feel is right for them and therefore don't want to be in. I let the energy that I feel with a person guide me toward the kind of relationship we'll share. I practice finding balance and growing with the people I love. I would hope that the people I'm interacting with would do the same for me.

Relational games and manipulation are nowhere to be found in my relational style. Openness and honesty are standard and expressiveness, in many forms, abounds. This openness, honesty, and expressiveness typically leads to abundant growth.

I have no interest in settling for good in my life. There's so much good available it can be overwhelming. I want great. I want excellence. I want vitality. I want unobstructed realness. I strive to be great at the things that are really important to me. Sometimes I fall flat on my face, but I still get back up on my feet and keep striving, learning the best I can from my mistakes, growing in the process. If you're the kind of person who does the same, it's possible we could match really well.

About Me
I'm very open minded, unconventional, and a bit eccentric. OK... maybe REALLY eccentric. So, if you consider yourself to be "normal" or "vanilla" or if you tend to be judgmental, critical, or reserved, we're not as likely to work out. Despite my unconventional ways, I fit in rather well with "normal" folk, and they generally feel very comfortable with me. I'm a bit of a chameleon and can pretty much fit into and be welcomed by any group. I find that thinking and behaving in trustworthy ways opens many doors for me.

I'm a positive, compassionate person, and I like to be around other positive, compassionate people. When people share intimate, supportive energy, it makes a relationship healthy.

I'm looking for companions who bring positive, compassionate energy into my life and are capable of connecting deeply, respectfully, and honestly - even if it is only for a night of fun. It's from my companions and supporters that I'll choose my most intimate partners.

Some words to describe me - intense, passionate, empathetic, compassionate, confident, intelligent, self-aware, expressive, conversational, generous.

I'm very kinesthetic. I'm comfortable with my body, and touching is something that I gravitate toward naturally. When a man can touch me and talk with me and take care of me in a way that let's me relax and be soft and feminine..... <3

Examine Your Motivations
Good character and pure-hearted intent are really important to me. I also have an appreciation for and attraction to deviance. I like people who walk confidently in their own world, yet they also show self-control, fairness, integrity, honesty, respect, service, quality / excellence, potential, growth, patience, nurturance, and encouragement.

Interests
Conversation, music (listening to it, moving to it, and making it), martial arts (I do Hapkido - black belt level training), yoga, kayaking, window shopping, video games (RPG / adventure-type games - e.g., Elder Scrolls series; current MMOs are World of Warcraft and Runescape), sharing interesting and funny links, documentaries, festivals (music, burns, etc.), naturey stuff, taking motorcycle rides with me on the back, picnics, art, fetish, BDSM play, studying and learning new things, massage, sensuality / sensory play, taking pictures, modeling for pictures, laser tag, bouncy castles, water slides, rock / shell / pine cone / flower / weird stuff collecting, skinny dipping, candle smelling, cooking, wine tasting, drawing pictures on each other's skin, sharing energy, tantra....

Here are some things I'm interested in but don't necessarily have much experience with:
horseback riding, dancing (swing, ballroom, Latin, etc.), photography, jet skiing, shooting, magic, making shadow puppets, parachuting, scuba diving, spelunking, and other stuff that you'd like to introduce me to.

What I Don't Care About and What I Wonder
What doesn't matter to me: whether you're outgoing or shy, how much money you have, how many degrees you have, how many things you possess (tangible and intangible), what your job title is, how popular you are. I find that these outward, superficial signs of success don't reliably reflect a person's ability to relate intimately and genuinely. When I hear someone proclaim what they do or what they have as though it's a measure of who they are, I perceive a relational red flag. People who do that tend to have a limited ability to connect significantly with others.

I'm more interested in knowing what you love, fear, get excited about, worry about and struggle with, etc. Do you behave ethically? How genuine are you? Are you creatively dedicated and committed to people and projects in your life? Do you have "fire in your belly," passion, and drive? Do you strive for excellence? Are you humble and respectful (Zen empty cup)? Do you extend trust to others and share yourself, including your vulnerability, with those who prove themselves trustworthy? Do you listen to other people and try to understand them? Do you try to provide for and take care of the people around you?

And on a more relational level.....
Do we enjoy and feel energized by each other's company? Can we talk intelligently together? Can we share intimate and vulnerable things with each other? Can we smile, laugh, cry, and share sorrow with each other? Do we feel safe and taken care of when we're with each other?

For Women
I'm looking for super-intelligent, quick-witted women friends who like to have spicy adventures. I love having friends who are free-spirited and who I can also cuddle and massage and talk girl talk with.

I'm not lesbian, nor am I bi-sexual. I'm not looking to have a couple relationship with my women friends. I am heteroflexible though and enjoy sexuality with women. Yet, if I write you a message or compliment something that I like about you, please don't think I'm hitting on you for sexiness. I'm not. While I'm open to sexuality with women and enjoy it, it's not my focus. I'll go with the flow if and when it comes up.

The connection I share with a woman is what I share with her. I have a man. Perhaps you have a man (or a woman). My goal in relationship with a woman isn't to make a threesome or foursome. I'm open to that, but it's not the focus of the connection I want. I want to connect with you first, then perhaps your partner and I can consider each other or you and my partner can consider each other.

(Side-note: I put "bisexual" as my orientation so that other women who might be looking for something similar to what I'm open to could find me more easily - fun, extroverted, chatty girly-girl stuff, including sexy stuff, as well as significant stuff, like soul-exposing conversations that last well into the night - not really looking for a romantic, coupled relationship with a woman at this point. There are more forms of care and love than just romance.)

I interact with lots of people. Relationships, especially love-based relationships of all kinds, are fascinating to me. I avidly study them and learn more about myself and others through them. Developing an understanding of why people believe, behave, and relate the way they do is a passion.

I spend a lot of time as a mom. In addition to homeschooling my kids in standard academic subjects, I also spend time actively teaching them many life lessons: how to communicate with people and develop principles to live by (i.e., integrity, honesty, human dignity, service, quality, excellence, etc.). My kids have a father who's active in their lives. I'm not looking for a replacement father. Caring people who can be mentors and role models are always welcome. I want my primary partner to accept my children as family, just as I would accept his children as family (if he has any). :)

Professionally, I work as a musician (vocalist and keyboards) and director. Surprisingly, while I don't subscribe to any particular religion, much of the work I do is in churches. I find great psychological meaning in the stories and teachings of religion, but I don't take the supernatural ideas literally. Hence, I don't consider myself to be religious though I am very spiritual. I look for meaning in the metaphor, and I help others to find meaning in what they read and sing about.

I've written a book on healthy relationships with my best friend. We'll be spending the next year developing our business, branding, and marketing plans, essentially getting our ducks in a row on the business side. We have a plethora of material in addition to our main book. Our focus is on relationships and character / ethical development. I may branch this out into writing on sexuality, energy, and spiritual principles as well. Overall, it's been an enriching journey her and I have shared. Check her out - o_curious_1. She has awesome journal posts that have a very similar tone to our books.

I also enjoy speaking and presenting. I give workshops and presentations on communication skills, relationships, energy, spirituality, and sensuality / sexuality. I also do this work with people privately - counseling and supporting people 1-on-1 or with a couple or very small group.

An interest that I'm passionate about is the use of energy to affect ourselves and others. I use this concept and practice of energy in many ways: relationships, sexuality, body work, martial arts, yoga, dancing, singing, playing piano, and performing. If you're interested in talking about this work, give me a buzz.

Music - making it and moving to it
Performance artistry
Energizing and moving people in different ways
Conversing
Connecting
Doing fun, playful, spontaneous things

That I make them feel comfortable... They often find themselves sharing a lot with me, connecting quickly, easily, and deeply.

People also comment on how they like the way they feel when I touch them.

Books
Books have always been a fundamental part of my life. I typically read books on relationships, self-development, and useful esoteric / spiritual material.

Books that have impacted the way I live my life include:
. Various works by J. Krishnamurti
. "People Skills" by Robert Bolton
. "To Love and Be Loved" by Sam Keen
. "The Art of Loving" by Erich Fromm
. "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey
. "The Speed of Trust" by Stephen Covey (the son)
. "A Woman's Worth" by Marianne Williamson
. "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
. "Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Enjoying Love's Deepest Bliss" by David Deida
. "The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire" by David Deida
. "Women of the Light: The New Sacred Prostitute" edited by Kenneth Ray Stubbs
. "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work" by John Gottman

Intellectually, I've enjoyed
. "How to Read A Book" by Mortimer J. Adler
. Classic and current works in philosophy, psychology, education, politics, and religion
. Many others..... fiction and non-fiction

Books currently on my reading shelf include:
. "First Things First," "The 8th Habit," and "The 3rd Alternative" by Stephen Covey
. "The First & Last Freedom" and "Freedom from the Known" by Jiddu Krishnamurti
. "The Road Less Traveled: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values and Spiritual Growth" by M. Scott Peck
. "The 7 Secrets of Sound Healing" by Jonathan Goldman
. "The Surrendered Wife" by Laura Doyle
. "The Loving Dominant" by John and Libby Warren
. "The Compleat Spanker" by Lady Green
. "A Return to Love" by Marianne Williamson
. "Stranger in a Strange Land" by Robert A. Heinlein
. "Zen in the Martial Arts" by Joe Hyams
. "A Chakra & Kundalini Workbook" by Dr. Jonn Mumford
. "Ecstasy Through Tantra" by Jonn Mumford
. "Tantra for Erotic Empowerment" by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson
. "The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover" by David Deida
. "Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships" by Tristan Taormino
. "Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child" by John Gottman
. "Emotional Genius: Discovering the Deepest Language of the Soul" by Karla McLaren
. "Crystal Healing" by Judy Hall
. "The Magdalen Manuscript" by Tom Kenyon & Judy Sion

Yes, I read a lot of different things, rotating through what's relevant and right to me in any given moment, exposing myself to new perspectives that can help me grow and improve my self / spirit and my skills.

I love to read out loud with people. Wanna cuddle up and read together - alternate passages, me to you, you to me?

Movies
I like many different kinds of movies though I don't watch them (or tv) that often. Here are a few examples:
. Thought provoking, emotive drama like Seven Pounds and The Last Samurai
. Smart, intense thrillers like The Silence of the Lambs
. Romantic drama like The Notebook
. LMAO, goofy comedies like Dumb and Dumber
In general, I enjoy independent film, documentaries, and motivational / self-improvement video.
. TV Shows: Daily Show, Colbert Report, something else my partner enjoys and I get a kick out of but wouldn't necessarily pursue on my own...
. Recently Seen and Recommended: Hysteria, The Fountain, Samsara

Wanna cuddle up and watch something?

Music
Music is a fundamental part of my life. I enjoy a wide variety of music. To me, good music is good music no matter what genre it's in.

Here are some songs I like:
1) Dream Theater - These Walls Eargasmic!
2) Ayreon - Ride the Comet
3) Infected Mushroom - Becoming Insane
YouTube won't give access anymore to the links of this song that I prefer. :( I'm sure you ingenious net pirates (or purchasers of fine musical products) can find better copies of it, including the 7+ minute full version.
4) Creep - or better yet, set this link to stop at 4:30 - the applause ruins it
5) Samuel Barber - Agnus Dei (a choral version of his Adagio for Strings)
6) Paul Halley - Ubi Caritas
7) Gardenian - Small Electric Space
8) Alter Bridge - Blackbird
9) Kamelot - Anthem
10) Shpongle - Divine Moments Of Truth
11) Kaya Project - Ummah Oum
12) S.J. Tucker - Firebirds Child
13) Pokemon Theme Song
Hellz yeah! If you can jam out with me to this, you're the kind of fun I wanna have around!
14) The soundtracks for Oblivion, Skyrim, and Civilization V

I self-identify as a vocalist (actually having a degree in Vocal Performance, as well as engaging in post-Bachelors vocal studies), and I sing just about anything (from opera to art song to grunge to ANYTHING I'm interested in), so music, especially vocal works, is important to me.

I enjoy hearing a combination of artistry, passion, and technique. A well-crafted song is something that I cherish. It's a song in which the words stir my heart and mind and the emotiveness of musical phrasing creates a non-verbal message that expresses pure feeling in a way that words can't.

I'm more likely to have a flash drive with an eclectic mix of indy music than I am to listen to commercial radio, but there are still aspects of "commercial" music that I enjoy, mostly if it has a flare for genuine artistry and commentary (think along the lines of P!nk's "Stupid Girls").

Wanna dance and move together or watch me dance? I'm rather coordinated and would love to have an equally coordinated and energy-aware dance partner.

Food
I enjoy a wide variety of food. Sometimes I enjoy lighter fare like a salad. Other times I enjoy heavier fare like steak and potatoes. I'm adventurous and will try just about anything once. While I have yet to cook ethnically myself, I enjoy trying different restaurants and going to potluck-type events that serve ethnic food.

What I always enjoy and feel great eating are raw foods. It feels like I'm getting a shot of vitality when I eat them. Sometimes I like the simplicity of eating a food in isolation. (Have you ever explored the wide variety of flavors that can be found in apples?) Other times, I like to make complex concoctions with a mingling of flavors. I have an extensive collection of "uncookbooks" that I enjoy exploring. I used to be mega into organics but have mellowed out a bit.

Wanna cook (or "uncook") together?

Love
Connection
Intimacy
Potent sexuality
A creative outlet
Playfulness

what I want in the relationships I share with people; how I want to express myself; which direction I want to go professionally (so many great options!); what I need to have balance in my life; where I want to live and how to get there (rural areas feel like home to me, but I like the social and professional opportunities of larger areas).

socializing. I'm very social and find myself wanting to interact and connect with people in some way, either in person or online, one-on-one or in a group.

Interesting people I hang out with include Bec1031, oEASYLIFEoFTWo, o_curious_1, polyWitch, SexualMagick, and shirak16. I'm very social and find myself wanting to interact and connect with people in some way, either in person or online.

And yes.... I'm even social with myself. I enjoy my own company. :-)

I'll share my deepest vulnerabilities with people I trust. With others, I can be surprisingly open and candid about things that many people would consider taboo but I just take as par for the course in human relations. Take a look at my profile.... :P

1) you're looking for respectful, yet vitally charged connection.

2) you enjoy spontaneous, interactive fun.

3) you see me as a source of networking for various projects and interests - music, writing, presentation, performance, etc. I like to work with people who are competent and skilled at what they do and who like to collaborate and aim for excellence in their creations.

4) you recognize yourself as being an exceptional and highly aware / developed person without your ego getting all bloated. You're simply being honest and humble when you say, "I'm fascinated by people and the world around me. I can learn something from everyone. Yet, I also recognize that I'm just... more, and I want to interact with others who are... more."

I especially enjoy connecting with people who are creative, fun, introspective, and who are great conversationalists.

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YOU SHOULD NOT CONTACT ME IF:
1) you have difficulty dealing with complexity, especially in emotions and relationships.

2) you're specifically looking for a sexual liason. I don't meet anyone I chat with online for the purpose of sex, though some form of sexuality may flow if the connection is right for both of us in a particular moment.