Note of the moment: If you're highly energy aware - you can tune in to people and flow seamlessly with them through touch - contact me. I want to network with people who are highly aware of energy and can play with it through physicality and mental movement.
You may want to sit back with a nice cup of coffee (or two) and relax. Power bars, nutritional supplements, and energy drinks might also be helpful in making it through this novel of a profile - probably one of the longest profiles you'll ever come across. Just look at the size of that scroll bar!
If you'd like to see something more animated than the static, everyday profile pics I have posted, you can see some vids of me on YouTube (Channel - TheK6776) (newest one added 10/2/12). Nothing spectacular.... but they do offer something more fluid than my pictures do.
Note about my own messaging habits:
I use OKC more as a social networking site than as a dating site. If I message you, it doesn't mean I'm hitting on you or wanting to date you (though it's possible we may end up dating at some point). All it means is that I found something about you interesting, and I felt inspired in that moment to reach out and send you a friendly message.
So with this in mind..... Relax....
No need to over analyze and think too hard about a reply... Just be friendly back and say what you might say naturally to any stranger you meet on the street. Treat it like a chance to network and expand your social circle.
To manifest awareness, love, healing, rejuvenation, and potent energy to all around me and to inspire and teach others who are interested to do the same, supporting them in their transformation and empowerment
Bottom Line Up Front
I'm polyamorous. I have loving relationships with people in a whole variety of ways. There are a number of people in my life with whom I share deep connection and love. _mystic_ is an important person in my life. I love him dearly. We've been living together for over two years now. Our relationship is in a regular state of flux. The journey growing and learning with _mystic_ has been potent. Time will tell where our relationship ends up going.
FYI: Qualities I'm looking for in a primary relationship
Ѡ Desires to continually improve himself as a person and his skills in relationship and in the world
Ѡ Energetically aware
Ѡ Desires to be healthy, taking care of himself physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually (not to be confused with being religious)
Ѡ Has consciously developed his communication skills, especially listening and collaborative skills
Note: A book like People Skills by Robert Bolton is useful in learning how to communicate effectively with people.
Ѡ Sexually aware and developed, preferably with knowledge and experience in tantra and BDSM
Notes on BDSM: I want my partner to primarily be the D of D/s. I can switch though and take the D role if he feels a desire to be in the s role at times.
Notes on tantra: I'm a deeply spiritual person, and sexing is a pinnacle way I practice spirituality. Being with someone who is spiritually developed in their sexuality is important to me.
Also, to be frank... I expect high quality sexing with my partner.
Two examples of what that looks like:
Check out "Asa Akira likes it rough" on KeezMovies.
Also check out "Toni Rivas se folla a Asa Akira" on YouPorn.
If you can find the anal scene between Asa Akira and Manuel Ferrara or the DP scene (with Toni Ribas and Erik Everhard) from Insatiable 1, they are two of the best examples of the kind of sexing I thrive on. For people wanting to have an example of what masterful sexing looks like, check them out. They're very useful educational tools if you choose to use them that way.
I deliver that kind of openness and expressiveness in sexing, as well as a wide variety of other kinds of sexing ("little" dynamics, sacred sexuality, etc.), and I want to be with someone who can deliver that kind of focus, attention, appreciation, tenderness, intensity, creativity, enjoyment, energy, and ecstasy in return.
Clue: What makes for good communications also makes for good sexing skill. Developed listening and expressing skill, non-judgmental acceptance and love, assertiveness, negotiation skills, etc....
I prefer to have an open relationship rooted in trust, respect, and encouragement. I prefer to date people who already have experience with open relationships. I'm happy to teach people about them, but I want to only date people who have already gone through the psychological and inner growth necessary to engage in open relationship healthfully.
Ѡ Desires to share his life with a partner (healthily attached, secure relationship)
Ѡ Has a sense of purpose and direction in life
Ѡ Has an acute awareness of himself as a hunter / predator / killer
You could go out and assertively kill your own food and do so with honor and respect for that being killed. You could effectively stand up and defend your space, your home, your family while at the same time respecting the space and autonomy of others.
Ѡ Desires a helpmate who will support, refresh, love, adore, and devote herself to him, helping him to grow and become the best man he can be
Ѡ Desires to claim a mate / helpmate - support her, hold her, protect her, provide for her, honor her, adore her, love her, cherish her
Ѡ Desires a feeling of "family" and "home" (where the heart is, not necessarily tied to one place - I'd love to travel - more and more as time goes by. I'm currently bound quite a bit by the location of my children.)
Ѡ Acceptance and support for me as a mother, acknowledging that my kids are an incredibly important part of my life - welcoming them, accepting them, and establishing a healthy rapport (and possibly even friendship) with them
Note: My boys already have an active father in their lives. I'm not looking for a replacement father.
Ѡ Enjoys and thrives on conversation and connection
Ѡ Wants to reach for his partner and feel her response; wants his partner to reach for him and he responds to her
In short, I want my primary partner to be someone who is developed in his manhood. You can read more about that here: http://www.theattractionforums.com/culture-lifestyle/118569-stifled-man-definition-manhood.html
A recently found gem!
If you have those qualities, you're the kind of person I enjoy having in my life - whether it leads to a partnered relationship or not.
I like having friends I can share intimacy and physicality with in a whole variety of ways - massage, sensuality, sexuality, open and honest conversations, cuddling. Respectful, caring openness is key.
In addition, see my journal post "Basic Rights in a Relationship" for a bit on what healthy relationships look like.
More about polyamory (<---- click the word / link)
Friends with Benefits
At the moment, I'm open to new friends with benefits in the Brandon / Plant City area. To be clear up front, I'm NOT looking for a new committed, partnered relationship right now, nor am I looking for people to swing with at the moment. I'm open to making new friends I can have great conversations with, have fun with, cuddle with, share support and intimacy with, and engage sexually with in moments when it's right for both of us. Let's meet for coffee or hang out at the park, talk, get to know each other a bit, see what the energy is between us, and go from there - one interaction at a time.
Firm knowledge of safer sex practices, as well as discussion of current STD testing status and sexual history are absolutely required if we add benefits! More on this if we reach a point of fluid protected activity... Absolutely no unprotected fluid exchange activity! That's reserved for people I consciously fluid bond with.
Friends with benefits who can run the gambit from hardcore fucking to highly developed spiritual sexuality are highly valued.
Sapio-sexuals with a developed spirituality and sense of appreciation in their hearts are definitely preferred. Such people are my kindred tribes-people.
I prefer people who are in a living situation where they have the freedom to sex in their own space. I have space, but I prefer that that not be the only space. If you have to keep your activities on the low key with those living around you, we're not as likely to match.
I also prefer people who are physically fit and have the cardio to have some kind of stamina and physical power. I don't expect buff sculpted-ness. That's a nice bonus, but not expected. The combination of general fitness and a winning personality are what I look for.
In terms of D/s dynamics, I prefer my FWB to be either Dom or switch.
*** Important: Read about what "friends with benefits" is NOT in my journal. I've written two journal posts about FWB. Please read them both. ***
I've developed myself in the sexual and relational arts, and I enjoy helping people learn to be better sex partners / lovers and relational partners. If you're a mature, respectful person, have an interest in developing yourself in those areas, and demonstrate qualities of being a good student (good listener, disciplined, desire to learn and expand yourself), feel free to reach out, and we can talk.
You can learn more about this here:
Knowing all of this, if you'd like to interact, great! I like meeting people I can flow and synergize with - people who come to an interaction wanting to share themselves with me in some way. Let's share our gifts with each other and see where it goes.
I want the relationships I enter into to form naturally. I've learned the hard way how unhealthy it is to try to make people fit into a relational picture they don't genuinely feel is right for them and therefore don't want to be in. I let the energy that I feel with a person guide me toward the kind of relationship we'll share. I practice finding balance and growing with the people I love. I would hope that the people I'm interacting with would do the same for me.
Relational games and manipulation are nowhere to be found in my relational style. Openness and honesty are standard and expressiveness, in many forms, abounds. This openness, honesty, and expressiveness typically leads to abundant growth.
I have no interest in settling for good in my life. There's so much good available it can be overwhelming. I want great. I want excellence. I want vitality. I want unobstructed realness. I strive to be great at the things that are really important to me. Sometimes I fall flat on my face, but I still get back up on my feet and keep striving, learning the best I can from my mistakes, growing in the process. If you're the kind of person who does the same, it's possible we could match really well.
I'm very open minded, unconventional, and a bit eccentric. OK... maybe REALLY eccentric. So, if you consider yourself to be "normal" or "vanilla" or if you tend to be judgmental, critical, or reserved, we're not as likely to work out. Despite my unconventional ways, I fit in rather well with "normal" folk, and they generally feel very comfortable with me. I'm a bit of a chameleon and can pretty much fit into and be welcomed by any group. I find that thinking and behaving in trustworthy ways opens many doors for me.
I'm a positive, compassionate person, and I like to be around other positive, compassionate people. When people share intimate, supportive energy, it makes a relationship healthy.
I'm looking for companions who bring positive, compassionate energy into my life and are capable of connecting deeply, respectfully, and honestly - even if it is only for a night of fun. It's from my companions and supporters that I'll choose my most intimate partners.
Some words to describe me - intense, passionate, empathetic, compassionate, confident, intelligent, self-aware, expressive, conversational, generous.
I'm very kinesthetic. I'm comfortable with my body, and touching is something that I gravitate toward naturally. When a man can touch me and talk with me and take care of me in a way that let's me relax and be soft and feminine..... <3
Examine Your Motivations
Good character and pure-hearted intent are really important to me. I also have an appreciation for and attraction to deviance. I like people who walk confidently in their own world, yet they also show self-control, fairness, integrity, honesty, respect, service, quality / excellence, potential, growth, patience, nurturance, and encouragement.
Conversation, music (listening to it, moving to it, and making it), martial arts (I do Hapkido - black belt level training), yoga, kayaking, window shopping, video games (RPG / adventure-type games - e.g., Elder Scrolls series; current MMOs are World of Warcraft and Runescape), sharing interesting and funny links, documentaries, festivals (music, burns, etc.), naturey stuff, taking motorcycle rides with me on the back, picnics, art, fetish, BDSM play, studying and learning new things, massage, sensuality / sensory play, taking pictures, modeling for pictures, laser tag, bouncy castles, water slides, rock / shell / pine cone / flower / weird stuff collecting, skinny dipping, candle smelling, cooking, wine tasting, drawing pictures on each other's skin, sharing energy, tantra....
Here are some things I'm interested in but don't necessarily have much experience with:
horseback riding, dancing (swing, ballroom, Latin, etc.), photography, jet skiing, shooting, magic, making shadow puppets, parachuting, scuba diving, spelunking, and other stuff that you'd like to introduce me to.
What I Don't Care About and What I Wonder
What doesn't matter to me: whether you're outgoing or shy, how much money you have, how many degrees you have, how many things you possess (tangible and intangible), what your job title is, how popular you are. I find that these outward, superficial signs of success don't reliably reflect a person's ability to relate intimately and genuinely. When I hear someone proclaim what they do or what they have as though it's a measure of who they are, I perceive a relational red flag. People who do that tend to have a limited ability to connect significantly with others.
I'm more interested in knowing what you love, fear, get excited about, worry about and struggle with, etc. Do you behave ethically? How genuine are you? Are you creatively dedicated and committed to people and projects in your life? Do you have "fire in your belly," passion, and drive? Do you strive for excellence? Are you humble and respectful (Zen empty cup)? Do you extend trust to others and share yourself, including your vulnerability, with those who prove themselves trustworthy? Do you listen to other people and try to understand them? Do you try to provide for and take care of the people around you?
And on a more relational level.....
Do we enjoy and feel energized by each other's company? Can we talk intelligently together? Can we share intimate and vulnerable things with each other? Can we smile, laugh, cry, and share sorrow with each other? Do we feel safe and taken care of when we're with each other?
I'm looking for super-intelligent, quick-witted women friends who like to have spicy adventures. I love having friends who are free-spirited and who I can also cuddle and massage and talk girl talk with.
I'm not lesbian, nor am I bi-sexual. I'm not looking to have a couple relationship with my women friends. I am heteroflexible though and enjoy sexuality with women. Yet, if I write you a message or compliment something that I like about you, please don't think I'm hitting on you for sexiness. I'm not. While I'm open to sexuality with women and enjoy it, it's not my focus. I'll go with the flow if and when it comes up.
The connection I share with a woman is what I share with her. I have a man. Perhaps you have a man (or a woman). My goal in relationship with a woman isn't to make a threesome or foursome. I'm open to that, but it's not the focus of the connection I want. I want to connect with you first, then perhaps your partner and I can consider each other or you and my partner can consider each other.
(Side-note: I put "bisexual" as my orientation so that other women who might be looking for something similar to what I'm open to could find me more easily - fun, extroverted, chatty girly-girl stuff, including sexy stuff, as well as significant stuff, like soul-exposing conversations that last well into the night - not really looking for a romantic, coupled relationship with a woman at this point. There are more forms of care and love than just romance.)