There, that will do.
I guess I might as well get all the regular deal-breakers out of the way; I am bisexual. I am married. We have an open relationship. I am pregnant! (Due Feb 2014)
All my choices have led me to this precise moment and when I take stock of what is going on in and around me- I can't imagine being anything less than pleased. My life is pretty charmed. Sometimes it is a struggle but honestly I think that we grow the least when things are easy. My priorities in life are personal awareness, honesty / full disclosure, and providing as much support and love as possible to the people that support and love me. I love to feed people. I read a lot less than I used to. I like to do things that make people question their stance or bias. I absolutely adore other people that make me question mine. I like to act on my impulses which sometimes makes me look more than a little ridiculous, often in public. I study buddhism (maybe that should be up in the possible deal-breakers?), I engineer social capital, I am an aggressive driver, I have a lot of confidence that I am exactly who I am supposed to be and that I will continue to become the person I am supposed to be. The only perfection is the perfection of every moment. I'm not chasing a dream, I'm living in it.
Wow am I a filthy hippy.
My life might not look anything like you imagine.
Here's the part that probably does- I am at least a little geeky although you might be horrified to hear I have never seen any of the star wars movies, a single episode of star trek, any horror films, or any zombie films apart from Shaun of the Dead and Zombieland. I still play tons of games, although I tend to avoid RPGs and MMOs. We like all the regulars, Settlers, Dominion, Boggle, Scrabble, Backgammon, Cribbage, Canasta, Rock Band, etc. We do a lot of gaming and jumping around playing plastic instruments with our 30something friends. We are unashamed.
I would like to make it clear that my husband and I are deliriously happy with our marriage. We have a house, we spend a lot of time together, we love each other an immeasurable amount. We don't argue. We are a team. We are respectful of one another. Even if they aren't rational, we accept that our feelings are real. We work shit out. We trust one another. We are both committed to assisting one another in the pursuit of the most rewarding and fulfilling lives possible. We were married for 7 years before we decided to open our relationship to see other people. It was strength that led us here, it was not something missing. We are not looking for a triad. He has one other partner he is deeply in love with. My long term boyfriend has just moved across the country and I don't know what that is going to look like in the upcoming months. I regularly have another relationship that is much more about kink than it is about sex.
I love how poly makes it possible to have relationships that develop organically into less prescriptive roles. I can fuck someone I don't love, love someone I don't want to have sex with, and play pinball with my lover's wife on the weekend. I can go out on a date with you and be completely at ease being myself because I don't NEED you to like me. If it turns out you do and I like you too and we decide to spend some of our time together then that is awesome. Needs are inflexible. Wants are flexible. I want LOTS of things but I try hard to not need much.
Ladies, I miss you, what's a girl gotta do to find a chicka that doesn't mind having a girlfriend that has a husband? This isn't that complicated, I swear.
Guys, I have to forewarn you that I have a lot of really amazing men in my life. You are going to have to be spectacularly interesting, intelligent, respectful, charming, and/or witty to keep up. Say hi even if you just want me to check out your profile. No promises I'll say hi back but I will actually check out your profile.
I don't need more friends but I have room for a few and I'm open to the possibility that you are out there waiting to be found- especially if you belong to the NSPP!