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Katamame

35 Seattle, WA Woman

Woman

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 18
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Full figured
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Has a kid, and might want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I have written and erased the first line of this ad ten times already.

There, that will do.

I guess I might as well get all the regular deal-breakers out of the way; I am bisexual. I am married. We have an open relationship. I recently became a MILF (Feb 2014), maybe you'll agree.

All my choices have led me to this precise moment and when I take stock of what is going on in and around me, I probably look smug and self-satisfied for a second. My life is pretty charmed. Sometimes it is hard but I didn't sign up for easy. My priorities in life are personal awareness, honesty / full disclosure, and providing as much support and love as possible to the people that support and love me. I love to feed people. I read a lot less than I used to. I like to do things that make people question their stance or bias. I absolutely adore other people that make me question mine. I like to act on my impulses which sometimes makes me look more than a little ridiculous, often in public. I study buddhism (maybe that should be up in the possible deal-breakers?), I engineer social capital, I am an aggressive driver, I have a lot of confidence that I am exactly who I am supposed to be and that I will continue to become the person I am supposed to be. The only perfection is the perfection of every moment. I'm not chasing a dream, I'm living in it.

Wow am I a filthy hippy.

My life might not look anything like you imagine.

Here's the part that probably does- I am at least a little geeky although you might be horrified to hear I have never seen any of the star wars movies, a single episode of star trek, any horror films, or any zombie films apart from Shaun of the Dead and Zombieland. I still play tons of games, although I tend to avoid RPGs and MMOs. We like all the regulars, Settlers, Dominion, Boggle, Scrabble, Backgammon, Cribbage, Canasta, Rock Band, etc. We do a lot of gaming and jumping around playing plastic instruments with our 30something friends. We are unashamed.

I would like to make it clear that my husband and I are deliriously happy with our marriage. We have a daughter, a house, and we spend a lot of time together. We don't fight dirty. We are a team. We are respectful of one another. Even if they aren't rational, we accept that our feelings are real. We work shit out. We trust one another. We are both committed to assisting one another in the pursuit of the most rewarding and fulfilling lives possible. We were married for 7 years before we decided to open our relationship to see other people. It was strength that led us here, it was not something missing. We are not looking for a triad. He has one other partner he is deeply in love with. My long term boyfriend has just moved across the country and I don't know what that is going to look like in the upcoming months. I regularly have another relationship that is much more about kink than it is about sex.

I love how poly makes it possible to have relationships that develop organically into less prescriptive roles. I can fuck someone I don't love, love someone I don't want to have sex with, and play pinball with my lover's wife on the weekend. I can go out on a date with you and be completely at ease being myself because I don't NEED you to like me. If it turns out you do and I like you too and we decide to spend some of our time together then that is awesome. Needs are inflexible. Wants are flexible. I want LOTS of things but I try hard to not need much.

Ladies, I miss you, what's a girl gotta do to find a chicka that doesn't mind having a girlfriend that has a husband? This isn't that complicated, I swear.

Guys, I have to forewarn you that I have a lot of really amazing men in my life. You are going to have to be spectacularly interesting, intelligent, respectful, charming, and/or witty to keep up. Say hi even if you just want me to check out your profile. No promises I'll say hi back but I will actually check out your profile.

I don't need more friends but I have room for a few and I'm open to the possibility that you are out there waiting to be found- especially if you belong to the NSPP!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am making the best choices I can in every moment of every day and trying hard to have zero expectations.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, finding the funny, letting thoughts fall out of my mouth before filtering them, winning at tetris, surrounding myself with attractive and intelligent people, saying obnoxiously meaningless things, parallel parking, stealing good (truthful) lines from other people's profiles, saying obnoxiously profound things, taking responsibility for my actions, asking for what I want without expectations, giving only what I can give freely and without resentment, singing karaoke (especially when I'm wearing a disguise).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Probably that I am a carbon based being alive on this planet at the same time that they are.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
At the moment I'm listening to a LOT of LCD Soundsystem and Radiohead. Also in the mix presently; Arcade Fire, Ben Folds, Roots Manuva, The White Stripes, Fiona Apple, Cake, Soul Coughing, Tom Waits, Mr Bungle, Eric Clapton, Beck, and Daft Punk.

I don't know what to say about tv, we have a complicated relationship. I don't have cable, I stream stuff like Louie, 30 Rock and Six Feet. Under. We tend to pick one show and work our way through the seasons. The Sopranos, The Wire, Treme, Dead Like Me, Weeds, Dexter, Breaking Bad, Mad Men...

I have moderate face-blindness (prosopagnosia) so movies are usually just a lot of me leaning over and saying "Have we seen her already? Which one is that guy? Is he the one with meg ryan? Nobody in this movie looks like Meg Ryan??" I would probably recognize the following actors in a movie because I make a point of seeing everything they make: John C Reilly, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Philip Seymour Hoffman (RIP), William H Macy, and James Spader. Could you guess how much I loved the movie Secretary? The Cooler was also great. More movies I love include: Intacto, Momento, Fight Club, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, I heart Huckabees, Amelie, Scotland PA, Pulp Fiction, Lars and the Real Girl, The Triplets of Belleville, Snatch, Lock Stock and Two Smoking Barrels, Mary and Max... wow, this list is getting long. I think you probably get the idea.

Radiolab and This American Life are regular features of my downtime.

Books are wonderful, somehow they have slipped by the wayside recently. I have a lot of OLD favorites but very little by way of current favorites. I like McSweeny's and pretty much everything Dave Eggers has put out besides "And you shall know our velocity". I will admit to having loved the time traveler's wife; however, I refuse to see the movie. David Sedaris, Oliver Sacks, Wally Lamb, and Christopher Moore all spring to mind.. I'm sure I'm missing some authors. Right now I have several books partially read including: The Joy of Living, Hardcore Zen, Blink, The Phantom Tollbooth, The Mind's Eye, Sex at Dawn, and A Wrinkle in Time... I should probably be spending more time reading books and less time consuming online materials.

Food? Don't get me started about food. I will happily spend eight hours making french pastry, cassoulet with duck confit, or a traditional italian grandmother's ragu with five different kinds of meat stewing all day in it. My friends get lavish birthday cakes. Cooking soothes my rough spots. Getting the skin of a roasted chicken perfectly crisp without drying the breast meat is one of the most satisfying feelings I know.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My nuclear family, an excellent set of speakers, people that make me think, a good hard spanking every once in awhile, an abstract appreciation of counting, cherry coke zero, and my kitchen.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
M-theory. Somewhere in the confluence of Buddhism, polyamory, hallucinogenic drug use, and physics I think I found the meaning of life and I just can't quite express it or access it fully so I'm kind of obsessed with poking at it. Also- DMT.

I'm so on to you, universe. I will figure you out just in time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If I'm not home with the baby I have probably been let loose to roam the streets of Seattle looking for a good time. This has played out a number of ways.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Who has two thumbs and zero need for privacy? This girl!

SpankGirl on FetLife

I have bipolar disorder and I don't use it as an excuse to be a crazy asshole.
You should message me if
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You got this far, you like something you saw, you think I have something to bring to your life, and you truly believe you have something valuable to bring to mine. There are a lot of people out there just talking to hear themselves and I'm sure some people think that about me but I am drunk on communication and anyone that can stand toe to toe with me in a conversation is a person I want to know and listen to.

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