34 Toronto, Ontario, CA
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My self-summary
Welcome to my profile. Plunk yourself down in a comfy armchair and pour yourself a cup of tea. :)

I'm in a committed relationship, and recently my partner and I have been starting to explore polyamory. I am really excited by the idea of building meaningful new emotional and physical connections with people.

I really like the way that polyamory (for me, at least) rejects a scarcity mentality of love in favour of a more generous view.

I'm a teacher by trade and a lover of learning. I was born and raised in Toronto, and though I recognize it definitely has its share of problems, I'm really fond of my hometown.

I'm caring and creative, and I'm conscientious to the point of self-parody (though this is often mitigated by my absent-mindedness and my powers of procrastination).

I like to be silly and I love to cuddle.

My personality is generally very sweet - but my wit can be acerbic. There is more to me than meets the eye.

An exuberant idealist (though not without my realistic and even cynical side), I'm a big proponent of such things as restorative justice; transformative education; sustainable development;equity and justice for all genders and sexual orientations, for aboriginal people, for all people of colour, for everyone who has been marginalized; empowerment, and community. And while it's easy to pay lip service to these things, I'm making efforts to step up and take action toward them.
What I’m doing with my life
Supply teaching, volunteering, trying to improve my French, adoring my partner and our 5 pet rats, singing in a choir, and playing in a community samba percussion band.

When I have the chance and the energy, I enjoy things like playing with words (and occasionally tormenting them), perceiving symmetry, exploring (neighbourhoods, hiking trails and ideas), dancing (when I can manage my third left foot and my at-times-excruciating shyness about dancing), reading, conversing about ideas and experiences, live music, live theatre, writing, snarking, cycling, singing, travelling, drawing, and surprising myself and others.
I’m really good at
A friend has this to say about me:

"You are a great communicator and always put clear and compassionate communication first, despite whatever emotions you might be feeling, and this enables you to deal with conflict constructively, and in a way that strengthens your relationships."

(The above is not always true, what with me being human, but I do strive hard for open, respectful lines of communication)

I'm also really good at:

being bashful at times and audacious at others
writing, I like to think
doing the Thriller dance
overthinking things!!
seeing the best in people
seeing multiple perspectives in almost any situation
...and above all else, procrastinating!
The first things people usually notice about me
My penchant for puns, perhaps. And, sometimes, my shyness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
A sampling:

a) Come, Thou Tortoise; The Name of the Wind; The Poisonwood Bible

b) Little Miss Sunshine, The Wrong Trousers, Incendies

d) J.S. Bach, Kings of Convenience, Vienna Teng, The Weakerthans

e) coffee milkshakes, crepes, fresh pineapple, chocolate, hazelnuts, cheese curds, curries made with coconut milk
The six things I could never do without
1. Close connections with people
2. Insulin
3. 4-part vocal harmony
4. A balance between solitude and socializing
5. The Toronto Public Library
6. The combination of my warm bed and cold winter nights
7. My mischievousness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
teaching, peaceful political movements, love, language, ideology, how to live out my ideals, polyamory, feminism, power relations, politics, race relations, First Nations, Metis, and Inuit experiences, intersectionality, science, and the complexity of...everything!

the hopefulness that the concept of neuroplasticity inspires

whether my love of alliteration is more embarrassing or endearing to encounter
On a typical Friday night I am
at home, recovering from the week. Or walking around the city, exploring different neighbourhoods (though that is more something I spend a lot of time thinking about).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I can be extremely shy and awkward, and hard on myself.

Also, one of my dreams is to be part of an intentional community where people share their hopes and dreams as well as their possessions, grow their own food, eat together, and spontaneously break into song. It would be even better if everyone in the community lived in a network of interconnected tree houses, kind of like in the Dinotopia picture book or the Ewok village in Return of the Jedi!
You should message me if
you value kindness, respect, openness and generosity of spirit

you want to help me get over my tendency to hibernate at home by exploring the city with me

you think we might make excellent friends

you want to share in one of my interests, or introduce me to one of yours

you are involved with social justice somehow and want to tell me about it (thereby earning my admiration)

you want to see if there's an in-person attraction

you're OK with the fact that I might not respond if it doesn't seem like we have a lot to offer each other

you are willing to write a more substantial message than "Hi, how's your weekend going?"

Also, if any - or all! - of the below resonate:

you can understand why I love this

you live your life - or would like to live your life - in the spirit of this song, as well as this one