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32 Cleveland, OH Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Man, Non-binary, Two Spirit

Genderfluid, Genderqueer, Man, Non-binary, Two Spirit

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–37
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 24
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly halal
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Okay), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
First, I am not your practice guy. No half-hearted minor league players, please. Plan on being offered a place on the team (of two) after tryouts are completed. (I admit: I never watch sports. I know the differences between them, and I know some of the teams. That's about it. Shocking, I know, but at least you'll never have to compete for my attention with a sports game.)

You (check all that apply): Feminist, spiritual/philosophical, positive (unless we're talking STIs), sweet, compassionate, considerate, listening/patient, available physically, available emotionally, over 25 and below 50, likes male parts and the people to whom they are attached, understands & appreciates genderfluidity, accepting of mild Aspergers syndrome, know how to clean up & nicely dress self, financially secure/sustainable or employed consistently, open-minded, have a higher education, are a slow & giving/sharing lover, and finally, your values regarding food, alcohol, drugs, and tobacco match my own.

Me: funny, creative, romantic, eccentric, eclectic & electric. I've been eating very healthily for years: lots of veggies, reasonable portions, little or no snacking, no pork (and then making healthy choices). So far, it's working.
I'm liberal, leaning socialist, very pro-BGLT rights, and a feminist.
They don't have an option for Unitarian Universalism, even though it's ~4th largest religion in the country!

On a final note for now, if you want to know what I prefer in a sexual partner, it's clear consent (i.e. verbal or a nod): no guessing games.
You can always initiate, of course, and I try to give/seek consent consistently. In terms of other things, watch this, and see how you feel:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In Cleveland Heights, living my life, and helping the community and my family & friends where I can.
At present, I am starting studies for my teaching license, and looking at media development for a local nonprofit.

Do me a favor and watch this youtube video below, and then, before we continue, you can see which of these two sounds more like you: (Warning, it's funny, but loud.)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
All kinds of things, friends and loved ones bring out your talents and creativities, so you may bring something good out of me.

Being honest, and doing the right thing. Some folks try to cloud the issues with matters of unspoken/unwritten laws, but ethos isn't about exclusiveness or ambivalence. There are gray areas, but when it comes to the law, it's our responsibility to observe that.

I got a health exam, and my heart and lungs are healthy, and even my eyesight is better than 20/20. Thank heaven for small favors.

Also, I used to have a Lulu profile, and I took it down, because it made me uncomfortable. But the three top things that I got for ratings from people who knew me were: skinlikebutter, sexmoves, and gooddriver. Take that however you want.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, hair, smile, broad shoulders, barrel chest, strong jaw, intelligence, sense of humor, height, strength.

I'm very laid back and gentle, and try to be so especially with children, animals, the elderly, and of course women. I have even managed to keep my head when threatened. One friend described me as Ferdinand the Bull.

Some women seem to really want a guy who has it all together, even if she doesn't. I do my best. There are some things that are out of your control. So yeah, I'm also not a big control freak.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: autobiographies, novels, texts
Movies: comedies, scifi, action, drama, animated, fantasy, romance, romcom/chickflick
Music: a lot of older stuff, some newer stuff; I get picky about music I choose to listen to. I'll say it right now: reggae triggers flashbacks to bad times. I can't listen to it: not now, probably not ever.
Food: No pork, certain beans, lots of veggies, whole grains & lean protein. I like Italian, Indian, German, American, French, Slavic, and the pacific Asian styles of cuisine, including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, and Vietnamese. Also, I prefer to dine in for so many reasons, and I can cook a lot of different styles of cuisine.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Love, companionship & affection
2. Music/movies/books & other stimulation
3. Good food & things to drink & clean water
4. Liberty/freedom, #socialjustice
5. Security/comfort
6. Communication/language

While I'm making lists, let's talk about turn offs:
- Try not to make all your pics selfies of you that are basically the same. Think: angles, lighting, outfits (casual vs formal vs work?). Showcase yourself.
- Don't bother to make a duck-face, or have a down-cleavage shot. The duck face does nothing for anyone, and I don't need to see that you have boobs.
- Also, don't make your pics all with friends, because I then have to decide which person looks the most alike in all these different pictures. Suddenly, I'm picking a face out of a lineup. Either say which one you are in each, or have one of just you. It just makes it easier. And if the person in the picture is a kid who is not your child, specify. A lot of people specify, and it helps to know "Is the person with whom I'm communicating a divorcee, a family friend to someone with kids, etc."

Please don't take any of these as judgments of you or your profile.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Puns, ethics, balance, some deep stuff, life's pleasures, how thrilling a smart, sensible, attractive young woman is; the way women and men have been turned into some strange idea in postmodern society.

I don't date around or sleep around, and it's never about "conquests" like with some of those "players" who feel that kind of thing is enough. When you're nothing but a player, you're playing to lose.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
doing what I do other nights.

I'll take this portion of your time to talk a bit about first dates. I cannot promise that a first date will be magical. You have to help make that happen. But first dates are rarely that magical, because it's a first date. I think that it takes a few dates & some phone conversations to find the magic.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I wear kilts. I have great legs, as guys go, from a lot of walking and hiking, so you shouldn't mind. I wear pants more often in colder weather.

I'm also a very musical guy. I sing, play guitar, and have studied piano, drums, trombone, and I noodle around with a harmonica, a bamboo flute, and an ukulele.

I have a weird thing for girls with short hair, when they can pull it off. It's not something I'll reject a girl over, just something I think looks attractive. I also like girls with long, flowing hair, when it works for them. It's none of my business how you keep your hair, because everything that I need is usually just under the hair, in the wonderful mind. I love a rich and exciting mind.

If I write you, recognize that it is a bold gesture on my part. I am not real big on overtly seducing someone. Everyone says stuff like "friends first," and that's what I go for.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Just write me.
Seriously, if you write me a crank email, you'll just get reported. But if you tell me about yourself, and respond to even a mere handful of the points above, then we'll be off to a great start.
If you're no longer interested, you can always tell me. I don't like to hold grudges about something as simple as that: it's important to me that I try to not be too clingy nor too distant.

I like people who have their own identities, and don't let mainstream society dictate who they are and how they do things.

I will befriend/date genderqueer and trans folks.