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64 Berkeley, CA Man


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  • Ages 40–58
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My Details

Last Online
Jan 24
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Other, and laughing about it
Pisces, and it matters a lot
Dropped out of masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), C++ (Fluently), Norwegian (Poorly), Yiddish (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm exploring the emotional world, now taking on life from that perspective, using instinct and gut to make choices (over reason and "deciding"). I'm also pursuing a career as workshop leader in the areas of intimacy and sensuality (distinct from sexuality), while keeping my software business humming (an old Unix guru, custom web database design (Drupal), Customer support systems). Update Jan'15: have taken a full time position in SF as a Sr Software Engineer, although I still do support my existing customers.

Polyamory, Landmark Education, Heart of Now, Naka-Ima, Network For a New CultureNFNC NVC, HAI, Intentional Community, Peak States, Hawaii(big island), Burningman, Infinite Games, Peak States

In 2008 I became a member of the OneTaste community in San Francisco with my partner, although we now live in Berkeley and travel the West Coast a lot. We've done the BayNVC Leadership Program ('11). We now create and help lead Infinite Games workshops and week-long immersion camps for adults in Oregon and Hawai'i. Update Jan'15: she has another lover now, although we are still connected.

Unix PHP MySQL mobile computing

I am sensual, sensitive, and romantic. My love language is touch.
What I’m doing with my life
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"From Seeker to Finder",
Loving More,
Being an advocate for polyamory, deep personal exploring.
Producing transformational camps with NFNC in Oregon and Hawaii, smaller groups in the East Bay (San Francisco). Lately, I've added creating and helping present Infinite Games Camp (with NFNC).
All while creating Wealth. Also Chief Technology Architect for, the leading foodservice social media company. Update Jan'15: now in SF doing software dev.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm masterful in the physical world--how stuff works--and fixing things. Anticipating breakdowns and acting before they happen, or having scenarios to minimize the effects.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm present and outgoing, interested in connecting and exploring, an optimist. A bit silly at times, and yet know when to be appropriate (usually). Very passionate about the loves in my life. I'm smart and capable of fixing most anything. Deeply curious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fiction: Dan Brown, Vince Flynn, J.K. Rowlings, old John Grisham
Other: James Redfield, Dan Millman, plenty of others.
Currently reading: The Wisdom of Love, talks with David Waldman, Finite and Infinite Games by James P. Carse.
Movies: Celestine Prophecy, "What the @#$% Do We Know...","The Secret", good adventure movies, ones that leave me uplifted. No horror, no violence.
Music: all over the place here, from light jazz, classical, to current rap. I stay away from country, noise, and "kill da sucka" stuff.
Foods: LOVE food... like to cook. I've eaten just about everything; generally lean strongly toward vegetarian, but love salmon. Good wine, very good beer... eating off the land in Hawaii (avos and papaya and mangos) or gourmet feasting... it all works.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Intimacy, Love & Passion;
My PDA, and lots of PDA;
Sunny Hawaiian nude beaches;
Tools (Leatherman, Swiss Army knife);
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My connection to others, being of service, developing myself, exploring life, experiencing experiences, loving more, making a difference, peace around me, the Universe works!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
MY answer used to be watching Stargate SG1 on TV (back when it was on, although I don't watch much tv), as I'm attracted to positive future conversations. I don't have a schedule, so one night is the same (or different) than another. Weeknights I'm often at some techie Meetup in the City (SF), or out with friends. Weekends of late I'm traveling: the Northwest, Hawaii, Mexico for quickie jaunts. Spent August-December traveling around the US.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'll talk about anything, I invite you to, too. I want to know about the Universe and the critters in it. What makes them tick? How do they tick differently than me? What can I learn from that? How can I expand my own curiosity and understanding?
You should message me if
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... you're curious, too. You're open to exploring rather intensely. I'm not a casual ride, as I bond very quickly, and never exclusively... meaning there are loves in my life that, although we are complete with our physical connection, will always be deep in my heart. I strongly believe in and practice adding love, not substituting it.

I want a Primary... someone who's companion, coach (telling me your truth to support my ongoing growth), and cheerleader (loving encouragement to work through my challenges as they arise)... and accepts that gift from me to you. I am an adventure in paradigm breaking!

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