I recently completed a workshop that changed my views on much of who I am and how I want to be in the world... giving me a new access to authenticity... so much so that I need to start this profile over again. The "missing" here is spelling out specifically what I want, and what I offer: let you do the initial filtering for whether we might be a fit or not. There is no scarcity.
I'm actively pursuing a Life Partner:
"Partnership begins with the willingness to contribute to someone getting their needs met." It's been missing for a couple years and I'm done with suffering from unfulfilled expectations.
First the who I am: Present and accepting, Optimistic, and Sensual (a diehard romantic actually). I offer deep quick lasting connection. If the chemistry is there, I hold nothing back and am in relationship for a good long time (decades). I embrace my former relationships, we have redefined our connections' outward appearances, but are never out of each other's hearts (that's both a blessing and a warning). So, if you and I do connect, you'll at least end up with a life-long friend, willing contributor and supporter; it's one of the reasons I say I'm poly. If that's not what you want or can handle, thanks for reading this far.
I understand holding space, and I embrace my "fixer," and know there's a time and place for both. Sensuality and sexuality are an important part of a deep connection and I need both. I say I'm coincidentally monogamous, but strongly own my poly side, not expecting any one person to fulfill my every need all the time, including the occasional lusty experience that may come my (or your or our) way. Compersion, Communication and safer-sex are important to me.
I offer a desire to be of service and be a great companion, to enjoy life from an optimistic perspective: The Universe Works is my mantra and I live from that space. I'm as happy traveling and exploring as I am lounging on a nude beach in Hawaii for a week or two. I love building and fixing things, from the broken light switch to re-keying the house, to designing the motorhome barn/studio/shop -- not much stops me. I collect tools: the physical kind, software kind, and self-improvement kind.
In my perfect world, we'd have enough economic where-with-all to not work for money's sake, but rather spend our time pursuing our passions for making the world a better place by touching other peoples' hearts; and our prosperity would flow from that work (on the way there, I'm a senior software developer). I live from the concept of life as an Infinite Game, where it's more important to keep the game alive with all players playing, than have winners and losers. Where risk and surprise are embraced because no one is out to make anyone lose. Where duality doesn't run the game.
A word of caution... I'm still feeling a recent Aires experience, and so if you are one you'll have to be pretty amazingly Piscean with some Cancer to get past my resistances. :)
I saw this in another OkC profile and loved it, even sharing it on my FB page: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes. Reread it today, and again felt inspired by it, so adding it now to this profile.
From a couple years ago...
I'm exploring the emotional world, now taking on life from that perspective, using instinct and gut to make choices (over reason and "deciding"). I'm also pursuing a career as workshop leader in the areas of intimacy and sensuality (distinct from sexuality), while keeping my software business humming (an old Unix guru, custom web database design (Drupal), Customer support systems). Update Jan'15: have taken a full time position in SF as a Sr Software Engineer, although I still do support my existing customers.
Polyamory, Landmark Education, Heart of Now, Naka-Ima, Network For a New CultureNFNC NVC, HAI, Intentional Community, Peak States, Hawaii(big island), Burningman, Infinite Games, PAX Workshops
In 2008 I became a member of the OneTaste community in San Francisco with my partner, although we now live in Berkeley and travel the West Coast a lot. We've done the BayNVC Leadership Program ('11). I now create and help lead Infinite Games workshops and week-long immersion camps for adults in Oregon and Hawai'i. Update Jan'15: we've separated, although we still share some activities.
It's time to redraft this Profile... be extra-specific about what I'm looking for and what I offer in a permanent relationship.
My love language is touch.