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Last online
Nov 2, 2013
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from university
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On some dry temperate nights, those when I don't make it off the ground, I am privileged to sit alfresco in a chair at a table, sometimes in front of a garden or grove, while slowly imbibing Hyson Lucky Dragon or Gyokuro teas, varieties of green tea, under the soft, qool, ambient light of a moon that is made of blue cheese, and at those times, I am thankful that all of that blue cheese is way up there on the moon, because, while a little bit of blue cheese can, sometimes, be a good thing, a lot of blue cheese tends to lend a foul pungency to the air, i.e. to raise quite a stink.

Question Mark and the Mysterions: Question Mark and the Mysterions were a 60's, British, mod rock group, similar, but not equal, to Mott the Hoople; their biggest hit was a song called "96 Tears." There is some old footage of the band floating around, mostly on PBS stations-- the lead singer, who ably enacted the persona of Question Mark, was, what one might call, a renowned weirdo-- he was one of the original drag queens, or, one might say, drama queens: he looked sort of like a crossdressed version of Mick Jagger, after having been additionally crossed with Keith Richards or Steven Tyler. I, on the other hand, am absolutely nothing like Question Mark, but, I do have one thing in common with him, if but only one-- my diffidence in regard to answering this question. During the 2012 US Presidential election, we were introduced to a new term, describing a newly recognized medical condition, Romnesia; I would like to introduce, yet, another such condition-- netnesia, which describes those of us who tend to lose our way on the internet, and, therefore, can not remember who we are. Tomorrow, I may very well remember who I am; today, however, I am a porpoise without purpose, a dolphin plagued by deafness, a shrunken head in a quiet village on some remote Pacific island, just one item in the collection of some long-forgotten tribe. Thus, a conundrum even Holmes, Poirot or Columbo couldn't solve, and, anyway, does it matter?

Hear ye, hear ye, I say ye to those, who might care to hear, might I, rather, interest you, if I could, in a rose garden, and a primrose pathway-- or, was that an overgrown eyesore, and a brimstone pathway? Can't quite seem to remember...

Editorial note:
Answer a few of the match questions, and next thing you know in the Personality section okcupid labels you "less spiritual." Well, I zealously protest. I'm a pantheist, of sorts. Just because I don't believe in stuff like magic mirrors, magic flying carpets, pixie dust, witches, warlocks, elves, faeries, astral projection, alternate realities, alternate planes of existence, reincarnation, vision quests, extrasensory perception, and telekinesis, that does not de facto mean that I do not imagine that that stuff is true-- and real. And, not only that, but, did I mention, that I do believe in the Easter Bunny. Not to mention, moreover, the Birdman of Easter Island.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I make miniature umbrellas for mixed drinks-- not the kind that keep you dry, the kind that decorate your drinks, but, silly as that may seem, some people do find them particularly useful with dry martinis: yes, I know, the stamp on the umbrellas says made in China, but that's what they want you to think. Before that, you could find me hoeing long roads-- up until my, antiquated, and, rather meticulously corroded, switchgear totally short-circuited. And, previous to that, my line was demolishing condemned buildings with an ichabod crane.

Aspirations encompassing art, writing, architecture, civil rights and human rights law, some academic research here and there; hoping, to that end, to soon launch an internet start-up, which I am hopeful might be profitable enough to fund my aspirations in art, writing, architecture, civil rights and human rights law, and research.

Perhaps my greatest aspiration, pertaining to those above, is to try to gain mastery over the art of New Orleans Voodoo, so that I might turn bogey-men into straw men, and repurpose them as pin cushions.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Identifying life on the planet Neptune, classifying it, and placing it into an appropriate taxonomic family, i.e. kingdom, phylum, genus, and species. I confess that I do not believe that there is any life on the planet Neptune, but, if there were, I would be really good at identifying it, classifying it, and placing it into an appropriate taxonomic family.

(To that end, I am secretly taking a course in Neptune exobiology, which includes extensive training in the theoretical taxonomy that one might apply on Neptune.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Depends, on whether they perceive me as the invisible, visible man-- or, the visible, invisible man.

I'm the man in Tijuana, who sells Cuban cigars to tourists. All the while, simultaneously, selling sombreros, and tequila, to tourists on the streets of Havana.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.

I'm on a third grade reading level, so, if you are seeking informed recommendations for more advanced readers, you may be better advised to look elsewhere, but, that said, I'll go ahead, anyways, and I'll give it the ol' schoolboy try--

"How the Grinch Stole Christmas" (1957)
"Oh, the Places You'll Go" (1990)
"Green Eggs and Ham" (1960)
"The Cat in the Hat" (1957)
"Puss 'n Boots" (1697 French, 1729 English)
"The Tale of Peter Rabbit" (1902)
"The Three Little Pigs" (<1890)
"The Three Little Wolves and the Big Bad Pig" (1993)
"James and the Giant Peach" (1961)
"Where the Wild Things Are" (1963)
"The Gruffalo" (1999)
"Charlotte's Webb" (1952)
"Tikki Tikki Tembo" (1968)
"The Story of Babar" (1931)
"Winnie-the-Pooh" (1926)
"The Little Engine that Could" (1930)

On the other hand, my appreciation of movies, television, and music may be slightly more refined:


"Boyz 'n the Hood" (1991)
"Breakfast at Tiffany's" (1961)
"How to Marry a Millionaire" (1953)
"Guess Who's coming to Dinner" (1967)
"The Talk of The Town" (1942)
"Dinner at Eight" (1933)
"8 and 1/2" (Italian) (1963)
"Hombre" (1967)
"Our Man Flint" (1966)
"The Third Man" (1949)
"The Professionals" (1966)
"Designing Woman" (1957)
"To Have and Have Not" (1944)
"The Towering Inferno" (1974)
"The Devil's Disciple" (1959)
"Hell in the Pacific" (1968)
"Beat the Devil" (1953)
"The Big Sleep" (1946)
"The Big Heat" (1953)
"The Big Chill" (1983)
"Straw Dogs" (1971)
"Sexy Beast" (2000)
"Diabolique" (French) (1955)
"Casablanca" (1942)
"Johnny Guitar" (1954)
"Kiss Me Deadly" (1955)
"Lady in the Lake" (1947)
"Libeled Lady" (1936)
"Taxi Driver" (1976)
"Red River" (1946)
"Blow-Up" (1966)
"Lifeboat" (1944)
"The Prize" (1963)
"The Killing" (1956)
"The Stranger" (1946)
"The Searchers" (1956)
"The Gunfighter" (1950)
"Ministry of Fear" (1944)
"Heaven Can Wait" (1943)
"North by Northwest" (1959)
"Arsenic and Old Lace" (1944)
"Bell, Book and Candle" (1958)
"I Walked with a Zombie" (1943)
"It Happened One Night" (1934)
"It Happened on Fifth Avenue" (1947)
"The Postman Always Rings Twice" (1946)
"The Man Who Shot Liberty Valence" (1962)
"On Her Majesty's Secret Service" (1969)
"You Can't Take It With You" (1938)
"The Poseidon Adventure" (1972)
"The Limits of Control" (2009)
"Full Metal Jacket" (1987)
"Swept Away" (Italian) (1974)
"Breathless" (French) (1960)
"Charade" (1963)
"Mirage" (1965)
"Avanti!" (1972)
"Topkapi" (1964)
"La Jetee" (French) (1962)
"Jules and Jim" (French) (1962)
"Boys Night Out" (1962)
"The Big Country" (1958)
"Good Will Hunting" (1998)
"Bachelor in Paradise" (1961)
"Bringing Up Baby" (1938)
"Sullivan's Travels" (1941)
"Singin' in the Rain" (1952)
"The Wizard of Oz" (1939)
"The Band Wagon" (1953)
"The Last Wagon" (1956)
"Boeing Boeing" (1965)
"Being There" (1979)
"Metropolis" (1927)
"Scarface" (1983)
"Payback" (1999)
"Point Blank" (1967)
"Koyaanisqatsi" (1982)
"Altered States" (1980)
"Hard Contract" (1969)
"The Terminator" (1984)
"The Seventh Seal" (Swedish) (1957)
"The Satan Bug" (1965)
"The Andromeda Strain" (1971)
"2001: A Space Odyssey" (1968)
"Midnight in Paris" (2011)
"Barbarella" (1968)
"Sleeper" (1973)
"Zardoz" (1974)
"Solaris" (Russian) (1972)
"Alien" (1979)
"Brazil" (1985)
"Bananas" (1971)
"Black Orpheus" (Portuguese) (1959)
"Carnival of Souls" (1962)
"Cries and Whispers" (Swedish) (1972)
"The Exterminating Angel" (Spanish) (1967)
"From Russia with Love" (1963)
"You Only Live Twice" (1967)
"The Last of Sheila" (1973)
"Live and Let Die" (1973)
"Papillon" (1973)
"Charley Varrick" (1973)
"The Wheeler Dealers" (1963)
"The Thomas Crown Affair" (1968)
"The Usual Suspects" (1995)
"Don't Make Waves" (1967)
"Merrily We Live" (1938)
"Touch of Evil" (1958)
"The Party" (1968)
"The Swimmer" (1968)
"I Love You Alice B. Toklas" (1968)
"I Married a Witch" (1942)
"Roman Holiday" (1953)
"Tony Rome" (1967)
"Holy Year" (French) (1976)
"Monty Python and the Holy Grail" (1975)
"Support Your Local Sheriff!" (1969)
"The Silence of the Lambs" (1991)
"Village of the Damned" (1960)
"Experiment in Terror" (1962)
"A Shot in the Dark" (1964)
"The Narrow Margin" (1952)
"The President's Analyst" (1967)
"Sex, Lies, and Videotape" (1989)
"Strangers When We Meet" (1960)
"Remember The Night" (1940)
"Never Let Me Go" (2010)
"Seconds" (1966)
"One, Two, Three" (1961)
"The Taking of Pelham One Two Three" (1974)
"The Day The Earth Stood Still" (1951)
"The Flight of the Phoenix" (1965)
"No Highway in the Sky" (1951)
"Bonjour Tristesse" (1958)
"The Ipcress File" (1965)
"Marathon Man" (1976)
"The Graduate" (1967)
"Midnight Cowboy" (1969)
"The Out-of-Towners" (1970)
"The Philadelphia Story" (1940)
"Cash McCall" (1960)
"Where the Boys Are" (1960)
"Darling" (1965)
"Suddenly" (1954)
"What's New Pussycat" (1965)
"Desperately Seeking Susan" (1985)
"Y Tu Mama Tambien" (Spanish) (2001)
"Forbidden Planet" (1956)
"Fantastic Planet" (1973)
"Dark City" (1998)
"Picnic" (1955)
"Wings of Desire" (German) (1987)
"The Emerald Forest" (1985)
"Excalibur" (1981)
"Bullitt" (1968)
"36 Hours" (1965)
"The Blue Light" (German: gifted/tragic director) (1932)
"The Mortal Storm" (1940)
"Night of the Demon" (1957)
"In the Heat of the Night" (1967)
"Colossus: The Forbin Project" (1970)
"The Destructors," aka "The Marseille Contract" (1974)
"Duck, You Sucker," aka "A Fistful of Dynamite" (1972)
"Thunderbolt and Lightfoot" (1974)
"The Doctor Takes A wife" (1940)
"American Graffiti" (1973)
"THX 1138" (1971)
"Play Misty For Me" (1971)
"The Quiller Memorandum" (1966)
"Dead Heat on a Merry-Go-Round" (1966)


"Breaking Bad"
"Doctor Who"
"Warehouse 13"
"Royal Pains"
"Top Gear" (British version) (sometimes)
and formerly, "House, MD," but the "House" has been closed and shuttered ever since last year

The Prisoner (1960's version);
The Prisoner is absolutely and thoroughly captivating, and, yet, The Prisoner is, also, plenty liberating, as The Prisoner takes way more liberties than The Fugitive ever does!


I listen mostly to rock, especially art house and progressive rock, but I also like, and sometimes listen to, jazz, especially fusion jazz, and, every now and again, classical.


King Crimson
Procol Harum
Atomic Rooster
The Smiths
Arcade Fire
The Cranberries
Earth, Wind, & Fire
The Moody Blues
Ash Ra Tempel
Amon Duul II
Steely Dan
Jethro Tull
Foo Fighters
Goo Goo Dolls
Cocteau Twins
Silversun Pickups
Modest Mouse
Talking Heads
Roxy Music/
Bryan Ferry
Brian Eno
PJ Harvey
Patti Smith
Pink Floyd
The Clash
The Fixx
Linkin Park
Puddle of Mudd
Foster the People
Red Hot Chili Peppers
The Smashing Pumpkins
Siouxsie and the Banshees
Emerson, Lake & Palmer
Velvet Underground
Jefferson Airplane
Iron Butterfly
The Doors
The Beatles
Stevie Wonder
The Beach Boys
Mike Oldfield
Tori Amos


Return to Forever
Weather Report
Miles Davis
John Coltrane
Herbie Hanccock
Thelonious Monk
Dave Brubeck


Please, bear with me, while I make yet another Liszt--

I am by no means an expert on any of the above composers, and do not mean to represent myself as being one, but I do enjoy their music, and I do listen to it occasionally.

Closing on a sad note:

We have lost Dave Brubeck, Ed Cassidy, the drummer for Spirit, viz., the bald guy, who looked like Mr. Clean, and Huw Lloyd-Langton, guitarist for Hawkwind, in this month of December. Ed Cassidy and Huw Lloyd-Langton both passed on the same day, namely December 6th.

Whatever the cosmic reason, December 2012 has not been a good month: in the time since I wrote the above, Lee Dorman, bass player for Iron Butterfly, has passed.

And that is not to mention the terrible tragedy that has taken place in Newtown, Connecticut.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Sunlight
2) Oxygen
3) Water
4) Food
5) Clothing
6) Shelter

And, thinking outside the cube, I might acknowledge a seventh:
"Money Makes the World Go Round"-- "Money Makes the World Go Round" is a famed song from the multi-Academy Award winning, Hollywood musical, "Caberet," starring Liza Minelli and Joel Grey, which was set in Berlin, Germany during the early 1930's, immediately prior to the Nazi uprising, and which in retraction of my earlier comment was actually filmed on location in Berlin, Germany, but, which despite effectively capturing the nuances and details of its period, and, genuinely, appearing to be authentic to that period, was actually filmed during the early 1970's. A tidbit that may be worth mentioning is that I do believe that that particular big screen venture turned out, per se, to be very profitable.

But the above serves to raise the following question:
Would it be better if the world were simply flat?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
A lesson learned from the 2012 US Presidential election:

Those who pledge to stand for everything, surreptitiously stand for nothing at all(!); likewise, those who openly stand for nothing, stand for nothing at all, yet, in the end, those who openly stand for nothing are much more honorable-- because, at least those who openly stand for nothing are not habitually lying to us!

Plaudits to Scott Prouty, a true American hero!!

I wrote the above (except for the part about Scott Prouty) prior to the tragedy in Newtown, Connecticut, which has affected many of us in the United States so deeply. I would like to add that, if more politicians stood for gun control, and a reduction in the number of guns, and genuinely meant it, then, maybe, the rest of us would not be left so often holding, so many, body bags.

Let me add that, every now and again, I wonder why some people with small minds are perceived to be larger than life. In real life, maybe Charlton Heston was a reason why the apes were able to take over the planet in the first place. But enough about Charlton Heston. I take far more interest in the proposition that Douglas Adams is the the cube root of 42; though, alternatively, Douglas Adams could, technically, also be considered the fifth root of 42-- depends on who's counting. I do readily confess that I would almost certainly not be aware that Douglas Adams is the cube root (or fifth root) of 42, if I did not watch the occasional movie.

But, yet, then, I'm left to think about the challenges that one would face in trying to keep 42 goldfish alive in a zero gravity environment.

I'm a light sweeper, so, when I'm awake, I sometimes wonder why vacuum cleaners can so often be found inside of broom closets, but, yet, brooms can never be found in vacuum sealed bags inside of freezers.

And, as if that is not enough, occasionally, though not too often, I do catch myself wondering why in the world magnets, especially electromagnets, almost invariably, appear to be crude, and ugly.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Counting my change, and hoping to make some. I am not at the Playboy Mansion-- because it is overcommercialized, and oversensationalized. And, it is sexist. And, besides that, I'm not invited. But, yet, on one glorious Friday night of each and every year, perhaps, out of a latent resentment over not being invited, I prepare to send Hugh Hefner a Birthday card, and a birthday cake-- and I am always most satisfied to put lots, and lots, and lots, and lots of candles on his cake!

Though, sometimes, in the summer months, when it is warm, I fire up the ol' hot air balloon, and go for a rise-- I wish I could say I did all the custom paint and bodywork myself, but at least the basic pattern is mine-- sometimes I just go for a spin above the block, but, sometimes, I make it all the way up to Cloud 9, where I make my way to the Pearl River Cafe, where I sip a delectable cup of ambrosia, and savor an invigorating tin of sublime stratus flavored water ice, while listening to a four armed, twenty-four fingered, virtuoso play dulcet tunes on a glittering, golden harp.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, I only, now, find myself in the twenty-first century because, long about a thousand years ago, I hopped aboard a time machine in a desperate flight from an angry king. The king had ordered me to retrieve some chain mail from a neighboring kingdom, and he let it be known far and wide that he was none too pleased with me, when I brought back a bag full of letters from the neighboring kingdom's post office!

I might also mention, that I am not related to former US President Calvin Coolidge. In fact, I'd be willing to add that my name is not really Kelvin, and I am not really all that qool.

H.R. Pufnstuf, on the other hand-- H.R. Pufnstuf is qool.
You should message me if
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If you are an optimist.

An optimist is a person who, even if ravaged by thirst, nevertheless, believes that destiny carries a divining rod.


I had not originally intended to write anything at all in response to the above prompt (viz. "you should message me if"); hence, my original intention had been to leave this section of my profile entirely blank. I have, now, deviated from my original intention, however, in order to respond to an issue that has cropped up; thus, I will use this section of my profile to add a disclaimer.


When, originally, I began this profile, I had not, after several days of membership on this site, posted any phototgraphs. During that time, okcupid had been routinely referring me to the profiles of a gamut of women, most of whom, generally, had body types that fell within a range, or bell curve, that was centered, more or less, around normal, or average. Ever since I posted my photographs, however, I believe that a disproportionate percentage of the women to whom okcupid has been referring me have been plus-sized women. I am not at all concerned with what that says about the women, and, as far as I am concerned, it does not say anything at all about the women. People simply are whom they are, and it is good for one to be oneself. I take significant issue with okcupid on this point only where I, myself, am concerned, and I will get back to that matter in a moment. But, before I continue, let me elaborate on the statement that I made above, and, thereby, say that every person has an obligation only to be true to themselves, to be who they are, to be as they are, and that every person should expect full, and complete, acceptance, along with a respect, and appreciation, for their worth and value as persons, from everybody, because nobody, nobody, has the right to find anyone, who has not attempted to harm another, unacceptable. By this statement, I am not trying to judge anybody, I am merely railing against being judged, myself.

First-off, let me state, for the record, that while I was not in optimal shape at the time that the photographs were taken, in December of 2012, I was not far from that at the time, either, and I am very close now. The above statement is modified from my original statement, as I have progressed ever closer to the elusive goal of being in optimal shape in the three months that have passed since I wrote the statement. And I can now state with full and utmost of confidence that when seen in person I duly appear to be in excellent shape. There is always room for improvement, as I tend to set high standards for myself; however I would qualify that to say that the standards that I set for myself, are standards that I set for myself, and have absolutely nothing to do with anyone else. Let me state that, if you are not me, and you are not a friend of mine, then I have no reason to be concerned over what you look like, and, nor do I have any reason to be concerned over what kind of shape you are in-- for, what you look like, and what kind of shape you are in, is your business, and your business only, and absolutely none, whatsoever, of mine: I do not go about in my life passing judgments on other people, as I know that to do that would serve only to debase myself, and would be counterproductive, and, therefore, I have absolutely no desire, whatsoever, to do that. While this statement is a statement about me being judged, I would point out that my complaint is not that okcupid merely branded me as being overweight-- which would have been a judgment-- but, what is more, beyond that, okcupid seems to have branded me as being obese! I am not in any way attempting to disparage anyone who may have a weight problem, but I simply wish to assert that while I may have a problem, or two, here and there in life, that is not among them. Like a lot of people, I do not have a large margin for error, and thus can not afford to gain a lot of weight, but I am not at a point where I need to lose a lot of weight either. I say to anyone, and to everyone, who may read this statement, and, especially to those who may have body image issues, that my statement is written, solely, from my own perspective, about myself, in reference to my belief that I have been judged and misjudged, and, therein, victimized; thus, I have no interest in assuming the role of perpetrator, and, so I state again that, whomever you may be, I have absolutely, no desire to press judgment upon you, or upon anyone. Should anyone misconstrue my remarks to do otherwise, then I sincerely apologize. The source of my complaint seems to be whatever photo image evaluating software that okcupid may be using to evaluate the photographs that members submit. I believe that they should improve it, or, better yet, discontinue its use, as I believe that members are being judged by the photographs that they submit-- not by other members, per se, but by a computer program-- and, I do not believe that such electronic judgments should be made. In my case, I assert that the judgment is not only offensive, but inaccurate, and I am presuming that it is most likely the case that, when dealing with guys of my size and body type, the applied software is generally of limited utility, if any at all. I might add an addendum to the previous remark, and state that the issue could possibly be not even so much with my size and body type, as with my head size and shape. I must reluctantly confess to having an unusually large head, such that very rarely can I wear baseball caps, or standard sized hats. People sometimes give me baseball caps as souvenirs, and I am very happy to receive them, and they often look very nice sitting on my shelf, but even with the plastic band adjusted to the largest size, they will not fit on my head. It is entirely possible that the photo imaging software is reacting to my head and neck size, and mislabeling me on that basis. To anyone, who may read this, I say that I never intended to attach any of the following to my profile-- but, I have, now, decided to take this opportunity to defend myself against what I perceive personal attack. I weigh 242 pounds. And, while I could say that I was in excellent shape at the time that the photographs were taken, in the time since I can, now, go one better and say that I am very nearly in optimal shape. I strive to maintain an active lifestyle, and fitness is important to me. My percentage of body fat is less than 15%, which is less than that of the average adult male. (Note: that number is an update from a higher number, which I previously listed, which was more conservative, but, thankfully, proved to be less accurate). I believe that fitness and activity are important components of a good life. I strive to live a fit, healthy, and active lifestyle, and, quite frankly, I would ask the same of any potential partner. To that end, I exercise nearly everyday, often for an hour, or more. I carry most of my weight in my chest, shoulders, arms, and legs, not in my stomach. My stomach is flat. My physique is chiseled. My face on the other hand is rounded-- as my head is the size and shape that it is. My claims could be verified had I attached a full-length photo to my profile, or, if I were to do so now; however, I rarely pose for photos, and, as a result, I possess few such photos. When I posed for the photos that I have attached to my profile, I was not attempting to pose as, or to otherwise imitate, a male model-- I have made a conscious decision to show only basic, and generic, passport type photos within this profile. I would, also, add, that the photos that I have attached are unretouched. I would, furthermore, add that every word that I have stated, herein, is entirely truthful. People who do know me in real life, or who get to know me, have seen me, or will see me-- others will not, and quite frankly need not. I am uncomfortable having photos of myself floating about over the internet, and, I believe, that, in fact, those attached to this profile are the only ones that are posted anywhere. Words can be erased, and accounts, such as this okcupid account, can be closed, but photos have a sneaky way of tending to linger. It may seem as though I have revealed a great deal about myself on this site, but, in reality, I have probably revealed quite a bit less than it might seem. I am, at least for a short time, open to the possibility of meeting people on this site, and getting to know people on this site, and, maybe, even making a friend, or two, here. The only ones who will know me, however, are those who already know me in real life, those who may meet me in real life (under circumstances, and/or for reasons, wholly unconnected with this site), or those on this site who may correspond with me; those on the other hand, who see my profile on this site, and nothing more, will merely see a one-dimensional, or, maybe, two-dimensional, profile, which despite its considerable length is constrained by all of the limitations that are necessarily inherent, therein. If you are reading this profile, you and I were, most likely, strangers before you began reading it, and, unless we should happen to become friends in due course, then, strangers we shall always remain-- which I might assume may be a preferential course for both of us. I will most likely be on this site for, but, a short time, and, thus, I have little desire to post photos that might outlast my presence, hereon, and I am somewhat careful to try not to do that.

In consequence of what I perceive to be the discriminatory nature of this site, along with the previous paragraph, and only in consequence of those factors, I have decided to change the body type status on my profile from athletic to jacked. In reality, I believe my body type is actually somewhere between the two. However I might describe my body type, I am as I am as a result of genetics, and my goal has been simply to maintain, and to, maybe, try to improve, somewhat, upon, natural characteristics. I am not now, nor have I ever been, a bodybuilder. My goal is to train, not to build. I have not arrived at my body type through pill bottles, cans, or needles, or by spending excessive amounts of time in heavyweight gyms. Which forms the primary basis of my complaint, as I am nearly in optimal shape with respect to the body type with which I was born, and I have put the time in to be in that sort of shape, and, thus, I do not appreciate being mislabeled as what I am not. I most certainly do not claim that my body type is the best, or most ideal: it is simply what I was born with, and part of who I am, and I accept myself for who I am, and strive for maintenance, and to make whatever minor improvements I can along the way. No person can do more than to work with what he, or she, has got: it is about acceptance, starting with self-acceptance. To anyone else, I would say that if you accept yourself for who you are, then, to the extent that it is any of my business, why would I not do so, as well. As for myself, I might offer as a reference the recent National Football League combine camp (for graduating college players, who aspire to careers in the NFL), which was broadcast on the NFL cable Network, and which I watched in part, even though I am not a big NFL football fan, and on the basis of that I can confidently state that with regard to both my body type, and my current shape and condition, I am not far off from some of the participants-- and, by that, I am referring to the linebackers, running backs, and safeties, and, not to the offensive or defensive tackles. Thus, I see guys who look a lot like me, beating themselves half to death playing football, and, yet, making very large sums of money for doing that; hence, I believe, the appropriateness of my taking offense at okcupid's judgement, and implication, that I might be obese. I had never heard the term "jacked" before; however, I was able to discern its meaning from its context on this website. Before logging back on to write this disclaimer, however, I was able to crossreference the term against a number of sources to determine that its meaning is in fact what I had surmised it to be. One of its meanings, anyway-- it has a number of others. When I first joined okcupid, it seemed as if it might be fun to describe myself as jacked, and, admittedly, I was tempted to do so, except that I did not want to come across as cocky, or self-absorbed. In truth, I work at maintaining the fitness of both my mind and body, and I believe that the two do often go hand in hand, such that if one becomes flabby, it may follow that the other may become flabby as well, so, to me, both seem important. I do not obsess over my looks, my physique, my coiffure, or my attire. My goal is to be fit, and to look reasonably good. It is not my goal, however, to achieve physical perfection: I am neither pretending, nor representing myself, to be a male supermodel, nor do I harbor any such aspirations.

If you are particularly, or primarily, attracted to normal sized, 155 pound, guys-- with normal sized heads, and chiseled, faces-- then it is unlikely that I might be your type. If, however, you are open to a broader range of different body types, then I may, or may not, be an acceptable type to you. On the other hand, if you are really into guys who weigh over 220 pounds, then I may actually be your preferred type. I do not have the face of a 155 pound man; I do not have the physique of a 155 pound man, either.

I resent okcupid's labeling of me, or of anyone. In my case, I believe that their doing so is the result of software which, as I have stated above, is not accurate in all cases (assuming that it is accurate in any case). Whether a label is accurate, or not, however, I believe that users of this site should not be judged and labeled. That is a recurrent theme in this disclaimer, and I once again reiterate it, here. There is far too much judgment and labeling in society, as it is. And, people should not come to this social networking site, which is supposed to be fun, only to discover yet more judgments, and still more labels. I hope that that my statements will be understood as I intend them, which are statements in which I mean to say far more about how okcupid's computer programming views me me than they are statements of my opinion about how I might view any particular woman. Any expression of opinion about others is inadvertent, as no opinion about anyone else is intended, as I have neither reason, nor right, to hold opinions, especially concerning those whom I do not know. It is not that I do not wish to see those profiles that I have been shown; instead, it is that I believe that I, and every member of okcupid, should see a broad cross-section of profiles of other members, and, not simply a targeted set of profiles based on some superficially perceived characteristic. Again, this is a statement that I make not about anyone else, but about me. I most certainly do not mean to be critical, to the least degree, or to the slightest degree, for any reason, of any of the women, who may underlie any particular profiles; moreover, I pride myself on being an openminded person, and, as such, I am entirely willing to check out the profiles of some plus-sized women, along with the profiles of any other women. I abhor discrimination in any form, and, most certainly, I am not one to intentionally discriminate against any person, female or male, in any format or forum for any reason, including, on the basis of her, or his, weight, or body type. People are, as I stated above, who and what they are, and I make every effort to accept people as they are, and, frankly, I believe that everyone should. So, again, I assert that my issue is not with any of the women, who underlie any of the profiles that I have seen hereon, and, again I say that, if I have, hereby, inadvertently, offended anyone, than I most humbly, and sincerely, apologize. My issue is with the management and staff of okcupid, whom I am accusing of acting in a discriminatory manner: discriminatory both against me, and, against the women, to whose profiles they have been referring me. In most cases, I have had little in common with the women in question, and in a significant number of cases, according to okcupid's own statistical algorithm (i.e. "matching percentage"), which may, or may not, be trustworthy, compatibility has been predicted to be quite low. It has been exactly the same with respect to black women-- and, again, it does not seem to matter to them whether I am actually compatible with the women, or not. When I wrote on my profile that I was black, they almost did not seem to notice; however, again, ever since I posted my photographs, I have been inundated with the profiles of black women. Being inundated with the profiles of black women is not necessarily an entirely unwelcome occurrence, as I may, or may not, have a genuine, and abiding, interest in meeting a black woman, with whom I am compatible, so I will not belabour this particular point, but I do want to call attention to the issue in order to place my concerns about the okcupid website into a context. Besides simply placing my concerns into context, however, I do want to assert an opinion that I, strongly, believe that that is a decision that must be left up to me to make, and not one that okcupid should officiously presume to try to make for me, or for anyone else. Of course, I am able to bypass okcupid's recommended matches, altogether, and conduct my own search, using my own criteria; however, my point is that I find the whole matter degrading and insulting-- not only to me, but to everyone. In light of that, I hope to convey my considerable disappointment. From my perspective, this website comes across as discriminatory. It seems that the okcupid management is more concerned with trying to match people on the basis of superficial characteristics, such as race, or body type, then they are with trying to match people on a deeper level, like, say, perhaps, in accordance with the statistical matching algorithm that they purport to believe in. I believe that members should have the opportunity to consider the profiles from a full range, and broad cross-section, of people, and, in the end, they will either come out of it with somebody new in their lives, or with nobody at all, but, those, ultimately, are their lives, their fates, and their choices to make. Who is the okcupid management team to try to nudge people one way or the other, solely on the basis of their own obvious prejudices and biases? Donald Trump, for example, is quite a bit fatter than I am, and, certainly, quite a bit flabbier, yet Donald Trump does not date plus-sized women. Rush Limbaugh, who is truly disgusting, in all senses of the word, is even fatter, and even flabbier, than Donald Trump, and, yet, Rush Limbaugh does not date plus-sized women, and, correct me if I am wrong, but I do not believe that his new wife is plus-sized, either. Orson Welles, unlike Rush Limbaugh, was brilliant, yet, like Rush Limbaugh, was fat, except that Orson Welles somehow managed the seemingly impossible, for he was, even, a good bit, fatter than Rush Limbaugh, yet, that did not stop him from marrying Rita Hayworth. It is true that the above examples are all of men who are, or were, rich and famous-- but, examples can be found among not so rich and famous men and women as well: heavy men sometimes date and marry thin women; thin men sometimes date and marry heavy women-- the only real rule seems to be that each person dates and marries whomever he, or she, wants. There do not seem to be any other rules-- so, the question is, why try to impose them? I state again, in repetition of the statements that I have made in this paragraph, and in the paragraphs above, that I do not take issue with any of the women, whether plus-sized, or not, who make use of the okcupid website. I believe that everybody has the right to search for a match (whether on okcupid, or elsewhere). My issue is squarely with the management, and staff, of this website, along with the computer software that they make use of: I genuinely believe that their goals (apart from making money via paid memberships and/or commercial advertising revenue) should be to provide a social forum, not to make value judgments, and to try to pigeonhole people into the world as they see it. I had intended to write a complaint, such as this one, directly to the management of okcupid, but, then, I decided that would not be a productive use of my time, as I got a better idea-- I decided, instead, to write this disclaimer, and to post it here for public view. I did consider, immediately, quitting the website; however, I decided against that, at least for the time-being, for while I may disagree with the management of this site, I like the site, itself, and there seem to be some interesting people on it. I believe that it is the people, the users, who make this a good site. And, in the end, I believe that this site is really about the people who make use of it, those who have contributed to building it over the years to be what it has become. I do not believe that this site is simply about the management, who initially posted it.