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Keovar

37 / M / Straight / Single

Asheville, North Carolina

His Details

Last Online
May 19
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 10″ (1.79m).
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism and laughing about it
Sign
Virgo but it doesn’t matter
Education
Working on space camp
Job
Other
Income
Rather not say
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
So this is interesting:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B4CTq_-LRfU

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How to describe the fractal that is my own mind?

I played Ultima IV a lot as a kid and I've been on the Quest of the Avatar ever since.
Do you enjoy learning, wonder, and questions?
Despite being more introverted in the past, lately I'm completely open about who I am. Thanks to the LGTBQ communities for encouraging us all to know ourselves, be 'out' about whoever we are, and let the chips fall where they may.
I'm highly affectionate and very giving as a lover.
Some people say I'm funny, but I say looks aren't everything.
My sense of humour can run from the absurd to the morbid, but tends to favour wit over shock.
Also, stuff.

If you use the Myers-Briggs personality sorter, I'm an INTP/INTJ with a pretty even split on that last aspect.
What I’m doing with my life
Living it.
Well... it isn't like it lasts very long if you wrap it in plastic.
I’m really good at
Linguistic things like etymology, wordplay, and a less vocal but equally cunning linguistic art.

:P
The first things people usually notice about me
I have rather long hair. That's not too weird here in Asheville, which is one of the reasons I feel at home here.
Once somebody talks to me, they'll probably notice that I reference all sorts of unusual and obscure stuff, and some of it is even useful in Trivial Pursuit.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I don't think I should make these lists too comprehensive, because one tends to just scroll past when seeing a wall-o'-text.

Quotes:
"There might yet be a heaven, but it isn't going to be perfect, and we're going to have to build it ourselves."
— Philhellenes (youtube.com/watch?v=r6w2M50_Xdk)

"Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?"
— Douglas Adams

"Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower."
"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer."
— Albert Camus

"Give a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a night.
Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life."
— Terry Pratchett

Books:
Just about anything...
Fiction:
The Dresden Files, an urban fantasy novel series by Jim Butcher.
My favourite Stephen King books are his short story anthologies, but I like the novels too.
Discworld and other Terry Pratchett novels like Nation.
Nonfiction:
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá
Bill Bryson, particularly The Mother Tongue: English and How It Got That Way, because I like etymology and linguistics.
Carl Sagan, Christopher Hitchens, Sam Harris,
...and many more.

Movies:
I watch a lot of documentaries on just about any subject: environmental concerns, sciences from anthropology and sociology to astrophysics and quantum mechanics, plus history and biographies.
For fiction, some favourites might be:
The Lord of the Rings
The Goonies
Labyrinth
The Princess Bride
Stand By Me
The Man from Earth
Those are just a few, I can get into just about any story.

TV:
Dead Like Me
Dexter
Mythbusters
Modern Marvels
I don't own a TV, I just watch DVDs, Netflix or Hulu.

Podcasts (was Music):
While I do like various types of music, these days most of my 'ear time' involves audiobooks and podcasts. There's already a 'books' section, so I'll list a few podcasts.
The Skeptics' Guide to the Universe
Reasonable Doubts
Quackcast
Cognitive Dissonance
(Yes, I'm a skeptic about pseudoscience, supernatural things, etc.)

Food:
I'm an omnivore, but I'll eat vegetarian when around people that prefer that. I like just about anything, but some favourites are Asian food, pizza, and spicy stuff.
The six things I could never do without
All We Need is Love.
...and Oxygen.
...and Water.
...and Food.
...and Shelter.
...and Sex.

Really, life can be pretty simple.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Life, the Universe, and Everything.

I ponder the way things work, whether it be my own inner thoughts, the ways others interact, the tapestry of life, the cosmos, or the nature of being itself.

The 'religion' setting over there says 'atheist', but that really only tells you one thing which I'm not. I'm not a theist and I don't hold a belief in supernatural things in general.
What I am, however, is a humanist. I believe in being compassionate and honest.
I believe we have this one life in this one world, and one another to share them with. The finite nature of those things only makes them all the more precious and underlines our responsibility to make them the best they can be for everyone. I believe humanity can, should, and eventually must overcome our tendency for petty infighting and work on improving what we have.
No one is going to swoop in and solve our problems for us, and this isn't some shoddy prelude to eternity. If some small thing I say or do can help a bit to improve the life of another, which helps them do the same for the lives they touch, who go on to help yet more... That's all the 'eternity' I could want.
On a typical Friday night I am
Being atypical.

Why should Friday have all the fun? Put the Thor back in Thursday!

If you wanted to 'spontaneously' bump into me out in the real world, I'm generally at a Meetup on Wednesdays:
http://www.meetup.com/Asheville-Skeptics/
http://www.meetup.com/WNC-Atheists/
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm polyamorous. I think the primary reason I'm interested in polyamory is because it requires a high level of openly honest communication, rather than a lot of assumptions. Besides that, I don't see love as a finite resource which must be withheld from one in order to be given to another. As a poly person, I don't think a relationship should be treated anything like ownership, and when someone I care about is happy, that makes me glad for them, whether or not I'm the source of their happiness in that particular situation.

I'm open to just about any sort of relationship as long as everyone is honest about it. The label isn't important to me, people are.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
...you're interested in getting to know me.
I don't message much, but I always write back.
If you don't know what to say at first, just add me to favourites and I'll get back to you.

(The age range isn't all that important, I just figure about 10 years either way is pretty reasonable and fair.)