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39 • Asheville, NC • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 29–49
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends
- Last online
- Apr 7
- 5′ 10″ (1.79m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, and laughing about it
- Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
- Working on space camp
- Rather not say
- Seeing Someone
- Mostly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently)
Any amount of description I give will have many layers below it.
I'll try to keep it simple.
Skeptic & Humanist
Reason & Empathy
Science & Philosophy
Truth, Love, & Courage
Thinker & Explorer
Reader & Gamer
Friend & Lover
I played Ultima IV a lot as a kid and I've been on the Quest of the Avatar ever since. Seriously, I think a computer game from the mid-'80s had a significant impact on my moral & ethical development.
Do you enjoy wonder, inquiry, and learning?
Despite being more introverted in the past, lately I'm being more open about who I am. Many thanks to the LGTBQ communities for encouraging us all to know ourselves, be 'out' about who we are, and let the chips fall where they may.
My sense of humour can run from the absurd to the morbid, but tends to favour wit.
If you use the Myers-Briggs personality sorter, I'm an INTP/INTJ with a pretty even split on that last aspect. It's not exactly well-evidenced psychology, but at least it's not as arbitrary as astrology, hmm?
Well... it isn't like it lasts very long if you wrap it in plastic.
Once somebody talks to me, they'll probably notice that I reference all sorts of unusual and obscure stuff, some of which is even useful in Trivial Pursuit.
"There might yet be a heaven, but it isn't going to be 'perfect', and we're going to have to build it ourselves."
— Philhellenes (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r6w2M50_Xdk)
"Isn't it enough to see that a garden is beautiful without having to believe that there are fairies at the bottom of it too?"
— Douglas Adams
"Autumn is a second spring when every leaf is a flower."
"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that there was within me an invincible summer."
— Albert Camus
"Give a man a fire, and he'll be warm for a night.
Set a man on fire, and he'll be warm for the rest of his life."
— Terry Pratchett
Just about anything...
The Dresden Files, an urban fantasy series by Jim Butcher
My favourite Stephen King books are his short story anthologies, but I like the novels too.
Discworld and other Terry Pratchett novels like Nation.
American Gods, by Neil Gaiman
Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá
Bill Bryson, particularly The Mother Tongue: English and How It Got That Way, because I like etymology and linguistics.
The Demon-Haunted World, and other works by Carl Sagan.
...and many, many more.
I watch a lot of documentaries on just about any subject: environmental concerns, sciences from anthropology and sociology to astrophysics and quantum mechanics, plus history and biographies.
For fiction, some favourites might be:
The Man from Earth
The Princess Bride
Stand By Me
The Neverending Story
Those are just a few, I can get into just about any story.
Dead Like Me
Game of Thrones
I don't own a TV, I just watch DVDs, Netflix, etc.
Podcasts (was Music):
While I do like various types of music, practically everyone does. You and I probably both like a wide variety, with a couple genres that we don't enjoy so much, and even those types have exceptions. Anyway, these days most of my 'ear time' involves audiobooks and podcasts. There's already a 'books' section, so I'll list a few podcasts.
The Scathing Atheist
The Skeptics' Guide to the Universe
I'm an omnivore, but I'll eat vegetarian stuff when around people who prefer that. I like just about anything, but some favourites are Asian food, pizza, and spicy stuff in general.
I meet with friends to play a variety of tabletop games from almost-mainstream things like Settlers of Catan to less-known things like Dixit and the geeky-fun stuff like Zombie Dice or Smash Up.
At home, I play some Minecraft, and poke around on a few others. I tend to prefer creative, cooperative, and story & exploration stuff far more than competitive games.
Really, life can be pretty simple.
I ponder the way things work, whether it be my own inner thoughts, the ways others interact, the tapestry of life, the cosmos, or the nature of being itself.
The 'religion' setting over there says 'atheist', but that really only tells you one thing which I'm not. I'm not a theist and I don't hold a belief in supernatural things in general.
What I am, however, is a humanist. I think human empathy and reason are the true foundations of morals and ethics.
Maybe this would help: http://parentingbeyondbelief.com/blog/?p=7300
Wednesday evenings are when I'm most often going out to meet with friends. I'm the organizer of the Asheville Skeptics meetup & discussion group:
The question doesn't ask you to think of the most private thing possible and reveal it, it asks for the most private thing you are "willing to admit" (in this online context). For example, if you hate a particular vegetable, then maybe that's your answer. it may be trivial, but at least it shows that you read and understood the question.
As for myself:
I'm open to polyamorous relationships, but don't require them. Maybe it's more of a philosophical perspective for me.
I think the primary reason I became interested in the idea of polyamory is because it requires a high degree of openly-honest communication, rather than a lot of assumptions. Besides that, I don't see love as a scarce resource which must be withheld from many in order to be given to one. From a poly perspective, I don't think a relationship should be treated anything like ownership, and when someone I care about is happy, that makes me glad for them, whether or not I'm the source of their happiness in that particular situation.
I don't start messages much anymore, but I always write back. Besides, a woman bold and unconventional enough to initiate contact is a special kind of hot!
(The age range isn't all that important, I just figure about 10 years either way is pretty reasonable and fair.)
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