After some much-appreciated negative feedback from neural here on OkC, I'm adding the following clarification about the words I wrote above regarding evolution.
With those words, I'm certainly not trying to imply that I think I'm superior to anyone else, that my "branch" so-to-speak is superior to any other branch, nor that polyamoury is generally superior to monogamy as a model for loving relationships (this last I do believe is true for me, but I recognize that it takes all kinds and that there are many other people for whom mono is superior to poly as a model for loving relationships). I'm interested in meeting all sorts of other people who are basically like me (thoughtful being the primary aspect of this), but romantically interested only in other poly people or people who may be new to (but open to) polyamourous relationships. One of my best friends is married in a traditional monogamous relationship and I regard him highly with no consideration of his choice in relationships models, and I know I would enjoy meeting other people like him (male and female); but sexuality would obviously not be an aspect of such a relationship.
The bit about evolution above (I should perhaps make it a bit more clear that I'm talking strictly about evolution of the mind and not of the genes here) is there for a couple of reasons. One is that after 35 years of living and many, many life experiences I have learned over and over again just how different I am from most people I meet. I'd love to find some sort of venue where people like me tend to cluster (but then, one thing about me is that I tend to avoid clusters anyway) because my experience says that people like me are very rare and I do enjoy them immensely. So the dichotomy between me (and people like me) and most of the rest of humanity (so it seems to me anyway), really does feel very much like a difference between species to me. The other reason is that I recently finished reading a great book about evolution (self-described as documenting the first experimental evidence supporting evolution and elevating it above the 'strictly-theory' status that it has held for so long). In case you're interested, the book is: The Beak of the Finch: A Story of Evolution in Our Time (ISBN: 067973337X). This book really put evolution into startlingly clear perspective for me and got me started thinking about the specialization that has been occurring in 'Darwin's finches' (as the book refers to them) as also occurring in humans (except, more on the level of the mind than of the genes). I don't think any rational person who's aware of the theory and the evidence (both anecdotal and experimental) in support of the theory can seriously argue with the notion that humans (like all other organisms) are still evolving genetically, but with a standard human generation of some 25 years or so, I don't think that I see any evidence of genetic evolution in humans; strictly mental evolution. And I see the 'fitness landscape' (borrowing a term from evolutionary biology) of human societies as fostering the development of people who are not thoughtful (among many other things). So anyway, if you've been put off by those words above, then perhaps this clarification will mitigate or eliminate that reaction. When someone gets to know me well, then they invariably find that I always genuinely appreciate thoughtful negative criticism. Our society is chock full of people who are more than willing to give positive feedback to a person (regardless of merit), but someone (like me) who both values negative feedback about themselves and who will offer negative feedback to someone when they deem it appropriate is a rare and wonderful person in my book.
To further clarify, I'll say that I also realize that a person might read this profile and get the impression that I'm an intellectual snob. Many people assume this about me when they learn a little bit about me and when they combine that knowledge with my generally withdrawn attitude in groups of people. But this couldn't be farther from the truth. I'm actually more of a kid full of wonder at the universe, interested in everything, asking questions about everything, and who has been doing that for awhile now and I guess some of the answers have stuck. I like explaining how rainbows come about (to anyone who doesn't know), but if you're not interested in that sort of thing then I'm ok not doing so too.
I'm a "Jack-of-all-trades" (that is to say, a generalist) rather than a specialist though I've specialized in many things too. I hold with Heinlein on specialization. If you know what I mean by that then you'll probably like me. I am formally educated as a physicist, mathematician, and engineer of classical mechanics, quantum mechanics, plain old mechanics (as in Mechanical Engineer), electricity (as in Electrical Engineer), chemistry (as in Chemical Engineer), nuclear systems (as in Nuclear Engineer) for both research and power generation, software (as in Software Engineer), and many others. I am informally educated in a great many things but most lately I am learning about the life sciences (something my formal education in the physical sciences was rather weak on).
I'm polyamourous (intentional French spelling; Ah French: the language of L'Amour and assholes (I guess I don't mean that all French people are assholes---only Parisians)!) and in a very happy poly marriage with a woman I adore. Filling out the family are a wonderful child, a dog, and two cats. If you're not sure what it means to be polyamourous (aka polyamorous), a google search will tell you all you need to know. It's basically all about loving more than one person simultaneously and it's nothing about jealousy. It's also about what some people describe as 'radical honesty.' True polyamourous people are extremely honest with themselves and with others. In polyamourous jargon, the word, 'cheating' refers to what supposedly monogamous people do when they engage in an extra-marital sexual relationship without informing their spouse of this. People who are truly polyamourous never do this because of the inherent dishonesty involved in it.
I am thoughtful, polyamorous, and introspective