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  • Ages 31-44
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Average build
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
My self-summary
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I am a person who believes in truth, science, wonder, empathy, joy, and logic. Searching for lightning in a bottle on this site may be unlikely, but so is all life on this planet!

I live for music. I played piano and could read music before I could read actual words. It doesn't bother me if your musical tastes are different then mine. If anything I am way to insular in listening to what I know I like, so encouragement in expanding my listening repertoire would be much appreciated! I usually go for a good old Grateful Dead concert, or some Pink Floyd.

You shouldn't be too religious. I am really turned off by dogma and the notion that a god who creates everything would favor some of his people over others. If you want to discuss quantum entanglement, though, I am down!

I have a day job at a flight school which is very interesting. (I do not fly airplanes.)

You should be down for road trips, and letting me attempt to cook for you! (Or attempt to!),

You will have to be cool with Documentaries and music instead of full length fictional dramas or comedies with laugh tracks. I have a lot of favorite movies, and usually like what I start watching. It just is kind of hard for me to start a movie because somewhere in me I feel that my time might be spent better doing something productive. Because of this, I have a lot of movies in my Netflix list just begging to be watched. Maybe you can help me with that.

I have 2 kids who are soon to be teenagers, who I believe are some of the best citizens of this world I have ever met! They live about a 5 hour drive from me. I get them for a few weeks every few months. You should be cool with the fact that you probably won't become part of their lives at this point since their personalities are sort of baked in and they live far away.

I am the type of guy who will detect BS and act accordingly. I don't tolerate mean people, bullies, and folks with no empathy for others. If you are the type who spends all day gossiping about others, we will not get along. However, if you like to see things from other people's perspective, and are resourceful in the way you can seek out silver linings, then we might make a good team! I think being grateful makes people happy, not the other way around!

You shouldn't perceive playing music in bands as a misguided venture! I often wonder why a person in their 40's who might play golf, tennis, or run marathons never gets asked by anyone, "So, where you going with this?" As if the musician can't play music for joy first and money second. By extension they must believe the golfer has a goal of playing in the PGA, or the marathon runner must be training for Boston. I look at my music and playing gigs as something that keeps my soul balanced, brings joy to others, doesn't cost me anything and actually makes me some money. That said, I recently stopped a weekly gig I had going for 16 years, so now I play a gig or two a month, and am happy with that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Answering my kids' many questions about the world. Playing piano. Detecting B.S. I am the guy who will point out the bright side if the whole room is complaining. On the flip side, I will speak up on behalf of a crowd if we are being treated unfairly!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Martian Chronicles, Dandelion Wine. Still Life With Woodpecker. Just Another Roadside Attraction, The Tailor of Panama, The Bachman Books. Sphere, Sarum.

TV: Parks and Recreation, Freaks and Geeks, Arrested Development. Wilfred, Colbert Report, Daily Show, Portlandia, Dr Who, Louie. C-Span. Wilfred, House of Cards, Orange is the New Black.

The Grateful Dead, Roger Waters, Pink Floyd, Radiohead, The Black Keys, Tom Petty, Mark Knopfler, Feist, Van Halen, The Shins, Allman Brothers, Jimmy Cliff, The Band, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Piano, guitar, silent time, my 2 wonderful children! Vietnamese soup. (pho)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If the universe is really a complex computer program.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting together with friends for dinner. I might be at a club jamming and enjoying a good beer or two. i have Friday and Sat off, so Thursday is really my "Friday".
You should message me if
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You are exactly cool enough for school. You are lighthearted, sensible, and a bit witty. You have no problems expressing your opinions openly. You are interested and interesting! I am not necessarily looking for someone like myself. I have been living with myself forever. Someone who has opposite superpowers would compliment things nicely!