Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a book editor and literary agent and mostly amateur musician
(rock/folk). I am also a political animal—actively involved.
I love to travel and to try new things. I don't watch TV as much as
most people—not because I think it’s “bad” (au contraire, a lot of
it is pretty damn good) but simply because I’m too busy living my
life, socializing with real people, playing live music, etc. I'm
not especially materialistic and don’t really care that much if I
go to a fancy restaurant or to a great thin-crust brick-oven pizza
place, and most nights I like to make a good, healthy meal at home
(I love to cook). I don’t need to have the top-of-the-line of
everything. I truly believe the best things in life are free: good
conversation, books (free if they're from the library), nature,
playing music (free after the one-time investment in a guitar!),
good feelings about life.
My background is Jewish but I consider myself a secular humanist.
There’s too much tribalism in this world, and I find that the best
people I know come from all sorts of backgrounds. I have a master’s
in international relations from Johns Hopkins. I read constantly
and listen to NPR, watch documentaries and lots of news (and OK,
I'll admit it, MSNBC too--I love Rachel!), and read the New York
Times and various bloggers.
I’m likely to click with someone who is intellectual, engaged in
the world, has strong passions, is reasonably sociable, and is into
the life of the mind but not neglectful of the body. I’m very
independent and rather opinionated (though not closed-minded) and
seek someone who can appreciate those qualities.
What I’m doing with my life
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For many years, my life was quiet, domestic, family-oriented, and
predictable. Now it's chock full of activities and is more friend-
My work is fascinating and creative, demanding of both literary
skills and people skills, and I feel lucky to be in it. I edit
books and also represent them as a literary agent. However, I'm not
a workaholic. I love my downtime, especially my social time and
I'm in the process of moving from amateur, largely apologetic
musician status to semi-professional (with great emphasis on the
word "semi"--we're talking next to nothing in terms of money, but
it's the thought that counts!). This also gives me tremendous
satisfaction, as only five years ago, I could never have envisioned
performing in front of anyone! And now I do it all the time.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing and editing; singing; cooking; crossword puzzles (though I
rarely have time to do them); making jewelry; PingPong; volleyball;
talking to people about personal issues; philosophizing.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Probably my glasses and my long hair, but of course I don't really
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books are my life--there are too many to mention. I read both
fiction and non. One book that affected me tremendously was
"Infidel" by Aayan Hirsi Ali, a Somali woman who fled an arranged
marriage and got into Holland illegally. She eventually became a
member of Parliament there and spoke out against honor killings and
other abuses against women that were tolerated in that country in
the name of respect for other cultures.
I do appreciate fiction, but true stories like hers, or "Angela's
Ashes" or "The Glass Castle," tend to move me more than anything. I
am fascinated by human behavior and what makes people tick. Why do
people do the strange things they do, both good and bad? I will
never stop asking that question or seeking to further my
understanding of these odd creatures we call human beings.
I read "The Omnivore's Dilemma" a couple of years ago, and it
forever changed the way I think about food. Should be required
reading for everyone who's ever set foot in a supermarket.
I also read books on politics ("What's the Matter With Kansas" for
example) and economics, the latter mainly because of the influence
it has on politics and on all of our lives. Lately, I've been
fascinated by the interviews Michael Lewis has been giving about
his new book "Flash Boys."
I have read all or parts of the spate of recent books by the
various new atheist authors, such as Richard Dawkins (The God
Delusion), Christopher Hitchens, and who is the other guy? (It's
kind of like the Three Tenors). I think their idea that the world
no longer has the luxury of engaging in magical thinking is pretty
Music: Very much a part of my life. I certainly revere the classic
rock/folk/blues icons: Bowie, Dylan, Clapton, Joni Mitchell, and on
and on. But I really listen to more contemporary stuff. I tend to
like "alt rock" and generally not the most mainstream stuff. I
especially like hearing live music in small venues by people who
are only moderately famous.
Movies: Foreign films and some indies. But even the indies are too
much about cinematography, editing, and acting (all good things in
themselves), and not enough about plain old good writing and
storytelling. I'm often disappointed by movies, unfortunately.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
NPR - one of the few news outlets that actually seeks to just tell
The Daily Show - I don't watch much TV, but when I can I watch Jon
Stewart's brilliant show. He makes me laugh through my tears at the
absurdity of our political life in the USA.
My guitar - sometimes it feels like an appendage.
My capo -- my voice is higher than that of most folk/pop singers,
so I always have to change the key.
My iPod -- mainly because it makes exercising at the gym bearable.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The state of the world. Why people have such a compulsion to own
and consume way more than they need. Why people seem so much more
easily motivated by hate and fear than by compassion. Why our
country has become too stupid to invest in the basics that in the
past made us great: public education, mass transportation, and
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having dinner with a friend; seeing a film (usually at the
independent theater in my town); or seeing or playing music
somewhere. I love seeing live music in small venues--the Minstrel
in Morristown, Outpost in the Burbs in Montclair. I also go to
house concerts and jam parties at people's houses. And open mics,
You should message me if
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you honestly like more than just my picture and think we would be
intellectually, politically, and philosophically compatible. I'm
not very concerned about common "interests" as in taste in music or
food. And I think we can agree that we all like the beach and
sunsets and puppies. ;-)
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