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31 New York, NY Cis Man, Man

Cis Man, Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Feb 26
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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STOP ASKING ME TO HELP YOU CHEAT ON YOUR LONG DISTANCE BOYFRIEND! I didn't think this needed spelling out, but, I do the ethical kind of non monogamy, not "discreet fun." Dump your boyfriend or redefine your relationship as nonmonogamous and then call me. After that, we can be as discreet as you like.

I am a creative individual with dreams and the drive to realize them. I graduated Harvard in 05 with a degree in Folklore and Mythology. I focused on Old Norse and wrote my thesis about Beowulf. I've done a lot of freelance work in the new media/social mediaspace. It's amazing how much storytelling as a field of study is the same or at least cross applicable, across so many kinds of media.

I never was tremendously social in high school or before, but now, I'm known for throwing legendary weekend long parties, once or twice a year, and other less extravagant gatherings that still leave people thoroughly entertained.

I am GGG, a proud feminist/ally, and a geek of various stripes. I hesitate to self-identify as a "gamer" at present (for reasons any socially conscious/aware geek probably understands) but I do enjoy the board, card, console and LARP varieties of games quite a bit.

I've come, over the past 7 years and change to really embrace polyamory. If you want to have a more than casual connection with me, you need to be okay with formalized nonmonogamous arrangements. (Ideally, you've done them before.) -- I have a non-local partner of ~7 years standing (who has other partners, including a fiancee), and I'm giving someone new and semi-local a bigger place in my life, and seeing how that develops. This is why as of January 2015 -- for the next nebulous "while" I'm taking myself off the market for new non-casual relationships. This doesn't mean there can't be any emotions involved in new connections but if you need a partner to be open to moving towards mutual primacy with you, I'm not your guy right now.
What I’m doing with my life
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For the last 4 years I've been with a startup in the ed-tech space. I was a very early employee and have enjoyed watching the company change and grow, and know that I've been part of building something that's gotten to be very real, from a stage when it was a lot more fantasy. We're still at the beginning in some ways, and lately I'm extremely busy but extremely happy.

A few summers ago I finished a documentary about a group of Jazz musicians in Harlem which premiered at the Harlem Film festival. I love film, and have spent 2 summers, one at Oxford and the other at Universal Studios in California studying it. Previously I've had gigs dealing with internet media and Art Gallery openings, and conferences where people need video.

My primary health and fitness activity used to be my DDR habit (Seriously curtailed now that I live in an apartment), but that's been replaced by 3x weekly gym visits (personal trainer and Yoga). Been at it for almost the last half year and looking to ramp it up.

A former partner and I took dance classes for a while and I'm looking for another creative thing to do every so often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a very talented video editor, as I've mentioned. I am a talented speaker, a veteran of high school forensics, that is the speech, and debate teams in high school and college. I mostly enjoyed the speech events for the ability to train my acting skills, which I've employed in straight drama and musical theater. I sing a very solid baritone-bass.

I am also very good at saying what is on my mind. I will probably tend to give you an accurate criticism rather than unadulterated praise if you ask me "what do you think?" about something and want an honest answer. While I do reasonably good job of employing tact and separating genuine requests for feedback from phatic communication, some people find this trait harsh. However, you won't ever have to worry about hyperanalyzing the things I say and wonder "what did he mean by that?" because I say what I mean, and if you are ever confused, just ask.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My large blue eyes, my deep voice, or my laugh come to mind. The laugh is boisterous at times, but it lets people know that there's the ability to relax under a sometimes intense exterior.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Sushi and other Japanese food are what I have at my parties, and I enjoy a good steak, and if you have a place that does good dollar oysters, I'll appreciate the tip -- but beyond any specific foods, I am a general foodie. this doesn't mean I only like expensive/lavish foods, but that I want to enjoy food as an experience and bountiful delight for the senses, whatever/wherever it is. There are few greater pleasures than sharing a good meal with someone else who shares this fervent passion. This is a must have in even a semi-serious partner.

I really liked Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, whose American Gods was also wonderful. I regret that I haven't lately done as much pleasure reading as I used to before college. Lately my pleasure reading is webcomics and the Dresden Files.

My favorite Movies list is tremendous, but I can briefly mention Fight Club Blazing Saddles, High Fidelity, and Toy Story 2.

As far as music goes, I have a wide variety of interests, ranging from Eminem and Dr. Dre to The Beatles to Weird Al. I'm not a huge top 40s fan outside of hip-hop, and even there I'm selective, but some popular music is getting better lately. I used to be a choreographer for a broadway singing group, so, no surprise I'm a fan there. Big on Sondheim particularly.

Not music, but worth adding that I frequently listen to NPR Podcasts, (Wait Wait, Don't Tell me, This American Life, Serial) and Dan Savage's Savage Lovecast, as well.

I'm going to add TV and some other items as well that I can't figure out where else to put.

TV: I'm a Sci-Fi buff, my father and I when I was young would always watch the Showtime Sci-Friday with Stargate SG1, followed by the New Outer Limits. I also like Star Trek TNG, and Quantum Leap. I also like shows that have a large puzzle solving component, like MacGyver, CSI, and House Been told I resemble him in some character traits.

Video Games: Much of the Final Fantasy and most of Squaresoft's works.

My username comes from a few places. Khyros is a character I created for a an online text based Roleplaying game, in 7th grade. One of many RPGs I've been interested in since. FinalCut is a Video Editing program, but I actually use Premiere as well. The format of the name (Khyros the FinalCut, in full) is from an anime I really enjoy called Trigun. I'll be happy to tell you more about that later, though if you can figure out "what I was going for" there, you get mega bonus points.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Broadband internet... not anymore... at least not for more than a few days. I'm not ALWAYS online, but I like knowing that I always CAN be.

2) Conversations with my dearest friends.

3) Cell phones. I still remember when it was "Let's go see a movie" Sure, "I'll meet you by the Ice Cream place at 345." and if you were late, well, hell of a time finding your friends. It got a lot easier when it could be "Hey, I'll call you when I get to the Mall, and we'll meet up and just see whatever's good timewise." I think movies used to be better, too... but the Cell phones have definitely made social get togethers easier.

You know, I pride myself on not having too many concrete attachments... But I'll come back to this later, see what else I can come up with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, what the future holds. How to improve myself. Ways to exercise that don't seem like work. The border between confidence and arrogance.

My friends and I have habits of "mapping" ourselves into either the casts of media we enjoy, or just archetypical groups. For example, I've had many conversations about "who would be who" if my friends were all in an A-Team/Oceans 11 style strike force. I'm either "the leader," "the sniper who betrays everyone in the third act," or "the demolitions expert who has 2 lines: 'Don't touch that.' and 'I told him not to touch that.'" depending on who is present and what I'm wearing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, possibly in with friends, generally with one or two friends. However, there's definitely been an increase in large scale Friday outings lately, and most of my smaller group hanging out time has been Thursdays. Upon occasion, I'm visiting friends who are at school and/or remained local for the weekend.

If it's none of the above, I'm working, surfing the net or indulging in some kind of relaxation after a strenuous week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If you're into this sort of thing, there are a set of restraints attached to my bed frame. I've been told they're comfortable.

If you're not into that, no big deal, but being open-minded in this area is a plus.
You should message me if
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You think I'm devilishly handsome. You know you look good in sweatpants and a T-shirt. You think we have enough in common to connect on intellectual, emotional and physical levels. You will tell me what you're really thinking. You understand that telling the truth to someone is a sign that you really care. You are sane, and don't let your better judgement go out the window on a regular basis.

You understand that I'm NOT looking for non-casual partnerships right now. You can and want to enjoy pleasant and intense sensual/sexual interaction in and of itself, with no assumption implicit or otherwise that it is leading/building up to anything else.

You're someone who can be both passionate and easy-going, effortlessly competent but not immune to enticement. You are somebody who will laugh when I flatter you shamelessly, and then suddenly go on tip-toe to grab a kiss. You're somebody who is ready to be seduced at any moment by the good things in life, but who knows that there's more to life than that. You have real insight into what makes people tick.

You've been in this situation at a point in time when you were over 16.

You think you can beat me at Scrabble or Super Smash Brothers Brawl.

You're GGG.

You really want to get the tension out of my shoulders and -- wait, wrong question.

Carry on, then.