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31 M New York, NY

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 25–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Sep 17
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Gemini, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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STOP ASKING ME TO HELP YOU CHEAT ON YOUR LONG DISTANCE BOYFRIEND! I didn't think this needed spelling out, but, I do the ethical kind of non monogamy, not "discreet fun." Dump your boyfriend or redefine your relationship as nonmonogamous and then call me. After that, we can be as discreet as you like.

I am a creative individual with dreams and the drive to realize them. I graduated Harvard in 05 with a degree in Folklore and Mythology. I focused on Old Norse and wrote my thesis about Beowulf. I've done a lot of freelance work in the new media/social mediaspace. It's amazing how much storytelling as a field of study is the same or at least cross applicable, across so many kinds of media.

I've come, over the past 5 years and change to really embrace polyamory. I list myself here as single because I do not have a primary, build-a-life-together type relationship. There is currently one person, not someone local, who I consider myself in a relationship with, she is engaged and has other local partners. If you want to have a more than casual connection with me, you need to be okay with, or at least be willing to try formalized nonmonogamous arrangements.

I never was tremendously social in high school or before, but now, I'm known for throwing legendary weekend long parties, once or twice a year, and other less extravagant gatherings that still leave people thoroughly entertained.

I am attentive, considerate, and witty.

I recently had a conversation wherein I asserted that it would be better in general if people put their flaws out there more prominently in online dating. So, one of mine: When someone is telling me about an upset in their life, I cannot always tease out when blanket emotional support is going to be more helpful than stepping back from a situation and discussing potential solutions. I am good at providing support when it's clear that it is what is needed, but the fact that I'm extremely solution oriented, tending try to fix a problem before offering a response mostly about emotional support sometimes ends up making me look less compassionate/passionate than I am and feel internally.
What I’m doing with my life
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I am the Senior Producer for a company that teaches people how to use the internet with Video. Lately I'm extremely busy but extremely happy.

A few summers ago I finished a documentary about a group of Jazz musicians in Harlem which premiered at the Harlem Film festival. I love film, and have spent 2 summers, one at Oxford and the other at Universal Studios in California studying it. Lately, I've had gigs dealing with internet media and Art Gallery openings, and conferences where people need video.

I need to get back into the serious interest in my health and fitness I pursued last year. I have always had a slim and decent build, but was never really too much above average in physical strength or condition. Taking steps to change that. This in addition to my DDR habit (Seriously curtailed now that I live in an apartment).

My primary and I took dance classes for a while and I'm looking for another creative thing to do every so often.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm a very talented video editor, as I've mentioned. I am a talented speaker, a veteran of high school forensics, that is the speech, and debate teams in high school and college. I mostly enjoyed the speech events for the ability to train my acting skills, which I've employed in straight drama and musical theater. I sing a very solid baritone-bass.

I am also very good at saying what is on my mind. I will probably tend to give you an accurate criticism rather than unadulterated praise if you ask me "what do you think?" about something and want an honest answer. While I do reasonably good job of employing tact and separating genuine requests for feedback from phatic communication, some people find this trait harsh. However, you won't ever have to worry about hyperanalyzing the things I say and wonder "what did he mean by that?" because I say what I mean, and if you are ever confused, just ask.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My large blue eyes, my deep voice, or my laugh come to mind. The laugh is boisterous at times, but it lets people know that there's the ability to relax under a sometimes intense exterior.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I really liked Good Omens by Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman, whose American Gods was also wonderful. I regret that I haven't lately done as much pleasure reading as I used to before college.

My favorite Movies list is tremendous, but I can briefly mention Fight Club Blazing Saddles, High Fidelity, and Toy Story 2. I'm tossing V for Vendetta on there now too.

As far as music goes, I have a wide variety of interests, ranging from Eminem and Dr. Dre to The Beatles to Weird Al. I'm not a huge top 40s fan outside of hip-hop, and even there I'm selective, but some popular music is getting better lately. I used to be a choreographer for a broadway singing group, so, no surprise I'm a fan there. Big on Sondheim particularly.

I love good steak. Outback, despite being a chain, does do it right. The best steak I've had probably came from Morimoto, in Philadelphia. (The former Iron Chef's restaurant) Sushi and other Japanese food are what I have at my parties.

I'm going to add TV and some other items as well that I can't figure out where else to put.

TV: I'm a Sci-Fi buff, my father and I, for a while when I was young would always watch the Showtime Sci-Friday with Stargate SG1, followed by the New Outer Limits. I also like Star Trek TNG, and Quantum Leap. I also like shows that have a large puzzle solving component, like MacGyver, CSI, and House Been told I resemble him in some character traits.

Video Games: Much of the Final Fantasy and most of Squaresoft's works.

My username comes from a few places. Khyros is a character I created for a an online text based Roleplaying game, in 7th grade. One of many RPGs I've been interested in since. FinalCut is a Video Editing program, but I actually use Premiere as well. The format of the name (Khyros the FinalCut, in full) is from an anime I really enjoy called Trigun. I'll be happy to tell you more about that later, though if you can figure out "what I was going for" there, you get mega bonus points.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Broadband internet... not anymore... at least not for more than a few days. I'm not ALWAYS online, but I like knowing that I always CAN be.

2) Conversations with my dearest friends.

3) Cell phones. I still remember when it was "Let's go see a movie" Sure, "I'll meet you by the Ice Cream place at 345." and if you were late, well, hell of a time finding your friends. It got a lot easier when it could be "Hey, I'll call you when I get to the Mall, and we'll meet up and just see whatever's good timewise." I think movies used to be better, too... but the Cell phones have definitely made social get togethers easier.

You know, I pride myself on not having too many concrete attachments... But I'll come back to this later, see what else I can come up with.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Life, what the future holds. How to improve myself. Ways to exercise that don't seem like work. The border between confidence and arrogance.

My friends and I have habits of "mapping" ourselves into either the casts of media we enjoy, or just archetypical groups. For example, I've had many conversations about "who would be who" if my friends were all in an A-Team/Oceans 11 style strike force. I'm either "the leader," "the sniper who betrays everyone in the third act," or "the demolitions expert who has 2 lines: 'Don't touch that.' and 'I told him not to touch that.'" depending on who is present and what I'm wearing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out with friends, possibly in with friends, generally with one or two friends. However, there's definitely been an increase in large scale Friday outings lately, and most of my smaller group hanging out time has been Thursdays. Upon occasion, I'm visiting friends who are at school and/or remained local for the weekend.

If it's none of the above, I'm working, surfing the net or indulging in some kind of relaxation after a strenuous week.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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If you're into this sort of thing, there are a set of restraints attached to my bed frame. I've been told they're comfortable.

If you're not into that, no big deal, but being open-minded in this area is a plus.
You should message me if
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You think I'm devilishly handsome. You know you look good in sweatpants and a T-shirt. You think we have enough in common to connect on intellectual, emotional and physical levels. You will tell me what you're really thinking. You understand that telling the truth to someone is a sign that you really care. You are sane, and don't let your better judgement go out the window on a regular basis.

You're someone who can be both passionate and easy-going, effortlessly competent but not immune to enticement. You are somebody who will laugh when I flatter you shamelessly, and then suddenly go on tip-toe to grab a kiss. You're somebody who is ready to be seduced at any moment by the good things in life, but who knows that there's more to life than that. You have real insight into what makes people tick.

You've been in this situation at a point in time when you were over 16.

You think you can beat me at Scrabble or Super Smash Brothers Brawl.

You know what GGG means and are it.

You really want to get the tension out of my shoulders and -- wait, wrong question.

Carry on, then.