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Last online
Sep 16
Open relationship
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5' 7" (1.70m)
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Has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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This tidbit belongs at the top! These days I find myself in a polyamorous relationship with Cabadobedia. Love doesn't have to be linear. Over the years, I have met several friends who are near and dear to my heart on this site. I welcome more people to be weird with. I will state with some sadness that OKC is not the site it once was.

Ignore my overly flowery language and poignancy. I'm not really that serious a person, this is just the me that emerges in writing. In person I'm more likely to bounce and blush and babble... often blushing at whatever insanity I've just babbled.

I am me. I'm quirky, socially awkward but unfailingly friendly and compassionate. I don't always say the right thing, but when I say it, my heart is in the right place. I need to be heard... I'm usually fairly rational, but only if I don't feel like I'm being marginalized. Make me feel listened to and reap the benefits. I try to be a good person. I will always be a bit of a nerd and I will always be a bit of an animal freak. I try to believe in the goodness of humanity, though sometimes that is easier than others. I have a desperate desire to help others and to make others happy. I need to feel that I am of some use for making the lives of others better.

I'm passionate. This can have both good and bad aspects. I give of myself willingly and gladly. I go out of my way to make others feel like the treasured human beings I believe them to be. I also have my moments of falling to pieces... who doesn't? When it comes right down to it, I'm resilient and can be a rock for others, so long as that goes both ways. Hell, even if it doesn't, sometimes especially when it doesn't, for who am I to ever turn away another human being in need?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
This may sound trite, but... I'm trying to find myself. I sort of went missing somewhere along the way. I think I know who I am, but I need to suss out how much is me, and how much is other people. My spirituality is a big aspect that I want to explore more.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Procrastination! Wait, no, that's not considered good... I only procrastinate about unimportant stuff, like updating my dating profile.

I'm an upbeat cheerful person much of the time, including when I possibly shouldn't be, so I can be good at shining a ray of sunlight into the lives of others. Assuming I'm not trying to overcome my natural tendency to smile and managing a disturbing grimace as I try to convey the right emotion at the right time... which is not me trying to rip off Hyperbole & a Half, I simply related all too well to that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My crazed smile? My contagious (and rather unabashedly loud) laugh? Possibly the glint of almost scary glee? IF you catch me on a good day :P
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The affections of animals.

The affections of human beings.

Forests to ground me.

Waters to swim in.

Caffeine to focus me.

Work to make me feel useful.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
If you've seen Babylon 5, you may have some awareness of Michael Garibaldi. In one episode, we're given an insight into his mind and how he plans out various possible interactions that he might have and exactly how he plans to handle each. That... I related to better than I like admitting. I ponder what ifs, but not ones that I expect will actually happen. What if these two people that will never meet met, how would that scenario play out?

I also fixate on stories I'm reading or watching or the lives of people I care about.

I'm pretty damn confident I think about other things too, but this is one part of it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm human. I may have a moral code that I try to follow, but I know full well how humanly flawed I am. I'm not perfect, so I don't expect anyone else to be either. We're all just doing our best. I'll try not to judge you if you try not to judge me, 'kay?
You should message me if
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