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My self-summary
What am I? Playful, inquisitive, quick and resilient. Stubborn and a bit too wordy. I am good at cutting to the point and terrible at small talk, but I am also that asshole who will talk religion and politics at the bar when there's an obvious reason that most folks don't. I play well in small groups, but turn into an insular fucktard at large gatherings. This is weird to me, because I'm also fine performing on stage for however many people. Not that I do that anymore, but whatever. I digress. Frequently. I like seeing where the unbeaten path leads, rarely giving due notice or even giving a solid fuck about paved avenues of more obvious success. I mentioned the stubborn thing, right? I could be talked out of it.

I like to write. I do it a fair bit, but I always wish it was more. I've never had the time to truly treat it like a job, which is rather a shame, since I believe that's what it takes to succeed. Or that could be an excuse. Or both, in whatever measure. So it goes. Either way, I've spent my life cooking stuff instead.

I love cooking stuff! It's been a worthy distraction from the first thing, don't get me wrong. But I feel like it's a distraction nonetheless, and I'll get back to the other thing. Possibly in retirement. In the meantime, I just opened a new restaurant. Why not, right? Anyway, I spend a lot of time trying to keep my mind from getting blown these days, but it's all good.

What else? I like going out, but I'm also pretty damned comfortable as a homebody. I'm one of those idiots who thinks the cats miss him. (It's only two kitties, which is one away from the "crazy cat person" threshold.) I like snuggling under blankets and watching movies. I make amazing snacks. I love going out to eat, being obsessed with food in general. On the other hand, I'm not going clubbing unless we're playing Whack-A-Mole. Not fucking doing it. I love going to see live music, however, and want more of that sweet shizzle in my diet. And I do like trying new things. New things are cool.

And stuff. Questions? Comments? Sarcastic remarks? Hit me up.

I respond to enthusiasm.
What I’m doing with my life
Mostly: savoring the chaos.

I just opened a new restaurant. It's my first business, so it's both terrifying and exciting. It takes and will take a lot of time. Just throwing that out there.

This section used to be longer, since I lumped in all of these other goings-on and ambitions that have since been superceded by the restaurant thing that's happening.

But yeah, that's it.
I’m really good at
- Summing things up
- Food
- Fixing stuff, broken or otherwise.
- Wielding a red pen.
- Forgetting to bite my tongue.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm a smiler. Because of this, most folks start out thinking that I'm more cheerful than I really am. This has mostly worked to my advantage, but there have been notable exceptions.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
As books go, I mostly read novels and short stories with the occasional memoir or political diatribe sprinkled in for color. Oh, and cookbooks, though I rarely cook with a recipe actually in front of me. A few favorite books: "A Heartbreaking Work Of Staggering Genius" by Dave Eggers, "Good Omens" by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett, "Inside Mr. Enderby" by Anthony Burgess, "I Have No Mouth And I Must Scream" by Harlan Ellison, "The Real Frank Zappa Book" by FZ and Peter Occhiogrosso, "Still Life With Woodpecker" by Tom Robbins, "One Flew Over The Cuckoo's Nest" by Ken Kesey. Lots more. I'll stop there. I also read lots of plays, but less now since I don't really *do* plays anymore.

As movies go, I like a lot of things, ranging from cheap to classic. I like sci-fi, horror, action, adventure, comedy, westerns (particularly the classic spaghetti variety), martial arts flicks. I do like drama, but it's got to be gritty and dark. Think the opposite of Seabiscuit. If it's smart enough, it doesn't have to be dark, but it must certainly be gritty. A brief smattering of off-the-cuff essentials: Once Upon A Time In The West, Dr. Strangelove, Miller's Crossing, GoodFellas, Evil Dead 2, Rear Window, Zombieland, The Shawshank Redemption, Pulp Fiction, Fists Of Fury, Naked, Groundhog Day, The Usual Suspects, The Godfather 1 & 2 (but not so much on #3), Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid, Alien, The Exorcist, Rosemary's Baby, Young Frankenstein, Brazil. I'll stop there.

TV shows: *Doctor Who*. Boom. *The Twilight Zone*. Boom.
(I'm talking mostly about the original Twilight Zone, though there were some decent episodes in the modern reboots.)

And lots more. A selection of current faves: Breaking Bad, Fargo, Sherlock, Orphan Black, Penny Dreadful, House Of Cards, House Of Lies, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, Louie, Misfits, The Thick Of It, Community, Star Trek (TOS and TNG, but not so much with the later shows), Farscape, Firefly, Agents Of SHIELD, Shameless, The Booth At The End (just check it out, it's a free short series on Hulu, and it's amazing), Torchwood (even though Miracle Day was kind of a drag), Fargo, loved Daredevil (and looking forward to the rest of the dark Marvel Universe on Netflix run.) There's more, I'm sure.

I get 95% of my news from Jon Stewart and Stephen Colbert. As a guilty pleasure, I'll also watch any old crap with Gordon Ramsay in it.

As music goes, there's something good being done in every genre, without any exceptions I know of. Having said that, my tastes are fairly rock heavy with a flair for the indie. I also heavily dig on "less-typical" forms of jazz and classical music. As for most other genres, I've got some select favorites, but I only dabble. I don't really dig on much popular music, basically because the radio pop-rock scene is essentially a corporate cesspool. Some favorites: Guided By Voices, Frank Zappa, Tom Waits, King Crimson, Husker Du, Arcade Fire, Modest Mouse, The Mountain Goats, Ryan Adams, John Zorn, Mr. Bungle, Spoon, The Clash, Elvis Costello, Charlie Mingus, Ornette Coleman, Bill Frisell, Sage Francis, Superchunk, Wilco, My Morning Jacket, Beck, Soundgarden, Shellac, and the incomparable Marvin Pontiac.

Spinning in my car as of 05/12:
Electric Six: "Fire"
Guided By Voices: "Isolation Drills"
Frank Black & The Catholics: "Pistolero"
Ryan Adams & The Cardinals: "Cardinology"
And an MP3 disc with a ton of random "post" stuff on it. Post rock, punk, glam, prog, etc. Includes Mission Of Burma, Wire, Brian Eno, Television, and several others. Random favorites.

Food. I like food. This works out well, since I make my living from it. I eat entirely too much red meat, but I'm working on that. I also eat way too much bacon, but I'm not working on that at all. My favorites tend to be American standards, and my international sensibilities seem to usually veer towards Italian. I also dig Thai and love me some sushi.

Essentially, if you make me some pork belly, I'll love you until the end of time.
The six things I could never do without
1. Good friends.
2. Good music.
3. Good food.
4. A decent quality santoku.
5. A bottomless arsenal of sarcasm.
6. My sonic screwdriver.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My new frigging restaurant. Recipes. Jamming out on the guitar. Plotting my next move. Human logistics. Christmas Eve of 2000. The comparison of dreams versus wishes. What to eat next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Lost in Chinatown, looking for my Wookie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
"Trying to quit" has been my smoking status since I joined this site.
You should message me if
1) Based on this, you think we'd jive.

2) You have a pastry related emergency.

3) You're not already seeing other people. I'm tired of playing the field, and I'm rather all set with... um... players of the field. (Which sounds like "Children Of The Corn" or something, but hey... I'm done with them too so whatevs.)

4) You wanna.