I have heard these words all my life in one way of phrasing or another. While I have always felt the truth at the center of this thought, recently, this sentiment finally hit me with great clarity. I am done with the hot-pursuit of She (He?, hell, I don't know, maybe I should be open to everything?) who will make life meaningful. If I cannot find meaning within, no Other will make that happen.
So, rather than potential mates, I would like to utilize OKC to reach out to folks of like interest who just want to hang. If love or something like it were develop, that would be groovy. However, if we decide we'd like to go for a walk, share the vaporizer at SPARC, meet for a drink or go to watch a dance performance together, please remember that I am not eying you as the one who might SAVE me, and I hope you are not looking at me as your White Knight.
Isn’t life interesting? At 51, I am in an age of self-discovery I have not experienced since I was in my early 20s. I feel fortunate to have a stability grounded in coming from what I fancy to be good, honest peasant stock. This base, I hope, gives me the platform to dive into the artistic well, the want for self-exploration, that so characterizes San Francisco.
How I behave here – dress, play, eat, interact – would never have come off so easily in my home town of Albuquerque, New Mexico. And now, over two years removed from a 13-year marriage -- to wonderful women who just was not the right match for me -- I find myself single, free to turn over rocks, look under bushes, and play with crevices in my mind that have been long left unattended. I spent the first months post-divorce immersed in self-medication of booze and pot, but in recent months I have hit my stride.
And now, I look for Friends/Activity partners who want to:
-- walk this magnificent city, whether it is the nature, the cityscapes or the opportunity to just people watch in crowded city corridors
-- take advantage of the City and Bay Area's wealth of performance art, often dirt cheap or free
-- kick a soccer ball around (always looking for players for my Sunday coed team
-- sip coffee or booze, maybe even spark up and talk literature, philosophy and just of the human condition.