My self-summary
What to say? Here are some nouns: I'm a
Unitarian Universalist,
an iNFP (
Myers-Briggs), a
polyamorist,
pansexual and a
switch*, (look them up if you don't
know, buzz off if you don't care).
*Apparently a lot of people
can't find what "switch"
means.
I was born in Boulder, CO, but I went to Hofstra University in
Hempstead,
New
York for two and a half years. I miss the East Coast terribly.
I have a lot of friends in the tri-state area who I would love to
visit soon and often. But, alas, I am poor. I also have relatives
in France and my grandparents live in the Netherlands half of the
year. I love Europe and I think about going there again as soon as
possible. I also want to travel to other places in the world. I'm
an experience junkie.
If you want to give me (or barter for)
plane tickets, message me.
I'm currently a psychology/pre-health student at CU Boulder. If
possible, I'd like to fit in a minor in women's studies. My goal is
to be a nurse practitioner midwife. There is a lot of school
between here and there. I've achieved the first step; I'm now
officially a certified nursing assistant (CNA).
I've always been very interested in earth-based religions
(i.e. pagan). This isn't to say that I would call myself a pagan,
necessarily; I just think earth-based religion is cool. I used to
consider myself an atheist, but now I've decided that I'm neither
an atheist or a theist. You might be thinking, doesn't that mean
you're agnostic? Not quite. Ask me about it. I believe
in the interdependent web of existence of which we are all a part
and the inherent worth and dignity of all people. I also don't
believe there is actual evil in the world...or perhaps that evil
exists, but isn't necessarily a bad thing and pure evil is only an
abstract concept. Basically everyone in the world...everything in
the world...is beautiful and interesting.
I often get the "Playstation" dating type in the OKC test
(although, sometimes when I'm less horny and more cuddly I get the
"Peach"). I think this fits my dating style completely. I also like
that the description implies that I am the perfect woman.
My profile says bisexual, but I'm really
pansexual...meaning I can be attracted to people who identify as
any gender (yes, there are more than two). Most of my relationship
and sexual experiences have been with male people, but I can be,
and have been, attracted to women and trans, genderqueer and
intersexed people as well. As far as traditional gender definitions
go, I'd place myself around 2ish on the Kinsey scale (if that means something to
you, good job). I really like when boys wear make-up and girls have
short hair. Gender-bending is hot.
I don't like talking on the phone. I much prefer text messaging
or IM to phones. I like face-to-face conversations, too. Not
wanting to talk on the phone does not make me a recluse. Yes, this
means I will not have phone sex with you. No, that
doesn't mean I will have cyber sex with you.
I'm aware that my profile is much, much longer than those of
most people. I like myself enough to think it's worth the read.
However, I understand if you want to skim it. There won't be a quiz
or anything, but it's still annoying to talk to people who have
obviously not read any part of one's profile.
OkCupid: Now in French!
Je n'ai pas pratiqué mon francais depuis longtemps. J'ai peur de
sembler stupide. Je suis bien mieux à la lecture lui que je suis à
le parler ou à écrire.
Si tu veux m'aider avec mon Français,
envoie-moi un message.
What I'm doing with my life
College...self discovery...learning about people. Learning
basically. I want to learn as much as I can and experience as much
as possible in my life.
Right now, I'm working on a bachelor's degree in psychology in
anticipation of applying for an accelerated BSN program at one of
the nursing schools in Colorado. Lately, I've also been thinking
about maybe going to nursing school elsewhere. The midwifery
movement in North America started in Seattle (plus I have tons of high
matches there), several of my very good friends recently moved to
Albuquerque,
and there are the zillions of friends on the East Coast. The moral
is: it's possible I might go to nursing school somewhere other than
here. Maybe you want to convince me to study somewhere near
you.
I work as a certified nursing assistant doing home health care
through a hospital. Eventually, I'll also be picking up some shifts
at the hospital itself. Mostly, I hang out with old people and make
sure they don't fall and break their hips.
Oh, and I'm passionately into industrial hemp... Well,
cannabis in
general, but especially hemp. Prepare for lengthy discussions about
its merits if you dare to ask.
I'm rather passionate about political activism. I was raised by activists and
community organizers, so I've been going to protests and sending
out mailings since I could lick envelopes. I was involved in a lot
of campus activities at Hofstra including The Students Against
Injustice (SAI), Women of Action (WOA), and People Responding to
Issues of Sexual Minorities (PRISM). For now, I'm kind of a
freelance activist, but I'm interested in industrial hemp, local
organizing, the anti-Coca-Cola campaign,
women's rights (this means I'm pro-choice, just FYI), GLBTQ stuff,
pro-peace stuff and environmentalism. If you're curious about or
involved in any of those causes and want/need info/volunteers,
please message me. If you're looking for a fight, don't bother.
Actually, if you're looking for a fight, go ahead and message me so
my friends and I can laugh at you.
I want to learn Gaelic, Cornish, Sami, and Polish. Well really, I want to learn any
language I can. I'm especially interested in those mostly because I
have Cornish/British, Sami and Polish ancestors, but I think
language is fascinating in general. Message me if you want to
teach me a new language or practice French with me.
My life goal is to be a part of the creation of a sustainable,
self-sufficient intentional community,
perhaps something like an eco-village. I grew up on what
used to be a commune north of Boulder, CO. When I was growing up it
was no longer technically a commune, but there were seven families
sharing an address, storage space, meeting space, a park with a
trampoline, an organic garden, chickens and the chores that went
with them. It was an amazing, idyllic childhood. Recently, we had
to move into town because my parents got divorced and made some bad
financial decisions. I miss The Lykins Gulch Farm and I hope that I
can have a similar/better experience in the future and share it
with my partner(s), my (potential) kids, and the other people I
love.
I'm not currently doing anything about it, but I would like to
learn to make my own clothing and shoes. And gardening. I grew up
on a farm with an organic garden, but I was always off in my own
little world or inside reading a book, so I didn't really learn
much about growing food.
I'm really good at
Writing (verse
and prose), languages. At Hofstra, I was an
English literature major
with a minor in
linguistics. I'm good at science and
math too. I guess one could call me a well-rounded student (if one
were so inclined). I used to want to be a psychiatrist, but as I've
learned more about the profession, I've realized that it's not for
me. Right now, my career aspirations include becoming a holistic
nurse
practitioner midwife. It would also be cool to be an
author/poet, but I wouldn't presume to think that I could make a
living that way.
Listening. I often find that I've learned a lot about a person
without telling them a whole lot about me. I think I'm good at
asking questions and people tend to want to tell me their secrets.
Then again, every once in a while, I do like to go on about myself.
Example A: this profile.
Let's see...impressing professors/teachers, dancing and singing,
public speaking, applying make-up, informing people about hemp,
multitasking.
I'm not-so-good at sports, being on time, keeping my room tidy,
doing anything beyond a pony-tail with my hair, obeying comma
rules, or resisting the sirens' call of late-night internet.
The first thing(s) people usually notice about me
That I'm taller than most people. Although, I don't really pay much
attention to height unless someone is noticeably taller than I am.
A few years ago, an old man stopped me on the sidewalk and told
me that I'm an "amazon" and that I should never change, that I'm
beautiful and I have a beautiful personality (not sure how he knew
my personality, but whatev). Then as I was walking away he said
that he'd never forget me. I'm pretty sure he was an insane,
homeless person, but that was still a good day.
michaelstone: "your height, your
vibrance, your take no shit/take no prisoners attitude...yeah, your
stature... there are tall ppl out there that just slink along and
don't look very tall regardless of how tall they really are... they
tend to be goofy and blah... but you carry yourself extremely well,
and when you look at someone they can feel you before they even get
close to you"
JudgeRichter: "You're just, well,
hehe, just a wonderfully pleasant woman."
rogerpyoko:
"Well, I'm not going to mince words or sweeten my sentences for
this...You are a fucking sexy bombshell."
nephtys_moon: "You're sexual and
powerful and straightforward and analytical, but also nurturing and
motherly and willing to be dominated, all in one delicious package.
You're a strong, sensual, loving, independent woman. or it could
just be your beautiful ass :0)" (This was actually in reference to
why she likes me, not what she noticed first, but I couldn't resist
quoting it.)
I used to think that it was my weight, but, really, too many
people lately have been telling me that I'm sexy anyway, so, while
I would like to lose weight for health reasons and so that I can
climb fences during the revolution, I don't really give a
shit about doing it for cosmetic ones.
My hair. It was down to the small of my back till I donated
about a foot of it to Locks of Love in January of 2005,
and now I'm growing it out again. People are always commenting on
it no matter how long it is. I just dyed it red, too, so people
have been noticing that.
Honestly, my breasts. They're quite large. I'm not being a
braggart. I find them kind of annoying, but I'm fairly certain that
they're one (or should I say, two) of my features that stands
out.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
(A1) Books: American Gods by Neil Gaiman,
America: The Book by
Jon Stewart,
An
Unquiet Mind by Kay Redfield Jamison,
The Best Awful
by Carrie Fisher,
The Emperor Wears No
Clothes by
Jack Herer,
Ender's Shadow, by Orson
Scott Card (
Ender's Game is really good, and
Ender's
Shadow is even better),
The Ethical Slut by
Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt,
The Grapes of Wrath by
John
Steinbeck,
Good Omens by Neil Gaiman and Terry
Pratchett,
The Hemp Manifesto by
Rowan Robinson,
Leaves of Grass by
Walt Whitman,
The
Martian Chronicles by Ray Bradbury,
Places I Never Meant to
Be edited by Judy Blume,
The Red Tent by Anita Diamant,
Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of
Love by Betsey Prioleau (which I think any sex-positive
feminist should read),
Sweep series by Cate Tiernan,
Under the Roofs of
Paris by
Henry Miller,
Wicked and
Son of a Witch by Gregory Maguire,
Woman on the Edge
of Time by Marge Piercy...the list goes on
forever.
I'm currently reading a few things. I picked up a book called
Nurse that was written in the 70s when I picked up my dad
from the hospital a few weeks ago. It's an interesting perspective
on nursing since so much has changed in 30+ years. I also recently
borrowed westernhms's copy of Watchmen by
Alan Moore and Dave Gibbons. I haven't ever read a graphic novel
before, oddly enough. I've paused in the middle of Dune
Messiah by Frank Herbert, and Beauty's Punishment, the
second part of the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by A.N. Roquelaure (AKA
Anne Rice).
(A2) Authors: Some of my favorites include: Marge Piercy,
John Steinbeck, Douglas Adams, Orson Scott Card, Ray Bradbury, and
I'm beginning to get into Neil Gaiman. I also want to read more
Palahniuk. So far, I've read Choke and Rant and, like
most people of my generation, seen Fight Club.
(A3) Webcomics: xkcd,
Questionable
Content, Something
Positive, Penny
Arcade, and Scary Go Round. Also, I
love Homestarrunner.com and
Foamy the Squirrel. And
they're not cartoons/comics, but the Olde English comedy troupe is
hilarious.
(B) Movies: My (ever-changing) top ten: Amélie/Le Fabuleux Destin
D'Amélie Poulain, I ♥ Huckabees, Juno,
Kinsey, Life of David
Gale, Love
Actually, Pan's Labyrinth, Reefer Madness the
Movie Musical, Secretary, and Shortbus.
About a Boy, American Beauty, Bandits, Boondock Saints,
Chocolat, Donnie
Darko, The
Fall, Garden
State, Gattaca, Greenfingers, Hedwig and the Angry
Inch, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy BBC miniseries,
House of 1000 Corpses, Idiocracy, Mirror Mask, The Motercycle
Diaries, Napoleon Dynamite, Ocean's 11, O Brother, Where Art
Thou?, Pirates of the Caribbean (particularly the first one), The
Princess Bride, Rent,
Run, Lola,
Run/Lola rennt, Saved, School of Rock, The Secret Life of Bees,
Serenity, Se7en, Silence of the Lambs, Sin City, Strange Days,
Stranger Than Fiction, Superbad, Tank Girl, The Usual Suspects,
Waiting, Waking
Life, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory (that's right, the
Gene Wilder version), and some of M. Night Shyamalan's stuff.
Also Surplus,
The
Corporation, Super Size Me, and Sicko, among others.
I like movies. Especially ones with Kevin Spacey, Jessica Alba,
Jake
Gyllenhaal, Maggie Gyllenhaal, Johnny Depp, Justin Long, or
Jack Black in
them, or directed by Kevin Smith. Ooh, and Gael Garcia
Bernal...yum. Recently, I've also had crush on Simon Pegg...you might know him
as Shaun of the Dead, but he's done a lot of British TV, as well.
But, as I was saying, I like movies. I can usually find something I
like about a movie, even if it wasn't amazing (if only just to feel
like I didn't waste my time by watching it). Even if the plot was
lame, I might like the acting or the cinematography, for
example.
(B2) Television: I try not to watch TV, but I completely
fail. Thank gods for DVR (at least I can skip the commercials).
When I do watch TV, I like Black Books, Dexter, Doctor Who (old and new), The
Daily Show and The Colbert Report, House, Monk, Psych, Pushing
Daisies, Reaper, The Riches, Scrubs, The Simpsons, Six Feet Under,
Spaced, Veronica Mars, and Weeds. I'm currently catching up with
Heroes and Buffy. I watched the entire Firefly series on DVD and
totally wish it hadn't been canceled. Same deal with Wonderfalls. My
all-time favorite TV show is Dark Angel (Jessica Alba's first big acting
job). It was canceled by Fox after two (awesome) seasons, but I
think they made a huge mistake. If you haven't seen it, you should,
and if you have and you liked it, it's likely we'll get along...or
at least have something to talk about. Common preference doesn't
imply emotional compatibility, unfortunately.
(C) Music: Some bands/artists/compilations whose music I
have been known to enjoy in the past include: A Perfect Circle,
Bad
Religion, Blue October, Cake, Death Cab for Cutie, The
Decemberists, Mari Boine Persen, Modest
Mouse, Mindless Self
Indulgence, Nathaniel Merriweather,
Of Montreal,
OK Go,
Radiohead, Stravinsky, The Flaming Lips,
The Streets,
Thievery Corporation, The Garden State
soundtrack, the Romeo + Juliet soundtrack, the O Brother Where
Art Thou Soundtrack, almost anything. I promise, I probably like
what you like. The band or the genre isn't important to me when it
comes to music. I pretty much go with the flow when listening with
other people, and listen to whatever sounds good to me at the
moment by myself.
(D) Food: In alphabetical order: artichoke with melted
butter or mayo, avocados, borscht, caesar salad, candy, chocolate,
corn dogs (vegetarian ones, that is), crab legs, dolmathes (stuffed
grape leaves), dumplings of any sort, esp. pierogi, eggs,
Ethiopian, fresh fruit, gourmet, Greek, Honey Bunches of Oats,
Indian, Japanese, Mexican, mint Milanos, Moroccan, Nouveau Cuisine,
pistachios, Polish, potatoes, pumpkin pie, Russian, sushi, sweet
corn on the cob, Terra Chips, Thai, Tibetan, vegan/vegetarian,
whole grain bread. I'm addicted to Vitamin Water (especially
energy, power-c and XXX); this makes me feel guilty because Glaceau
was recently bought by the Coca-Cola company (killercoke.org). I dislike
tomatoes. If you like tomatoes, you can have the ones that always
seem to end up on my plate.
Message me if you want to feed me good food.
I was raised semi-vegetarian (i.e. no red meat), so red meat
makes me physically uncomfortable if I eat it. I was vegan for a
while when I lived in New York, but I've found that the diet that
works best for me is mostly-pesco-vegetarian. Sometimes I'll eat
poultry, but I really try to make sure it's humane and organic.
It's less about health for me than it is about treating animals
with respect while they're alive (no, I don't particularly mind
killing them, if it's done humanely and not at the end of a
horrible, painful life) and not ruining our delicate environment.
Factory farms suck.
I took a class on nutrition a few semesters ago, and it was one
of the most interesting classes I've ever taken. I think everyone
would benefit from a class like it. Eat more fiber, people! And
omega-3 fatty acids! (Did you know that hempseed has omega-3s in
it?) And stop eating trans fat and high fructose corn syrup,
seriously.
(E) Some random things I like: board games, care
packages, dragonflies, gift baskets, interesting fruit, hotels,
make-overs, and violets.
The six things I could never do without
Water, food, oxygen, shelter, skin, gravity. Right.
Positive reinforcement, good grades, compliments...wait, these
are all the same...
People with whom I have mutual love, physical affection (this
includes--but is not limited to--sex), a place to relax and
recharge away from the rest of the world, something to think/write
about, something to write with, glasses/contacts.
Do what without, exactly? Be happy? Survive? Damned
ambiguous bastards, and their word games.
Company. Seriously. "It's hard to be polyamorous alone."
-Celestina726
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Boys. Sex. Duh.
Polyamory vs. monogamy. Sexuality in general. Gender.
Philosophical bullshit. Poetry. I'm going to put here that I
have academic crushes on Thomas Jefferson and Walt Whitman. I want
to have a threesome with them. You can decide whether I mean
literally or figuratively. Maybe a fivesome with Alfred Kinsey and
Mae West, too. (No, I am most certainly NOT a necrophile.)
Where I'm going (figuratively) and how to get there. And how
much it's gonna cost.
The future. The past. That stupid thing I said and what the
perfect comeback would have been.
This site. Why I have better luck getting laid by people I meet
online than those I meet in person. I'm a complete OKCupid geek.
I've met those who are more hardcore than I am, but I effing love
this site.
The people I love who aren't here. And the people I love who
are.
Meta-cognition. What to write in this box.
This is why my experiences getting high are not always pleasant:
I love everything in the world. I think the universe is infinitely
beautiful and I am in love with it. However, not everything in the
universe is going to love me back, so I will always be in a state
of perpetual rejection. Rejection is painful, so I will be in pain
till a release...like death. However the universe is infinite. It
has always been, it will always be. It includes everything, even
opposites like black and white, good and evil...life and death. So
even when I die, I will not be released from the universe and I
will still be in constant pain. Till infinity. :-D
A good friend of mine, with whom I have unfortunately lost
touch, helped me realize that even though pain and rejection will
continue till infinity, so will love and acceptance. Even if there
will be constant pain in my existence, love will be there as well
and will balance it out. Thanks Elissa!
Pain means you are alive. The flaws of the Universe make it more
beautiful.
EDITORS
On a typical Friday night I am
At a party or a club or chillaxin' with my good friends.
Either that, or online, chatting with my numerous internet
buddies and surfing the web.
Out dancing.
On my bed watching movies/porn or Stumbling Upon.
Or in bed with a hot boy, or girl, or both.
Waiting for you to message me.
On Monday evenings, I'm invariably at the Boulder Poly meeting.
It's essentially a few of my poly friends and I getting together to
talk about whatever (sometimes poly issues, often just our lives
and movies and whatnot) and we usually get dinner. If you're
interested in coming sometime, drop me a line.
The most private thing I'm willing to admit here
I know that it's become somewhat of a cliché on here to say "you
should just ask me", but really, I'm an open book. I'm not very
private about much, so ask away.
Again, not very private: I'm polyamorous. I believe in many kinds
of love and I don't think that only having sex with one person
makes sense if one loves many people. And loving one person doesn't
make sense if one sex-es many people. Also, I don't need to be in
love with someone to have a respectful sexual relationship with
them, and having sex with various people outside of my primary
relationship(s) doesn't take anything away from it/them (except
time, sometimes). In fact, often, extra sex (practice, fodder) can
contribute to my love relationships. I love most people to varying
degrees (not all sexual, of course...this does not
necessarily mean that I will have sex with you!).
I consider myself a switch when it comes to D/s, but I'm more of
a masochist when it comes to SM. I've certainly had more experience
as a sub, but I know there's an inner Domme in me waiting to break
out and flog someone. Message me if you want to give me BDSM
tools/toys.
I broke my left ankle in a freak erotic hypnosis accident. Then I
broke my right ankle falling down the stairs at a club on goth
night less than two years later.
I once used OKCupid to organize an orgy.
I've wanted to dissect a cadaver since 9th grade biology.
I pick my nose. But come on, who doesn't?
I used to be rather ageist. I'm getting over it, but it still
takes me a little while to warm up to people more than 15 years
older than me.
If you're cool enough, live close enough, and I'm in the right
mood, I'll probably meet you in person. Please don't be a serial
killer. Lots of people love me. Although, if you are a
serial killer, but I'm not the type of person you want to
kill...that could be interesting.
You should message me if
First of all, if you woo me and we match under 75%, I will most
likely just delete it. If we have a low match percentage, you're
going to have to work to convince me that I should be interested in
talking to you.
I'm always open to making new friends with all types of people,
but my recent dating experiences have led me to feel like I need to
establish a "no monos" policy. If you just want to be friends,
dating style doesn't matter. If you want to date me/get in my
pants, you need to be poly.
With those things in mind, you should message me if...
...you actually read my entire profile. This isn't necessary
(it's fucking long), but is commendable nonetheless.
...you want to do so for one of the reasons in bold in the rest
of my profile.
...girls who speak (intermediate level) French (with a great
accent) turn you on.
...you want to tell me how beautiful, sexy and/or intelligent I
am.
...you are a talented tattoo artist and want to give me free
tattoos.
...you want to learn ballroom and/or tango with me. Seriously. I
would love to find a dance partner.
...you match me 90% or above, you are taller than me, strong,
flexible and attractive, you are a socially conscious, polyamorous
activist, open-minded UU/Pagan/agnostic, yet somehow also wealthy,
you have a hemp-powered car, hemp sheets, hemp clothes, hemp shoes
and use hemp shampoo, soap and lotion, you look good scruffy, but
clean up well, you give good massages/cunnilingus voluntarily, you like to
travel, you're interested in starting an eco-village, you speak
several languages (Romance, Germanic, programming, etc.), you are
vegan, vegetarian or vegetarian-friendly, you've read Woman on
the Edge of Time by Marge Piercy and liked it, you do romantic
things, you like children, you like sex (you'd think that would be
a no-brainer, but I've met some strange people), you like to dance,
you write, you have energy efficient houses in Colorado, New York,
Amsterdam, the
Bay Area, and Paris, and you want to share it all with me. :)
Facial hair and musical ability are good too. Don't worry if you
don't match this one. It's an ideal!
...you're a nerd. I usually like nerds and often like geeks, so
talk nerdy to me.
...My highest possible match is 98%, and the highest match I've
found is 97%...can you close the gap? (P.S. A super high match
percentage isn't as important to me as a lot of other things. I'm
more interested in knowing if you understand OKC's matching
algorithms. If you don't, read the FAQ. There's a link at the
bottom of the page. I told you that I'm an OKCupid geek.)
...you want to be my poly sugar daddy.
I think I'm going to put a list of all of my real friends who
have OKCupid profiles because I miss that feature. But, for now, I
am too lazy to go through my favorites list and pick out all the
people I know in "real life". I spend a lot of time with RefusedParty, ahhhneedaname,
SleepySiren,
diggla42, blueannabell, pensivore, haloskizza and tribblon. I've been seeing Samprime and Ayelis quite a lot lately,
too. I wish I could spend more time with doomfrog, EmanateRainbows, leeoe, Virgil1754, BryanL537, and FreeNotFurry. Some people I've never
met in person but with whom I correspond a lot and would like to
meet include: Gematria, magicgold, Australian_Joe, mycroftxxx, and JackieBrown. There are plenty
more; I'll finish later.
...if you are an OKCupid staffer, I would love to meet you. I
almost met one once, but I was too shy to approach him.
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