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Kimbakeet

47 London, UK Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 37–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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My Details

Last Online
Dec 8, 2013
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Black, White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Smokes
Yes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, but not too serious about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from Ph.D program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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It’s been ages since I’ve updated my profile, so here goes...

Someone said to me recently, in conversation (not in response to my writing), "um, could you maybe use less big words in that sentence?" For a second I felt like a huge dork (apparently you can take the girl out of academia, but you can’t take the academia out of the girl- others will always recognize us by our pointy heads; by our propensity to use words like dialogic, habitus, Foucauldian, subjectivity, discourse, and post-modern/black/feminist/office; and for our insistence on believing that D&G stands for Deleuze & Guattari rather than Dolce & Gabbana ). In the next instance I thought "What The F*#k? I’ve spent years building this vocabulary, I'm hardly going to keep it locked inside my head", because, hey, I’ll be paying these student loans forever so I’m gonna damn well get some mileage out of this edu-ma-cation. Then in the next instance I got over myself, laughed out loud and proceeded to rephrase what I was trying to say. As a self-summary I hope this little scenario shows that although I’m highly educated and a have a bit of stubborn streak, I also have a sense of humor and am sensitive to others.

I work as a researcher for an arts organization (photography) and am a Trustee for a heritage organization, so I spend a lot of time wrestling with organizational politics and thinking about creative endeavors (sadly, mostly the creative pursuits of others, but I will get back into my own arts practice at some point. In the near future. Or so I like to think.)

I may be making myself sound more serious than I am. I do take what I do seriously, and can be intense rather than laid-back about the things I feel passionately about, but that is balanced with a healthy dose of play and an ability to be objective and reflexive about most, if not all, things.
What I’m doing with my life
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Researching, writing, editing, supervising, planning.

Thinking about stuff and talking about stuff with other people who are interested in that same stuff, preferably with good food and drink to facilitate the conviviality.

Baking kick-ass banana bread when my bananas get way too brown to eat without pulling a face in reaction to the wrongness of their pasty texture.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making time for people and things that I care about, whether that is volunteering, having a night out dancing my butt off, taking in an exhibition or live performance, or listening when someone needs an ear (I think listening is important- anyone can broadcast, but takes a special somethin' somethin' to really hear someone and respond to what they need).

I'm better at figuring out organizational problems than mathmatical problems, although I can organize, balance and maintain a budget. So, yeah, I'm literate and numerate, but I'll leave the calculus to you if it's all the same.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I'm American. That I seem kind of serious, but when they get to know me they learn that I'm a bit of a kook- in a good way. That I'm tall, and that I'd probably seem taller if I wasn't also so deliciously Rubenesque (which is, of course, subjective).

And contrary to the Personality Profile as suggested by the Staff Robot, I have impeccable manners...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Diamond Age by Neal Stephenson, Perdido Street Station by China Mieville (and everything else he has written), anything by Robin Hobb or David Brin (yep, sci-fi and fantasy are my favorites for fiction/pleasure reading). Non fiction would be The Art of Listening by Les Back, After Empire by Paul Gilroy, Cultural Politics: Class, Gender, Race and the Postmodern World by Glen Jordan and Chris Weedon, Black Britain by Paul Gilroy, and Museums, Equality and Social Justice by Richard Sandell and Eithne Nightingale (eds)(toot toot).

Movies: Bladerunner, Heat, Ronin, School Daze, Amelie, Star Trek, Star Wars, Babe, The Professional, Rachel Getting Married, Paul, Mystery Men, The Ladykillers, All That Jazz

TV: Battlestar Galactica (2004 series), The Wire, True Blood, Grey's Anatomy, Mock the Week, The Muppet Show, Schoolhouse Rock

Music: Dave Brubeck, Tuck and Patti, Bjork, Nancy Wilson (both of them), Soundgarden, Alice in Chains, Hole, Van Halen, Rush, Miles Davis, Everything But the Girl, The Specials, Laura Love, Massive Attack, Steely Dan, Sweet Honey in the Rock, Girl Brothers, the O'Jays, Marvin Gaye, Al Green, Les Negresses Verts, Angelique Kidjo, lots of others, though I must admit that I am trapped in a bit of a time warp and am not too familiar with what the kids are listening to today...

Food: Eritrean is my favorite, then Indian and Thai. Japanese is good, but where can you get good sushi in London? I was definitely spoiled for choice when it came to sushi back home in Seattle. Cheese. Yum. And biscuits of any variety. Preferably with a nice cuppa for dunkin'.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Music and something to play it on
2. Good friends
3. Common sense
4. Access to hot, running water
5. The ability to laugh at myself, and sometimes at others, when the need arises
6. Highlighter pens, red pens, black fine line gel writers, Sharpies
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I procrastinate when I should "know better".

Why the religious right in my country are so cah-ray-zee and scuh-air-ree.

How the world can be so messed up and beautiful at the same time.

What I should have for dinner.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either at home writing/reading or at a museum/gallery. Maybe having a couple of pints at the pub with my friends, but no, that's usually on a Tuesday.

Friday isn't so special for me really, since everyday is a work day to some extent (that doesn't sound like much fun, but it's actually not too bad- I make my own schedule and part of my "work" is spending time in museums).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Erm, I think I'll pass on this one.
You should message me if
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If you think we may share some common interests or have a similar/compatible outlook or ethos. Or if you think we are radically different but would get on like a house on fire in one of those opposites-attract, embrace-the-crazy, "clang, clang, clang went the trolley"- type situations.

N.B. I am allergic to spelling mistakes, text-speak, one word messages, and arrogance; please check yourself before you wreck yourself. (And if you read this last line as passive aggressive, rather than as a truism couched in sarcasm with a hint of irony, then we are probably not a match).

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