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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25-40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Dropped out of Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I know how to know better and act accordingly. I am an intense, fun, compassionate, creative, person and I have a full life but still have my snarky, sarcastic moments once in a while to balance it out. I am in an open relationship with an amazing woman and kink explorer in Dublin, Ireland and looking for positive and healthy connections both friendly, dating, sexual and D all of the above. I like trouble and I like comfort equally. I make art, on a large scale. I am kink and sex positive and down for a lot of experiences but that is only an aspect of that which is me (input witty ridiculous laugh). I like nature a lot but am definitely a city boy at heart. I meditate regularly as I also live a very busy, intense, passionate, forward moving life.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am an artist, for real, not in the "I am an artist" like everyone was a "DJ" in late 90s early 2000s. I cannot not make art, and it is equal parts made of amazing enlightenment and pure madness. I work in a lot of media, from painting to large installations, all capturing different ways to explore the narrative experience. I work at an awesome Enviro non profit. I also pay homage to many aspects of life like going out into nature and getting my physical being awake, building with friends, going to movies, going to see live music, swimming, exploring sexuality, reading when I can, people watching, searching for new food and making sure to always stick with my mainstays, meditate, and all the things that I have found I need to do to live a full ass life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I definitely have skills in certain departments.
I can draw you, I can find delicious places to eat on the cheap, or expensive whatever the occasion. Some other things in the bed room.
I am actually a really good driver. I am good at public speaking and getting you excited or making you blush.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have a lot tattoos and a grizzly redish beard...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I live, I read, I eat, I listen, I watch and I think, enjoy, critique, and feel, and then I keep doing it. Akira, True Detective, anything that makes me laugh, Ghostbusters (which is actually a brilliantly written smart New York movie), Guardians of the Galaxy, Aeon Flux (Liquid Television, not the whack live action movie), Urotsukidoji, The Big Lebowski, Synecdoche New York, Jardowsky's Dune, DOPE, Kumiko the Treasure Hunter, anything by Kurosawa, its hard to even begin this section.

Jazz, Rap, Hip Hop, Rock, Hardcore, Post Punk/Hardcore, Drum n Bass, Classical, Blues, Soul, R&B, there is so much good music in the world that we will just have to listen and vibe out to it together instead of me listing it here. I am very open to all kinds of music. Bjork, Joy Division, Wu-Tang, Dipset, Miles Davis, DJ Shadow, Cibo Matto, The Funky Meters, Biggie, Helmet, old Ice Cube, Gangstarr, Pia, Merging Moon, even Kanye to Quicksand to Dinosaur Jr. to Nina Simone.

I am currently slowly reading and reflecting on the Keith Haring Journals. I just bought a volume of famous collected artist interviews by Michael Pippiat, the Francis Bacon and Frank Auerbach ones are so sick so far. Old Marvel TPB collections, history books...

I watch, or listen to, a lot of Documentaries while I paint and make art, ranging from the Mongol Empire to Mafia Heists to Famous Artist Bios to Famous Historical Leaders to War History to Food Documentaries to documentaries on Buddhism, etc...

Anthony Bourdain is kind of my hero currently. If you think he is an asshole, as many people I have met in California seem to think, I would love to talk and hear why and explain from a New Yorker stand point why I disagree hahaha. Oh and I just rewatched Princess Mononoke again recently and love that movie!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My Studio and all of its Art Making Splendor and Tools
Seltzer Water
Nights at the Ocean
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to convey unspoken things that don't exist solely in this physical reality in my paintings and work.
Things I am working on and want to see come together in the future. Painting.
How certain foods taste so perfect.
Why I can't find real Bagels in Cali (I know why, but I still think about it)
Intimacy and connection in deeply sexual ways and in totally non physical spiritual ways.
What I am grateful for.
That hilarious part of Step Brothers, oh wait that was the whole fucking movie.
How to be true to myself and make art that I believe in.
What am I going to do for fun and eat in the near future.
Being Bout it Bout it.
Traveling, traveling, and more traveling (often with projects in mind).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Don't have a typical Friday night, lets get together and see what we can make of it. I am pretty much willing to try just about anything once (I am for real, and just about). Depending on how insane the week was, we will find something good to do.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I spent an amazing few weeks with my partner exploring our sexual and emotional selves all over the bay area this past August into September. We are both seeking new partners and play mates and it is amazing.
You should message me if
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You know who you are well enough to live an independent and drama free life. You are happy with who you are (we are always evolving in this way, it's called growth). You have a solid sense of humor, don't take yourself too seriously, and can be calm as well as passionately intense. You are open, comfortable in your own skin, and can communicate about sex and intimacy, express your desires and wants and boundaries, and get off on honesty and emotional maturity. You are creative in your own ways, are kind of weird. You are grateful for your life and life in general, you don't have major entitlement issues, you are compassionate and possess empathy. You are cool with someone who has a pretty crazy schedule, is sober and does work a program to make sure he (I) stays that way and is highly creative, is very passionate, and who can be rather blunt. You have kind of a chill, nerdy, side, have funny guilty pleasures, and you think we would have a really good time together.