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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Banking / Finance
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I moved here from Chicago in 2003 and I’m still finding new things to check out. I like to get up and go, but also have great skill in lazy relaxation. I am normal enough; I know right from wrong and am stubborn about it. I have more empathy than most.

I like smart girls that can teach me stuff. I like pretty girls that don’t use it. I like artistic girls because I wish I had that talent.

I think touching is hot. Ok, very hot.

But, real men don't cuddle; they spoon.

I like saying "Pain heals, chicks dig scars and glory....lasts forever!”

I often laugh hardest at my own jokes because I sometimes see the punch line as a little movie in my head.

I like news and policy. My politic is independent and open to a good argument.

I have known many of my closest friends since the 6th grade. You will find me to be fiercely loyal. Unless I am burned and then my blood runs stone cold.

Dessert and candy are for girls, but recently I have come to realize that I love chocolate. Maybe love isn't right. More like I am powerless before her silky velvet goodness. As if a black magic has control of me and I will do anything to have her.

My travel often follows a warm Sun. I like to scuba dive and recently started learning to surf. I also like cultural travel and keep a mental list of places to see. A couple years ago I actually got paid not to work so I went to Italy for the month of June. Yep. An entire month: traveling Tuscany/Florence, Rome and the Amalfi Coast.

Shorter excursions are good too. I have a sporty little car thats fun to drive on road trips and I could use a good navigator.

Despite my great joy in writing personal essays and placing them online, I would really like to get off this MF site.

Additional notes:

1) Please be honest in your profile. I have checked that I do want kids. That means, shocker, I do want them. If it were up to me I would have two. Of course I would never settle just to have kids, its just that I realize that I am getting old and it doesnt make sense to become attached to someone that doesn’t have the same desire. So, if you are a “maybe” or “not sure” we probably are not the best match.

2) I work in financial world and get to work fairly early. This means I am usually in bed by 10:30 pm so my social life occurs in the early evenings on weekdays and weekends are mostly free. It would be great if you too are free during these times. If we cant spend time together its that much harder to build and maintain a relationship.

3) If you can’t already tell my personality and humor can include sarcasm and at times a little light hearted teasing. Please don’t read anything (negative) into this. I know that I am an idiot, just call me on it.

4) I think that the best way to get to know someone and see if there exists any chemistry is by meeting in person. So I generally look to meet for a coffee or drink after exchanging a few mails.

5) Also, I only respond to profiles that have photos posted. Unless you are a celebrity I dont think there is a valid excuse for not doing so.

6) My hair is basically gray now. Not easy to see that in my straight on photos. The Universe rather enjoys finding new ways to stick it to me.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working. Hanging out with friends. Flying home to see the family now and then. Looking for someone cool to go out with.

Also, I have developed a new type of Yoga that follows the philosophy 'rage hard' and its signature posture is the double down dog. Its sweeping the country.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
When the going gets tough, they call me.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Honestly I am not sure, I never asked. Maybe that I am sort of tall. For the east coast at least.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just read Thomas Jefferson - The Art of Power (Im on a revolutionary war kick). Next up, This Explains Everything.

My library also includes things like the Golden Ratio, Ancient Egypt (a travelers guide) and The Pirates Pocket Book. I mostly read books on vacation these days though. In the mean time I read lots of news, politics, world events etc. The Economist is where I find the truth.

For movies, I lean towards escapism and like science fiction or a good adventure story. Of course anything that will make me laugh. I suppose the occasional drama. The normal stuff. The one limit I have is slasher movies. I really don't like those. I don't like watching women getting cut up I guess.

My music depends on the time and place and spans blues, rock, reggae, ska, alternative, classical and some pop. iTunes suggests that I have played track number 7 of Il Barbiere Di Siviglia seventy four times. I think its lying to me, but I shouldn't say anymore since its listening. Love at First Feel comes in second.

As for food, its hard to pick favorites since it depends on my mood but Italian is probably up there (both northern and southern). I also like French, Indian, Mexican, Spanish, Latin, spicy and some Asian. There is a soft spot for certain German comfort foods. The one thing that is not for me is Sushi. Yes, everyone loves it but its a fad and eventually you will see. Also, I love skim milk. A gallon lasts me about two or three days. Some people think thats weird but its just so good. It goes with almost everything. Well, everything except sushi. Wait, I think...yes, I just threw up in my mouth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Hopefully a nice girl that likes me.
2) My crazy family. Even when they try to damage my self esteem.
3) A place to live that feels like home.
4) A warm Sun.
5) Time off for travel or just recharging.
6) Good times.

Yes, for the most part these are not things, but I think they are more important.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Currently, thinking about looking for a new apartment. Really hate the process of that here in NYC, but I think its time to have a dining room table. When its not so serious its probably about where to go or what to do on the weekend or my next vacation.

Right now I am wondering why OKCupid is asking me if I want to write this in German.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having dinner and drinks with some friends or maybe home watching a movie. Perhaps on the first leg of a road trip to somewhere fun and exciting.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I sometimes have really vivid dreams that are also really weird. Sometimes they involve science fiction. Sometimes its just funny stuff and I wake up laughing.

No. I dont talk in my sleep.
You should message me if
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You are smart and attractive. You have interests and opinions and will share them. You like to laugh. Highbrow and hearty lowbrow. You can appreciate a little sarcasm. Maybe, you even think its funny. You like people watching while sitting at a cafe with a nice red wine. You enjoy travel, but also time to do nothing. You stay fit. And, you think that maybe; if we meet for a drink, we might have fun.

Afterword: people, the bit about my new type of Yoga was a joke. You dont need to email to tell me I dont get it.