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29 New York, NY Man


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  • Ages 18–35
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Graduated from space camp
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This is a... specialized profile. There's a reason my face is cropped out, though I am quite different from most other men with such pictures. I am kinky and polyamorous; if those are not both positives, you should probably move along. Basically, if it wouldn't seem fairly normal to put me on a leash and order me around, or to have me pin you to a wall while holding you by your throat, kindly move on. And maybe more so the former; I'm a switch but I'm more interested in finding someone dominant.

This is not to say I am looking for purely sexual relationships - indeed I'd prefer much more - but kinkiness is a definite prerequisite. This profile is headless mostly out of professional concerns, not because my interests are best expressed sans face (also, messaging patterns suggest some women are more comfortable messaging a headless torso about kink - who knew?).

Also, if you're interested, please message me - I don't generally send the first message with this profile.

I'm tall, handsome, sophisticated, funny, a little bit nerdy, and absurdly good on paper, for what self-serving statements on a faceless profile are worth. I'm also probably one of the only men on here who rounded his height down. I could be described as a sex-positive feminist. I do not have some other profile where I'm looking for a suburban life with 2.3 kids - I'm quite comfortable with my kinkiness and poly-ness; I'd just rather friends and coworkers not accidentally learn way more about me than they're comfortable with.

I'm into BDSM. I'm a switch. I used to list relative dominant/submissive percentages, but these days I identify as a true switch; whether I am dominant or submissive or both depends on the dynamic with the particular partner. That said, I lean submissive; it is easier and more common for me to feel comfortable being dominated and somewhat more difficult for me to feel inspired to dominate.

I am interested in finding a dominant, switch, or submissive. I'm not looking for a one night stand, though I am open to a multiple-night stand. I am looking for one nightstand, as my bed needs a second one, but that really isn't relevant at all here. I'm also open to (indeed, desirous of) a serious relationship. Exclusivity just doesn't make a ton of sense to me. As you can probably guess, I am an alpha male and not submissive outside the bedroom, and I cannot submit to a top who lacks confidence. I have a fairly nuanced understanding of my own D/s tendencies, but will save that for a real conversation.

If you're interested, please send me a message or IM me - I don't really approach women with this profile. I'm sure y'all have enough unwanted attention to deal with as is. I prefer to date or play mostly with people who have a clear sense of what they want. But if you're new or just curious, feel encouraged to message me; I've helped a number of people navigate their way into kink successfully.
What I’m doing with my life
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Exploring NYC. I feel there are so many more places to go, things to do, and things to have done to me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The fact that I have no head. That photo isn't cropped.

Seriously, probably my size. I'm a big guy with a fairly commanding presence, so that's probably what people notice first.

I am told that I - and this profile - present as somewhat hypermasculine. That's not entirely false, but it is a very long way from a complete picture of me.
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[This has been redacted to prevent comparison with any other profiles I may or may not have.]

I will use this quote, though:

"When I was 5, my teacher asked me what I wanted to do in life. I said, 'Be happy.' My teacher told me I didn't understand the question; I told her she didn't understand life."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The interweb?
2. My Kindle
3. Subspace
4. Smart phone.
5. Gym membership
6. Friends, family, and the like.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I will get no interesting messages in weeks, then get five in two days. I guess it's a good problem to have.

The use of the "seeing someone" status. If you're in a closed monogamous relationship, why are you on a dating site? If you're actually looking for new partners, why not use "available?" If someone would care to explain this to me, I'd like to understand it better. I won't even ask why you're checking out headless torso profiles despite the fact that you're "seeing someone."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I only do it missionary. With the lights off. Through a hole in the sheet.

Someone messaged me on this profile and told me it had inspired her to be more proactive in seeking out what she really wanted. That made my day.

A friend of mine said, "When I first saw your profile, I figured you were headless because you didn't have a pretty face." So, at her suggestion, I am clarifying that I do indeed have a pretty face. I'd just rather coworkers or acquaintances of mine not associate that face with this profile.
You should message me if
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You've read this profile and are interested. Also feel free to message me if you're just a bit curious. I don't bite, unless you'd like me to. I try to respond to all messages inquiring about how to get into kink, regardless of where the sender lives.

Your chance of getting a response is much higher if you have some kind of straightforward full-body pic. I've had some... unfortunate experiences meeting people who did not, and I would prefer not to have more of such. (Just to clarify in response to feedback: I am attracted to many different body types; I just need to know what someone looks like before I know if I'll be attracted to her, and that's something I like to figure out before meeting, for the benefit of everyone involved.)

Intelligence is also a huge plus, if not a necessity.

Also, to be honest, if you're an experienced/natural domme or sub I'm rather likely to respond to you, at the very least. I generally play better with people who know and can articulate (or demand) what they want.

I appreciate messages that have more content than, "I'm curious" or "ur hot." Mentioning a little about what interests you, whether it's "I'm a 20/80 switch who's into X, Y and Z and I've been doing this for 6 years" or "I'm curious about kink and I think I might enjoy being dominant" or "I don't live anywhere near you but I'd like advice on how to get into kink" will make it much easier to start a conversation.

The number of one-sentence-or-less messages I get from people with low match percentages is somewhat vexing. If your match percentage is below 80 or so and you write one sentence or less, I am basically not going to respond to you. Tell me more about what you want or are looking for!

I'm don't require both D and s in the same partner, necessarily, so if you're really a sub, it's OK, you don't need to try selling your dominant side to attract my interest. Though if you do actually have one, that's nice to know.

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