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29 New York, NY Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 18–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:57am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Strictly anything
Graduated from space camp
Rather not say
Strictly non-monogamous
My self-summary
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(New Yorker staying in DC for the nights of 3/31 and 4/1. Interested in meeting interesting dinner companions. More may be possible but is by no means expected.)

This is not your typical headless profile. It's anonymous because it makes it much easier to be open and direct about my preferences. I am actually particularly interested in substantial, serious relationships; it's just that this makes it easier to sort out some compatibility factors I find essential.

I'm not looking for a one night stand, though I am open to finding play partners. I am looking for one nightstand, as my bed needs a second one, but that really isn't relevant at all here.

On those compatibility factors - I'm kinky and non-monogamous. The first is important but not essential; the second is non-negotiable, though I am not necessarily wedded to a particular style of poly. I do not have a primary partner. I am open to the idea of one, though I have historically been bad at relationships with people who *need* a specific level of commitment off the bat; I prefer relationships that develop organically to a comfortable level for all parties.

As far as kink, hypermasculine presentation notwithstanding, I am primarily submissive, though I am a switch. The best chemistry I have tends to be with a dominant partner who is firm about taking what she wants; I have also had excellent chemistry with submissives and switches who can clearly articulate their preferences and boundaries. Outside the bedroom, I prefer a relationship with a fairly equal power balance.

I'm tall, handsome, sophisticated, funny, a nerdy, and surprisingly good on paper, for what self-serving statements on a faceless profile are worth. I'm also probably one of the only men on here who rounded his height down. I could be described as a sex-positive feminist.

If you're interested, please send me a message or IM me - I don't really approach women with this profile. I'm sure y'all have enough unwanted attention to deal with as is. I prefer to date or play mostly with people who have a clear sense of what they want. But if you're new or just curious, feel encouraged to message me; I've helped a number of people navigate their way into kink successfully.
What I’m doing with my life
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Exploring. I feel there are so many more places to go, things to do, and things to have done to me. Also, working a lot, and cooking all the things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The fact that I have no head. That photo isn't cropped.

Seriously, probably my size. I'm a big guy with a fairly commanding presence, so that's probably what people notice first.

I am told that I - and this profile - present as somewhat hypermasculine. That's not entirely false, but it is a very long way from a complete picture of me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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[This has been redacted to prevent comparison with any other profiles I may or may not have. I tend to enjoy fiction with richly developed and believable characters. My taste runs to sci-fi/fantasy; I'm a nerd but not on the hardcore end of the spectrum. Curiously, I've found I tend to get along well with people who appreciate the Venture Brothers.]

I'll leave it with this quote:

"When I was 5, my teacher asked me what I wanted to do in life. I said, 'Be happy.' My teacher told me I didn't understand the question; I told her she didn't understand life."
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. The interweb?
2. My Kindle
3. Subspace
4. Smart phone.
5. Gym membership
6. Friends, family, and the like.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why I will get no interesting messages in weeks, then get five in two days. I guess it's a good problem to have.

The use of the "seeing someone" status. If you're in a closed monogamous relationship, why are you on a dating site? If you're actually looking for new partners, why not use "available?" If someone would care to explain this to me, I'd like to understand it better. I won't even ask why you're checking out headless torso profiles despite the fact that you're "seeing someone."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I only do it missionary. With the lights off. Through a hole in the sheet.

Someone messaged me on this profile and told me it had inspired her to be more proactive in seeking out what she really wanted. That made my day.

A friend of mine said, "When I first saw your profile, I figured you were headless because you didn't have a pretty face." So, at her suggestion, I am clarifying that I do indeed have a pretty face. I'd just rather coworkers or acquaintances of mine not associate that face with this profile.
You should message me if
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You've read this profile and are interested. Though, while I am generally happy to talk about kink and provide advice for getting into it, I'm not really interested in an inexperienced submissive play partner. If there's also a lot of compatibility, that's a different story.

I am not turned off by explicit messages or personal questions up front, as long as they are included within complete, grammatical sentences with proper spelling.

Your chance of getting a response is much higher if you have some kind of straightforward full-body pic. I've had some... unfortunate experiences meeting people who did not, and I would prefer not to have more of such. (Just to clarify in response to feedback: I am attracted to many different body types; I just need to know what someone looks like before I know if I'll be attracted to her, and that's something I like to figure out before meeting, for the benefit of everyone involved.)

Intelligence and intellectual curiosity are huge pluses, if not necessities.

I'm generally much more likely to respond to messages that have content. I get a lot of "ur hot" type messages, which I will generally not respond to. If you're listed as monogamous or have answered that you will not consider open relationships, you might want to say something about that in your message. I understand some women will be less than honest about that due to the abysmal, negotiation-style tactical dishonesty that is so prevalent in dating, so if it's not quite accurate, enlighten me.

I don't require (or even necessarily prefer) both D and s in the same partner, necessarily, so if you're really a sub, it's OK, you don't need to try selling your dominant side to attract my interest. Though if you do actually have one, that's nice to know.