Feminist, intellectual, lawful good, submissive, polyamorous, nerd, arguably queer, privileged, sometimes switchy, excessively educated professional, user of labels but not defined by them.
I'm not looking for a one night stand, though I am open to finding play partners. I am looking for one nightstand, as my bed needs a second one, but that really isn't relevant at all here.
On those compatibility factors - I'm kinky and non-monogamous. The first is important but not essential; the second is non-negotiable, though I am not necessarily wedded to a particular style of poly. I do not have a primary partner. I am open to the idea of one, though I have historically been bad at relationships with people who *need* a specific level of commitment off the bat; I prefer relationships that develop organically to a comfortable level for all parties.
As far as kink, hypermasculine presentation notwithstanding, I am primarily submissive, though I do switch. See my message me if section for greater detail on what I'd like to find. Outside the bedroom, I prefer a relationship with a fairly equal power balance for important things, and a bit of D/s flavoring for minor ones.
I'm tall, handsome, sophisticated, funny, a bit nerdy, and surprisingly good on paper, for what self-serving statements on a faceless profile are worth. I'm arguably queer but don't feel entirely comfortable claiming that identity due to a surfeit of privilege. Whether that's a good or bad thing overall is a question to which I'm not sure of the answer.
If you're interested, please send me a message or IM me - I don't really approach women with this profile. I'm sure y'all have enough unwanted attention to deal with as is. I prefer to date or play mostly with people who have a clear sense of what they want. But if you're new or just curious, feel encouraged to message me; I've helped a number of people navigate their way into kink successfully, and am involved in the ethically nonmonogamy and kink communities here in New York.