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It is not the kiss of the whip, but the whispered word...
To please one's flesh lasts but a moment;
to touch one's soul lasts a lifetime ....
~Damon Darke~

Your Mother was right, there really are guys like me ...

I AM A DOMINANT MAN .........
who is seeking a very honest genuinely submissive woman
who knows who she is and what she needs. One who is ready
for a one-on-one committed possibly 24/7 Bdsm relationship.
One who is at a point in her life where she knows that to
fulfill her life, she needs to be Dominated by a man who
has an exquisite creative mind and who rules with a very
firm hand but also a very loving heart.

This will be a relationship that grows and stretches. It
will be a relationship of Power exchange but also best
friends, lovers, playmates, and possible life-mates.
She will be bisexual, believe in polyfidelity, stable emotionally and financially, genuine, kind, caring, intelligent, funny with a great sense of
humor, sensual, playful, and strong within herself.

She should believe as I do, that trust, respect,honesty
and communication is the foundation necessary to build a
relationship on. Games, lies and "BS" no longer exist in
my life, nor does casual sex or this cyber fantasy stuff
that is so popular.

I am seeking a good solid relationship based on honesty, discipline and the
desire to serve.

I am not for those who are surface players or wannabes so don't waste
my time or yours. This relationship will be based on reality, life in the real world and will take patience, communication, work, dedication
and commitment.

I have been involved in the Bdsm lifestyle since 1988(you do the math)and my local BDSM community since 1991. My interests and experiences are wide. I am extremely well read and studied in my chosen lifestyle.

As a Dominant Man you will find me honorable, strong, smart with a quick wit. I am very creative, attentive, firm and selectively sadistic.

I have an above average talent for Japanese rope bondage(Shibari). I am true to my lifestyle and even though discreet, live within it.

A Master, if he is indeed wise,
does not bid you enter the house of his wisdom,
but rather leads you to the threshold of your own mind.
~Kahlil Gibran~

My hair, my eyes, my confident nature ......

Books, Music, Love, Laughter, Friendship and Oreos with double stuff

I have looked all my life to find a woman who lives every aspect of her life with passion!

I am a mentally and physically strong man, wise beyond my years, who most would call Dominant. I am in no way domineering; I desire a woman who is intelligent, strong in her own life and will give me her opinion.

I seek a woman with whom I can confide in and that I can trust to be there always beside me ... No matter what!

I have looked endlessly, for a woman with a free and open mind. One who is never afraid to try new things, move forward and fill each day we are together with excitement, anticipation and love....

I want a woman who lives her life each day in understated elegance. One who will dress for the occasion.... Some times refined and sometimes with her dress a little too short or her top cut a little too low....

I want a woman who I can make feel sexy and alive with sensuality. Someone who shudders when I kiss her and goes out of her way to hold my hand or to be touching me no matter where we are....

I have looked for a woman that I can make smile just by looking at her a certain way from across the room. And, she will think my jokes are funny....Even when they are badly told.

I will find this woman....

And she will sometimes be able to complete my sentences, and I will know what she’s thinking just because I can read it in her eyes....

When I find her, she will unlock my heart so that I can give it to her completely without fear and who I know will give herself to me without hesitation or reservation....

When I find this woman, she will understand that a peaceful, passionate and loving relationship just doesn’t happen....It takes hard work, communication and a mutual desire from both....

When I find her....

She will not be afraid to give herself completely to a man who loves and respects her....

All of this I can give to her and will take from her, but only if I can find her....

And when I do....

I will give her all that I am and anything that I can be....

I will give this woman my honesty beyond reproach. She will trust in my love, my loyalty and my faithfulness without question.

I will give this woman passion beyond her imagination! Not only passion of lust....But also passion of living!

When I find this woman she will know it, because she will see a change in me....She will see me settle, a heart inflamed, full of love and passion doesn’t lose sight of her trust....

She will see me focus....

A mind intrigued will settle for nothing less than her complete security and happiness.

She will see me relax....

A soul at peace, full of love becomes content and grows stronger.

And she will see me smile....

Not the smile on my lips, but the smile in my heart!

All of this will I give to this woman....
When I find her.

It's not about whips and chains,
It's about honor and trust and commitment ...
It’s not about kink or pain,
It's about giving and taking and laughter and tears ...
It’s not about weakness or low self esteem or being irresponsible,
It’s about knowledge and growth and confidence and inner strength ...
It’s not about power or greed or losing yourself,
It’s about service and humility and dedication to something outside of yourself ...
It’s not about shutting up or shutting in,
It's about connection and communication and the security that
comes with it ...
It certainly isn’t about normal, “Define normal?”
It’s not about love,
It’s about something that goes beyond a feeling or an emotion that grows deep inside your chest, a "you're the air that I breathe" existence that is only created when two souls connect ...
It’s not about just living,
It’s about living your life wet, breathless and on the edge ...

~Damon Darke~

I have finally come to realize that I do not want to live my life without a
passionate, loving, vibrant, intelligent and submissive woman in it!

I know now that honesty, trust, passion, connection, common interests and a zest for life have to be part of any relationship that I have regardless of the other dynamics involved.

Life is full of lessons and what we learn from those lessons and bring forward with us, is what makes us who we are today. My lessons have given me insight, compassion and deep sense of honor worthy of trust and love.

I am not perfect by any means. But I do know that I am capable of giving all that I am to the right woman. I will fill her life with passion, love, excitement and a few fantasies beyond her wildest imagination.

She will find me to be loyal, attentive and funny (I will make her laugh). I have an open, wickedly creative mind. I am poetic, romantic and much the gentleman with a wild side. All of this wrapped up in a very normal Dominant, educated and successful man. Are you her?